₦airaland Forum

You should become a religious leader. You will have more women worshipping your egotistical ass.

oshaosha2014:
You are stupid for telling a man to go and marry his mother. I see nothing wrong with the way Nigerian men were brought to be the man and be in control of their relationships. Real men don’t do that 50/50 shit. It is better for a man to just be on his own than deal with any useless lady who thinks she can’t serve a man. Your place as a woman is to serve your man.

Exactly. The truth is it will always lean more to either side.

Fidelismaria:



if

PATRIARCHY is wrong then MATRIARCHY is no better

they are both the same

two sides of a coin

choose your poison and move on

You have a mother and sisters, don't you? Are they in Nigeria?

Kingarthur21:
Why should a sane guy given the golden opportunity to travel to the states and meet dope babes over there still date this tasteless dimers?

Do you realise that once upon a time in the Western world, they used to treat women the same if not worse like we are doing?

Our laws and cultures are abckwards because they do not respect and recognise the autonomy of women.

Western laws do not empower women to chase out men. It empowers women against abusive partners. Unfortunately, sometimes it has led to the abuse of the system by women but still, women are still getting murdered. Until the law finds a way of balancing that, we are still stuck. However it is better than our society that relish in mistreating women all because they have got vaginas

emmaodet:
Bro i understand you clearly and let us look at it this way -
If we say the african culture or setting is backward simply because a man has the ability to chase out the woman if she commits then same can be said about the western culture which is the opposite of african culture that it is a backward society that encourages and empower women to chase out men when they commit or Even when they didn't commit.
Atleast, you will agree with me that a woman can just pick up a phone and call the police, inform them that the hubby wants to kill her or molesting her and they will kick his ass out.
Please tell me, is there any difference between a man that can call his family to kick his wife out in nigeria and a wife that can call the police to kick her hubby out abroad? Am just flipping the scenario, same story but different players.
So if you agree nigerian culture is backward because the law is tilted towards men then you need to agree that the western culture is Backward and Archaic for tilting towards women, children and animals before men.
We shouldn't let the hate we have for nigeria becloud us.

Or they should go for Nigerian women are still very traditional

pDudd:
First tip: Leave that your native brain in Nigeria.

If you're the kind of man that will sit on the sofa and be watching UEFA champions league and be telling a woman that she should go and cook, serve you, bring you water to drink and wash hand, you are in for a rude shock. Nigerian women in US have opened eye now o. They are not going to serve you like master and servant while your stretch your legs on sofa and be watching football.

If your mother did that for your father, please go and marry your mother so she too can come and be serving you like a king. Nigerian women ain't doing that for you.

Before you leave Nigeria, better learn how to cook, clean house, do laundry, go to buy groceries, take care of kids, and learn humility.

Learning humility is of utmost importance because the day you step your feet into America, you are now second to every woman. The American society favors women over men. They placea lot of value over men. So if you didn't respect women in Nigeria, you may need to reconsider that stance. And if you can't see yourself having a woman above you or respecting women, then better stay in Nigeria.

And many of them don't, it can go both ways. Whether Nigeria or America, anyone can be silly.

When men abuse their positions in our society, you don't complain. Use that energy to criticise unfair societies not just Western countries because it is bias towards women in some areas.

jerryunit48:
Many of them will always take advantage of the system even more than the Americans themselves because she has found a new freedom just to make life miserable for the guy

Must you be a fo.ol? Lives were lost and you are here vying for the world's biggest bigot.

Tissaia:
Let them blame Fulanis like they always do.
They are probably fighting over two acres of Land. This people want to govern themselves. they think running a country is a joke. one Nigeria is a favour to them. They need to be saved from themselves. Imagine lamidi cownu is president, wike is vice president, Asari dokubo a minister. Evans a senator. Tompolo Chief of Army, boyloaf chief of Navy. Just imagine the Chaos.
This people thinks the new world oder is a joke

Which stupid assertion? Are you bereft of the ability to comprehend?

ZombieNation:
You are really a typical afonja rat.

My original post dismissed the OP's assertion that this judge single handedly denied MKO Abiola the presidency.

I followed up by stating that if there should anybody to be blamed for the June 12 annulment and MKO's murder it should be the Yoruba politcal groups, elders and Obas.

When and where did I blame the north you yaribanza coward?

You are still writing nonsense. We don't BLAME any region. Whether the North is pro Abacha or anti Abacha, we DON'T BLAME any region. Continue being a silly bigot. May your life reflect your intention towards other regions.

ZombieNation:
lol.

The north was and still is solidly pro-Abacha.

Abacha was a legend in the north even more revered than your lord khalifar Buhari NOT because of any major development he brought to the north but merely from stopping that yaribanza fake muslim from ruling them.

Abacha succeeded in thwarting June 12 because of Yoruba betrayal of Abiola.

No Yoruba is blaming the North and the Igbo though. People blame military dictatorship. Don't be a foolish bigot.

ZombieNation:
Leave the ab0ki judge alone.

Yorubas where the biggest saboteurs of June 12 and MKO Abiola.

Abiola was hated by the Awoist Yoruba political group. They saw him as a traitor because of his alliance with Shagari and the NPC in the 1979 elections that Awolowo lost by a landslide.

They NEVER supported him and where only after milking him dry during his campaign. When he won the election, these same back stabbers where more surprised than any one in Nigeria.

Yoruba Obas, Politicians, leaders and academics all paid homage to Abacha and were regularly on his payroll.

They were even jostling for VP position to Abacha in his ill fated civilian transition. Even your Tinubu was shortlisted by Abacha after he lobbied Chagoury for the position- reason why a close business associate and political lobbyist, money launderer and international fixer of Abacha is till this day both a close friend and business associate of Tinubu.


You Yorubas should stop blaming Abacha, Igbos, the north for the annulment of June 12 after all an Igbo man was the umpire of that election which has been adjudged the best and freest in Nigeria's history.


June 12, just like Biafra FAILED because of internal treachery by Yorubas and Igbos respectively.

It is not her family. Her family would not come impromtu and she would have planned for it WITH her husband. Someone like my mum would never agree at all without a very good reason.

Also, it is her money. Not all bankers are earning 6 figures.

gentle70:
That's your friend's (wife) part of the story... She'll definitely tell you the story in a way that favours her (that won't make her guilty). There's more to it that she may have refused to tell you. By the way, if the wife is a banker... how much is FOAM that she can't buy in order to improvise and manage pending the time her in-laws will leave? Assuming it was her relatives that came visiting, I'm sure that this kind of topic will not originate from your friend. Ladies matter is a course of study on it's own.

Even a Court will hear from both parties before advising/making necessary judgement. Unless I hear from both parties... I rather remain on the fence.

It is not everybody that has stupid useless mothers who have chosen to be insensitive about their children's marital lives. Come on, there is no scenario on earth some of our mothers would act like that. There is also no scenario where some men would be insensitive to their partners' needs. I don't see how a newly wed man with common sense, understanding the constraints he finds himself will choose to accommodate a man, his gf plus his mother in a house with just one bed.

solmus:
may you witness same as a mother, may your son treat you the same way you suggest someones mother be treated... may you son's wife also keep asking for when you would leave the house of the child you spent every penny you begged for online to train say amen if you agree to your own comment

Your girl is still going yo get more beatings as time goes on. Although, her approach might have been wrong but for goodness sake, she is in for it with that kind of family and her husband.

instinct57vm

Lmao. The EU is also paying those terrorists to keep people off.

Human trafficking is real but they will never listen.

pocohantas:
No sensible human should be deceived by this post. This mode of travel is bad!!!

Before the demise of Gaddafi, he was paid lots of money to keep Libyan borders shut. He tried, but of course there would be loopholes. There are gang wars in Libya and you would be lucky to escape them or the rigours of the journey.

Some are sold. Guys are sometimes tortured to death, that is if their people back home can’t pay extra money for them to complete the trip. The ladies are raped and turned to prostitutes, where they have to fck and raise at least $1500 dollars to complete their trip. Hey! They charge like $8 for one fck o. How many angry pricks to raise this money, Charley?

The completion of this journey across the Mediterranean is to force a rescue mission from the Italian sea patrol. They leave the migrants on that inflatable boat, call the sea patrol and hurriedly go back. Some will die before help gets to them.

Even when they get to you, they will still take you to a camp. Ask yourself, is it worth it?

Italy is tightening its borders and over the years they have shifted to Spain. Na still same suffer. E no worth am!!

I actually found a recipe that works.

https://cheflolaskitchen.com/african-egg-roll/

pocohantas:
I suck at all. So, I think people who pull any off are geniuses.

29:1

Every idiot is looking for who to blame. Bill Gate is right on this one.

Frankly, religious texts are always predictable. Similar concepts, different religions.

I think Islam has a concept like rapture.

Lmao. Free fall wetin

Greyworld:
might create a boycott of Microsoft... If possible though, and a free fall of his fortune .

Your girl has mouth and it is her family. She should be the one doing everything to get them to see what she saw. Radarada

Blame the silly journalist and his editor.

tiredoflife:
Notice the traditional ruler cares more about his gods
Stating the woman must come and do rituals or die of sickness when he knows that she was raped

Some of these journalists can be very unprofessional. Insensitive choice of words and narrative. What do rape of a pregnant woman and local custom have in common?

Who is your sweerie?

tonididdy:
You don't need to tell me sweerie

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No, but threatening a new mother is more fulfilling.

thesicilian:
I usually just ignore, but somehow I just felt kind of obligated to let you know that there's nothing fulfilling about using insults to pass your message across.

Communication is not the problem. Culture and expectations are the culprits.

DexterousOne:
Well
Blaming women in that manner is unfair


However

She has to communicate with hubby

The blame always goes to the woman as if that child is hers and hers alone. Look at the nonsense beliefs others have expressed over 6 months. No one asked why it would take six months, what could have happened etc.

DexterousOne:
What does surname have to do with anything here?



The mum should do what's best based on the circumstances and communicate with the hubby (who btw should be understanding)
That's about it

The blame always goes to the woman as if that child is hers and hers alone. Look at the nonsense beliefs others have expressed over 6 months. No one asked why it would take six months, what could have happened etc.

eni4real:
Which one be surname for this matter now??

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Women of back then did not care about their sexual health. They are not in the best position to advice a woman on when she should wait. We have medical doctors for that. Anyone in doubt should consult a gynaecologist. Most online articles recommend a month upwards but then body type and birth complications differ. Women are having bigger babies too. There are many factors that would determine when a woman would be ready for sex.

A mother should do what it is best for her sexual and mental health. Her husband should support her, that child is not going to bear her surname.

Eulalia:
At least, six months. So that the vaginal walls that expanded during delivery can can contract back to normal. My mum taught me this and during their time, it was 1 year before they resume. Resuming almost immediately weakens the walls and getting them back together is usually difficult cos it was not given enough time to heal. And that is why mother's of today after one or two children have slack VJ and Begin to run to us for vagina tightening. That was why during our mothers time you hardly find women looking for vagina tightening remedy.

So 6 months to 1 year is fine. It will also help mother and child to stay healthy.

Some of you are just crazy. You have a mother, go and ask what women go through. Ask her about vaginal tear during childbirth and post partum depression.

thesicilian:
You're right.
All those modern ladies forming 'I am not ready' even after 3 to 6 months do so at the risk of losing their husbands temporarily to sidechicks.

I like Joe