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Congrats on realizing before it is too late.

Don't make a second mistake by trusting strangers. See an agent and rent an apartment even if it is one room for now.

Don't look for an easy way out.

I hope that you have a tight form of family planning in place. That's the best advise that I can give you and your hungry wife.

To the one who said he made 17k profit... I think that the word you wanted to use is turnover. Turnover is different from net profit.

Send him away. it is wrong that he has bad manners and is not made known to him by the woman in his life but instead she supports it.

These are not people that you should keep as friends. They are opportunists and no matter the scope you use, they would try to make you feel bad.

Do not care that they feel bad. They ought to feel bad and you ought to avoid them in future.

For your ex to send such stupid blackmail text shows how gullible you are.

How dare she say that she is no longer your responsibility. was she your responsibility before?

She is very stupid to even ask you for money. She is more stupid to encourage you to give your life to Christ under this pretext.

Let her ask her own family. Did she not save during NYSC? Na wa oh.

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A few years ago, I was going through a lot of mental stress and I needed a distraction badly.
I would spend a lot of time on the Quora App and then I started reading articles on Medium Corporation App.
I found them both interesting but taking more attention than neccessary.
Alas! I stumbled upon Twitter polls. I enjoyed taking surveys and seeing how my responses played out in comparison to the final results and hence i followed several accounts for surveys.Twitter is filled with all manner of poll accounts; from politically oriented polls to very random polls.
It became like playing a game that didn't need concentration. Some of the surveys, I find the results disappointing because of my own views. Imagine 80% voting that they would not attend to a homeless man freezing in the cold. Or 90% supporting Trump on one poll and just 10% supporting him in response to the same question on another poll.
I like the random surveys the most. They are not deep but they are fun to take and view responses. For instance. "Would you rather live in a house without electricity or without running water?"
Or pick one between security and freedom.
Some are yes and no questions, and some are thought provoking but in all, I have found much amusement from this new hobby.
After a while, I started my own account for surveys but most of my followers are non Nigerian. I would really be glad if I can have more Nigerians taking my surveys @polls4naija.
Kindly follow me and remember that the surveys on my account are random and just for leisure. Thanks in advance.

How can you think of leaving them behind. Your heart is not in the right place.

If you are being abused, you should never think of leaving your kids behind.

It’s not going to be an easy journey but it may be necessary. Send me a DM on Twitter @polls4naija if you care.

Momful:
yes, I'm thinking of leaving them behind. I can't take care of them anyways but he can't take care of them either with no nanny

I don’t spoil my kids to the extent that they know I would always support them... No !

My kids know that there are some things I can’t live with. If such occurs, it is because they no longer need me in their life. I can never tolerate or accommodate such. If they love me as I love them, it would be over my dead body and not to my face.

godsplan123:
we are doomed we are hungry my children are getting weak out of hunger. they haven't eaten since morning and I don't have anything. I have been going around since morning don't even know where to go anymore.

You said that you have been going around since morning?

Sorry to hear about your kids of job. At this time, it is very important to make sure that your wife does not get pregnant since you already have more than one child. Let your wife ask the parents in her school if she can come and wash for them on weekends...

You did not mention your location.
Be focused on getting a honest source of income because asking online would not sustain you. What about your friends and family?

All the best.

[ Game theory !!

Except I'm rare cases where the woman is extremely manipulative, it is not rocked science to turn her excesses into moderation.

A man is enabling a woman when her survival depends on you and yet she always had her way. Some things are just wrong and even a bad person must admit it publicly even if his heart is okay with it. The words that woman wrote would be condemned by even her own friends and family except je is their puppet. If ha is also in the habit of using harsh words, the woman can get even without responding the same way. Even silence would work better.
If she leaves him for a man without disability and he welcomes her it is because he is too stupid to fun out the real reason why her first marriage ended or he is just an indisciplined man himself. Both ways, everyone would get what's coming to them.

quote author=Joshmuch post=97951919]You are blessed. Kindly elaborate on how we enable them, so that we can disable them[/quote]

[I am not the wife but i know these things. The way he wrote it shows his personality. The things he focused on is not the write up of someonewho once loved his wife. He moved on so suddenly and became prosperous nust like that? Well, younger people may believe him but i don-t.
quote author=lavylilly post=98161215]How do you know this or are you the said wife?[/quote]

A few years ago, I was going through a lot of mental stress and I needed a distraction badly.
I would spend a lot of time on the Quora App and then I started reading articles on Medium Corporation App.
I found them both interesting but taking more attention than neccessary.
Alas! I stumbled upon Twitter polls. I enjoyed taking surveys and seeing how my responses played out in comparison to the final results and hence i followed several accounts for surveys.Twitter is filled with all manner of poll accounts; from politically oriented polls to very random polls.
It became like playing a game that didn't need concentration. Some of the surveys, I find the results disappointing because of my own views. Imagine 80% voting that they would not attend to a homeless man freezing in the cold. Or 90% supporting Trump on one poll and just 10% supporting him in response to the same question on another poll.
I like the random surveys the most. They are not deep but they are fun to take and view responses. For instance. "Would you rather live in a house without electricity or without running water?"
Or pick one between security and freedom.
Some are yes and no questions, and some are thought provoking but in all, I have found much amusement from this new hobby.
After a while, I started my own account for surveys but most of my followers are non Nigerian. I would really be glad if I can have more Nigerians taking my surveys @polls4naija.
Kindly follow me and remember that the surveys on my account are random and just for leisure. Thanks in advance.

when you weren't sure about the new babe, why did you introduce her to your family?

missing your ex is a coping strategy. sometimes, we miss the few good things that we enjoyed even from a toxic relationship but then, there is nothing we don't get over with time.

after a while, you would wonder why you ever missed her. focus on the good things you see in your new babe. the things we want hardly all come in one package.

why did your ex cheat? I'm not making excuses for her but if at a time, you showed u seriousness, she might tend to look elsewhere as a back up for her heart.

Congrats on your childs success. Being an academic genius is not enough to survive in real life. There is time for everything.

She is too young. For now, it might feel good that she is ahead of her age mates. How about the bigger picture?

I gained admission into the university from S. S.2 .My parents and friends were proud of me...
Hmmm, I was so naive and immature and I didn't do as well as I was supposed to. At the end of the day, I have realised that it is not how soon but how well.

What would your child gain by being the youngest in her class?
I'm developed countries, she might just be in grade 3 and we know those countries have got it together.

Don't be in a hurry. She would still pass even next year. It is good to know that she did the exam and passed. To continue to be the best, she must not be in a hurry. Time is a leveller after all.

The story is not complete.
Your wife did not leave you due to your financial state alone. She left because of your character. Spirit of entitlement and opportunistic nature. Free loader and gold digger. Probably you are even worse than that. We know your type and it is natural for you to say the story to suit your self.
Are you sure that car belongs to you?

Many parents try tonpay their responsibilities to their kids. It is wrong but it is a cycle.

For now, focus on doing well with your academics and learn the skill of delayed gratification. When you graduate, hopefully you would go to serve. Work as hard as possible keeping on mind that one must make sacrifices to be successful.

Stay focused and don't be distracted. Take on a job that can sustain instead of insisting on getting one that would make you comfortable. As you get older, you would know what to do when you have the means.

I'm falling for you like Naira to Dollar

I'm falling for you like Naira to dollar. I don't know who sang it but I heard it right...

You said " she has everything a man wants in a woman "

Kindly name these things because that's where you would know how much you do not know...

She is 20 and you are 26 ?

You really need to find a mentor otherwise you would make bad decisions in life.

You can change if you really love a person but it has to come from within. If one person is trying to change another, it may not work.

Why don't you consider court wedding (Registry)

The traditional marriage is very okay as long as you have a registry certficate.

Some churches don't mind as long as both of you are counselled in the church before the wedding.

One room apartment is not ideal for couples who plan to be having sex with young children in the room.

Not ideal at all. The country is hard but let's not make it harder on ourselves.

A room and a parlour is ok. If both parents are working, it is affordable otherwise limit your offspring to one so that the cycle does not continue.

I'm surprised at many comments on this thread but then, their age and exposure might be the problem.

For both of you, your baby was born due to your carelessness. Women should learn to do better for themselves. Why would a woman willfully get pregant out of wedlock and even without a job?

If it is true that you were once sending money to her relatives despite not being married to her then you are just a means to an end. How can any relative with dignity accept such money?

You went broke by trying to put her on the path of entrepreneurship and she is still hiding things?

I'm not saying that you are a good man to deserve better because im sure you also have faults you hve not mentioned, but the right thing to do is to confront her with your brain and not your heart and move on if you have to.

A woman who cheats because you have not paid her bride price would cheat even if you have done so.. cheating is a result of a mindset.

If you do not open your eyes well next time, you may leave this woman and even end up with someone worse. Stop assuming spending on a woman can make her love you.

What was your wife doing before your son was hit by okada?

I don't mean to sound Insensitive but when a man is down financially, his wife should be able to step up. November is too recent for you to be asking for money on Nairaland.

Maybe you gave her the impression that you need to be pitied.

Those words are very strong. Try to find a balance in your marriage. Do not spoil her if you have been doing so. If she threatens divorce, don't argue with her. She must change her ways or leave.

Many women are manipulative but men enable them

I think it is the law of demand and supply that is mostly at play.

After marriage, it becomes so much more available to a woman.

It thinks you are its mother

Might be a case of "IMPRINTING"

Take care of it be a cause it thinks you are its mother.

It is the men that put pressure on themselves. This habit is mostly existent between slay queens and people from poor backgrounds.

The elites do not behave this way. Let the men stop searching for love where it can not exist and stop allowing women who their families are not doing better than you put pressure on you.

There is no way a man would approach a lady from a decent family and she would ask you to buy her burger before she can reply your chats. How would she ask you to buy her a phone ? She would be too ashamed to even ask. The ones asking are the ones whose family are beggars in general.