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Rapmoney:
This is the same reason why I have tactfully avoided all ur threads and posts on NL!!! Sorry, I don't debate with people who take pleasure in insulting others. I will continue to ignore all ur threads and posts on NL! Whenever you see my threads, don't comment! Just move on! Bye bye!!!

Eyya, unfortunately you couldn't avoid this one. Sorry eeh, I know some ppl see don't be stupid as an insult and that's solely their business. You hate insulting people? Hmmmm, you reason poorly must be a compliment to you then?

I said that you conclude like a fool and that's true, first you concluded that all Nigeria men who are scared of Successful women have inferiority complex simply because of what you noticed among your friends. Isn't that a hasty, premature and foolish conclusion? Oga truth no be insult nah, even Jesus used the word fool more than once to describe some set of people.

I said you should get married, get experience and try again, hopeful you will make sense because your main post and all your back up comments no make sense at all. Don't just rubbish Nigerians online and hope to get away with it.

Read this:-

craziebone:
i just googled "are british/american/german, etc men intimidated by 'successful' women?" and i found loads of online forum, blogs and websites from these countries where people are saying the same thing. And yet, some people want to think this is social construct.

The line "men are intimidated by 'successful' women" is an opium of feminists. More like a 'peacemaker' for them.

I have always said it that women who are so quick to use the "men are intimidated by successful women" and have never pull together the courage to ask out even the Beta or Gamma males not to talk of alpha males, who have so many options in younger and more beautiful females, should be the last ones to tell us anything about confidence.

Did you see what he did? He Googled to get more information to be sure of what he was about to say. Something you couldn't you do.

You have been making unnecessary noise here that it is only Nigeria men that shy away from successful woman without trying to find out if it is a natural thing.

Which other country outside this our own continent have you been to? I doubt if there is any yet you claim to know much about their men.

Bro, you are free to avoid my posts and comments, that's 100% your business but you have no right to tell me where to and where not to comment.

Ehihe Oma.

Rapmoney:
Seriously speaking, ur reasoning is very poor!!! How are you better than women? Just listen to yourself! That you are 'better' than women? Sorry, you have absolutely nothing sensible to say!

Sorry but you conclude like a fool. Where did I mention women in my comment? I said that I am better than them(You and your likes who think that whoever that doesn't want the type of woman you like has inferiority complex).


Who's senseless here? There are 36 states in this country, I doubt if you have been to 8 of them yet you are spewing this trash about Nigerian men. What do you know about them?

Talking about inferiority complex, is it we that know what we want that are inferior or you and your likes that are imitating the westerners? If we all black should become like the whites then who will be like the blacks?

Grow up first, marry a wife then come and tell us from your experience.

Hopefully you will make sense.

Me: bae, whY are you packing your clothes? Where are you going to?

Bae: I am leaving you, I am going back to my father.

Me: Why? What happened?

Bae: Because I am sick and tired of your insults, you always make me feel bad. Why do you always tell me that I am FAT.

Me: Oh Gosh!!! You know it is not true, please don't leave me my love, what would happen to our son if you go?

Bae: Son?

Me: Yes son, or are you not pregnant?

SHE DON GO.

This your sister had better run away with a man, else a time will come when your father will tell her to start paying rent.

moHot:
it's frustrating when a successful woman is married to or dating a man who is not as successful as she is, because the things she do with the purest intentions will be misinterpreted and that's because of the notion most men hold about rich women.

It's not easy and what makes it more difficult is the inferiority complex of some of the men.

HOW TO EXCEL IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP AS A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN
1)Your 'submissiveness' has to be way more than the woman who is not as successful as her man
2)you have to let and make him be in charge ....make him feel he is in control. (even if he is not) Trust me it works, he has to have a feeling that he can still be head even with all ur wealth
3) you have to know you can't talk to your man the way an average woman would, you can't even say somethings when you are angry; any other woman can be rude to her man and get away with it but a rich woman have to be careful because your fat bank account will be blamed to be responsible for your rudeness .

Even the man who can't control or earn the respect of a woman he feeds will want the woman who can feed herself respect him and surrender herself to be controlled .?

Most times its not about the rich / poor woman respecting you, it's about you earning that respect by being THE MAN.

You made valid points but this line sucks.

So I am inferior if I dislike what other people like?

What happened to choice?


If at all I have inferiority complex then it should be about my superiority complex. In other words, I have inferiority complex about my superiority complex, I know I am better than them all and I feel bad about it.

Bluetooth2:
You are the one that's not getting it. I'm not against women empowerment but equality is totally bullshiit when you do everything for her. You paid dowry, cloth her, feed her, house her, do everything for her when she has her money yet you still feel a man doesn't possess any leadership role ? Btw, are you married ?

I doubt if he has a "faithful" girlfriend.

Vickybee:
Beyonce, Adichie, Hilary Clinton etc share my view and they have a happy marriage than the so-called non feminists.

Share your view where? In books or personal experience?

Those people write/display what will earn them money and fame.

Their life could be totally different from what they preach.

Set your own path dearie else you will never be No1.

Vickybee:
I have a boyfriend, Tallesty.

Been with? I have been with many.
If you mean dated, then only one.

Ok VickyBee.


I no wan fight you this morning.




How are you

Rapmoney:
To sum up ur post, we should get married to poor women that we can order around abi?

I don't want to order anybody around and I don't want anybody to order me around.

Most successful women are control freaks, the remaining few are difficult to find.

Marriage is so serious a business that no man would go into with a troublesome partner.

The only time you will see guys rushing after the successful sisters is when they change "For better for worse" and "Till death do us part" to "Till she start messing up do us part".

Thanks.

Kataway You

Vickybee:
Must men want women to worship them? Jeez!

Even if she's not successful that doesn't mean she should worship him. For what?

Respect is reciprocal. Husband and wife should respect each other, irregardless.

You don't even have a boyfriend yet you are talking about what most men want.


How many men have you been with to know what we really want?

Rapmoney:
Yeah, am a Nigerian man but I don't have such backward mentality!

Married? I think No?

Dated an independent woman? I guess NO too and yet you are talking?

Isn't experience the best teacher?

Do you think wife and girlfriend are thesame thing?

Do you have friends that are married to richer women? Have you visited them at home to see how they are being treated?

FYI, Nigeria men are not scared of successful women rather they are scared of control freaks. The type of woman that only feels good about herself if she makes you feel less than her. These are the women that my brothers are scared of.

I have said this before and I will say it again, every man prays for his wife to be successful too. That's why most Igbo men I know open shops for wives once they marry them so that they will start hustling. Are you saying that they open shops for these women and then turn around to pray against their success?

You amaze me op.

Most men insist that their wife must be a graduate, why?

Don't just jump from nowhere and start writing stuffs just to get likes without researching your topic properly. Sha, you have given some half-baked-feminist on here something to talk about but who cares?

NOW LISTEN.

Picture a woman who has personality disorder, someone who automatically become enraged or sullen and withdrawn if she doesn’t get her way. Someone who needles you endlessly until you capitulate, someone whose mood becomes buoyant as she cuts you down. Someone who makes you feel useless, disoriented and helpless.

Then picture where this woman is richer than her husband.

What Do You See?

LISTEN AGAIN.

There are things one needs to succeed in business and work. These things are direct opposite of what we need to have successful marriage and most of these successful women do not know where to cut the line.

To succeed in business, you have to be stubborn, in control etc. Bring these things into your marriage and you are fuked. Some successful women would rather blow the house up and everything in it than compromise or take personal responsibility. Who Wants This?

Women Naturally want to exert control over everything. They enjoy to make those around them feel inadequate, insecure, nervous, angry, anxious and physically sick.

Go to married men that have richer wives and ask them, they will tell you that the message their women pass in everything they do is I don’t trust you to be able to do it right; I don’t respect your judgment; I don’t think you are competent; I don’t value your insight. I can do it all alone

Money brings out the demon in everybody and most women do not know how to control this demon yet.

I Have A Feeling That You Are Eyeing A Rich Sister.

Ubi Franklin is not financially responsible

farano:
Tell her she's like a sister to you.

You wicked gan!!!.




@OP, if the girl is really into you then I think dropping her off completely would be better.

Keeping her in the friendzone or family-zone is cool but if she secretly she still wants to be with you then the friendship will cause more problems than it's worth. Abi you want a friend that may spoil your show with other girls.

Do as Farano said, tell her plainly and bluntly that you see her as a friend, that you don't love her that way.


OR.


Give her a night, have a nice chat with her at night, a heart to heart talk, the likes that families, lovers and great friends have. Enquire bout her dating life(She would definitely tell you how she's been with some jerks and all, some will even tell you that they wish you would date them)Smile and tell her to give love another chance that she needs it.

She will ask you about yours, tell her that you are done with women for now and do not want to try again till u r ready for marriage.

OR


Start doing the opposite of everything she expects from you. She will eventually get tired.

TrishaP:
If I was a guy I'll say Yes and I'll be choosy too. First impression matters alot to me.

You photcopied my mind

vizkiz:
so you walked out of her...then what happens? You become a man

She became his ex

I have many female friends.

Do Men Fall Inlove?

Ndi Mba5

sweettease:

when you think about it, there are actually more male sluts than there are female sluts.
Around 50% would have agreed if a sexier woman had asked.

The man's approach was poorly poor, Imagine asking nursing moms for sex? He didn't garnish his words with the necessary recipes abeg. Another thing is, woman are well known pretenders, some of them would want to but what people might think of them won't allow them to agree.

Place romancelanders on the street and ask Naijaboiy or any other Hot Guy here to ask them for sex, believe you me that 60% of romanceland babes would rape him.

supernigga:
Ve seen ladies hating each other for no reason, Btw.

There is always a reason. Women and understand women and that's why they hate each other. The first man to understand a woman died laughing, nobody knows why and nobody dared try again since then.


Just take em the way you see em and never try to understand em because you won't succeed and the little you will learn about them will make you to hate them.

MizMyColi:

What's the kiss for?





You want to seduce a brother?




Mods!!!!!!!

MizMyColi:



Warped!

Wicked Headmistress.

MizMyColi:
MzNelly, you need to answer this question.
When you're back from cybertical

Tell me when she answers.





I want to marry so that a sister's ministry will move.

dokyOloye:
after him go do seize IBB's hilltop mansion,Thief'nubu's orient hotels,Abdulsalami's mansion,Atiku's,etc.
She deserves even more, at least oil well dey her backyard,unlike Ali baba and d 40 thieves from d desert.

Gbam!!!! Charity begins at home

Amuru gini??





Amuru nwanyi.

You are not even sure

Wind don blow, everybody don see say the fowl wear G-string.

Basildvalour:
That 8 months pregnancy looks like 4 months here.

Where is the pregnancy, I cant even see it

That's because most ladies here are four months pregnant with beer.

Your girlfriends?