OP,

Wasn't it easier for you to type proper English ?

Inform her sister ASAP !

OP,
If not, then they are as good as being married. Please understand that a woman who developed feelings for a man to the extent of giving birth to his child and living under the same roof with him is considered to be his wife, whether they are legally married or not. If she is ready to leave this man and come to you, then she can very well leave you when the fizz dies down and go with yet another one, just as 'webcam' has pointed out. Also you don't want to be instrumental in separating the kids parents, do you ?

big head:

Please peeps, i need your advise on this matter.,
I had a gurl back from secondary school who liked and loved me so much, but due to my childish behavior back then i lost her to another guy. But we met recently and the feelings i had for her and that of hers for me are re-established but [b]there is a problem, and this problem is that she has a child already for this guy, though the child is not my problem, and she lives with the guy.[/b]She loves me and i know it, and i love her too, she comes over to my place we talk, play and do a lot, even my mum, my aunt and my people now knows her to be the person that i want to get serious with. but i the circumstances surrounding her won't allow me to know her people, because they already know the father of her child, she keeps on telling and begging me to exercise patience as she wants to leave the guy for me, but the time is not yet right even though the guy has found she is seeing me, and that still hurts my feelings cos i do not get to see her when i want, or even call her when i want.
Please people i wanna ask if i can go ahead and have another gurlfriend or should i just let her go and move on with my life.,
Please advise.

Is she married to that guy??!!

Story or no story, here's my 2 cents, I'd say the man should go ahead with the marriage. Also he should make sure the friend gets the message that you are aware of what has happened between the two of them and you are planning to stay with your girl through thick and thin and as a good friend he needs to respect your decision. The wife should be supported in all possible manner ( she was afterall violated and it wouldn't be a pleasant thought to be around the man). Both of them should never be FORCED to be in each other's company unless and until they feel like doing so.

Option 3 or 4

If you truly believe he is behind all the bad luck that has been happening to you, you could discuss tis with your pastor
But somehow I find it hard to believe these kind of things exists in this era :|

Is Fashola's resignation in any way going to help Lagos from not flooding in future? Good he was not blamed for the heavy rains !

@Topic

If it's just the doorbell ringing that terrorises you, why don't you try disconnecting the doorbell for a few days? Or do something so that they receive a mild shock each time they press the bell

thomasjohn:

what happened afterwards?

I was briefed for another 2 hours on how to behave within the firm

Not exactly dirty , but once while being briefed about our departmental activities, I managed to send a text to my friend saying she shouldn't bother waiting for me for lunch and that I'm being bored to death by a useless gud for nothing manager only to find out that I actually sent it to my manager !!! I was barely a week in that firm !!!

About time

Send him a text( he doesn't even deserve to be  informed in person) ASAP saying you have lost your interest in him n his performance

Also if it is going to give you any peace of mind, tell him you have been cheating on him with one of his friends for quite some time (don't disclose any names, let him keep guessing)

As for your sister, be normal with her and tell her you dumped the guy because you suspected he was HIV+ 

If you had lied to her about your age and now planning to confess the real thing, the you are in for trouble
It shouldn't be a problem if you tell her the truth if you guys have never discussed anything regarding age all the while,

@ Topic
Have heard a lot about people who love to play second fiddle. Glad to meet one !

Condolences. Having lost a parent at a young age, I have been through what your are going through now. Trust me, it is not easy but this phase shall pass. There is no loss in the world that time cannot mend.Buck up and pray for your mum's soul and try to live a life she would be proud of.

Yours GEJ,:

How does this relate to the topic at hand?

Never mind, I do this once in a while , so how much did you say was too much

Thanks 190 *wonders what a werepe(devils beans) is*

Please can somebody tell me what a werepe is

With due respects to your decision, women engaging in drinking nothing to be alarmed of. There is an alcohol content in wines( including palm wine)  and yet nobody thinks it is a big deal for women to drink wine. When some oppose it, there are men who prefers to drink in the company of their partners. The catch is that people should know where to draw the line.

However increase in the number of women smoking is worrisome.

@OP

So which one of these sisters was found knocked out n unclothed next to the some random guy at a binge party? And what about that neighbour who walked into your place for some action ?

^ Do you mind if I ask you smthng? The last time I checked you were a female n now male How come ?

No pain no gain. Every man and woman needs to invest into their marriage, no matter how wonderful your courting period was. Invest as in lots of patience, lots of love, lots of compromises , lots of prayers (people might ridicule me, but a family that prays together stays together) etc. Also there shouldn't be any space for ego in one's marriage. Marriage comes with a lot of responsibilty as opposed to the carefree period of courtship. If everybody relaizes their responsibilities and strives to carry out them, then all marriages shall be perfect.

I read somewhere that too much coffee is bad for health. So just how much is considered too much? 4 cups a day? 5 cups?

Nope, they dont change. Its just that real self comes out after marriage.

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This is the same wife that has Hepatitis B and u have been married to for 20 yrs, sorry its 18 yrs, no i meant 5 yrs. Liar Liar Pants on fire. U don't even have $500 not to mention $5000. U tink say all of us na mumu. I don tire 4 your kain person.

Guys just check out his former posts.

@ OP Well, in that case let me answer your question, i.e how would one feel if their GF/BF misplaced a gift. You had also mentioned  that she behaved in a totally unaffected manner. If I were you, I'd assume thatz the worth me/my sorry gift has got as far as the other person is concerned and do myself a favor by channeling my time/thoughts/energy into something that is useful for me. Why bother about someone who cares a darn about me?

@ deniyor

Maybe she sold it

Your situation is rather sad.Growing up seeing your dad cheating on your mum is not an easy thing. But that doesn't mean all marriages should be that way. Infact people like you can make good partners/parents since you have gone through so much of pain. Learn to take risks in life. Without risks life is nothing but robotic. Do not hesitate to take that step forward and find a gal who shares your likes and intrests, say music or books, and enjoy your life.

With a lot of love and perseverance you could convince your mom on how important it is to find the right partner for yourself, lest she wants you to go through the same path she travelled. Good luck !

@ Topic
Yes they do, atleast in their mind !