Sagamite:

So because a man shows respect to women, it deserves a presidential mention? It is worth some national celebration as he is an ambassador?

Are we really that forked up as a people yet?

queeneve:

Sighs

malaika:


Well the guy will never know unless he talks to the girl. He could jokingly tell her to stop calling him uncle, 'don't you know you're my wife-to-be?' and wait to see her reaction. If she seems receptive they might chat further but if she's grossed out then tough luck. A 20yr old has no business dating 33yr old imo, she is barely out of her teens. If she was 25 and above, that would be a different story, more maturity etc

ziccoit:


Thumb up.

sniperwolf:

A friend of mine is feeling concerned about the relationship of his ex and present girlfriend. He said that they are becoming friends behind his back and he is now feeling unsecured. What could be the worse scenario?

Kgdavid:

i see a lot of trigger happy ignorant people here. poster clearly spelt out the situation. Girl is 20. is a graduate and he wants to marry her. the only possible problem is the age gap which really is not so bad. the choice lies with the girl. poster use tact to approach the issue with her

Ranoscky:

A gurl above 18 is RIPE for marraige (dependin on her level of maturity). And age has nottin to do with it cos [b]some married women are 25 to 30 but stil cannot handle the responsibility of a house wife !!![/b]
The "Uncle" of a thing she calls you is just a sign of respect for you and nottin else. Maybe she herself is also interested in the relationship but couldn't show some feelins due to the respect she had for you (expectin you to make the first move). I believe if you make up a date wit her and express your feelings (at first, she myt play kinda strange feelin but thatz the normal thing for gurls, tryin not  be a cheap catch), I believe she'll agree !!!

Just like they says, 'No harm in tryin'. What will be, will be! If she says no, then fine! If she says yes, Fine too! The most important in all is to make a move first, then whatever the outcome may be, just sweep it under the rug, and call it one of those things that happens in life. But the earlier, the better cos, there'r som other aged guys like you that ain't gat time to seek for advice before makin move for her !!! 

Best of luck !!!

malaika:

Never underestimate how sly young ladies are, she could be calling him uncle to put him off her scent
I know I used to do that when some older looking man (esp a church brother looking for a wife) started showing interest in me, then I'd exxaggerate the respect and call them uncle just to put them off

centD:

Dis thread has bin on d front page for 1week 2day.stil counting,

Aloy+Emeka:

You mean you don't understand why men think with their dicc?

MRbrownJAY:

the IMPORTANT word was GOOD as in: if you knew that person was a good person addicted to drug. would you automatically send them to the "electric chair"(sterilization) simply because they fell with the wrong crowd?

here is a clue: many women out there start using drugs because of their bf.

also we HAVE to use our emotion in dealing with this problem because we are not talking about someone who killed another human being, we are talking of someone who has a disease, someone who NEEDS help, someone who wouldnt do what they are doing knowingly!

you have to look at the REASON for their "irresponsabilities" before judging them. YES, they shouldnt have children while strung up on drugs, NO, they shouldnt be void from the reproductive population.

Sagamite:

Show me a figure that says majority turns a new leaf and I will change my mind.

The possibility that some very few irresponsible people might turn a new leaf does not justify bringing kids to the world to suffer and at great expense to others (family and taxpayers) that are responsible and care, all in the name of protecting the irresponsibles so-called "rights".

apocalypse:

@ ifyalways
Reread my posts very well , my mum practically drove her out and not in the nicest of ways. My girl isn't miffed at being told to go home but at her domineering attitude. I also think she's seeing me , as someone pointed out , as a mommas boy. I hope you see what she's getting at. My girl only called me to inform me that she had left the house because mom was not happy she was staying over but not to confront her. I got to hear about what happened in detail from my next door neighbour ( if my next door neighbour got wind of it , imagine what would have transpired ). My mum can be mean when correcting people , I just wouldn't want to go into detail of all she said and did on a public forum. Imagine if my mum can pull my ears in public at my age for a minor offence , what she'd do or say to her. Is it so hard to comprehend without going into detail.

MOBO444:

^^^ What do you mean avoid MOBO, what have i done than expose SA men as weak, SA lady what is your issue.

Ikedonn:

Damn SouthAfricans.I hate SouthAfricans with passion.

SA Lady:

No I cant hang to it, that's not a husband in the first place.