₦airaland Forum

centjamie:
Sure.tradition is for man and not man for tradition.tradition should be flexible and not rigid so as to flow with the current trend.it should be subject to amendment(change).you are so right....i'm one of those guys that believe women should support their men financially in marriages and in healthy relationships whent they are capable,but i think it is more honourable and worthwhile for the man to fix the bride price alone without involving the woman.

pickabeau1:
I really pity you now
No wonder you are so frustrated

pickabeau1:
Stalker leaping into what is not your business.
So this is how your life is
Sorry o

cococandy:
You will make excuses for a man who actually kills his wife but will scream blue murder at a woman who didn't kill her husband just that she didn't mourn him.

Try to be fair and balanced small. It doesn't cost money.

miredia:
If I am temporarily unable to provide, should I be disrespected? Judging from your logic, it would mean YES!

aisha2:
Okay, now I must admit you need mental help. This is sick, so its okay to kill her because she is rude. Mutter with all due respect you are not sane. Your own ex husband didn't kill you, but because you are alive and living you can spew this for other abused women justifying their murder. This is sick

Sophyrocks:
Na wa o!! You see what all these men cause for their wives? They turn their wives to either praying dummies praying holy ghost fire against girls while they roam about freely with wh0res or they turn them to witches patronising wizards to manipulate them. Why did these men get married? Why cant these men just do what is right and take care of their families? Why cnt they keep their third legs in check and be faithful? Men like that are prone to being pawns of manipulation and witchcraft but do they know? No o. its their right to cheat bla bla bla bla. See am na. 500k came out from a supposedly broke man with the help of jazz!! I am sure the man spends heaven and earth on the numerous girls he carries that was why he got broke often. Op wan join her church friend. And Na church una dey attend o. Una dey listen to sermons for church so? una dey read una bible for there so? How can you slave for God and then slave for demons? How? Thats the hypocrisy with Nigerians and their overzealousness in religion. Mixing of black magic with christianity. Half hearted worship of God!!

Op, you are a christian abi? you know deep down that what you are about to do is witchcraft, a sin against God. You know that right? Whatever you face with your husband should be sorted between you two. If only people understand this marriage they are pressurising people to rush into, all these problems will reduce. You and your husband should go for counselling and avoid that church friend of yours at all cost. You can exchange greetings but keep your distance. your friend wont kill you for refusing. simply tell her your conscience wont allow you do it.

For you to think of using jazz to make your husband love you means something is wrong with the foundation of your marriage. I hope it wasnt an arranged marriage or a forced one. You cannot force your husband to love you if he never loved you in the 1st place. Love comes naturally. Communicate your concerns with your husband. Communication is key. it should not be taken for granted. Imbibe communication in your marriage and stop sharing your problems with other women unless they are counsellors. its not every advice you get that you must follow. Learn to sieve information you get from people.

Blakjewelry:
Nigerian are always fond of breaking the laws of the land, driving against traffic might take she and the child she is trying to save faster to their death. On second thought you do not want to mess with a mother trying to save the life of a child, and I bet these wai has no law backing their duties

MarvellousGod:
Op, so sorry for your predicament. ..

If you're igbo, the girl cannot bear your surname or be regarded as your daughter because you didn't come to claim/ pay your wife's brideprice before the baby was born. That's the culture, no court can help you...She can be brought over to stay at your house with your wife's influence though. ..
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Seun:
It's also a wake up call for your wife. She needs to work hard to make her own money since her husband isn't working for her but his children. She shouldn't sacrifice or limit her career for such a man. Also, please bro learn not to say every stupid thing that passes through your mind!

chaircover:
You know that really upsets me sometimes, when I have guests and they refuse to make themselves at home, cook and eat and they are sitting there hungry & waiting for me to come back and cook no matter how late. Why would you sit there hungry? It makes me question myself maybe I have not been accommodating enough.

These are mostly guests from Nigeria. So when they come, I make a big big deal about showing them where everything is and calling them several times during the day to ask them if they have eaten. The foods that they eat that I don’t stock I go out and buy it for them. I don’t have one single food warmer in my house so we cook and eat on demand.

I can’t count the number of times that we have had guests and I am not even in the county talk less of me even being there to cook for them.

@soonest dear, your prayers will be answered even far beyond your expectations.

chaircover:
You seem to get it
In our home, the kitchen table is a gathering point for family, guests, gist, name it
Kids do their homework at the kitchen table
I make my beads at the kitchen table
My husband plays his Guitar at that that same kitchen table
Some evenings we all sit at that table and watch netflix, Youtube and Sky on TV
Same place where the Fridge is
For us its just a leisurely room
Every week I put cut fresh flowers in a vase
I havent measured it, but its almost the same size as my living room
Somedays I dont even sit in my living room . . yesterday I didnt sit in my living room at all before retireing updtairs for the night.

MARKone:
Youth service 2008, same platoon. An honest request for her to kindly put my phone in her waist pouch for safe keeping.......

If I knew I would have bought my own pouch before coming to camp....

InZA:


Yeah I understand you

What does it mean to be "really into ladies" or not to be?
From a lady's point of view, would you be willing to tell me?

I have an appreciable dose of the Melancholic temperament, so I'd agree with you 100% that I'm quite analytical.... It's a good thing isn't it?

InZA:
I find it "interesting" that people often suggest the bolded, but my concern is, we are not talking about changing cars, or shoes or kitchen wares, these are actual, living, breathing people with the capacity to feel hurt, dejected, frustrated and a whole lot of other emotions that find themselves rooted in heart breaks/breakups and the moving on decision.

That said, I really understand what you're saying, you've made really strong points. Summarily, I think my fear is the thought of being responsible for breaking someone's heart.... I detest the thought of that and believe you me it's not because I'm a people pleaser, neither is it because I want to remain perpetually in people's good graces. But that's just me.... I'd rather not go into a relationship than go into one that might end up with me likely breaking her heart. That's just me

I'm queer I know

Chillisauce:
Chineke meh.
You don't mean it !

pickabeau1:
You did...ãsswipe

pickabeau1:
soonest

Hahaha...
Classic ...

Resort to insults when all reason departs

Numbskull

Sophyrocks:
You notice they absolved the husband of any blame and never condemned his atrocity. It took a well known misogynistic whiner, who derives joy in using his emotions and frustrations to comment, to chip in child abuse issue to distract the rest who are willing to jump into his bandwagon and change the thread to a different topic entirely. Thereby, turning the thread to a free for all.

Funny right?