₦airaland Forum

[size=28pt]Enough of Public Stealing. Enough! Enough!! Enough!!! [/size]

[size=20pt]I don tire. I want my money back. If you have stolen money as a public official Naija is no longer safe for you and your kids. Enough is enough[/size]

Except prices are going to come down otherwise I see them dying a natural death. I just believe certain sectors of the economy should be regulated.

Men back off da lady. Just remain friends but a distant one possibly avoid her when u see her. It's eigther she really likes you or she is a materialistic *beep* but first behave like 'Frank Spencer'. Act naively and ask her why she says you're choking her, if she comes outright to tell you then guy run but if she gives u d lady body language dat she wants u to make up your mind then it means d ball is in your court, she's waiting for u to play although I strongly suspect that she is very materialistic.

I don't agree so much with the AA classification. I think most Nigerians would prefer going for someone that is their own skin colour at least I would and please don't call me racist. It boils down to an attitudinal problem. If ure 'submissive' then you'll get almost any Nigerian man. Nigerian men don't like to be challenged but rather they respect a smart intelligent lady they can always resort to for advice.

It's a pity no one is really telling you the truth here maybe I can help. I think I understand their line of reasoning because of a couple of reasons

Firstly, Cultures are different. A Nigerian woman that was brought up in Nigeria or by Nigerian parents thinks more to please her family than herself although that is changing fast these days. If she is faced with hardships either economically or emotionally she doesn't easily give in and throw in the towel by quiting the marriage. Still a sizable number of our girls are taught or raised up to respect their man even if they're well off. They respect hierarchy and this is because they are either well brought up, good christains/moslems/traditionalists. They believe in something but all across the western world there is a death of morals due to the rise in atheism or distorted doctrine.

Secondly, Most Nigerian men are selfish, they want to be able to indulge in their illicit ways whereby their women can't cough or at worse they complain and fight about their partners ways with no serious repercussions. Across the western world, once your hubby is caught cheating thats the end of the marriage. So they like the feeling of knowing that no matter their actions there wouldn't be serious repercussions especially the way the single ladies chase the married ones these days.

Thirdly, this has to do with character. Most western ladies have loose characters, they believe what a man can do I can as well even far better and then see themselves as equals even more. In most cases they want their partners to do their bidding or be at their beck and call. Expatiating further Its more like this, down here we have marriage materials, mistress and hit & run materials. Most western ladies fall in the latter category. They become ready for marriage most times after their 35th birthday. A Nigerian man knows that a Nigerian lady with the Nigerian mind set is a very strong woman. She can manage in adversity as well as show off the wealth in style to the pride of her husband.

Like you must have been reading here on NL things are changing and Nigerian ladies are more and more becoming like their western counterparts but then we still do have the true breed, the true apple of every man's eye. Ladies who were taught either in the true traditional way or in a strict Christian/muslim way. One thing I do appreciate with the ladies brought up outside the shores of Nigeria is that they are far less materialistic. If your character has really been moulded along one of these and as I observed above you aren't materialistic then you have nothing to fear because your true Nigerian knight in shining armour is around the corner. Cheers.

aguiyi:
@ poster,
one bottle of shekpe for u,just tell me your location

Are for real? U want make Almajiri come after you?

PurestBoy:
[size=13pt]I BLAME LORD LUGARD FOR AMALGAMATING US WITH THESE NORTHERNERS.[/size]

What has Amalgamation got to do with d topic discussed now ugh? If Nigeria splits up, wouldn't it be the same bad eggs that will rule the broken states? All of you canvassing for a split have you stopped to think what happens in the respective states in the federation?
One thing I'm certain of though is that I'm getting fed up with this rot. We don't need an indecisive, weak president who can't fight corruption, terrorism, combat illiteracy and stimulate economic growth by tackling Power. This country needs power to change hands and power can only change hands through education and enlightenment. Good people of this nation please awake from your slumber. Evil is flourishing while you are all asleep.

I recently stumbled on this quote by Archbishop Desmond Tutu

“When the missionaries came to Africa they had the Bible and we had the land. They said, ‘Let us pray.’ We closed our eyes. When we opened them we had the Bible and they had the land.”- Desmond Tutu

So I ask is salvation actually for sale or is it a ploy to extort money from ignorant men. We all know that in the old testament the instruction was 10% but was that practiced by the early Christians? The norm was to bring what you felt you wanted to give and that brought about actual communism between christains. Every member of the early church was taken care of. Is it ok to practice capitalism in church and let the poor suffer? Can you hear from God in the presence of so much folly? Is it ok to build millions/billions edifice while real christains suffer in hunger, penury, disease. One country I love very much is Sweden. Everyone is taken care of. A billionaire lives in the same flat as does a commoner. I'm not saying capitalism is bad but I believe in a common ground. Capitalism makes people work and creative while communism caters for all thereby fostering sound security and common good.

My people help me think am.

It's unfortunate but lets view this from another angle, If I have educated all my sons as lawyers then u have to earn part of the N26B. 26B na beans? Nna u all should earn your share.

'Controlling'
I believe everyone is controlled and controlling but some people are just wired to be controlled while some others controlling. In most African societies most men are controlling & d women controlled but lookn at this realistically there is a natural law as to who gets controlled & who controls.
Certain factors determines the 'control general'
-Money
-Royalty
-Nature of the individual
-Religious ascendancy
-Peer pressure
-Society where one is domiciled.

These factors I think explain themselves & I think the most important of them is the nature of the individual because all men determine their own future. I once had a swedish girlfriend who would have been mistaken for Nigerian because she was a complete wife material. Excellently domesticated, wasn't bothered about money issues and very humble.
Most men wouldn't want their spouses getting better educated, having more cash, coming from a more influential family, ambitious ladies(career/business wise at the expense of the home) just because they will lose their 'God given controlling status'
What do I prefer? I prefer a smart woman. A woman who aims & can attain any height but knowing her place in the hierarchy. An example of such women will be Prof. Dora Akunyili.
When a woman expects me to enter the kitchen to cook then she dey invite trouble. I prefer to cook to make it romantic not for you to expect me to either cook or do the dishes. Our new notion of marriage is what is causing all the commotion in homes especially when there is a change of location(country). For me I believe when one finds a virtuous wife the sky is the limit.

I have mine in a variety of ways depending on how hungry.

Hungry man's style

-1 Indomie Super pack or 2 packs of Onion Chicken flavour
-Chopped pepper
-60cl water(Pure water)
-butter or margarine
-2 Eggs
-Carrots(3/4 medium size)
-Cabbage
-1 medium sized Onion
-Garlic (2 large cloves)*Shoprite size*
-2 Knorr Cubes

-Heat water & while heating start preparing carrots and cabbage. Scrape carrots and then chop them & then grate Cabbage and then wash Cabbage(Remember the belle is crying sweet mother)
-Breakup indomie and put in boiling water(3mins)
-Heat frying pan or pot. Add 3 spoons of butter or margarine and once it is heated add the garlic let it dissolve in the butter then add pepper, onion, Cabbage, Carrots(2mins)
-Add Indomie with the juice(indomie water) to the frying pan. break eggs and add to fry pan( don't stir)
-Cover frying pan or pot and let it seamer for 2mins b4 before stirring.

Get 1 Eve sachet(Blackcurrant flavour), 2 Eva bottles filled with cold water mix and vola.

My Personal favourite

-1 Indomie Super pack or 2 packs of Onion Chicken flavour
-Chopped pepper
-60cl water(Pure water)
-butter or margarine
-2 Eggs
-Carrots(3/4 medium size)
-Cabbage
-Smoked fish
-Shrimp
-Pork or goat meat
-1 medium sized Onion
-Garlic (2 large cloves)*Shoprite size*
-3Knorr Cubes

-Heat water & while heating start preparing carrots and cabbage. Scrape carrots and then chop them & then grate Cabbage and then wash Cabbage
-Breakup indomie and put in boiling water(3mins)
-Boil pork or goat meat, add 2 knorr cubes, onion, ground fresh pepper, thyme
-Heat frying pan or pot. Reduce heat, add 3 spoons of butter or margarine and once it is heated add the garlic & fry pork or goat meat and let it fry for 10mins. Remember to turn sides untill its attains the roasted brown look. Remove meat after frying.
-Wash smoked fish and shrimps and add 1cube of knorr, onion, shrimps and smoked fish to frying pan and stir(4mins)
-In same source add Indomie with the juice(indomie water) to the frying pan, Break eggs and add to fry pan( don't stir) cover frying pan or pot and let it seamer for 4mins b4 before stirring.

Cold fresh orange juice to step down.

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Ekwunife must resign

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Ekwunife must resign

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Ekwunife must resign

Whats wrong with Nairaland/Seun? I posted a topic of Hon. Ekwunife lesbian sex on here and u guys deleted it why? Abi Seun una don collect Ghana must go?

I really don't understand y the notrhern states are not keying in on power generation. Look @ Russia selling power to China. They should focus on building solar and wind power generators, create industrial parks and sell this power generated to these parks. Men I can generate 1m jobs in the NE with $5b. Yet they will allow Boko Haram to turn NE Nigeria to an Alqeada breeding region/nation.

Demdem:
i see no wisdom in having such huge sum in hand and yet the majority of the people are in abject poverty. The money should be used to better the lives of the populace. However, its better to be kept than it finding its way to some crook's pockets.

You see no reason for what? Are u smoking Garri? N500m to N600m interest isn't enough reason for u? I'll choose constant & planned development any day anytime over the borrowing other state govts do. If I'm a governor of Katsina y wuldn't I borrow frm d World Bank or IMF @ 3-5%, utilise the funds and keep deposting more of my allocation @ 14%. It seems we have better managers from Katsina. Buhari, Yar Adua & now this guy. All of them are adopting Buhari's model while he was @ PTF.

Ol' boy almost all ladies lie about their age but since u spelt it out from d start then ure completely absolved from this. Just remember to err is human, to forgive divine only I don't know what to call hers because seems she can go to any lengths to get anything but it is all so common & since its common it might not reflect her true person. My advice temporarily halt the wedding until ure convinced on which way is best. If u do cancel I'll advice u always ask for her age. Girls usually are 2-4yrs older than the age they give. So if she tells u I'm 28 while she is 32 or 34 my guy run. Best this days to go for off d block babes dat is just finishing school or final year in school.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=689238.msg8517923#msg8517923 date=1308068707]Dude you're still on my case? let it go! Learn to forgive and forget. [/quote]Have u asked for 4givness? Even ur recent post just reminded me of ur past male bashing exploits. Since uve used style to ask 4 4givness then go and sin no more rather bash no more. Otherwise worse may befall u

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=689238.msg8516739#msg8516739 date=1308057499]It's coz of their yeye Ego. The funny thing is they can't even back it up---sad!

Tell your friend to aim higher--senators, ministers and co-- you understand now, those kind of paroles. Birds of a feather flock together. Egbe eye le'ye wo to. Tell her to avoid Gala hawkers and them people. [/quote]Is this the same male bashing babe? What level of bush meat are you now? Bush Pig? No to expensive. Grasscutter? No to sweet. Rabbit? probably rabbit or maybe 'ovbiotor' (bush rat). U better tie a man down now O. Otherwise u'll be 45 and forcefully luring.

Patsey:
@ Da Doctor: What's the shouting about?

@ Poster: Potential suitors, in my opinion, may not be scared by how rich these comfortable sisters are, but with the source of their comfort/wealth. Many of us are too familiar with stories of how these sisters working in Nigerian banks allegedly  'sleep' around with potential depositors in order to meet set targets. Who would want to end up with these so-called comfortable sisters who might continue to ply their trade even after the wedlock?

Gbam! My brother u hit the nail on da head. I rather go for a single lady in a conservative mini flat and a conservative car(even if its new). Most of these bank ladies especially the marketers will have to market themselves too not just their banks wares. Imagine a single working lady that lives in a highbrow area e.g Lekki Ph1 whose rent was probably paid for by one aristo looking to get married? I dey laff in Pidgin.

pro01:
It's funny how we like to arrive at such simplistic conclusions. . .words like 'intimidated', 'insecure', 'inferiority complex', and 'low self-esteem' do not do really address the heart of the issue - if anything, they merely make the woman in question feel better about herself.

The truth is that no sane man would be 'intimidated' by the mere fact of a woman's success - in itself. The fact that a woman is successful (or in simple, straight-forward terms: has MONEY) is not in itself what scares men away. Rather, it is the notion that such women OFTEN tend to be disrespectful and unsubmissive to their husbands - especially when the husbands are on the same or lower financial standing. Lets get this fact very very clear.

In most parts of Africa (including Nigeria), the issue of the man being the head of the home is taken VERY seriously; society expects the man to be the provider for his home, and for his wife and children to accord him full respect and submission in line with his headship. But experience has shown that in situations where the wife earns as much as or even more than the man, she becomes uncontrollable, and overtly challenges the man's authority. This is a fact, and most African men cannot tolerate this.

Secondly, even if the man is willing to tolerate the fact that his wife is the breadwinner in their marriage, he must deal with the INEVITABLE societal scorn that neighbours, relatives, in-laws and friends would visit on him (e.g 'na im wife dey feed am oh'; 'na im wife dey pay their house rent oh, 'u dey call yourself man. . .u wey your wife dey give money', etc.). These are very real challenges faced by such unfortunate men whose wives are richer than. The rest of us see these things everyday. I know of my friend's neighbour whose wife locks out of the house and seizes the car key whenever they have a fight, why? She pays the rent and bought the car. . .and the man is the very queit type oh. These things are too rampant, and sensible men know this. Even women who are pampered and provided for by their men still try to manipulate and dominate them, let alone a women who pays the bills. Let's face the damn truth: it is almost impossible for a more successful wife to be loyal, submissive and respectful to her husband. That is the crux of the matter. It has very little to do with intimidation, inferiority complex, or insecurity. Throwing such words around does not address the real issues. What does 'insecurity' mean? When a person's fears are unfounded, then yes we can say he is 'insecure'. But when such fears are genuine, rational, and their occurrence is almost inevitable, then to what extent can you say the person is 'insecure' or 'intimidated'? People misuse these words too much these days.

Very well said. I love your proper definition of 'insecurity'. Ladies & Gents pls take note.

People calling d husband illogical & unreasonable have no regards 4 d institution called marriage. As for me the wifee has already failed the first test of marriage by showing her husband that she is materialistic. I'm sure if she didn't adopt a combative approach her hubby would have softened up. She has clearly shown dat once she is there she can do anything including infidelity. As for me NO because she failed d test simple.

U better get another chick & make sure she's aware. If u see she's not bothered when she finds out just 'RUN'.

[quote author=~Minx~ link=topic=271232.msg3899554#msg3899554 date=1242891585]Lol you guys are funny, 

Where I come from there is a myth that Nigerians are well endowed, girls like them, only problem is they tend to lie and most of them are married back at home[/quote]Seems ure one randy bee. U better change. True change comes from true repentance. Since uve decided not to tell ur husband be rest assured that the day he discovers ur misdeeds that's when ur whole Fox series will come to an end. Keep postponing the d-day. D D-day might be much more eventful & disgraceful.

toyemz:
@sleekman

sir you are rambling
The Bible says he who is sinless,let him cast the first stone and gradually the crowd faded away
Unfortunately sir,this is the times of our age,that where marriages should be held sacred,infidelity and what have you tend to sneak in
can you imagine if everyone who committed a blunder in marriage were put to death,how much of the world populace would be left,especially within the male gender?
so don't cast stones sir,don't judge  her and don't cast her
If it is the will of God that her marriage will stand there is nothing you can do about it
work with her on how to put things right
don't castigate her and don't crucify her
thank you

I'm so sorry that my ramblings's causing rumblings inside u. So thats the latest weapon u all have to continue ur stupid, totless and atrocious activities? because Jesus said he without a sin should cast the first stone and no one. Common lady then why don't we just set all the prisoners free because some have commited murder, theft and a whole worse more. Isn't ur 'little rambling' void of logic? Hear you have a man and a woman in a union who let their lusty desires do their thinking for them without considering the future of a 7yr old. Sounds to me ure a christain who believes in always seeking forgiveness & repeating the same sin. U know I remember a husband and a wife who lied to the Holy Spirit and were instantly judged. Pls don't misinterprete the bible before u'll ask me who has d power to forgive sins. Just to answer the question, I also have the authority to forgive this woman's sin but is she remorseful? No?
Has she lied under public oath, yes. Only those with a heavy heart and require saving have access to Grace. She must first realise what she has done and seek forgiveness both from her husband and God. Besides didn't she judge her husband when she found out he was having an affair? because he got caught condemnation only applies to him. She must confess her sins to seek redemption.

These men on Nairaland sef. It is bad enuf when couples cheat but worse when a woman cheats. A woman holds d home 2geda so if there is a stupid, senseless woman dat wants to go ahead and cheat then she must be ready to deal with d consequences whether she confesses or her escapades are discovered.
My advice women don't cheat, if you do or did pls be prepared to live with the consequence & don't complain. I remember back then if any of my women sleeps with someone else I could tell. I don't cause a scene but she'll sense that I know because my body just tunes out.

@poster I put it to u that ure a bloody liar. How is it possible ur body cringed when ur husband touched u if u weren't already 'totoring' out of wedlock. Infact for coming to this court of public opinion to lie I hereby pass a decree dat ur husband will find out ur atrocities before d end of d month. Ure a disgrace to women & a great source of shame to ur parents. Please carry on wot u do u flat thinking slowpoke. By d way have u tot about ur son or perhaps u cringe 4 ur lovers touch. U wanna be a LovePeddler too dat ur husband is currently wiring. Divorced & unable to tie anyone new. If u don't know U'll become bush meat for men. Pls carry on, harder, pls don't stop, MUMU. Did u ever think dat people don't think? U got ice cream loved it for a while then tot Oh, I've taking too much of this & I don't like it anymore. A smarter woman would have tot O let me garnish my ice cream so dat it tastes a little different anytime I want it instead d mumuism in u felt no let me go have somother ice cream.
How exactly are u going to raise a kid when ure not so smart, em sorry when ure all too mumuish? Ur husbands moral compass is bad urs is beyond repair. Sorry for d poor boy dat will turnout to be worse than his dad because im mama 'thing' take over im brain. I'm very sure ure one of those dat will go to church to scatter tongue after ur escapade. Only God know if U neva carry HIV yet.
Imagine ur husband HIV, then u too so who u come leave ur pickin 4? Monkey