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Is he your only sibling? Be glad the guy is spending the money on his parents and not on wayward lifestyle. Worser, he could've taken all the money and left the country/home without mentioning a word.

Legal or illegal, he shall reap what he sowed. As a brother you have done your part. If you are not happy about the current developements, mind your own business and let him be. We live in a funny world- your concern could be mistaken for jealousy

I guess you should listen to your husband. Pay no attention to her.

On the other hand, if the whole thing is troubling you so much,you could ask your father to come over and talk to your husband and in-laws.

OlowoTee:

. . . eeeyah! I got here pretty late. I've got two new baby cots that were never used! Both are wooden, one is a swing. . . Congrats in advance, Parisienne. May God bless and keep you~ Blessings to the donor, too.

#if you wouldn't mind, I could donate to you knitted baby hats and socks which i make myself, yes, brand new ones. I reside in Lagos~ 0. 8. 0. 9. 0. 5. 1. 1. 5. 9. 2.

May god bless you dear.

Forgot to congratulate OP. Have a safe delivery and congrats in advance !

Some women[i]<sighs>[/i] Pathetic upbringing, I don't see anything else that can bring about so much of brazenness in an individual

Sexkillz,
What exactly does obsfc, whateva mean?

I do not blame them for bringing people from India See the kind of English they had to put up  with

Why don't you just e-mail her a wedding invite ?

OP -

1) Why don't you suggest a dress code in your department which should include your point of concern (women wearing tight dresses/skirts) along with some other points as well.

2) Get a female colleague you are pally with to talk to her about this, without bringing up your name.

3) Maybe you can get on the phone with an imaginary friend when she is around and fume about how women wear tight clothes to work and how much you despise such women. If she is smart enough, she should get the message

Airtel is an Indian company, Bharti Airtel. Those who hated Indians should've opted to stay away from it. How do you explain people working there even when they have so many issues? Simple - none of their Nigerian counterparts are willing to hire them. If they are in Nigeria and have survived, they might as well run the company according to their wish. Why don't those hurling abuses at foreign investors imagine a Nigeria without any foreign investors, Europeans, Americans, Lebanese, South Africans, Koreans, Chinese, Indians and other minorities. What if these countries were to take back their businesses and nationals and then send back all the Nigerians in their countries for good. Do you think Nigerian entrepreneurs/politicians can provide 100% employment to itz citizens ? Do you think these Ogas will all be compassionate philanthropists who will turn your life into a bed of roses overnight ? SMH !

All the same, I have to agree Indians are really stingy and can be irritating to the hilt  

@ MariaP

Ok, you guys break up , he was bitter about it,  and because of that bitterness ,he took away your certificates and valuables. So much when you let a bitter ex in and go in to cook for him (I mean for real?) leaving your valuables for visitors to rummage through. Moral of the story : Be careful with the kind of people you let in and do not divulge too much info, like where you keep your valuables, even if it is a boyfriend. There is nothing wrong in being cautious.

Assuming your story is true, go to the Embassy/concerned authority to get a copy of his passport /his address. Forward this address to your folks back home and with the help of  police you could pressure his folks to trace him down.

Honestly, somebody who was wicked enough to carry an ex's certificates might as well have destroyed them. Letz also hope he doesn't use those things for any anti-social activities.

You have been finally delivered ! Knowingly or unknowingly you have succumbed to the beauty of naija women and you have come to admit it. Amen to that !

^ No worries. Single fishes will teach you

You've started

@ MMM
Yes I'm. But that shouldn't stop me from commenting, right?

Yes o, I'll feel bad. Infact, I'm better off without somebody who cannot accept me in public, for whatever reasons.

@MMM  There are lots of fishes, SINGLE fishes in this NL Ocean. You deserve more than a sugar mommy

@ Topic
Dating is different from being married and you have to take time to settle in your new role and its nuances before expanding your family.

I know  people who've had a baby just to shut their mom-in-law's mouth or coz of a nagging aunt at the church/in the family. Bad bad idea. End of the day, you have to take care of the child and not these people who were after your life. If you are not ready for a child, kindly avoid from having one to please someone else.

^ I'm married

Somebody who is closely associated with the family is here with these nasty accusations. Probably a case of bitter ex ?

M M M:

nayah

can u give me 12 dozen of babies b4 2012

I will pay u 2 millon rupees cash

Why RUPEES? Is she Indian?

^ Sarcasm at its best !

Somebody please add another option to that poll up above, " sue the OP"  . I'm sure all the votes will go to that option !

Mammy, I was one among those who suggested you pay him back in the same coin. Glad itz working. Hope you will come back to say how you are enjoying your married life. All the best !

Btw, are you sure your hubby is not on NL ?

I'd love to pay a visit to this lefuefu guy, prfrbly with a group of nigerian gals, the ones he despise so much

^ ;d ;d ;d

Apologies accepted.  

It is not the matter of being hurt. You'll hardly see me engaging in a fight, verbal or physical in real life, yet I woudn't call myself gentle. Infact you calling me arrogant hardly affected me (I COULD be one, for all you know). But that might not be the case when someone mentions my family, be it my hubby, kids, parents, in-laws or siblings. When we are nothing but faceless usernames, when we absoutely know nothing about a fellow poster in real life, isn't it best not to bring in our family, for no fault of theirs ?

Anywayz, like Tgirl4real said, I thought we would end up exchanging words. Thanks for proving otherwise. Honestly appreciate your response !

Sisi_Kill:

Lmao @ Ify! 

Okay my thing is people come here with all sorts of issues, some issues some people can identify with and the other issues are foreign to us. That we aren't familiar or too familiar with the issue does not give us the right to be dismissive. The OP is obviously hurting from that issue or they won't be posting it online.

Case in point. . . What irks me more than anything else is when women use words like "simple"  "mere" "not a big deal" for something that's paining another woman. Apart from giving the other woman an inferiority complex (because she starts to think there must be something she lacking, that's why she can't cope with this "simple" thing that is not a "big deal" for other women", it is a very arrogant thing to say. Even if the issue sef [i]paaapa [/i]was really a minor thing, there are better ways to say it without making OP feel less than an ant.

See how Smilenw dismisses OP's annoyance because it is rooted in something she think is "simple", she even went as far as coming to a conclusion on the kind of person OP. I guess it never crossed smilenw's mind that even the meekest among us can be pushed to the wall, that even the gentle have a right to show some anger.  I guess it never occurred to Smilenw to think beyond the act of hanging and see that something must have happened for a woman, who stays up all night worrying about her husband, to angrily hang up on him. I guess smilenw believes like her, everyone has the "body" to take a neglectful husband. I guess Smilenw, thinks what is not a big deal for her can't be a big deal for someone else. . .that's why she can be so dismissive. 

Abeg Ify, is it too much to ask that we acknowledge the OP's pain and hurt even if what is causing it is a walk in the park for the rest of us? 

Just noticed this. Don't you think you went a bit far here? Did you really have to say I might have a neglectful husband and I have the body to take it?Because I used the term simple in my post, you concluded I'm arrogant ? Weren't you much more arrogant in concluding not just mine, but my husband's character too?

@ Sisikill
I guess we are on the same thing here. My point was that she  has to use her "annoyance" on the important issues (if the usage of simple is not acceptable) like not providing for the famiy, staying away most of the night without informing her etc

I used the term simple not because the issue looked simple to me, but because she had more important things at hand to worry about, yet she chose to react to the lesser important one.

^Sisikill-I do not wish to join this o, abeg-Let the poster take panadol for her headache. My weekend is here and let me enjoy. The woman opened a thread and has even stopped responding when there are almost 4  pages of e-arguments going on-for and against her. Guess she has had  her fill and think that is reason enough for someone to stop responding

Itz just that I was passing by and the last thing tht was posted was this and it caught my attention. I r'mber reading where she mentioned she is kind of gentle or smthng like that and she used to be praised for that. I, as a person, can never take someone hanging up on me. I do not know if it is just me. Hanging up probably tops the list of things that irritates me the most. So obviously when I thought from my point of view, I thought she was kind of quick to react, something that isn't expected from a "gentle person". Isn't it surprising to see that somebody  who was tolerant enough to being left all alone at night without even a phone call or whatsoever was quick to get annoyed at a few minutes of silence ? (not that I'm justifying the man's behaviour. Thats a whole different story and I still standby my very first response to this poster)