sexkillz:

D Sage BRO! DONT GO! Why? CURIOUSITY KILLS THE CAT! WHAT YOU DONT KNOW WOULD NEVER KILL YOU! Have you heard of TEMPTATION before? What are you gonna do if the inevitable happens? You start blaming GOD? or DEVIL? Your CONSCIENCE is still warning you not to, so why should you go? Do you want to come across as DESPERATE to her? Even if you would go at all, Levels dey na! You are the man here bro, CALL THE SHOTS! Cant really say much! It's left for you sha!

True talk

have a supperlicious crush on my mom's best friend. This woman lives in Nigeria (minister for - - - - -) but visits the US every 3 months cuz her children are here. I live less than 15mils away from mom's house which is about 3 blocks to my crush's house. During some of her visits I sent flowers/lingerie to her (anonymous) and she accepted them. Sometimes I feel her 17 year old daughter have crush on me n kinda suspecting me over what she ain't sure bout on her mom. Mind you I don't want anything "materially" from her I got my own stuff. I just wanna free my self. Ya I have a delicious and beautifulllllllll chica . . My body is so damn hunger for this woman. How do I step it up, don't wanna disappoint mom I'm scared she might disown me but poo me first and I don't wanna ruin the over 10yrs family relationship but still bleep that I want to get into it. She's hot like my momma, she's still hot more than some of you teens here. Ya she's a widow, her hubby died longtime ago in a plane crash #one of the crook prominent well known dude in Nigeria# so please how do I climb this mountain. I know she love hotties. I don't like women older than me but I can't help it. Suggestion please

SAFO:

OP U need to smell the bullshit in the air. Anyone can tell you anything on facebook. Take it with a grain of salt. Indians very rarely marry outside their religious caste let alone their race. A Mar Thoma Christian wouldn't marry a Hindu unless they converted to their religion. They're a little more liberal up North but the South is more traditional.

I'm so impressed!  

I have read everything people have written about when they don't know poo about the country. One woman has written about prostitution and cocaine trafficking !

OP, trust me, you are not going to be fully accepted and even if you are, it is not going to be easy. But then again it depends on the man and his family. As Mynd suggested, meet him in person before you even start to think in this direction.

On the flip side , I know about a handful of women in Nigeria who are married to Indian men-so it is not unusual I guess. But I have always been against online dating and that could be reason why I feel your lover boy could be a fake.

mamaput:

What dose she hope to achive in going to talk to the other man.

^^ My thoughts exactly !

Assuming she decides to start a relationship with the second man, does she plan to look out for a third guy who toasted her if the second one too turns out to be non-compatible ?
As for the second man suffering in his marriage, itz his cross to bear i.e, itz none of her business. For all you know, he could have made up this story to take advantage of her situation.

OP

I get a feeling you are being sidelined here. The man could be married /in a relationship abroad. Ask him to come up with a better excuse. Who on earth would put a hold on his marriage plans(after 8 long years) coz the woman forgot to mention abt the BB she bought. The hazards BB is causing to men and women these days-Sigh !

Wislet:

When some guys, or should i say boys, behave like children, it beats me.

u talkin about OP/his roomie?

tripple_x:

it seemz she may already hav gotten the bb thru her own meanss

Exactly what I said earlier. Most of her pics have been uploaded via BB

@OP Wait a sec, you are here talking about BB that she may/may not get. There are her pics on FB which was uploaded via BB

Can't stop laughing at all the replies
@ OP. you are wicked o, you shouldn't have put her name up there

Amya:


The thing I'm not really young again and i hope to settle down in the nearest future, but if i can't keep a boyfriend, how can i keep a husband![size=8pt][/size]BTW, what's the difference between having a 'thing' with someone and actually dating someone as a guy i dated for close to a year who i was so in love with then, and who's presently dating my friend told her that we are actually didn't date, but we just had a 'thing' for a while and i was simply delusional for claiming a non-existent relationship. To say i was flabbergasted would be the understatement of the year. By God, I'd sworn we were actually dating! It wasn't a secret, everyone knew . . .we broke up officially due to some problems that cropped up much later in the relationship.

GBAM ! Glad you have realised it yourself and didn't want another person to point it out.

Back to your topic,  there are no guidelines for being a good girlfriend. Only a "boyfriend' can certify whether you are a good "girlfriend" or not. And the criteria of a gud 'girlfriend' varies from man to man. Hope you find somebody who is as spontaneous and fun loving as you are !
Reg the guy who claimed he just had a thing for you- I'd say he was just saving is face. He prolly couldn't admit to his current GF that he was dumped by her friend.

@ Malik Sr

You are not black, for sure. Lemme guess--Pakistani?

The part about "am I your house girl" is not to be taken that seriously if she finally did what you asked her to do. I have read about 3 posts in the past few days where men were being yelled at, emotionally tortured and even beaten up by their wives. So I guess she was indeed sweet by turning it into a joke instead of actually turning you into her houseboy. Secondly, about the sleeping on the floor-that too should be taken in gud spirit. In-laws or friends, when you have visitors, you would want to offer them the best, don't you? It shouldn't be like you eat the meat and give them the bones. How would you feel if you were visiting your bro's place and were asked to sleep on the floor for 2 weeks while the hosts slept comfortably in their bedroom?

The part to be considered seriously is that you are not happy within about the age difference and you are trying to bring up silly issues to put her at blame and get out of the relation. Would you have given these issues a second thought if you were married to a girl 7 years younger to you?

@ OP

Thank you. You just made me realise that I should have paid more attention to my English lessons

Hi ,

Are you interested in Moderating this section- Yes, if you are considering posters with less than 100 posts.

An active member of this section of the forum- No But just plan to be one.
Passion for this section as in Do you post here- Umm, yes.
Spending enough time online every day - Yes with a capital Y
Knows, respects and Enforces The Rules of Nairaland- Yes
ready to work with the other co-mods-Yes

Nayah:

Ebony,I don't think this is about Nigerian only, even in Europe (Italian for example) men have difficulties to think about mentalities change, and some are still very proud and raised as this: men have to put food on table and women stay to raise children

seconded

OP, strangely your story reminds me of a blog I'm reading currently ( got introduced to it through NL lit section). Go to bosediary.com and read through when you get time. Some women, I tell you !
While I pity you and your present situation, I hope you had stopped her the very first time she raised her hands on you. Being a  married woman myself I hate to say this, but a man has to remain a man, be it in the marriage or otherwise. I hope and pray she comes back to her senses and sincerely apologises for her acts. Good luck !

@ OP
My sister, you are an angel. What you have typed here is what exactly what was on my mind for some time, after reading certain posts. I was thinking about how much some people can stoop (I cannot imagine how for things as simple as not agreeing to their point of view can trigger some of the most venomous comments) to the level of street fighters. I do understand people losing temper and places where they could have said a 'shut up' or  at the most 'go to hell', they start with showering abuses on parents and grandparents  They claim to be this and that, yet type the most atrocious things on earth, even cussing 10 generations (can you imagine, people who are not yet born are being cussed and dissed for god knows what). Name calling and obscenities in other sections can be justified, to a certain extent given the nature of the sections. Sadly family section where maturity is expected the most, you see the most horrendous and heinous comments. If so much of anger and hatred is there within a person, he/she needs medical intervention asap coz how much ever they try to hide behind their facades, this kind of anger is hard to hide and they can be a looming danger to their dear and near ones. I wonder with all those rules and things written, why the moderators remain silent too.

The same reason why married women can't keep boyfriends, smh !

^ Read again , did I say men are kids? or was it every man has a kid in him? there is a lot of difference

Orikinla:

It is really shocking to me to see many Nigerian husbands with well educated and pretty wives messing around with young girls on campus who are so unhygienic and then they come back home to lie on their pretty wives!

If you see the toilets of female hostels in Nigeria, you would be scared to even date them!

These shameless philanderers are risking the lives of their wives as they infect them with the STDs from these dirty promiscuous and unscrupulous girls on and off campus.

How do you know that <raises eyebrow>

I have to agree with every word you have said here tho.
Maybe it is true that every man has a kid in him and we all know kids love to get dirty no matter how much you stop them

It is true, if that makes you happy ! Btw, what exactly was your question?

You seem to know it all ! So what exactly is your point? One gal at the grocery store and another one at the school has forced you to conclude that asian women can't stop drooling over nigerian men and then end up suffering for the rest of their lives?  

Platnum!:

i dont have the time to pick on any nigerian male for nothing, out of every 5 [b]afro asian relationship i knw,4 relates to domestic violence, now thats my area of concern.[/b]

'afro' doesn't have to be necessarily Nigerian.

Platnum!:

i knw that those to whom it applies have read this post so yeah,hopefully they have a rethink the next time they want to act silly.

Ah, there you go ! I just wasted a few minutes wondering why a black sister was so concerned about asian women suffering in AFRO asian marriages !

So because your wife has your boss' number, they are having an affair? How old are you ? Kids these day

sexkillz:

Thanks Sweetie! It's been a pleasure so far! . . . . . . . . NOW SCOOT!

You own the property ? Mind your tongue, ugly negro !

@ Topic
There should be a tie between Sexkillz and a woman in the family section. I cannot recollect her name, she has a signature with something about amoeba.

Sarah a:

so what do you want us to do? if you are not marry to her it is better you quite the relationship ,but if you are marry make sure you

see her family and explain things to them.

OP, take it easy. Though it hurts  now,I'm sure you'll be laughing at it in about 10 years from now. That is life ! Just concentrate on the positive side, you guys just dated for just 5 months and not 5 years (imagine all of those years and the hurt that could've caused), she didn't dump you for another guy,you never caught her cheating on you, she never used and dumped you,-I could go on and on. As  time goes by, you'll feel much better.

Don't mind those who r here abusing you.  All of them would've gone through this, but just can't get themselves to admit it ! Some men refuse to grow up even when they ask others to grow up !

Do not hesitate for a minute, go ahead and tell her about the kind of woman she has for a sister. She could do the same to the girl's husband, if not kept at an arm's distance, bldy n*y*m*p*h*o ! Haven't you heard about the adage " a stitch in time saves nine" ?

Clearly somebody is bored !
OP,
Next time when you come up with these kind of stories, try to include some spelling/grammatical mistakes.

@ Suggary

Sorry if I was too harsh. But from a third person's perspective, that is how I felt. No man who wants to fool around will come and say I need some fun, care to join ? They would come up with some c**k and bull story. This man sounds really shrewd. He went ahead to discuss other girl so that you dont suspect his intentions. Well, what has happened has happened. Please forget him and move on. Break ups can be really hard. Try to focuss more on friends, your job/studies and god will bring along that one guy who has been created for you and you alone. No sharing business there, ok??

OP
You sound desperate, honestly. A divorcee (God alone knows why his wife left him. It could be because of the girl in queston) with a steady girlfriend is using you for his carnal satisfaction and you play along ! He has an STD and you still agree to be used unprotected expecting to get pregnant and make his fantasy come true! Can't you see that he is just fooling around with you? When he had to make a choice between the girl and you, right in his house, he chose the girl (he has done that twice or thrice and you still went ahead only to show off your bad temper and get humiliated). If you ever get him to marry you, you are sure to come back whining he is cheating on you. If you do have a problem in being a mistress, leave this man and his wahala behind and move on. If you don't, then beg and turn yourself into a doormat till he decides to forgive(?) you.