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Kriximpecable:
Alright. I respect your opinion bro. That means no sensible man should be after a lady without being financially buoyant? But this life is not fair at all you know

stay away from this advice. A lady that get interested in you because of how buoyant you are is only good for flirting. If you need a serious relationship let it be a girl that likes you even when you sometimes behave stingy ( don’t be stingy to a caring girl sha o)

Kriximpecable:
I salute your intellectual prowess bro. I rate this opinion over �. You've just enlighten me on what to do from now on. Thanks so much bro!

Anytime anyday, girls has taught me so many lesson in the past. I understand their psychology.

It should asp.net vs jsp.
Comparing asp to java is an insult

Java vs C# is reasonable.

Kriximpecable:
There was this lady I'm madly in love with but she isn't reciprocating my love for her.

MY ENCOUNTER WITH THIS YOUNG LADY..
I met this girl in my campus fellowship ( RCF). Initially her beauty Drew me closer to her( which mostly apply to all guys). I became friends with this girl. I was in my finals, same thing with her also. We were so close that I do call her mostly in the evening but she is this introvert and boring type of a person. She doesn't last long on chat even when you call her she always form so serious- minded to be so busy with her books but she is also responsive to my chats but in a boring way like" k,ya,cool,no,lol" just like other girls outside do. I eventually ask her out and she outrightly rejected my proposal with the fact that she still wants to concentrate on her studies that she isn't ready for any relationship. I never gave up as guyman wey I be. I tried convincing her more and more but her NO still remain NO.

I decided to give her some space like 3months, she wasn't bothered and when I chatted her back she seems so interested again and when I bring up the dating issue again she will reply me with the same NO. This continue for almost 11months( off course,this month made it 11months). Since I thought perhaps because of her studies that was why she hasn't been interested now that we've both graduated I thought it will be the best time to engage her again with the same discussion but when I eventually told her that now that she has graduated isn't it right she got herself a boyfriend and she said that I'm right that this is the best time for her to look for boyfriend and for me to start giving myself hope again by asking her out again but she still reply me with "Not yet', the next reply was "she isn't interested","that we can just be friends", I thought of moving on but I couldnt because I so much love this girl.

One turn off about her is her boring nature. She would never chat me up first even when she noticed am online unless I started the chatting and she doesn't have any meaningful things to say than to be nodding like agama lizard like the usual"yh","No","cool","lol" etc.All those boring chats.

This girl has everything I want in a woman. She is pretty, calm,morally wise and the rest but I don't know if this thing she is doing is also called hard to get or I should just move on with my life?.

Note that I can't cope becoming friends with her without asking her out again. If atall I want to move on that means I'll delete her number and also delete every means of communicating with her in that case it would be easier to erase her from my mind.

Pls, mature response only!
I'm dying emotionally here..

Guy why you no wise na?
Possibly she is not into you

Tranquility4u:
Rape is now on the rise in our country than ever before, in this lockdown period. Adulterers who have not been able to see their adulteresses due to the lockdowns are now raping their own daughters and girls and women at their sights. Though this one comes from a North Central state, but almost all of the rape cases are emanating from the south. Why from these three regions that make up the south? If you know you know.

Bunch of hypocrites!

Exceptions are for those who follow The Guidance and other few people. Respect!

Argue with your keyboard if you want to defend the rapists.

https://www.nairaland.com/5913179/fathers-raped-daughters-more-anambra

oga rape has been with us like ever before. People are now been sensitized to speak up and not been stigmatized for it.

OluJack123:
May God have mercy.

on who ??

StubbornGENIUS:
The thing sef don tire us.But wetin we go do kwanu except to sit and observe .

Dont do such, take out time to sensitize any young lad how to become aware and speak up on any molestation. It is our society. We have to recover it from the hands of rapist. For too long many victims voice has been suppressed.

Apologize:
Why is everything now about Rape?
Is there no news anymore?
I switch my TV on RAPE
I tune my radio on RAPE
I open Nairaland RAPE
I enter Facebook RAPE
Instagram RAPE.

The only thing I hear now is RAPE RAPE RAPE.

The moment of silent has lasted too long now come the echo that has been resisted for so long has come out loud and now it is bursting ears. Rape has ravage Africa for long and happens daily while it is been slipped under the bed. Now people can speak up, you get a feel of how often it happens. Sensitization is now upon Africa

Peachy14:
God will surely judge and punish him for this act. may he never know peace.

But let’s judge him here first and quick. After our judgment, then the grand judgment can come.

SegFault:
Okay good. You a hobbyist or a professional.

My course of study is computing science actually. Professionally I am a web dev going to app dev but do embedded system as a hobby now sha

Odoogu:
bro this is not correct...
simps are socially intelligent and they most likely know more about women of this age than you can imagine.
tell your daughter no to judge a book by its cover, if not simps will uncover her in no time.

Bro stop telling me what I know jare... Didn’t I tell you I was like them before?.
Then I didn’t understand that ladies like men who behave confident and don’t see a girl any preferential to his needs. He respect himself as much as he can respect any girl. Girls are in the business of trying to play princess on any guy they come across, they are looking out for a prince not an admirer.
So as a guy the most important thing is to understand that your self respect comes first before any girl and this means you never put any female nor male in high horse no matter how beautiful they look.
Me per se don’t go extreme in treating women badly just like how some male folks go to the extreme.
I treat women with respect but not above my own. If I like a girl, I study her and find a suitable method/plans of approach and then I jovially make my intentions known without doing such girl any weird favour and putting her on the pedestal. If she sync with me then so it goes, if not then I maintain my lane. Simple

SegFault:
Chai you still don't get what I am saying fashi. Funny thing about computers is that there is no provision for a loop instruction except for Intel processors (which no one uses). Back then when caches were small people had to cut down on the way they use loops (read Art of Assembly by Randall Hyde if you think this is a lie) when there was an alternative they chose it over loops. Now it is even better because CPUs are smart enough to know how many times a piece of code is run. If you ever do embedded system programming and you meet a microcontroller with a small cache you will understand finally what I mean.

ok we would leave it at this places but for your info I do Embedded system programming. Majorly Arduino. Using C++

Onyi22:
Happy birthday my role model

Mosetgg:
Please read and comprehend, I said she's my fiance, someone my parent and her parent already planning to join together.

I don't think is good for new couples to witness what I witnessed this past days because of this.

I love her and she does too.

This is not a child play Mr simp.

AFC wait till you get married. You wan dey chop wetin dem no ask you to chop. And by the way how are we now doctors online. Better Goan meet a gynecologist and stop showing your ignorance here. Nor be only Fiancé na Secretary we go see.
Guilty conscience kee you dere
Nonsense and ingredient.

Mosetgg:
Good evening Nairalanders.

I am an old member of this platform but I decided to just read comments and learn without registering after I left for sometimes.

But this issue has been bothering me for a while now which made me to register again.

I discovered that whenever I wanted to made love with my fiance I find it very hard to penetrate inside her vagina, though she was a virgin when I met her.

The first time we decided to have sex, I did it from the back and having believed I disvirgin her after that first "sex" which she also told me that I did disvirgin her because of some flesh she said she found dangling in her vagina after the 'sex'.

For like 3 months we've been making love, I normally 'enters' from the back any time we made love because she do complained that spreading her legs in the missionary style causes her pain a lot thus I settled to do her from the back.

Each time I insert my thing, I know there is something wrong because I always felt I am only rubbing my thing on the surface of her vagina but her buttocks deceived me to think something is entering something.

Recently, I intentional told her what I've been observing and we truly discovered that I've not been entering inside her vagina at all, she has just been enjoying my thing rubbing the surface of her vagina while myself because I was also doing it from the back, I was also thinking I was entering the glory land.

Now, after the discovery, she was confused and she said she's not sure if a woman should have a deep hole where a penis such as mine should enter, I was shocked by her level of knowledge about sex been a twenty 23 years old girl she is.

I have to play her porn videos to convinced her that a vagina should swallow up or at least accommodate half of someone's penis before she believed me.

We then concluded that she's still a virgin all this while.

My ordeal, I tried all my best to disvirgin or enter her vagina for four(4) days we have been together, my brothers, I could not made any hole o.

I used different styles and videos to convinced both her and myself that there is a hole we must create, and I even have to tell her that I had had sex before with my ex and there was a hole that accommodated my penis.

For the four days we were together I couldn't see any hole to create nor find anyone in her vagina, I later turn it to joke to her by telling her that I am in the season of ultimate search looking for hole to at least calm her down from fear.

When I checked her vagina it appears firm and somehow with a very small hole which I couldn't penetrate through. She has all the features of how a vagina should look like externally but penetrating hole is missing o.

Please, has anyone here experience such thing like this?

What did you do to solve it?

Am I still the one failing to properly disvirgin her or she does not have any hole that can hold penis down there?

Please Mr/Mrs holier than thou that will comment face your front to avoid crashing into canal of no return.

Thank you.

Oga wait for till Marriage. This question is for her husband to answer. Wear your trousers and Goan work. Leave someone future wife vagina alone.

OnyemaB:
Why will he not fight for for father's properties is he not his father's next of kin? Can he fight for his uncle's properties when they die in future? Man your father's properties belongs to you by Law and traditionally not to your uncle's.

Do not listen to those telling you to let go! Your father's corpse belongs to you not your uncle's and you are the head in decision making concerning your father's burial, they're to complied by any decision you made, man up guy.

You can not go and detate to their children when and how to bury them when they die or share from their properties be wise.

it is not an easy decision when it comes to property especially when uncle are greedy and has waited all their life to consume their sibling inheritance. Tey can kill and maim and go spiritual to any length to secure food and money for their greedy stomach o. Becareful when you enter war with a frustrated greedy man. He can do and undo.

abbey621:
Hate seeing young folks backbite one another, trust me no be today yansh don dey for back

Wetin Musa no see for gate? Man always will be Man and the heart of man is ...

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

Op just ask questions but don’t fight or quarrel with them. It is important you ask questions.

spartan117:
It's possible to do that, but it's an unnecessary pain in the ass. The best approach still remains learning the basics of the language first, you don't have to go too deep as the case may be.

React JavaScript for example is pure JavaScript, I can imagine how difficult it would be for someone to attempt learning React without first mastering some core JavaScript principles.

Take a look at this thread:

https://www.freecodecamp.org/forum/t/learn-a-framework-not-a-language/102995/8

I agree with you but vanilla first before frameworks is a harder but Efficient way to learn. That is how I learn how to code PHP. But a faster way which has drawbacks is to learn how to use frameworks. First, in no time you will learn how to do many things but you won’t understand how they work.

It is a blue vs red pill choice. One helps you get on to the practical field as fast as possible but the other although slow gives you a thorough and a proper way of learning.

Nowadays beginners like to use frameworks, many folk run to laravel at the slightest learning of PHP and run to Django before learning anything in python. Many to Bootstrap before learning two page of CSS. So it is different folks for different strokes.

Me perse I personally hate frameworks. They give you a learning curve and ideology that make it looks like the alpha and omega of doing things.

abbey621:
There's a simple concept most people don't understand, don't play chess with people's feelings or lives! You have a boyfriend, yet some are busy giving you advice on experimenting, this is pure horseshit! The relationship is only a few months so it should be easy to end, why string the guy along? Why can't you just break up with him and follow the other guy or other guys? Someone trusts you with their emotions enough to strat a relationship with you and you feel the best way to reward him is to pursue other options and then make a choice between him or new guy?

9ja people and greed are like 5 and 6, what you just described is grade 1 GREED! If a guy marries someone like you he must not sleep with both eyes close because in a blink of an eye you could be developing feelings for Musa at the gate, claiming Musa likes to suck toes....THUNDER FIRE YOUR LEFT BOOB!

why you dey vex nah! Abi Na you be the boy?

infogenius:
Op
U need to define ur feelings.
It's not everyone that u've strong feelings for u must be in an intimate relationship with.
Once u define ur feelings for this guy, u would know if u want to have him as a platonic friend, a BF or a lover.
Whatever, u come up with will decide ur next line of action.
Control ur feelings babe because u'll get to meet so many guys you will get attracted to in one way or another.

Use ur head and don't fall for guys anyhow. Guys are pretty cunning and are not fair.
If u understand what I mean

Edisa:
Before we proceed,lets observe a minute of silence for uwa and others, who lost their lives to rape and murder committed by untamed animals parading as humans.
This isnt a gender war or bashing thread,so before u comment,think well and if you are a guy,adjust your tie and for the ladies,adjust u skirt and button up your blouse before commenting.
Comment like a responsible civilized human or like the white most of you adore...
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Most/some first gay sex experience between girls were'nt consentual especially those in all girls school.some were forced,while some were tricked into it but the victims doesnt see dis as rape.is it because a penis wasnt involve or because there enjoyed the act?
The question is "why is nonconsentual sex between women not seen as rape"

Anyone who doesn’t see a non-consensual sex as rape just because it wasn’t between to opposite sex, has a distorted definition of what rape is and needs re-orientation.

ChizzyBuna:
I love her to the moon and heavens but one thing has been bothering me.
Her dad is a native doctor but she kept saying her and her mum are both christians. And they live in town while her dad relocated to village since 2014

Now today, were speculating how our marriage will be. She said she can never marry without her father's blessing. That she is the Ada and that's tradition.

Naaa!! Bumboclat me no wan hear dat!!!

How can a strong Catholic like me allow a native doctor to bless my marraiage?
This got me thinking that she is lying about not being part of her dad's fetish stuff.
To make it worse she is the only daughter and if my parents find out about her dad chaiii it won't be funny.
I really really really love this girl..she is the one everything is perfect just that her dad is native doctor
What should I do?
I'm I making a big deal out of the whole thing?

Are you not a son of Light?
Why afraid of darkness?

spartan117:
Oga it's very difficult to learn a JavaScript framework with zero knowledge of vanilla JavaScript.
The time you will use to do trial and error will be more than enough to learn plain JavaScript and then learn the framework you want.

I also learnt JQuery before understanding the JavaScript properly.

I also learnt Bootstrap before deep Css understanding. So let’s be open minded.

[quote author=spartan117 post=90460368][/quote]Ok it is through learning Django that I learnt python. How about that?

saladinnoir:
I disagree simps have excellent social intelligence, which is why they act the way they act because they pick up ques from society, let us be honest with ourselves if not for the internet 90% of redpill men will still be simping to different extent

I don’t even know who redpill is. I learnt social intelligence(also know as street intelligence) through friends and through books. One is “The game”. You are mixing up social intelligence with pure intelligence. SIMPS are usually bright people who excel at other things other than social. They interact well with male partners but not same with female partners.
Don’t argue too much I was in their shoes before now and I understand exactly how they think.
They wanna speak with ladies and interact with them but they feel they have to act unnecessary nice to get female attention. And by this interaction I mean romantic type o. They usually have many female friends but not as romantic partners.

spartan117:
Oga it's very difficult to learn a JavaScript framework with zero knowledge of vanilla JavaScript.
The time you will use to do trial and error will be more than enough to learn plain JavaScript and then learn the framework you want.

There is a learning curve for learning JavaScript through framework. Just say you don’t know it. The tutorial is often mixed with Vanilla and frameworks. Every topic like array, functions and variable are included the tutorial.

Karlebolu:
if("you are new to programming" && "Javascript is your first language" ) {

console.log("You can hardly learn a Javascript framework" );

}

So False. I wonder where you guys buy this ideologies.

Blackmoran:
If I have a daughter I would like her to date and marry a simp.... They are needed and are very useful...

The truth is your daughter will certainly not like a simp. A simp is more like a man who has social acceptance problem(from women especially) and instead of working on himself he tries to behave calmly to people who pride over him so that he would be accepted. SIMPS are normal people with a poor social intelligence.

Karlebolu:
To add to this...

You can hardly learn a JS framework if you are new to programming and Javascript is your first language.

This ain’t true, framework are more easier and far easier than vanilla JS. Many frameworks you see today are based on the philosophy of abstraction and this simply means you call a simple functionality like Mail->send() without having any knowledge about the internal large implementation.
The only thing hard about Frameworks is installation and deployment but working with framework is so so easy.

SegFault:
Please read and understand my mention once again. I simply said sometimes you'd have to use some other method other than loops. Besides recursion is worse than loops, it consumes stack space.

And what I am simply telling you is that there is nothing that replaces loop. Loop is among the bedrock of computer. I mean nothing, like simply nothing.