The major reasons why you shouldn't date me are;

✓ I have dual personalities. Sweet, caring, gentle on one end but cold and distant on the other end. I'll make you wonder if I was ever who I protrayed to be in the first place.
✓ I never really forget. I can forgive but would never forget.

✓ I'll never quarell with my man for cheating or fight the lady, I may cry and feel hurt but what I'll do will be worst. I'll bid my time, ensure that he thinks I've forgotten the episode till he comes back home one day to an empty house without a trace of me or the children.

Tonero5200:
Any little issue we have she report it to her brother, just because am the cool headed type. I'm tired of the all whole thing, several times have wanted to call it quit but we end up getting back together. On Friday she went out with a guy to shoprite, when I asked who he was, she said they are just friends which was a lie because that guy normally calls her when she's with me.

I i told her, that she can go ahead to date him that me am done with the whole relationship. At first she laughed, then told me I NOR FIT. She's been calling since then which i ignored.
his elder bro came to my house with some friends of his that has several stab wounds and injuries all over their body, they didn't touch me, he just asked me what happened and I told him then what he said is I should try work it out with his sister then he Left.

Have made up my mind, but I know this isn't the end of it.. the dude is well known all over the town for his problems and he will be back.

I know hate is a strong word but I hate toxic people. Especially those who take breakups as a do or die affair.

God.

It's so so annoying!

Always make inquiries before you date people.

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

STOCKHOLM SYNDROME is what is affecting you!

purejustice36:


Albino I never said deirah is a state in UAE
Sharjah is a state in UAE while Deirah is a place inside Dubai which is popularly known to be a home to many black folks

Abu Dhabi, Dubai, Sharjah, Ajman, Umm Al Quwain, Ras Al Khaimah and Fujairah.

These are the seven states in UAE and I’ve lived in all of them back in the days before your shrinked preek daddy started wooing your olosho mummy


Learn how to talk you lowlife

I love your clapback!!

Onepointfiveodds:
After series of fights, sit downs and admonitions, my wife has finally make some adjustments on the salty food issue.

We had a little argument last week and i demanded she apologise as it was obvious she's in the wrong. She hissed and walked out on me. We haven't spoken to ourselves since then and she seem comfortable with that.

Yes i love her and i want us to move on from it, but how will this not repeat itself in the future if she doesn't own up to her fault and apologise?!

..

Did you or did you not notice this before you w
got married?

Ninisun:




He should consume less of pastries, alcohol, starchy foods, tea&bread and engage in physical exercise. If he masturbate, let him stop cus that's one of the major causes of ED.

He can still go for medical check-up to rule out any STIs.

Wow! Thanks much.

Ninisun:




E be like sey na anxiety but if not so, go and start looking for a way to treat erectile dysfunction. ED is the worst a man can experience in his sexual life, check what you consume most especially sugary foods, alcohol and co.

You dey broke with ED, your case is critical...hope you are handsome, so your babe go dey manage the face.

This is what he's dealing with I guess. If you have solutions, kindly drop them.

Thanks.

Jackanda1:
It appears people who masturbate alot usually end up with one sexual problem or another. Yet some people keep saying the act is safe.

It isn't. The mental impact is terrible.

Aify3000:
When we started the relationship, I was satisfying my girlfriend. She always praised me and said that I am better than her ex.

But at a time, when we are having sex my joystick will just fall down. It happened for one week and she got angry and told me if my joystick keeps falling she is definitely gonna break up our relationship.

What should i do now?
She said since i dont have money and i cant give her sex, what is she doing in the relationship?

I don't know about a penis because I clearly do not have one. However, one thing I know is that putting yourself under pressure will make things worst.

Zonefree:

Weed is not drugs.

One of the side effects of weed....Smh

NinaArsenal:
Op it's called Lipoma, It's non cancerous, I did surgery few years ago to remove the one on my back.

I know someone who has it on the back. Got worried for the person when I started reading but your experiences bring me relief.

00FFT00:


This appears to be a fat deposit under the skin known as lipoma. A benign tumor of the fatty tissues.
They are usually benign and can be safely removed surgically under local Anesthesia.

They are usually soft to touch and shifts when pushed.
Seek a qualified dermatologist or visit a teaching hospital in your local area for a professional diagnosis.

Just removing it is not enough. They will need to perform a histological examination on the removed tissue to determine if it is benign or malignant. As I said above, they are usually benign.

Wow! Hmmmm

Jashub:
My brother, if you love yourself and your life, you will listen to the advice I have to give you , especially as people here will be shouting "rehabilitation " as if it is a permanent solution.

And if you want to argue this , let me tell you categorically that drug addiction is not something people easily recover from on their own effort. In fact , I have seen many cases of people who have gone through rehab over 5 times and still ended up dead or worse off from drug overdose. A fine example would be the late Whitney Houston )

So enough of this digression, let's get to the solution:

1.Go on your knees(now) and repent from all sins you have committed knowingly and unknowingly asking Jesus to help you .

2. Go and get yourself a bible

3 .Make it a habit of being prayerful, especially during the time when the urge comes upon you.

4. Find bible-believing people to share your case with and if possible, get closer to them through sincerity and repentance

5 . People will mock you , hear me again , people will mock you and doubt your sincerity, but ignore them and keep your eye and trust on God and He will surely deliver you.



Peace

Op, listen to this person. Prayers work in all spheres of life. Prayer is the KEY!

MMWandali:
Beautiful

Are there African males with such eyes?
Never heard of any

Seen one way back in Warri. Cute as f**k.

Candidlady:


By cooling off. He should be jumping from on hotel to the other, with different sex workers ko?

Best you tell him to dissolve the marriage than this SPACE AND TIME SCAM of a thing.

If the thing ain't working/walking CRIPPLE IT AND LET IT END IN PEACE AND HARMONY

Trying hard to see where I wrote that he should "cool off." And I certainly didn't say he should continue cavorting with women in hotels.

This man needs to seek clarity on things!!!!

Ahead, people need time and space to process things. Space and Time, scam? How?

You see, it's the near-perfection, high standards of relationships and marriage that we've set up for ourselves that make us go banshee when reality starts to set in.

Again, I say the Op needs time and space to get himself together. Life doesn't revolve around anybody but him. As you can see, he already has a lot on his plate, dealing with the fishwife of a woman is going to complicate things more.

Op, may the Universe and God Almighty guide you.

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

After reading your story, I can't and would never blame you. And whoever does is crazy.

There's a limit to the things one can take.

You need space and time to get yourself together.

On a serious note, people should try to hold off marriage until they are sure.

I know no one can ever be too sure but marriage can be alot.

I'm highly claustrophobic. I suffer panic attacks when I feel stuck in a place.

Then that trypophobia, chile! Disgusting stuff!

merit455:
Deborah's murder reminds me of my service year in Yobe state as a youth corper.

I can't forget that experience in a hurry and I keep asking myself why these Muslims can so misinterprete issues to suit what they are planning to do.

We had a certain female Corp member from Delta state, she likes painting her lips like � and putting on trousers. Unknown to her she became the subject of a serious hatred and an apparent plan to kill her was in the pipe line.

You know these people have a way of coordinating their murderous acts, it's a chain that includes the high and low in their society.

So corper Blessing was teaching one day in class and a particular student was busy distracting others, she tried to caution the boy and get him to concentrate but boy keep disturbing the rest of the class, Unknown to her, that was the trap. The said boy was writing in his note book and kept tiring them out, so when she went to the boy's desk, she picked up the pieces of paper and threw them away. The boy stood up and left the classroom.

Boom! Not upto 30mins, another teacher came to Blessing and asked her why she would desecrate the coran, she was so surprised to hear that and decided to ask the teacher where she got that kind of news. To cut the story short, the teacher asked Blessing to leave the school premises immediately else she would be kill.

Blessing quickly left the school to her lodge where she told other corp members what had transpired in school. As she was still speaking, a large crowd of Muslims youth were charging and chanting towards the corpers lodge with sticks and knives, they corpers quickly ran towards the gate to lock it , at that point it became a back and push in the gate as the knew that if the youth gained entrance into the place, they maybe more casualties. This happened in Potiskum.

At that point, calls where coming into to the zonal office for help, I was one of the corper rep in the zone assisting the ZI and LI, the ZI, a Yoruba man quickly called the police, there was no action, he called the army, nothing happened, we started praying for God to intervene, we were asked to go see the Emir, we did, but you could sense the whole town was waiting to hear that Blessing had been killed before action would be taken.

What shocked me most was that our LI, a Muslim was so furious, saying she deserves to die for desecrating the Quran, but thankfully our ZI called a Army topnotch in the south east who had to call the yobe command. ( I don't know the process but it was so fast), military personnels came in two vans to take us to the location of the corpers, you won't believe the crowd, youth wielding sticks, knives and a tray but when they saw the military they started running, all the corpers members were evacuated, the two vans couldn't take everyone, so most of the soldiers has to walk beside the vans for us to get out of that place to the zonal office.

We started wandering how writing quranic citations in a piece of paper or a notebook made the paper or notebook a quran.

As the madness was going on in the town, I was given one of the worst task of my life as the ZI mandated me to snick Blessing out of the town.

While concern people where coming to find out what happened, I took Blessing through the backyard, and then out of the gate, picked okada towards Damaturu with Blessing looking completely different (her lips cleaned and dressed like a northern girl with her head covered) and crying profusely. We succeeded in sending her to Damaturu and that was her last day in Potiskum as she completed the remaining part of her service year at the state headquarters.

This religious misinterpretation must stop forthwith. Deborah death is one of too many cases of religious extremists and fanatics taking the lives of innocent people.

Jesus Christ!!

Terror666:
Capua shall we begin ?

Spartacus?

"If you want to shoot, shoot, don't talk"

"Anxiety" by Coi Leray.

sorosoke101:
This thing happened to me 3 days ago she told me point blank "it is over between us" and I haven't gotten over it all because of a yahoo boy. In fact I thought of crying out loud but you see this inner cry is the most painful. Depression can kill ooh, my blood pressure is still very high, and I have been thinking a lot especially reminiscing the good times we had together. I just dey nairaland to while away time, now I met this God forsaken topic again that has made me remember every thing all over again. Op you have caused me more trouble with this topic than good right now I am looking for a woman to pet and console me so I could just forget abt her but I can't even surmon courage because my spirit soul and body are in separate dimensions.

Oh My God! Is it that bad? Trust me, you'll be fine. Many have passed through this and they came back better.

I know you may feel rejected and cheated on but try to picture yourself in the next 3, 5 years. You'll be thankful for this breakup.

Try to cheer up. Take long walks, get active, engage in any hobby. You'll be grateful in the coming months that you put yourself first.. Please, don't allow anybody give you blood pressure.

SHINJA:


Southsouth and Southwest will never vote for Obi..

Speak for yourself

DPlanB1:
My ordeal was a terrible one..this happened at lekki ajah road when I Newly returned back to the country with my friend..paid 12k a night for two days , when we came to our rooms after we went out to cool off..my friend noticed his bad was opened and about 5k was taken Omo I sharply rushed to check mine cos about 150k dey my bag plus some dollars as if that wasn't enough around 11pm na so we see the receptionist with some SARS men which I later learnt she was dating one of dem..I couldn't sleep I swear , middle of night someone tried opening my door by turning the handle
Na so I hold my bottle of red wine for hand till 4am

Loooooool

post=112684605:
Who says there is nothing new under the sun

To start with,
@OP, do you have kids yet?!

We even think say na crates of egg Oga dey talk o!
That was actually the first thing that came to our mind(s)!!

I swear down and I was like "Wait....What.?""

victooman:
you dont know shit about insecurities, if l decide to break up with her and move on, she will be the one to open a thread here and start complaining on how she suffered with me and l dump her,, l guess l hit a part in you when l mention marriage,, she is not like you she needed marriage .so what you tag as expanding horizone is taking risk without calculation, so getting a master degree is expanding her horizone but expanding a business is not,, see how myopic your mind can be , there are many women available o, l am holding on to this one because l love her and we have come far and l dont want to hurt anyone, stop making it look as if l will end up as a priest if she decides to leave, in this country now you should know that having a business and basic skills is a bigger way of expanding horizone than reading theories and obtaining certificate that will add so little ur life

Little boy, go play.. See you raging like a 10 year old. Who made you her father or husband to make such decisions in her life?

You claim there are many women out there but your chest hurt just because she wants to go and do her Masters.

Marriage? You hit a cord where? Me wey dey intentionally no dey allow man talk about proposal because this generation has bastardized the institution.

The only myopic person here is you...Why quarelling with her if you aren't pained that she wants to further her studies? We know your type, goodnight, dreamkiller.

victooman:
Thank you very much, That is what l will emphasize on, some people are just myopic in nature, the degree she did no job came out of it, you happen to get a good location were business is booming ,you want to dump it after a year to go for a master degree, a girl that is in her late twenties already that should be thinking on settling down,,

Oga, not every woman is after marriage. Marriage wey you no fit predict the outcome these days.

No be every woman dey pressure herself to be a housewife especially when they've not fulfilled some of their dreams. You have a woman who wants to expand her horizon and you're trying to block her blessings with your insecurity.

Let her go!!

Smithkafors:

It's not their business to watch student 247. So you expect them to wake up at night and be monitoring the students every minute?. Even the police who man our road morning and nights have not stopped criminals from stealing on the same road. We always look for who to blame. A child who is not a virgin at such a tender age is a disaster waiting to happen. The same you will call them paedophile if they decide to sleep in the same room with them after the same children lay false accusations on them.

Spot on.

Znation:
Hello Nairalanders,

What lesson has life taught you?

Is it what you've thought it is?

Is where you are today were you thought you would be by now?

" I remember growing up as a child, i thought life is just six years in primary school, six in secondary, the following year for jamb, next is to gain admission into the universty, spend another 4 or 5 years in the universty, look for job, get the money, build my house and buy the latest car in town, and then look for a wife.

But while growing up, i find out that life is not what i thought it is. Six years in secondary turned 8 years rather.

I know of my childhood friend who told me he would become a lawyer, but haven repeatedly written jamb for 5 times without a break through, he was force to start learning a mechanic work.

Sometimes, i ask myself; what is the purpose of living, why is living a life so difficult..

At this point in time, my lesson is that nothing good comes easy; and to be happy, you have to make others happy too.

Have a nice day

Life has taught me to always put myself first.

halima83:
Bakery or poultry (layer/broiler)?

Please move to fb for broad advice

I hate to be the harbinger of bad news but poultry business is for the strong hearted.

In the past 4 months, I've been actively taking care of birds. From feeding to medication to water to cleaning to monitoring them. If one of them catches a disease, start immediately with aggressive treatment, if not, you'll be so so devastated.

GreatAdvice:
I wear boxers and singlet. I do all my shopping right on my phone and it is delivered to me 2hrs later. By shopping online, I limit my exposure to toxic fumes, dirty roadside puddle, police extortion and random street fight. Moreover, by shopping online, I'm creating jobs for others as well as saving the planet from global warming. I will advise everyone living in a big city to buy groceries online, it may seem expensive but exposure to cancer causing fumes is detrimental to your health.

Actress Brittany Murphy reportedly died of mold poisoning from the asbestos in her HOUSE. Nowhere is safe. Not even your house. Just pray to God.