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@ Russialane

As are you.

@ Chima

Here's a visual for ya babe.

How many black men have you met that "hate white people" but will be the first in line to sleep with a white woman?  I have lost count there are soo many.  On the other side of that coin.

Meet the millions of Mr. Lee's and Mr. Kim's that once on African soil and American soil will eagerly want the sight, taste and smell of Naija, Kenya, Zimbabwe, S. African, AA, Rwanda, Cameroon women.

I have never bought into the hype - because I know that when surrounded by their own - they coward out.  Pull them away from the rest and they will magically migrate towards women regardless of the color or ethnicity.

Russialane:
naija babes  what are you all waiting for begin applying oo? chinko my arse

lolololol

u are a funny man

@ Toba

thank you - you are kind - I am relocating to Lagos for a while - I am soo buried in work (domestic/moving/working) - haven't had much time for NL - but I still post here and there but no where near as much.

I love that little girl on your profile - she is absolutely adorable - her skin is so pretty with a sweet little face and the little pink bow is adorable as well.  You are very lucky to have her.

@ Mz Dark Skin

I completely agree with you - Italian Men - are wonderful

Greek Men - hmmm, hmmmm, hmmmm good - Greek men love black women as well - They run us down over here in the U.S.

@ Tpia - wow

those men are sooo fine - beautiful and hot.

@ Cyber and Rhymz

How dare you destroy my thread. The two of you are quite naughty. Let me tell you two fellas that men with men do react in the manner that rhymz mentioned when at work. They want to get down to work. What man do you know who is a true professional - be it a Nigerian or an Asian or a White or whatever the race - at work - the majority of them want to work and speak on little else.

We are not talking about Asian men and we are not talking about moving to Asia. We are talking about Asian men dating African and African American women. That is what we are discussing. As far as hunger and eating flesh - wasn't there a movie made about certain parts of Africa that practice or used to practice cannibalism as well?

Men are different when they are around women. Ladies please school these two men. Men act differently around women. An attractive woman can make the sun rise. And don't you forget it.

I agree with you.

Those situations are more and more ordinary especially in the height of a recession

The fact is that people when stressed from poverty (a large majority of Lagosians) and (a large majority of Americans especially in the black communities and now more and more whites because of the recession) - do now overeat and overdrink because of depression due to unemployment.

So my words actually are directed at the masses who do see what I say every single day.  It isn't extreme for them - dysfunction is normal.  Overweight is a form of dysfunction because it also disables that individual from living a healthy, fulfilling life and the mate of that larger individual must now suffer that person because of the marriage contract.

At first those few extra pounds are cute and sexy, then they become a bit thick, then unpleasantly thick - most overweight people also start snoring while sleeping, sweating while sleeping - the marriage partner is now having to witness and experience this as well.  An overweight individual as they get larger cannot sustain endured sex,  sessions - so the marriage partner has to put up with that nonsense as well as having to look at the layers of skin and fat that is now building.

No - the marriage partner needs to get it together or I am gone.  I will give them and help them and be supportive and encouraging but at the end of the day - if they don't focus on their weight and health - I am gone.  This isn't just a marriage for one person - this is a marriage made up of two people.

Also that til death do us part commitment you made while thin should have followed you through the years and if it isn't following you - YOU NEED TO lift your LEG AND YOUR FOOT AND PUT ONE IN FRONT OF the other and get that weight off.  For the sake of yourself and your vows and your partner who wants to lift you in their arms but cannot any longer because of how you selfishly stuffed yourself to overly full capacity.

That is how strongly I feel about it.

Weight is definitely important

Til death do us part - in sickness and in health - those words many times are taken to a level in which THEY WERE NOT MEANT

If you intentionally overeat and don't work out - I won't stand by you
If you Be Intimate and catch aids while we are married - I won't stand by you

Overeating is the same type of high risk behavior as cheating as far as I am concerned.  I am not going to focus on my video while married to a man that is a couch potato, exercises the remote control to the Television but cannot walk off what he consumes - to turn into a pot of lard for me to have to haul around the rest of my days.  Overweight comes with many diseases and illnesses and if he cannot take care of himself - I sure as heck am not going to spend my last days taking care of him.

I have a friend who married an alcoholic - who is now in a wheelchair from drinking himself into diabetes, then the diabetes gave him a stroke, and now he is in a wheelchair as a young man, for her to have to take care of for the rest of her healthy days.  He drools out of the side of his mouth, ordering her around and she doesn't drink alcohol at all.  SMH

No - you married men and women - know that marriage doesn't give you the license to treat yourselves like shyt and then because of your marriage agreement - you are now the liability of your marriage partner.  You are now a fat, sloppy, too thick, alcohol drowning tub of goo.

YES WEIGHT IS IMPORTANT - and it should be important to anyone who opens their mouth to consume anything from a glass of water to a bowl of rice.  We are your partner, NOT YOUR NURSE, DOCTOR, HOUSEHELP.  We want healthy and in shape and should receive it from you especially if we give you healthy and in shape.

Is this still available?

@ Lawyer

Thank you - I am the one that just spoke with you.

@ Lawyer:

Loved your post.

Can we switch gears for a moment? I need to ask you or anyone on this thread a question who might have the answer for me.

I am moving to Lagos for a while and will be renting an abode - I am working with different realtors in the area and I have one realtor that wants to charge me N1,500 to show me a property for let.

We are just going to walk through and look at a property. I have never heard of this before and I am refusing to pay money to look at a property for let. Is this normal in Lagos for a real estate agent to be paid by a renter to look at a property?

In the U.S. real estate agents who are managing properties for let are paid by the owner of the property. Or the agent fees are included in the rental contract - they are never paid at the time of "just initially touring the properties"

Please advise

MRbrownJAY:
thats what happen when people dont make sound investments. . . . . . . .  . now, WIDE or not, go and get what's rightfully yours and make your own judgments about the status of that coochie!!! (remember, if your friend has a baby dikc then ALL totos will be wide for him, lol!)

if this guy was truly a great friend of yours, he would advise you on how to recoup your investment rather than breaking your heart like this. friend indeed!

@ Poster

This writer speaks complete Truth

Seconded!

Here in the U.S. Skinny Jeans on men:

artistic types
gay
big cities (NY, Chicago, etc)

I have never favored Skinny Jeans on men for my own men (guys I have dated and the one guy I am seeing now) - because my BIG TURN ON are men who are REALLY OVERLY MASCULINE

and skinny jeans just ruins that picture for me.

@ Topic

Men should realize that for women - once a woman has experienced a Real or.gasm with her mate - it is almost impossible for a woman to fake one and the man not know.  Attraction and desire makes completely factor into fore-play which gives a woman an orga.sm.

If his breast.s are larger than mine and his stomach is soft, layered and large or even looking small and poofy - I can guarantee that there will be no fore.play for me with him.

Men are such visual creatures I wonder why a slender man has a poofy tummy or even a large man allows himself to get out of shape.  As many threads as I have read about men complaining that women have big stomachs, out of shape, etc.

A man likes a shapely, firm woman - a woman wants the same as well.

Also - I workout alot - once you start working out regularly - you really start enjoying it.  I have been really working out pretty much the past 24 months almost daily.  A man's wallet means nothing to me - if he has a bad shape and has allowed himself to get out of shape.  His dollar bills don't make my toto wet.  So sorry.

@ poster very good post - lololololol

lolololol - at all of the replies

thank you

Nigerians are lazy readers - please tell me I am wrong and do it with civility - Dangggg! Stop complaining about having to read - it was interesting, and the last paragraph I laughed so hard i almost lost my bladder.

You quoted Chris Rock - perfectly - I saw that "live in concert DVD" where Chris Rock said those words - exactly as you typed them.

I agree with Lord Reed, Sexkillz, Baldman, Born2,

Move on and find a girl that works - much of your complaint will change - somewhat anyway,

Relationships (either friendships or romance entanglements) - you as a person need to decide what you are able to live with and what you cannot live with,

I cannot date an unemployed, jobless man - if he is jobless - he better start hustling on the street to bring in money - for if I am jobless - I will be hustling as well, I would never lay the burden of my upkeep at his feet.

Also - find a female that pays for her own hair, nails, food, recharge cards, if you can - I realize that Nigeria is much different from the U.S. and you might not have a choice on whether who you care for is working or not, you very well could exchange her for someone else who is worse.

My advice would be to evaluate what it is you are willing to put up with and what you are not willing to put up with, your post sounds like you are very frustrated and upset. My good thoughts follow you during your dilemma.

A woman would be much better off if she could distinguish the difference between a man that flatters her & a man that compliments her, a man that spends money on her & a man that invests in her, a man that views her as property & a man that views her properly, a man that lusts after her & a man that loves her, a man that believes he is Gods gift to women & a man that REMEMBERS a woman IS God's gift to man,

^^^^^I read this and I know some of you will say it is just cliche - but I had to Repost it here on NL - I pulled it off a status of one of my facebook friends - I am not the author - but I just loved it - because it SPEAKS TRUTH.

I love chocolate, slender men - hmmmmm - my guy fits that description

he's sooo yummy

A fine, fine, fine black, beautiful speciman of a man

Rest In Peace Nick Ashford

You and Valerie Simpson - brought lovers and couples - beautiful music and lyrics

You will Be Missed

http://www.usatoday.com/life/people/obit/story/2011-08-22/Motown-songwriter-Nick-Ashford-dies/50098836/1

http://www.washingtonpost.com/entertainment/nick-ashford-of-motown-songwriting-team-ashford-and-simpson-dies-at-age-70-had-throat-cancer/2011/08/22/gIQATJ0TXJ_story.html

I love Your Songs - Oldies but Very Good Goodies - Though You are my Parents Age - I still remember the Music in the House - You will be Missed

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Is It Still Good To Ya? ^^^^^


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Never Forget To Count Your Blessings ^^^

^^ Rich - thanks - I don't know of what you speak - but thanks for the thoughts you directed my way.

It took a long time for me to learn, test and realize that when you meet a nasty individual - IT ISN'T PERSONAL - you are just meeting "who they are"

You didn't do anything wrong - this is who they have developed themselves to be, this is natural for them, it is their level.  You can either "join them on their level" - which will stunt your development, waste your time and block/delay you from evolving into what you need to be for yourself and for your family.

What successful person have you met that was negative?  I have never met a successful negative person.  You have only yourself to blame if you "allow them to catch you up in their bullshyt, "  I made that mistake before, but learned right away.

When they come at you with their crap - realize that "their mate, family, friends" are getting it 100 times worse.  If you can be attacked on a forum by a stranger.  Just imagine those who "know them" - are going through "hell."  Remember "familiarity breeds contempt."  Those who know them - can't stand them - as they have to deal with that monster(s) everyday - NL allow us to watch the "3 Ring Circus" from a distance - their mates/children need to be pitied and need our prayers.

And that's truth.  Remember - it's not you - not at all.  Nothing personal at all - make sure you don't take anything personal.  These are miserable individuals who don't know how to "change their nightmares" so they take it out on us on NL.  Instead of developing themselves and asking us to share our knowledge so they can self-develop - they hurl insults and pick fights - because that is their way of coping with their world - to lash out at others - that is the highest level they have developed themselves to reach and they maintain that high level (they see nothing wrong with their behavior - it is normal in their world - dysfunctionality is fully functioning for them) - yet it is a very low level (to us).

Just step over them and step around them when they start spewing their nonsense and their garbage.  Keep it moving.  Face Front - they aren't worth looking back at.  You have alot to do with your life - keep moving forward.

@ Poster

I have learned - and I have taken my knocks like the rest of us - knocks that are smooth and not so smooth.

That we are "what we write"

Those that are on NL - is the "person they are in real life"

NL - might allow them to "stretch and exaggerate who they are a little bit because of the anonymity factor"

But trust me - if they are ignorant, rude, harsh, foul - those qualities are NOT COMING FROM AN ABYSMAL non-existent entity.

It is coming from the mind of the person who eats, reads, writes, shyts, talks in "real life"

So what you are reading on NL - is to a large degree - the same individual you would meet "in person."

So my gratitude here is that I only have to meet that idiot(s) online - I thank God that I don't have suffer the individual in my "quality circles" up close and personal.

I am grateful for NL - the goons can remain on one side of the line and you can remain on the other side.  Never the two shall meet.  So basically poster be glad that they can sling their insults online versus your having to disturb your harmony, peace and tranquility having to run into the ignoramus in person.

harakiri:
@inzaneclan, One thing need to understand is this : Nairaland is an anonymous forum where people feel free to air there views with the liberty of hiding their true identities. Unlike fb and other forums where you can somewhat trace the posters, most here are faceless and thus, they bare their true opinions other than "watered down politically correct sentiments". Furthermore, as much as you try to appear "civil,cool and collected", there will always be people who would capitalize on that and will reply you in a manner that leaves you no choice than draw pistols and fire salvos. This is something you'll experience and get accustomed to with time. There are people that will spill vile comments here and even if you try to "reason" with them, they'll simply use you as a scapegoat! You'll get used to it. Trust me on that. In between, I kinda prefer people airing how the TRULY feel (negative or positive) rather than people typing "civil" comments that everyone wants to hear. This forum would be boring without the burning flames you know. If you doubt me,open a thread about BARNEY and see how many comments you get, lol. Cheers.

This writer too speaks TRUTH

^^ yeah - ok

Johndoe100:
@inzaneclan

There are a lot of frustrated  l.esbians on this forum who spend most of their time trying to make others miserable. You have met the some of the leaders here, their more restrained partners would not come out to challenge you but believe me they are watching.
The d. ildo acrobats take it as a point of honor to be as obnoxious as they can, in fact the more foul they are the happier they feel. Just ask the posters who have basically told you to go f, k yourself.

@ poster - this writer speaks truth.

seconded!

See - this makes me angry reading it.

Obviously the wife is not developed - has not developed herself - the wife needs to focus on self-development - this isn't just a case of "sexual frustration" - that is laughable - very laughable.

The wife needs to focus on working on herself - I read the poster's attempts to assist the wife so she isn't "feeling insecure and paranoid" - I can appreciate exactly what he is saying - because I have done THE EXACT SAME as well.

@ poster - don't divorce her - but "stop helping - take the opposite stance."  She has to help herself and focus on her own self-development - CHURCH activities that SHE INITIATES on her own would help with self-development.

You should sit her down and really have a conversation and if she won't allow a conversation because of her lack of "anger-management" - DON'T TALK - instead write what you would have said to her.

Many times when you are dealing with a person who won't "shut up" and are constantly preparing to talk while you are talking - it means they aren't listening to you because they are residing in a "Constant state of preparing a response"

Write what you want to say to her and leave it with her while you are at work.  Tell her that you will stay away from her physically until you are sure that her physical responses will be harmonious enough for the two of you to dialogue on sensitive subjects where that dialogue doesn't end in physical altercations.

Counseling is also a very, very good place for you two as well.  Pastors also really help with "couple counseling" if you don't want to pay the big bucks to go to professional counseling.  Also there are Couple/Marriage Counseling with churches as well.  My guy is involved in marriage counseling sessions at his church and those sessions are very popular - many couples go to those sessions.

There must be a church in the UK that you can join or start attending regularly if you are members.

@ Hischild:

Thank you I love this what you posted.

martin2699:
This is one of the most ridiculous things I ever heard. I don't know if I should laugh at you or cry with you.
BTW what do u do when she's kicking your butt? Run for dear life or cry n beg for mercy?

bin gbagbo:
I CRY n sometimes kneel down!

2buff:
Does she also lock you up in the toilet and puts a collar around your neck and orders you to crawl on the floor when in her presence? 
You either just into some freakiness or you and your woman need therapy.

AND @ Tosinville and Mrs. Chima rounding and squaring off with each other

ahhhhahhahahahahahahaha - lololololololol

ROFL over and over and over again

Oops -  Shy-one now has to go and change her clothes - NL has just made me to have an accident

Oopsie!!!