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shebambam:
HEY FOLKS,


THANKS FOR THE CONTRIBUTIONS, I MADE IT INTO YANKEE WITH VERY LITTLE HASSLE. I DON'T THINK THEY ARE OUT TO GET PREGNANT WOMEN COS DER IS REALI NO LAW PROHIBITING A PREGNANT WOMAN FROM ENTERING THE U.S.

THEY WOULD RATHER BE SPENDING THEIR TAX PAYERS MONEY FISHING OUT TERRORISTS NOT MAMA IBEJI'S LIKE US,

Congratulations! Please just thank God . People have been delayed and questioned in the past. Maybe it depends on the Airport sha.

Must it come to this? cant people separate amicably without bitterness and murderous instinct??

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Someone must be a super human being to be able to do carry out this list, i.e feels no pain, does not need to be loved and super strong.
I wish the poster the very best

Vjay,

Thanks so much. I have asked someone to buy me the olay regenerist, let's see how that works out.

@CHAIRCOVER


Thanks, The one we are looking for is called Visibly even.I cannot read what is written on this one but it seems to have the ingredients in the Visibly even .

Vjay,

where are you? you are the one that knows this particular product well.

You get nothing from your relationship with these ladies because you are attracted to those who have abosolutely nothing to offer.
Once they are able to paint their faces well and wear sexy clothes,opari! You chase them like crazy, what they have to offer is what you were attracted to, so please enjoy .

Vjay,


How far?
Were you able to get one? If yes, from where?
Can I still get one there?

aysometin:
A good missionary school in Ibadan is All Saints College, Jericho.
Not to expensive and very good.

@ chaircover, all those schools you mentioned have been long dead. You know what public schools are like.

If u have a lot of money you can try Vale College or Pastor Olubi's school

ISI was not a public school, or did it become one?

This thing has been happening for a long time.

As someone rightly said the respect for elders that our culture demands(not that it is a bad thing though) has nutured this behavior.
It puts so much fear in the victim that he/she would not want to say a word about it.

Such a programme is good in that many parents will know that it is possible and happening around them, not only in Oyinbo land and be more watchful

They will stop leaving their female (even male) children with Uncles( or Dads!) without looking back.

God help us

Swaga and confidence are not the same
Swaga is shallow, confidence is deep

Ayemokhia:
Yes but what type of women are they?

Every type. young name it

Yes o, a woman who is ready to marry the old man because she cannot get anything better, so what kind of love and care does the man get from that kind of a relationship? the woman may even end up cheating on him!

@Post

, because if the society will respect a woman at all, it is because of the band on your finger or the 'Mrs' before your name.
No where is safe, the church  beleives that you need councelling and deliverance because there must be a course in your family

Other mothers who have daughters with no other achievment other than that they were able to get themselves married will scorn your mother at family gatherings out of envy

If you are hardworking in the office and a goal getter they will say that is why you are not married (and they may be right because your chances of getting a man who will not feel intimidated  become smaller)

In summary, be ready to live a miserable life in Nigeria as a single lady, even if you think you are thick skinned and you do not care it will get to you one day and it may be too late

@Chaircover,

I usually agree with your reasoning but I have tried to think of ladies I know who got married in the last 15years
and I would say only about 15% of them had thier husbands pay for the wedding.

@topic

I am amused when people ask women to split paying of bills with their husbands in Nigeria. I may not know what operates in the Western world since I only visit and I have come to learn not to believe all what u see in movies, but I can talk about what happens in Nigeria., in general terms though there may be some exceptions

Here in this country it will never be 50/50 when a woman split bills.
To an average Nigerian man, a woman's job is a woman's job whether she pays the rent or not, the fact that she even does that makes her the point of observtion for the husband , inlaws, neighbours,Pastor and Church members who will want to see wether she has started 'growing wings' just because she has money(pays rent or she buys)

The woman carries the pregnancy(which could be problematic depending on the person) for 9months, puts to bed only to be waking up in the nights to feed the baby, resumes work (maternity leave in Nigeria is about 3months)and deliveres her tasks in the office like nothing happened in the night and you want her to split bills 50/50?

Is that fair? is this realy 50/50?

bebe4u:
i will share my experience and lesson learnt.

i have a mentor where i work, he has been in the system for 10yrs and i just got hired then, he helped me settled in and kind of be on the look out for me concerning my career path and other office bureaucracy. One day i mentioned my pay to him and bam the next day his comments became very inflammatory and his attitude isn't very warm any more. thou i was wise not to tell him the exact amount it didn't help issues.

2ND episode

I got promoted last month , 2steps ahead of my colleague and now he is raising hell that i didn't tell him about it right from onset, he is not talking to me now.

I'm yet to understand why i owe him that line of story , his argument is since he is my friend ( not boyfriend oh ) i would've told him right from onset.

The only smooth relationship i have in the office now is with a female friend of mine and i guess its because i have not told her any thing. my family members don't take No as an answer or later now concerning their demands just because i shared my goodnews with them.

Lesson learnt
Say less to people, friends, family members,colleagues,church members, pastors etc,

@bebe4u

Another lesson could be 'do not take what you are not ready to give'
Friendship demands, once you start to receive help and support from someone, it automatically places some demands on you too, that is why the guy expected that you would at least tell him you were promoted.

As someone mentioned earlier, it is natural to feel bad if you are not doing well and you have someone around who seems to be doing everything right
It is just that some people are ready to do you harm just to prove that you are not that good.

I have learnt that it is not good to be a local champion and surround yourselves with people who will always look up to you, that is asking for wahala, in as much as it is good to be good to people, you may end up spending your whole life trying please them and you will never please  them, as far as they are concerned you have more than enough so you should always do this or do that.

Have you ever noticed that the same statement you make to a friend or relative who is successful that he/she laughs over will create wahala if you say it to a poor friend/relative?

You always have to watch what you say or do when you are with them because all your actions will be interpreted as ' na because we no get car/house/good clothes' just to arouse the sympathy of the Masses and you never can tell who is listening!

I laugh when people tell a newly married 'Now you are married, stick to your wife, leave all your girlfriends and be a good husband'

How is he going to do this? will one woman (the wife) suddenly start doing the job of 3/4/9?

Women who are ready to share their men when single should bear it in mind that they may have to share him for life!(o.k maybe not for life but untill he is too old to function, then you can have him all to yourself

Ogaga4Luv:
[size=13pt]This is serious. . . well, i think you should be very careful with your mum because she must be aiming a certain point, my advice is you create a cool time to chat with her but try and do this in the right time when she's in good mode. Make her understand your deep feelings toward your wife to be . Make her understand its your choice and nodody can change it and along side make her realise thing of the days of her engagement how nobody made the choice of husband for her. . . .
Secondly, share this issue with your mum closest friends in town  and familly members to break up her mind towards your up-building relationship, send people to speak on your behalf. i think she would have change of mind in your favour  very soon. [/size]

How do you know nobody made the choice for her?



@Poster
I think you should let her meet the girl you want to marry, she may come to realise that her fears are unnecessary

so am not the only one? it has surely crossed my mind

so this is what we(Christains) have become? a laughing stock before people? an object of mockery?

and who do we have to blame for it if not ourselves?


But there is one thing I know, there is no justifiable excuse for anyone not to obey the word of God.

tkb417:
oponu alainironu ara Galatia

why u no go buy gun dey pursue all the oyinbos cos den steal your granny money

I think one main thing the man has done wrong is not to allow the poster to work and move around., so her mind is still filled with all those little girl's fantasies.

By the time she moves around and listens to the hell some women are going through in the hands of selfish and insensitive men, she would come to appreciate what she has and fall in love quick quick.

I hope it is not too late, that she has not already 'fallen in love' with one of those that will make her life a living hell.

spoilt:
Who are these men here yarning dust? Just think of your wife's dad moving in with you guys and telling you how to take care of his daughter at every turn. Puts it in better perspective huh?

About three other people have asked this same question but it has been ignored.

N101:
@ poster

If you approach a woman the right way she will not reject you or be rude to you. Get to know her before you start stating your CV and "propositioning" her. If you approach her the right way and she is rude to you or starts acting up, walk away. She doesn't deserve any more of your attention.
Spare me that rubbish about "western culture", that's always used as an excuse for someone who doesn't know how to behave. Win her as a friend first rather than acting out on what you see and what you want to do with her (sharp women can read that look from a mile away). Oh, and make sure you smell nice

RESPECT is the key.

GBAM!

jumissy:
@ Shinatu

Sorry I haven't been back to the post to reply you earlier. To find the best moisturizer without petrolatum or mineral oil, you will have to read the ingredients labels on the products. As I mentioned before, I went to the store and checked out most all the well-known brands here in the States and they contained petrolatum or mineral oil. The only product I saw that did not was Johnson's Body Care Forever Fresh Refreshing Lotion. I purchased it and when I used it, I found that my skin felt dry again after a few hours. I really think this had to do with the papaya kojic acid soap that I was using at the time (because kojic acid can really dry the skin, and its important to find a really hydrating moisturizer when using kojic acid products). I think the Johnson's lotion would have been perfect if I didn't need a more intense moisturizer at the time. Also, I like the smell of the lotion - soft, clean, floral, powdery smell, not heavy at all. I would say shea butter is a good moisturizer. Search at stores that sell natural products or online To find shea butter. Burt's Bees is another brand that has natural products and lotions and moisturizers that do not contain petrolatum. Hope that helps.

Thanks

''see dis yeye people conspiring against  mama. na who build house?? The bond that a mother builds with her child causes her worry throughout her life. The spiritual umbilical cord is never severed. so why do u want to chase her away ehn. instead if opening up posts on how to convert mothers-in-laws to shopping buddies u are looking up schemes to evict her. the same thing u want to do to mama tou will recieve the rewards back in ambundance from your kids galfriends. oloshi''



So if  the house was built with her money she can send your mother out?




''i will respect him and get out of his way. At least he cant dip his hand in my pocket and make decisions with my money''



But is he allowed to deep it into his daughter's pockets and start to make decisions?

He said: “The moment I tasted that soup I knew something was wrong because it was better. I called one of my servants to bring his food for me to compare but the boy said my wife gave them a different meal. Then I saw the danger and pretended as if I was eating the food while I sent her on an errand.”

Though the poison did not kill him, it wreaked havoc on his system.
“The only thing I can remember was the moment I sat in the dinning, I only found myself in the bedroom weak, tired and sleeping deeply till the following morning,” he said.



Since he knew immediately that the food ws poisoned and only pretended that he was eating it, how come it 'wrecked havoc on his system?'

felifeli:
Thank you. As a matter of fact I know of a gentleman who has been so badly mistreated by his wife that all he ever hears from her from morning till night was -"You are a useless man" just because the man did not earn enough.
It was so bad that on one occasion the man went for a job interview and when the interviewer asked him - what is your name., what came out of his mouth was " I am a useless man"
Guess who didn't get the job. Many men's life are completely ruined by marriage . If you don't love the woman enough to beat her up her once in a while you will die a miserable man. I know what many will say about wife beating after this post; but nobody ever says anything about husband beating because the man is often ashamed to say it to the world. Good luck with your marriage mate.

I want to guess where you could have 'known of' this gentleman since it is a matter of fact, from Alibaba abi? or Basketmouth? I hear these stories too and I do what they are supposed to make me do, laugh.

daberechim:
Shinatu

I disagree with you. If you are a christain the bible made it clear that a woman should be submissive to the husband. the list you are talking about is an insurance for the man and all around him.

no man want a nagging wife, troublesome woman, disrespectful woman, non domestic woman even when you have all the money, non caring woman, insincere woman, unreliable woman, beautiful woman though it lies in the eyes of the beholder, inpatient woman, when it is good alone woman, the man is Good woman, etc.

I am glad you agree with me on the purpose for the list. THE MAN ofcourse what else matters?

schmuck:
@Poster,

The point is this: No fixed deposit rate is FIXED !!!

You can always negotiate your rate, most likely dependent on the amount in question.

So, visit several banks (like 3-4), then you can make an informed decision that suits your purpose.

Hint: Nowadays, I won't recommend keeping money in banks.

Good luck.

@schmuck

Where would you recommend that we keep money? please inform us!

^^^^^^^^^^^^ mama ibeji (twins)!!

Ambber:
Absentee Dads are 'spermatozoa donors'. It is God and mothers that take care of children

If in doubt, ask the US president

tkb417:
are u for real?
so the landlord prefers his house empty?

No, potential landlords will just not bother to become landlords!