JonOfAustrlia:
My wife got pregnant again even with an IUD. We werent planning for it. As these babies are so small and require so much care already.

Its not like raising them in the village. We live abroad and we dont get help. It means we always have to be with them if not for daycare but then we are working. We are already so tired.


I dont know if I am venting or asking for advice. We are grateful but we are so tired already... what to do...?

Oga why not use protection since IUD devices are not 100% effective? Or practice other means of contraception. I know abstinence is out of the picture.

Please keep the baby.

Thanks and God bless.

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

You're an idiot and I'm glad she dodged the bullet that is you.

Such a heartless soul!

Videour:
Actually she's a good girl in all aspects. We have been dating for 3year now, she's all I want in a woman, her smile gives me joy every time with dimples.

I am 35 years she should be going to 25 this year. A career lady that has this hustle spirit in her but my problem is that she's obsessed with sex.

Imagine a man at my age having 2 to three times a week, which I know if I don't put in work she's definitely going to get it else where.

Psychologically, it's affecting me.
Please what is the best way to handle this?
My Nairaland family.

Oga, did you say 2 to 3 times DAILY or WEEKLY?

If it's WEEKLY then you have to get yourself right because that's very okay for lovers.

2-3 weekly isn't obsession at all.

toujurs:
its envy, that causes this one. They won't work and won't want you to work.

Where's the lie??

LikeAking:
A problem working from small companies. Those working for big multi national comps wia they earnbig no get this problem. The top is so much betta.

The problem with 9JA offices is mostly from the competitive toxic co-workers going behind to slander and betray dia colleagues in order to get a upper hand or favor. It can be anybody working in the office, gate man, security, your co workers etc.

Just know some one has gone to fall your hand behind your back, when ur boss/mgt start giving u attitude. Some times the boss become envious too. We also have bosses who are just naughty (weak men/women) they just love to dehumanize their workers. Its part of the slavery trick.

Quiting the job is the best option for me.

Nigerian bosses too like gossips.

Low lives!

.

Period!!

FreeStuffsNG:

Hahaha.....It is obvious that you have not being to Lagos let alone Banana Island

Just look at the few average houses you compare to Banana Island which houses the corporate headquarters of Multinationals such as Airtel, Etisalat/9mobile, Internatiomal Breweries, Ford Foundation, residences of Forbes Billionaires like Mike Adenuga(GCON) , Aliko Dangote(GCON) etc.. You need to leave the SE and experience Lagos other than just wishing you are part of us.

Oga relax.

For a commercial hub, Lagos isn't extra greater than what we can see.

These houses are in a village. Can you compare the villages in Lagos to what you see up there?

HillaryNelo:
mr vampire alias blood sucker dey go ukraine they are many battallion look for who to lead them to war mtchew

Rotfl!!

Omoluabi16:
She always beat me up when we had issues. Twice, I suffered from a broken jaw. Once, when she went on rampage, I tried to escape but she outran me and overpowered me. She swore she was done with me but wanted to give me a farewell beating. She max'd the music speaker to muffle my screams and pleas while she pounded me. She severely dealt with me. Thankfully I was able to send a VN on WhatsApp to my guys who managed to save me from my ordeal.
I've moved on now, single free and happy. Trying to recover mentally. She has been sending her friends to me promising she's changed, but I don't believe her. Matter of fact, I've moved on and I'm ready to love again.

I'm so sorry. I'll never Trivialize physical abuse but this made me cackle like a Hyena!

So hilarious!

You'll be fine!!

Peace081:
He lost his job n I ended the relationship, for better I stay, for worst I Go..

Lol! Sis said "I'm here for a GOOD time, not for a Long time.

Nigerialabalaba:

Hahaha..with all dos bleaching cream, artificial hair, fake eye lashes, fake nail ,pancake, lipsticks, etc yet u still dey pretend say u no see am, walahi , u fit lie for Africa aswear2gud.

I like her o, as a strong widow, she try but she don old and she no get work, period. She used her prime to dey chase or allow old men chase her so tey at 50 she don quick old and still no get job despite on top plenty money her papa,late Chief Onoh, take send her go school for 9ja and Uk . Chief onoh go dey regret and turn for hin grave how her daughter don turn. abi u go fit compare her to Helen Prest-Ajayi? if u win beauty contest, e no mean u go turn to ashewo.

dis go teach dos oloshos wey dey form celebrities today wey tink say dem go fine for ever, na so dem too go old like bianca. go learn beta work, ashewo no be work o.

Go see d likes of Kate Henshaw if u dey look for old, pretty wey con get work for hand, no be dem wey be ashewo at 50 like Bianca, according to Ebere obiano. If she get work, ebere no go dey call her ashewo. nobody go fit call Kate Henshaw or Helen Prest-Ajayi ashewo even as dem two no get husband and dem be over 50 years.

I like dem beauty and brains not beauty, brawn and zero brain. tufiakwa!

This is the most stupid post I've read in my whole life.

Imagine!

Bianca is a natural beauty! She's 100% Beautiful.

You compare her to Helen Prest Ajayi! Loooooool.

Speaking of beauty, Helen Prest doesn't hold a candle to Bianca.

Abeg, go and read up on what Helen Prest Ajayi passed through recently - A thousand times Worst than Bianca's.

PotatoSalad:
Make yourself unavailable to people and nobody will ever treat you badly.

Period.

But why do people even visit others?

My siblings and friends have complained bitterly that I never visit.

Respect yourself and stop being a nuisance...

Flahyuq:
If they had to arrest a Nigerian Skit maker for being too boring....who would it be??

Mine--Broda Shaggi

Funniest Skit maker for me is Nasty Black!
Taoomma is becoming so boring too



Who is yours??

All of them!

missimelda01:
So I made a post earlier about how my partner wasn't interested in growing emotionally, well we continued having issues because of his behaviors (complains a lot, petty, prefers to keep malice instead of communicating and so much more). I finally decided to break up with him.

The next day after the break up, he messaged me on Instagram (I blocked him on every other platform and forgot this), he started begging and promised to communicate better. I didn't pay attention to him until after two days, then we started calling on Instagram and it was as if things were getting better.

My birthday was two days ago, he came to my house with gifts, said he had made plans for them before we broke up...lol he ask me out again and I said yes (don't blame me, I find it difficult to detach from people I love).

I was at his place and was using his computer to work and messages kept coming in from one particular girl, I was ignoring it until it was too hard to ignore, opened it and saw the shock of my life (his mac is sync with his iPhone). This guy had unprotected sex with a girl he met on a dating app the same week we ‘broke up’

I'm angry, disappointed and confused.
What do men want? You meet a girl who's loyal, independent, cares for your family, plans with you and you still ruin everything.

P.S this guy was so in love with me, he's been so pressed about meeting my mum, he already knows my siblings...I’m beginning to think he has mental problems.

DUMP HIM and Move on please

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

Nope.

Honestly, there's no gain. It will have you overlooked, taken advantage of, heartbroken, and overused.

Don't be bad though. Just be selfish and less empathetic.

Candidlady:


Y'all will drop a post then end it will "no insult only mature minds please"...


You the op are you acting maturely yourself ?

Leave the shop for her get your divorce and move on.... The rent will expire!!!
°°°°reason ifind it hard to collect anything from this gender... Call it me being proud your business °°°°°


Una go dey run go marry only to end erthing again...


You meet a guy/girl today four months after you get married... Rubbish..


°°°°you just ruined my smoke this early morning°°°°

I'm telling you. It's best to reject gifts and if possible return anything from men/exes because when things end, they'll turn to crybabies like they were forced.

It's better to be proud and retain your respect. Else, na regret you go just dey regret.

Mtshewww.

chukwumzurum:
I'm not here to condem them, if Nigerian had provided for her citizens, there won't be pettty glorified and Shameful hustles (crimes) around.
Our politicians are doing us dirty looting us one after the other...

Stop the blame games. There are thousands of moral jobs to do but they decided to tow that path.

How is that the fault of the government? Even countries with good economies still boast of prostitutes.

So, what are you on about?

5 pages on this thread filled with complaints upon complaints.

The world thought the COVID-19 would mark an end to the survival of humanity and different economies would crash but guess what? Millionaires were birthed during that Era.

I'm not saying the situation of things in Nigeria is not gut-wrenching and disappointing, but the question is how can we alleviate our standard of living and quality of lives?

Are we going to fold our hands and continue whining and bickering? Or we are going to diversify our means of income. I've seen so many people who have taken up farming this season, so-called classy people because they have projected that things are getting uglier by the day.


People are still making money this season, best believe that.

Let's see how we can stay head above water abeg. No be to dey nag.

IKBARUTEN11:
Find a way and discourage him from abusing drugs or quit the relationship


Else, you will soon be abused by him

This comment!

slickycee:
But why did you still decide to date him after everything.
Now you've seen the bloody red flags and you're still confused .

My dear , you're not a therapist, you're not Jesus Christ, you can't save him.

The only way to help him is to tell him the consequences of his addiction and report it to necessary authorities.
(Parents, church leaders, even the government )
From what you've typed , you're already on the road to becoming his co addict.

The person that unconsciously motivates him to use tramadol.

Stop trying to control his life,
Have no reaction to his addictions, if he takes it, he's an adult, he knows what he's doing, if he doesn't take it, he also knows what he's doing.
Quit trying to save people, you can't.

The more you try to exercise control over him, the more he continues the addiction to keep you dedicated to him
.

He unconsciously knows that his addiction, makes you more closer to him
Like you feel he needs you now than never, so you would be more caring, loving and supportive now.
Which enables the addiction


The best thing you can do, is not to give the addiction any attention,
If you want to help him, report him to the agency in charge of drug abuse, involve his parents and religious leader.
Keeping and addiction a secret, makes it more powerful.

The more you tell people about your addiction, the more others are aware of your addiction, the more control the addict would have over it.

So he needs to stop hiding that part of his life and publicly tell his loved ones.


I want to advise you but then again isn't it futile to advise someone in love.

So do as you please, may God see you through

This is the best comment.

One thing I learnt albeit late is that;

✓ I cannot babysit an adult's brain.

✓ I should never be caught up in the middle of someone's highs and lows. Why? Because I'm not a therapist and I have my own issues.

✓ Love and relationships should not be all about long suffering, stressful episodes, and whatnots. I find it worrisome that many of us women feel like we must suffer and go through stress first before love comes our way. There's a place called "Healthy" and "Unproblematic." Everyone should strive for that.

Las las, dem no dey give award for who suffer pass.

Op, follow your heart.

Mooh247:
Cocoa house

Ibadan

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram



Am from WEED PLANET..


Ganja Planter City..


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

Ndokwa? Kwale?

Kingpin1000:
Why did you marry at the first place?
Compare when you were a bachelor and now.
The stress in relationship is too much. Talk more of having a bad day at work only to come home and meet someone frowning her face.
I no fit marry abeg

Lol. Walai.

Putindbutt:

Likewise men that spend do not complain too but don't try to be half smart, ok? you're never more intelligent than a man.

Abeg, shift!!!!

Kobojunkiee:
Na dem they inundate us here for nairaland with their whinefest every week, as if they are the first ever to spend on a woman.

You quickly understand that these boys are nothing but born whiners, na so so complain every day on nairaland, na so dem dey take use get through each day.

My dear, the matter tire me. A bunch of sore and bitter losers.

In real life, no woman glances their way, so I believe that singular act has made them miserable, insecure, b***y, and spiteful.

Imagine ragamuffins wey never chop belle full or change their boxers dey open mouth dey bash women left, right, and center.

Weytin woman do man?

HenryDion:
I believe the secret is working out, eating right, having enough sleep, surrounding yourself with positivity, and loving yourself.

I see guys claim they don't give a damn about hitting the gym, that all they care about is making money.

F&ck it!

Working out wouldn't stop you from making money. Don't use that as an excuse. If anything, the clarity of mind after a workout will give you the confidence.

I'm a testimony.

Take your health very seriously. Work out, eat right, have enough sleep.

Your future self will thank you.

Health is wealth.

You're free to crush tho

PS: NL males who are easily intimidated or prone to envy, you're free to leave your comment

You look handsome with great skin and an amazing face.

Keep it up!

Did anybody pressurize these guys to spend money? I can never understand why people blame others for their actions (or lack of it).

As a woman, if I don't force a man to buy me gifts and he insists non-stop on spoiling me, why would anyone blame me?

Although, I don't encourage collecting gifts from random men, only my man or close pals.

There are women in romantic relationships who are pampered by their men. Everything is not ashawoism or oloshoism.

I hate it when guys try to be all nice to a woman, buying gifts and spending on her but go behind to complain like they were hypnotized and held at gun point.

So childish and stooopid!

joshua1997:
I'm currently 25years old and I'm a guy . I have been having chest tightning and loss of strength and I find it difficult breathing well .
It seems I have ulcer . But I have never experienced this chest tightning with little heart burn and excessive loss of strength even after taking drips countless times at the hospital . I have been to 3 different hospital this year , I have done x-ray but my results are ok my chest and everything is in good condition but I keep having this chest tightning . Sometimes it will be as if there is a heavy load on my chest especially the right part of my chest and I will be feeling so weak as if I'm going to faint . I don't know what else to do , I just keep losing weight and appetite . I have never experienced such thing in my life before . I don't know if anyone here have had such experience , please I will need help on how yours was cured . I'm really in pains .

Go and check your cholesterol And blood levels

MamaDG:
I used pregnacare for during my first pregnancy, my boy was fresh and handsome with halfplot hair, my second that I used another brand, he is handsome with fuller hair. I don’t think it has to do with any brand. Just use your prenatal drugs religiously plus you and ur hubby’s gene.

Awwww. Thank God my hair is extra full

You see that SPEEDY?

It was GOLD!

Stevenson1:


No matter how introverted you are... Once you meet that one crazy person whom you love without limit, you go begin mad as it goes.
Introverts are for people wey no get love life.
See dbanj wife wey no gree snap for camera then, is now twerking on camera. E be things.
Banger! Osinanwata buru ogaranya.

Introverts are naturally freaky.

kettykings:
Fish bone theory, they should tell this to the marine, who has fish bone killed in the history of mankind. What a coincidence, igboho was released, umahi was sacked and the fish bone theory, all within 24 hours. Nigeria is now a full blown Nollywood , Bollywood movie

Fishbone has killed someone I know.