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Why was this posted here honestly?

This is beautiful and modest. I applaud this. Nairalanders who always talk down on combat athletes should do the same here, why should they find comedy any more difficult from taking dangerous blows to the head?

Well, nice. I can’t enjoy a party if I’m not experiencing it. Good for them. Now I need to find a reason to groove.

This season and by extension this thread has stopped giving me an endorphin rush. For the past four days and counting, I’ve found it difficult to watch the station for hour-long stretches like before. I quickly reach for the remote to find something better. Thanks to Genius for posting pictures frequently. I can’t believe more members don’t do the same. Let me hit the unfollow button and return only on party and eviction nights. This season was a sham and I hope things improve the next time.

If Angela didn't hear the name Nnewi at least once then she met a body double. Chimamanda loves her village.

Okay. Good. I'm wary of Yousef. He seems the type to cruise into the top 5. It's either that or he'll leave the house a week into the finals.

Orientation from parents which get passed down over generations. Just like the short haircut parents and teachers force on children not realizing that the act stems from colonial masters forcing us to get rid of our hair and individuality.

For those not in the know, that annoying song in the Pepsi advert is Rotate - Becky G ft Burna Boy. I’m shocked that was Burna’s voice.

If this show was held in the north, Yousef would have run through all the female contestants long ago. My friend said he must’ve sworn Kayan Mata on the viewers since he’s in the running for the Top 5.

Lol. Nigerians accord respect according to one’s size. I can’t blame her “detractors.”

Many Nairalanders watch NTA. This is the only place I see it as a fact apart from military lounges. Sometimes I switch to the channel on DStv to have a feel of what I would suffer if any administration bans foreign media. It is not a funny thought. At least in addition to NTA and the state provided TV channel, we’ll have many Nollywood themed stations. That’s not the gloom and doom one would face in the 90s.

Yay, another Friday. I was shocked to see a ruling on a Monday.

it is known who is behind it.

This will never happen. Utilize the system if you can. There is no way Nigeria’s many Muslim billionaires don’t have bitcoins stashed away somewhere.

Even now, the facts of the matter are not clear to us, so we are unable to issue a fatwa concerning it.

Lol. This is why modern research is a thing rather than doing so with outdated historical books.

These situations are too easy to counsel and make me wonder if they are real to begin with. If you don’t find her attractive, buy a cane and register her to a gym. Two months in and she’ll be the one posting here that she’s stopped finding you attractive. An alternative is to find her a yoga coach. That one is even better because she’ll move sexy at whatever size she finds herself.

Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married

Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.

From what I’ve read, God is doing you a favour out of a bad situation.

We married 9years ago.

That’s a long enough time. What are you searching for in her body again? Marriages these days are long relationships. Pat yourself on the back for staying this long.

She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.

Lucky you.

She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.

Good for you and your faith.

But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.

Somebody taught all her life that sex is a bad thing unless when in marriage won’t automatically look forward to it because God gave her a partner. If anything she’ll default to her normal upbringing after a while. The church broke her, it’s not her fault.

I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.

Most menial labour is a thing of the mind. If one’s mind is not there, the body follows. She has to train herself out of old ways. You are helpless in this situation.

If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.

This is a lie or exaggeration. The truth is likely three to four months. Why aren’t you hitting the gym to look attractive to begin with? It’s obvious you’re not doing anything to make yourself desirable to her or other women.

And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.

You’re likely correct here. Her mindset is the major issue.

I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.

Her fault again not yours.

I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.

Not bad at all. Copulation is not a come-and-die situation. Sleep outside if you can because that’s the only way to penetrate her mental fortress.

Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.

Marriages become this eventually. Thank God yours took this long to devolve.

This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.

God blessed you with a good wife and friend.

So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.

Women don’t take well to such. She’ll change for a short while before reverting to default setting.

Since today, our relationship has dwindled.

Expiry date loading.

Alot of things have been going through my mind.

All because of sex. Lol. I blame the church. If sex wasn’t such a taboo topic then people will become more open regarding it and many problems solved.

I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.

If you sleep around, you’ll leave her slowly. If you break off the marriage it’ll happen a lot faster. You’re between a rock and a hard place. Honestly, so far you handle the children’s bills while with another person and see them from time to time, I don’t count the actions as failing. There’s also the option to wait until the children are legal adults before leaving. Eighteen years is the blink of an eye for adult humans.

Pls is there any known solution?

I need help.

Couples therapy. I doubt it’ll change the inevitable. It will only slow things down.

If the write-up contains “to” then it’s safe to assume the plan is a pipe dream. I’ve lived forty plus years in this country. Optimism is an unwise character trait.

Congenital issues happen in all animals. I bet trees aren’t spared. This isn’t news unless these people are seeking a little slice of fame.

These men thrive because Nigerians don’t take mental health as a priority. Any psychiatrist will state the same logic verbatim. Since Nigerians don’t want anyone to tag them mad, they’d rather swallow a pastor’s words whole than seek proper counsel.

in her moment of distress instead of keeping quiet or trying to sympathise with her.

Person die? Abegi, Tonto should wallow in shame. I’m sure she takes it up the butt, she is that crazy.

I’ve become lazy. Ever since cutting costs put my work team on the bench for many months running, I find it difficult to rise from bed and take baths nowadays because there is no deadline of any sort to meet.

Even if he won’t cheat, it’s better to play safe by having only his sister or mother change in front of him. I can’t trust a lot of people with their opposite sex cousins because of Nairaland and a few humans I’ve met.

Abeg, has Saga ever told Nini anything remotely sexy since they started sharing a bed? That “you make every other woman here look like a bag of beans” was cringy and doesn’t cut it for me.

The Vee I watched for two and a half months obviously fell out with everybody in this Lipton advert apart from Laycon. The woman is that bitter of a human being.

Everybody’s casting Boma this morning. Lol.

The worst people to get advice from are unrelated females. OP, don’t commit such sin later in life.

If your marriage can survive nine years, pat yourself on the back. Anything more na manage.

Self expression and the beginning of a trend.

This is Twitter news. The platform is banned in the country so I’m off to another thread.

fattprince:
Do I know you?

You shouldn’t.

Distance in one case and common sense in the other. In the latter case I knew it was a relationship which had an eventual expiry date. If I wasn’t looking for marriage at the time, why then will I feel the situation will last forever?

E no suppose concern me. The marriage don expire.

If you’re not willing to add fat then you’re unserious to begin with.

Since OP was quick to delete his/her account then there’s no need to waste brainpower thinking up a reason.