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I see the future of this thread go the way the "describe your country in one word" thread went..

abeg make una nor spoil this "beaurinful" thread with fight o...
I dey come make i go compile my list...

cheddarking: LMFAO at 'Training' Chickens...

Training them to do what Kwanu?

you know he meant to say "breed" them..
U just wan cause wahala...

Freiburger: Taking care of elderly people, it can be very profitable If you can manage your own old people's home.

I have been seriously thinking about this line of business over the past few months..
I even started a thread in the family section about old peoples home...but the truth is you need a fairly large capital for something like that!!

Classicalman: Typewriters are still used in some courts in the U.S and U.K.

Really?
Why if i may ask?
Is a type-written document superior to a computer-typed one?

There must be serious underlying issues that you as the friend are not privy to...
All of the man's actions didn't start suddenly....and won't end suddenly until those issues are brought to surface and addressed.

sophy09: They have the option of divorce and child support

...and alimony

Your mum will feel worse if she finds out your dad cheated and you had known all along.
Tell your dad to go confess what he did to your mum himself or else you will!!

:...depends on the gravity of the offence....

why am i not surprised?
I was at the state high Court a few months ago to swear an affidavit.
I was led to where to type it in the court premises and it was typed with a typewriter!!!
Naija..i hail thee!!

[quote author=T.TOPSON]My dad always emphasize on honesty and dilligence while mum will say obedience to God, parent, elders is very important[/quote]this is exactly what i was about to post except replacing obedience with respect.you sure you are not my brother?

I chose to not to comment on this thread intially because i'm tired of defending myself against all the prejudice,stereotyping and discrimination against women(one of the reason why i'm gradually packing up from the Romance section) which is basically what obtains on Nairaland these days.
This thread has given the word uninterested a different meaning which is unintelligent!!
Seriously?
One even said 99.9 percent of female Nairalanders are unintelligent..
I have availed myself in the politics section a few times especially when its issues surrounding my state which is what i'm more aware of and more interested in.I even challenged a male poster id withheld on his comments once and the only thing he had to say was "its okay that you do not agree with me.you are a woman!"
The chauvinism on here is unrivalled and it dampens one's spirit in every way.
I can only speak for myself and all i can say is i do not see the point in arguing and debating endlessly with people that see my gender first before seeing what my contribution is!

...wondering why most domestic violence news is always coming from Ikotun-Ejigbo area of Lagos state...
That said,that man must be very psychotic...like setting her on fire was supposed to keep her from leaving him??
Smh!

that boy is such a cutie...but my baby girl his future wife is cuter!!

Yoruba doesn't sound no where near Chinese...Hell No!!!

ileobatojo: Lol You make it sound so grim.

i didn't mean to...
I can only imagine the babe in a world of her own right now giggling away on her phone right beside her husband .She might not even get what the man is getting riled up about......

Is this thread a joke or what?
I can't believe a grown-as$ married woman is asking a question this silly!
I can't!

i do know that if the man tries to loudly put his feet down and force her to respect him and the marriage like peeps are advising,he would only be pushing her out..
The situation might become worse as she might become rebellious...
The poster is in for a long ride of patience until his big baby wife fully understands the reality of her situation.

DailyNews: ^ pls read carefully b4 u start throwing insults. I used the verb: maybe, and if we can be honest, she acted out of conscience, a man wouldn't do that, even he will, he may find a subtle approach to make her not to feel so ashamed/humiliated, thats d diff. bw male & female.


To u, I maybe a fool for being on same nland...no kwams, only God will forgive u & ur cohorts.

Excuse me?
I didn't exactly refer to you but you had to answer to my post...huh?
I'm sorry but the truth is your post sounds foolish to me!!
A woman rejecting a man proposal mean "maybe God is trying to protect him from a destructive woman?"
This simple situation suddenly brings you to such ridiculous assumption?
The use of your "maybe" and the bullshit that followed is actually BULLSHIT!!
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Mr man,i have no cohorts here and i don't need you to pray for forgiveness for me so swallow that nonsense!!
I have no beef with you..I just say things as i see them and as they are and in this case your comment reeks of foolishness in every way!!
Deal with it and don't bother replying me with bible quotes and prayers.
I need them not!!!
Cheers!!

hehehe...
Pekele pekele...arugbo je gbese!
Another fool is even calling her a destructive woman for saying NO to a proposal...
So because you love a woman ,do everything for her and never cheat on her,she has no justifiable reason to say no to a proposal?
...and girls are now "something else" because one girl said NO to a proposal?
Seriously?
Wonders shall never end!!!

Johndoe100: @ PretiEbony & slimyem
Well I am sure that both of you don't expect me to believe that the father just stood up one day and decided to say these things. There is always a history. When someone comes with a story and hides the history it is called bias. Tell the whole story.

...and i inferred the same thing in my post with a clause.
Here...

slimyem: True there might be underlying issues but when threats of this nature(he threatened to stab her to death!) start to come into the picture,then every sane mind should know its not safe to remain under the same roof with someone like that no matter who he/she is!!

lalaosky: Slimyem is mynd's shawty... my hand no dey for anybarry wey go eye,nose or mouth her...mynd_44 bites DEEP..be warned

for where?
Person wey just submit application letter without passport?
He has not been considered o...

[quote author=*Shollypopz]Slimyem, Vicky and abiL is here!!!

*Whew* I won't be d only one........Ladies steal the show!!

@190: Stop d essays for a change. Divert ur love to Slimyem, let me watch you first[/quote]na so you dislike me reach?
God don expose you..
Hol am abeg!!
nor pass me nonsense where better people dey!!

deshclones: Women...there is nothing I would not see in this life...[/b]a friend and colleague arranged [b]a secret engagement party today at lareal hotel vgc ..his gf was oblivious of the plot...he invited a couple of friends (me inclusive) to the engagement bash...everything was moving on fine till around 9.30pm when he went down on his knees and proposed to his gf of 3yrs... to our shock ,the gal just lifted the guy up,hugged him and ran outta of bar...she rejected the ring..this is a gal that he has dated for 3yrs,has always loved and cherished this gal,never lifted his hands on her... infact we were all in shock, at a point pity replaced shock,there is nothing as depressin as watchin a grown man cry..I weak..this happened in the prescence of the guys close friends nd relatives..what can be worse than this my people?what will make a gal reject her man of 3yrs,in public for that matter..am just down and sad...

you make it sound like he's doing her a favour by proposing to her and she was supposed to show instant appreciation by screaming YES even if she didn't mean it..
She's even supposed to go for thanksgiving in church because he proposed...right?
...but alas,she dissapointed you lot and that makes her ungrateful despite how much your friend has always loved,cherished and never lifted his hand against her when in essence he should have treated her like crap.
Her crime is her NO!
Isn't it??
Interestino!!!!

[quote author=Okija_juju]GBAM! @ highlighted [/quote]na juju you take know?
Haba!!

lmao...
That's to tell you not every girl would jump at any opportunity to get a ring on her finger...
...and i'm wondering why peeps are judging already even when they don't know what the issue really is.
It could have been any of many reasons...
She might have been nervous and uncertain...
She might need more time to think before accepting he is the one...
She might not believe he actually meant it..
She might be uninterested in marriage itself..
Maybe the guy hasn't even mentioned marriage in their 3 years of dating and she hasn't been thinking in that line too..
It could be anything!
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The guy in question just needs to ask her the right questions in private and the answer to her actions lies solely with her!

Johndoe100: Honor and OBEY your Father and mother that thy days be long and prosperous. The father was good enough to take care of them till they became adults, so there is something they are disobeying him about. Either conform to his wishes or get lost. There is nothing worse than an ungrateful child.

what wishes?
Did the op mention anything like that?
Or did she mention the friend had been dishounouring her father?
Or that she had been ungrateful?
True there might be underlying issues but when threats of this nature(he threatened to stab her to death!) start to come into the picture,then every sane mind should know its not safe to remain under the same roof with someone like that no matter who he/she is!!
Ahn ahn!!

lol...
Reminds me of my freind who got married at 18 and had a baby at 19.She had to take the baby for post-natal care at the hospital once.the processes and protocols were so overwhelming that the baby started to cry and she joined him in crying too such that people were asking her to take the baby to its mother at some point.
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@op,
At 22,your wife is just a girl with a husband and kid.
I'm almost sure a part of her still desires to be carefree,partying,hanging out with girls and boys her age not being a mother and wife to anyone.
I don't think she fully understands what it is to be married..
She has a lot of growing up to do.....and she's going to have to do it in your house.
Don't try to push her out...or make her feel trapped.
The most you can do is love her more and be patient with her at this point and hope this phase would pass in time.

shymexx: STFU! - did you read this thread?? https://www.nairaland.com/1025026/describe-country-one-word/17

What's my handle doing on there, when I was in my bed sleeping??

Yo, I'm just tired of the obsession - it used to be fun, but it's weird and creepy now...

shut up!!!
...and yes,i read it..
I know you are not Shollypopz but you are london2lasgidi and brixtonyute..aren't you?
If peeps are suspicious about your different handles,its cuz you gave them reasons to!!
What happens to just ignoring them and doing your thing as you like it?
You just love the attention..don't you?
Besides,peeps on that thread are same set of peeps fighting over the same thing each time.don't y'all get tired of accusing and mudslinging one another?