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dudesexy111:
Hi guys this is my first time of posting here,I have been following this thread for a very long time now and I really need you guys advice now....I am 25 years now and I am currently dating this girl who is 19 but she is very matured...so we started dating and at some point I tried to sex her and she said no that we can only romance that no sex so I was curious and I asked her if she was a virgin she told me she is not sure which I really didn’t believe so we had a disagreement one day I had to pressure She told me she is not a virgin and came up with this story that while she was playing some where at the age of 5 that she just saw blood coming out of her private part so since then she is not really sure if she is a virgin....so I was like no problem kept it going and later I heard it from someone that she is still with her ex and I asked her one day that has her ex ever sex her she said no that they just kissed and nothing more...this a girl I spend for and try to give her the little I could give her when she needs help...this night I had to tell her I am not doing any Romance anymore because it just like me torturing my self and I will never touch her anymore and she said no problem and this a girl I am planning to give money for her birthday coming next month....I am thinking of breaking up with her after her birthday and never have anything to do with her....I am just having feeling the ex might be fucking her very well forming saint for me.....you guys should just advise me because I can’t continue with this no sex.....no bashing please

With the way you are acting so, things will only get worse. Why are you asking her if she is a virgin? What do you want her to say? When she resisted sex. You should have played the mind games of she not liking you and then don’t wanna have sex with you. If sex is what you want then don’t be shy about it. If It is what you want.
If you don’t want sex then fine stop the question of virgin or not virgin.

Next time you wanna have sex, go for it and stop seeking validation (Please I don’t intend RAPE o, you will be jailed for that) and if she refuse then fine, state your intention and make things clear to her although not directly, through mind games. Te her how she don’t wanna be intimate with you and how she is resisting your person. Walk away and let her alone to think about the words. If she refuses still then break the relationship ultimately, it is sex you want and she don’t want it. Then don’t stay there

NOTE: Sex before marriage is a distraction, fornication, prone to infection and it is not the building block of healthy relationship

If you need to know if your girlfriend is a virgin then you need to stop your judgmental attitude and if possible pretend like you even prefer non virgin girls. The more you try to act like you need a virgin girl the more lies you will receive.

About her ex, if you have seen nothing then say nothing. If you think she has an ex you need to put on your vigilante guard on and start put your eye down. Confrontation is good but it should be a way of discussion rather than interrogation.

If sex is what you are after then her ex is of no value to you. If you need real relationship then man you gat chill until the water looks clear. Sit on the fence. And for the party and money you are spending, she didn’t put a gun on your head.

Simple question is would she spend such money if she was in your place? If yes then irrespective of the circumstances go ahead if no then don’t try it. Save yourself the respect.

Spend only the amount she could spend on you if she were you.

I smell rotten fish.
So what should we do with this story this lady is telling us?
Ok lesson learnt: Get a court warrant whenever you plan to suffered and feed anyone with your money !! In case when they blow you share the profit

Wawelexy:
The Man said it all....

The man should sleep jor, we have 7.1billion people and so many AA littered around.

Wawelexy:
Funny but true

True how?

Covid:
I love her, but I think she loves me more. I'm not so emotionally attached to her. Most of the time she thought I had another girl cos I don't get too jealous. I take things lightly, and I don't react the way she expects

cool

Covid:
I've been with my fiancee for three months and we are not in a sexual relationship; she is a virgin and we both agreed not to have sex until we are married. I noticed that each time we had a little misunderstanding and we don't talk for a day, I literally fall sick. This is the third time and it can't be a coincidence.

Am I the only one experiencing this? Please advise!

Cc:
Rocktation
Farano

How did you know she is a virgin?
More so I hope you haven’t told her yet?

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QuillanHardy:
[color=#000000]Guys listen ooo, having a girlfriend will only make you poor, I don talk my own. If you like — listen, if you no like — don't listen. Very soon now — you go understand
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If you find a partner that have a responsible look into the future, then your future could be bright too. Some men got to where they are today because of the partner they chose.

Just let agree that when you enter a relationship with a girlfriend who is entitled to your pocket or either you yourself feel you must replace her father role then your fate of being a broke man for life is sealed

2face will readily agree with me. If you know you know

sonofthunder:
Most Nigerians don't value human life. We simply feel 'bad' over unfortunate events and awake to the next event.

precise and concise.

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Zzor:
Men, your virginity is the only precious thing you can offer your wife on your wedding night,it will be such a wonderful experience knowing fully well that your husband is a complete novice and you are the first woman he will be coming close to. That innocence and shyness will be priceless,that cluelessness he will display about it is breathtaking,his learning process and how you watch him master the act through you will be an everlasting memory and not all these non virgin men that will be turning people's daughters 360 degrees and still tell you the bed won't be enough for their cravings na wa ooo.Virgin men,please continue to keep and protect yourself for your future wife,theres a great reward that comes after it. When I said virgin men,im talking about men being virgin in totality and not the one's that have become prostitutes with their hands(masturbators).Keep being a pride for us, God bless all virgin men amen.

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Men your virginity is for purity of your body and soul. Female your virginity is for your own purity of body and soul.
It is not a gift to any man nor any woman.
Gift kor award Ni

ifyy07:
I'm not here prove my intelligence with you oga I know you have a Bible go and read Bible very well son I hate to argue with people like you

I knew you couldn’t

FanOfMyself:
Hey all, so I have been on this crazy and interesting forum for a long time. I have seen many guys and very few ladies create topics on "Searching for a true relationship" on nairaland. Some of them have been trolled at and even insulted by both guys and ladies, who question the rationale behind coming to a faceless forum to seek for a serious relationship.
Truth is that, I have been indifferent to such posts. But here I am, about to follow their lead!

I will be 30 by December, and I am really starting to think about settling down for real. I'm not RICH, but I am doing fine for my self and will do better with time by the grace of God.
I know I am handsome, even though beauty is relative sha (smiles) but also very humble and down to earth.
I am a software developer, loves football like mad and God fearing.
I'm 6ft, I don't know my weight at the time of making this topic, but I am sure my BMI is perfect. Ebony chocolate in complexion, AA genotype.
I am a peace loving guy and I wouldn't compromise on that! I actually have my flaws too, but I am working on it.
So if you are a lady and you meet the following criteria, send me a PM

1. You are not a student
2. You don't have entitlement mentality
3. You have a job or something reasonable and
morally justifiable that fetches money for you.
4. If you didn't meet the criterion in #3 above, but
you have a responsible father/family that will
be responsible for your needs as a woman.
5. You are intelligent and not a boring person.
The life of a software engineer is already
lonely so I need someone to complement.
6. Though I'm not necessarily looking for
physical beauty, it's a plus
7. You don't have lotta drama up your sleeve
8. You are educated, I didn't say you must have a
degree.
9. You want to settle down
10. Your body count is at the barest minimum, if
not zero.
11. If you are aged between 24 and 34

That's all I can think of right now.
Please if you find any typos or syntax errors in my grammar, pardon me because I am more concerned about writing in the language that the computer understands than that which a human understands

Comedian

Bloggers

ifyy07:
You are just spilling rubbish understand my write up and read your Bible very well ogbeni

Prove your intelligence with a Bible verse

ifyy07:
Go and read your Bible you can't stop what the feminine gender initiated themselves since ages past, the revolt by men is just reprisals attacks on the ills the feminine gender has brought upon the world...the end is near

You practically know nothing.
Share a verse for me where it was stated male were the better gender?
Bible only gave the leadership to man in the HOME.
Not in social settings or any where else. You can’t lord a woman who is not your wife. Moreso Lord means leader don’t get it twisted. Bible was never on gender supremacy.

Male and female have their role to play and many times it is not interchangeable.

SegFault:
That is just the true fact, I hate hearing trash like this. But all these "alpha males" commenting self that cannot feed themselves how far?

Korede Bello need some OT. I don’t expect he means what he just said. Except he needs a hot slap.

BTW
The concept of Alpha male flawed. Most people don’t understand what alpha male actually mean. They also don’t understand what beta male is.

Alpha male means parent/leader. It basically of different context. Sometimes the most experienced is the alpha, sometimes the most liked, many times the parent(Daddy). Daddy in the house is an alpha male even though not the strongest. And boss in the Office is an alpha male. It can be a ceremonial title also.

Beta males are just lone males and most times stronger than other single animal in a pack for it to be able to exist alone.

So everyone is an Alpha depends on where he fits in. How can a man who knows how to woo a lady but has a bad career be Alpha and the successful guy that don’t have a jack idea of women not be an Alpha? Both has something lacking. They are somewhat opposite in sense.

His opinion is entirely baseless and flawed same as the redpill and same as the feminism movement.
#DeathToGenderSupremacy.

SegFault:
This is trash, we are all equal. Women are stronger in some areas while men are stronger in others.

nice one. We all have our roles. And some are not interchangeable.

Zzor:
He's right

you can do better

tensazangetsu20:
Bro I followed the hype with nodejs especially from that HNG internship that everyone insisted on nodejs. Omho I would check freelancing sites and I would be seeing like 600 nodejs jobs and like 12000 PHP jobs. Like 12000 WordPress jobs. Like 12000 Drupal and co and all of them jobs. And it's not jobs of installing themes O. Advanced jobs like editing plugins to produce specific functionality building out new features and all of that. Omho I got frustrated and dropped nodejs for PHP. I felt since node is JavaScript I can pick up nodejs anytime I need it without much hassle.

This same thing I tell people. But No, they like flashy things. PHP code is what is in the core of large website. It is very difficult to remove. But people don’t listen

anonymous7433:
I really do like her. But I'm prepared to move on if our rapport can't be salvaged.

Then fate is your best chance. For the main time you need space. The space will help clear your thought. Moreso avoid doing date to get her jealous. Master the feeling until you get so comfortable with it. It will help you in your other or next heartbreak .
Cold mind is part of the game. Ladies are terrified when they can’t shake your emotions easily.
You only date other girls When you find them attractive

anonymous7433:
I only got to know her in the office oh! I've not been to her house to know how she behaves at home. From what she has told me and what I have seen, she seem churchy, she's even a deeper life member. She's hyper extrovert, and from my observations, she likes boys a lot, especially cute ones.

Before I go on, do you really like this girl? Like do you actually want anything romantic with her? Or you just crave for attention? Or you are in for FWB?
This questions are fundamental, if this feeling is because of loss of the spotlight then you let it go and work on yourself. If you want FWB then you were taking a wrong path.

anonymous7433:
You are so full of wisdom sir. This lovely piece you wrote has lifted my mood. Thanks a bunch sir, I really do appreciate.

you are welcome.
Sorry to ask, but how well do you know this girl?

anonymous7433:
Good day guys.
I'm 22 years old, i'm tall and good looking. I have a strong Christian background and it has hindered my rapport with the opposite sex. Ladies have asked me out a few times in the past, but I declined, stating I was not ready to be in a relationship.

There is this girl in my office where I work that was all over me, she's 18 years old and yet to be admitted into the university. To be honest, I liked her, but I suppressed my feelings for her. I occasionally tell her that she's more like a younger sister to me. We got close and I became fond of her, she confided in me with all her secrets and tell me about guys toasting her. I started entertaining thoughts of asking her out, until one day, she was going through my phone and saw a picture my friend who is short, dark and handsome, she asked for his number and requested I sent him her pictures, they exchanged numbers and started chatting. He comes to visit her in the office at times and me being a nice guy usually give them some space to interact. I started losing interest in her as a result, but she kept assuring me that she takes him just as a friend. She later asked me out on WhatsApp, but I declined, owing to the fact that she still retains close friendship with my friend. After that, She started getting more closer to my friend, changed her phone's password cos she told me the previous one. She started making flirty calls and calling other guys and my guy honey, baby, I love you in my presence. She started ignoring my chats and calls. Each time my friend comes visiting, she laughs as loud as possible when they are discussing. Our vibes died off, but I'm the one suffering it as I frequently get jealous and heartbroken each time I see her making calls and communicating with guys on longer hours, especially with my friend.
I have tried to patch things up with her, but she keeps getting me jealous and hurt. This said girl is very beautiful, a virgin who has been in only one relationship and a devoted Christian. I have tried to forget her and move on, but I just can't. I keep feeling depressed and hurt whenever I see her and my friend online simultaneously. Please how can I move on? Do I still stand a chance with her? was I wrong to turn her down? Please I need your advice.

We never know of how precious things are until we loose them. You have a chance and you blew it. It seem you don’t understand your feelings anymore and you don’t know when someone is amazing for you and when someone is not.

No time for long story. You need to find distance, if you keep communicating with her and thinking of her then this will only make situations worse. Off sight off mind. I actually don’t know if you like this girl from the way things has happened but how you can know is to heal first then you speak well

Moreso stop the apology already, apology is a thing you do few times and then you give space for people to heal. If you think this girl will come back to you then fate is your best chance. Flow with the time, time needs patience. While you wait take time out to explore other things and read book to better yourself.

Right now start learning how to live with the wobbly feeling, it is part of being a man, don’t let this guilt make other beautiful soul pass you by. Don’t let us shrink your social life and fun moment.

The best way to equal what has happened to you is to master the feelings and learn how to live with it. And eventually becoming greater than it.

lightangel65i:
Smell of noodles, i hate noodles

How do girls bring those smell
Are you being serious here?

lightangel65i:
Ok guys recently, i have been having a kind of sickly/disgusting sensation like i want to vomit and with nausea when i come in contact with ladies or lady related items or stuff. I can't even stay in the same room with my sister or mom. This started few days ago, has anyone expirenced this.
Pls i don't have strength for bashing or vagina people rantings

During this moment
What pictures appear In your head?
Do you perceive any smell?

Dreadlock69:
You took overdoes
Try the purplepill

I thought you are red pill?

Misyarn:
Cc.slawomir
Stanliwise

Sorry for the late reply.

After reading this message, I have this suggestions.

Never admit to her proposal over a chat, she could use this evidence against you someday.

WAYS TO GO
Play along with the intention to understand who she is then make your decision. Avoid using Facebook and WhatsApp to say things that could implicate you. Also don’t get caught up in the movie, remember you want to just understand the situation.
This are for people who like adventures(myself). Please don’t get caught up with emotions, it is for people with a little cold mind.

OR

Tell her your true intention and burn as many bridges you can burn.
if you pick this opinion, please don’t Bleep her and don’t accept her proposal.

PERSONALLY
Don’t shit where you eat. Yes you read that, just like shitting in your kitchen.
Doing anything with that babe sounds like that.

My TWO cent

LedRock:
How hard is it for the girl to make a decision, there won't be playboys if there aren't stupid women that encourage it, he tells her he doesn't want a relationship with her, still yet she can't make a good decision, the fault is not the player the fault is the stupid woman, should a trumpet be blown into her ear before she gets the memo?

You are still looking for who to blame.
A player never rope himself to a girl by telling or promising her. This can be possible if the girl act too difficult tho. All you need to do is make her feel good. This is called physical relationships (no strings attached).

You don’t understand the complexity I guess. It is natural for us to meet charming people and feel guilty for flirting with them when we shouldn’t. Boys also experience this too e.g have a nice ass boss lady that look so hot and you have to see her everyday but you know you can’t approach her because it is bad for business.

The OP just need to be tapped back into reality, she is currently in the dream world of a playboy. Anyone can be affected but real men and women wake up as soon as possible before anything funny happens.

This is reality, it is not so easy to just say NO to people that looks so charming even you forming King Kong wouldn’t have it any easier but at the end of the day we have to say “No” if it is not helpful

DrayZee:
No blame can go to the "player" here. It is the girl's duty to shut down any distractions...but she's feeding it.

The guy has zero blame.

For a movie to be successful, everyone has their role to play, from camera man to actor, to movie producers, to Director.

All I am saying is the guy is acting the playboy script. The girl should run if she wants her dignity. I didn’t blame anyone, I was mentioning the Cast in the movie.
He is a playboy

LedRock:
It hasn't happened to every guy stop trying to force what is happening in your life on others.

I understand you lack comprehension. You are not alone.

iykee101:
Ozo is not a playboi personified anyway because if he was once a womaniser,i couldnt see the reason why he could be persuading a lady to love him so girls ozo's kind of person is rare to meet and i truly knew that alot of viewers have been criticising him but girls,go for ozo kind man for real love unconditionally

Ozo don’t understand simple social psychology when it comes to someone he is attracted to.
He was too available.
Too vulnerable
Too transparent
Too loyal.

He destroyed all the guy codes. He also become possessive. Nengi too on the other hand was enjoying the drama and was pumping the adrenaline in Ozo more and more. She should have stopped the relationship. I don’t understand what the “he is my friend” talk is all about.