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What does she mean by "take care of her" ?

With that mindset, she is likely going to end up with a wolf...

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You can not change the situation without springing up a new problem...
The fact that you ask here shows that you have no control over the situation
You said she is 22 , friendly and jovial? Sorry about that but I doubt those are the right adjectives. Open your eyes and speak about it to a 45 yr old man.

Does the friend not know the account number of the wife? He can get it if he really wants to be financially responsible for his child..

Don't be quick to assume that the friend is not at fault in the whole scenario...

How did he and up with a woman who assaults him physically and threatens to kill her own son? He is culpable but playing victim.

A truly responsible and considerate man does not go through this problem. Even if the in-laws are mad and if the wife is mad would they would not prevent a responsible and respectable man from seeing his son.

Return his phone and then report to the police

He can not harm you with jazz

If jazz was so easy to attack people with no physical contact, many people would have been attacked.

Triangulation in high places

Some men think that it makes them more macho when they take up the financial needs of an duly woman that are not even related to by blood.

Such a woman would never be faithful. If she is for now, it is because she Has not yet had the news or gotten the opportunity to cheat.

Other guys can learn from this. Always use protection

It is the oldest trick of lazy ladies to hook a man with pregnancy. Don't believe for one day that she wanted to abort it.

Do not go ahead with the marriage plans and if possible avoid continuing to live together.

You can't come out of it so happy.

For the same of the unknown though, you can work on her mindset to understand how important it is for a woman to have her own income.

Outward beauty alone is not a good reason to spend your life with someone.

How can you even be allowing yourself to be treated with no respect at all.

She would continue the act even after marriage and you are sure of it but her beauty that you like to show off would not let you think straight.

Are you even sure she is your fiancee or just your date ?

Discovery Investigation and next is discovery family or travel channel

It is not what a right thinking and busy person would do.


Vanity .

If you don't want your future to be further destroyed....stop watching porn

Face your academics squarely and stop watching porn.

You must live with the shame. Running away can not help you. Stay where you are and change your ways.

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When they remember how they almost lost the woman to a guy they believed didn't deserve her like they did.

Or how they compromised so many things to get to this point

Why did you start what you can not finish?

You haven't told us why you are engaged to her. If you were saying, I would understand.

The no sex before marriage is a principle for well mannered ladies and not everyone. I don't understand how she is able to live by this principles with her mindest and behavior.

By the way, garlic US very medicinal but causes mouth odour and body odour.

Why did you put your gen where rain would beat it?

We have not heard two sides of the story but a working class guy with a tangible source of income deserves some peace of mind on money matters.

This babe has a hold on you that you must attend to avoid unfavourable future occurences...

Maybe the man was quite physically unattractive

If the lady really had values, she would not go to a stranger's house and still expect to be given money for transporting herself back home.

How can one leave home and not take along money to return ?

Can she not stay at home? The man dodged an entanglement with a lady seeking poverty alleviation.

Better to opt for private practice.

My children's lesson teacher receives 25k for 12 hours a week.

Be focused. Do not get distracted.

Do not expect much from people.

Do not trust so called men of God too much

Do not expect a blissful future from someone who doesn't truly love you.
Always use protection of you don't want to have a baby.

Try to find a partner who has a sound upbringing and a loving family.

Stop visiting so called prophets do your own sanity.

You must be used to it by now and probably would not stop but be sure that they cause more harm than good.

In 2021, nobody should claim that they do not know their genotype.

Not worth risking having biological children.

You did not tell us the reason that your wife insisted that you brought her back

Why do you say that your sibling don't have responsibility like you do? Do you have too many children?

You must be able to justify bringing the girl into your care. She may have all those bad qualities because of her unsteady upbringing.

This matter is so simple. If your wife insists that the girl comes back then she should be responsible for her feeding. Is it not that simple?

In fact, that is the one reason that your wife should entice you with.

Take your matter to the family court.

Much truth shall be revealed

If placenta was so important, you would have made sure that your wife was in your custody at the point of deljvery and then seperate afterwards if she is truly the guilty party.

Please enlighten me on this.

I've been receiving texts from my bank that I can obtain a loan with ease via an EZ cash model.

I've been sceptical about this but an urgent need for money made me try dialing the code and I was told that I'm not eligible.

I contacted my bank and was told that my credit bureau report says that I'm not eligible.The account is my salary account and I also use it to run my business. I even have a POS terminal used for my business given to me by the bank over six years ago.

I do not owe any bank nor financial institution. In the past, I have received a loan from a micro finance bank and paid back at 25% interest without defaulting. Last year during lockdown, I also got a loan and paid back without default except when the bank called to say they waive payment for a month for clients who have no record of defaulting..

I am confused as to how I can have a bad credit bureau report despite my account being credited even more than a million in some months. If there is a mix-up, then how can it be corrected? If there is no mix-up then what am I doing wrong to avoid an unfavourable report going forward.

I would be grateful for kind suggestions or explanations.

He is a hypocrite.

How could ha father a child with a married woman while he was still married.

5 million is such a small amount for damages.

I wonder how the husband of the woman feels about this. Her love child is 6 yrs old.

Even the people here take getting food with levity.

It's a good trait but I just don't get it. Why should there be party crashers at your party? If you can not prevent it then why should the real guests be made to suffer for your lack of planning ?

The effort to get dressed and honour your invite should be reciprocated...that is the responsible thing to do.

If you envisage that there would be crashers, provide for them or prevent them.

Some would invite you and treat you so well, check on you regularly and try their best to see that you get everything on offer ( even souvenirs)
While some would see you seated with nothing in front of you and ask " Aren't you eating anything? " and I'm wondering ... Well, the right question should be " Have you been served? And are you okay? Is there anything else that I can get for you?

What's your location ?

If the courtship with the wife was short, he may marry this sister.

Some things sound wrong on paper or even right but in reality, they are the opposite.

The sister may be a good lady with the same upbringing and mind set of her late did, they may look alike physically and have similar tastes. She may get along well with her late sister's husband. The family may also prefer the man that they already know.

It seems awkward but it might work perfectly fine and she would love her late sisters child as her own and her sister's stuff would be available to her which is much better than a pretentious new wife coming to inherit her sisters "blender" and "steam iron" ( just kidding )

How has her family been paying their rent before now?

You must not start what you can not finish.

How do you feel when you are not served food at a party?

I find it so annoying but many people say that it is not a big deal to them and they know that food does not always go round in a party.

Why should food not go round any way? Why invite people to your party just to starve them ? I always eat before attending a party but that does not mean I should not be offered food when other people around me are being offered.

In fact, it upsets me to my stomach because I have more than enough food at home but for the effort of dressing up and setting out, I should be just as honoured with a meal to say the least. I hardly attend parties empty handed. I go with a gift or cash and I would usually also spray money on the dance floor.

I write this boldly because I am by no means hungry but it is unfair to me to be seeing food pass by and smelling the aroma and all I can do is hope in vain...

I attended a friend's father's funeral recently despite my friend being outside the country. I went to honour my friend in the company of our other friends. She said "Just ask of my sister and she would attend to you guys"
The sister claimed there was no more food even though we arrived early. Others took it in good faith but I was pissed.

A colleague recently got married out of town and we contributed money for fuel while one of us made a car available. I chose not to go for fear that I would leave my city and go far away from home and then be given "swallow" but the soup may never arrive or I get a plate of rice and no water nor juice to wash it down. I dare not even assume that there would be special treatment for colleagues as small chips or desserts because many times, it's the ones close to the celebrant that suffer for the lack of organization or low budget. I sent a gift anyway.

As a result of past experiences, i only attend parties where i trust the host to behave properly or I am a host myself.

For the records, I don't identify as a glutton despite the long piece on getring served or not. I just like due process.

Glad to hear you consider adopting a child. All the best.