₦airaland Forum

najayi:
Hi, lost girl, marriage is marriage, and whatever you do , believe me, you are going to give account to God one day, some day. Why do you want to divorce him, can't you settle the case between the 2 of you? Moving on with your life, do you know the lifestyle of the man you're going to meet later in the future? All men are the same, there is no ideal man, all of them are the same, you will be the one to help your husband out and shape him to your own taste. Have you forgotten the primary pirpose why you were made, to help the man that comes to your life i.e the man that proposed to you in marriage. Please do not divorce him. God hates divorce, he said, "I hate putting away." May God give you guidiance and provide light on your paths in Jesus name, amen.


Najayi.

elisabet51:
No no kids, thank God not. I have two daughters from my first marriage. Father died when they were little.

Hi Sister,

Like my other posts, I am going to be very blunt here besides, I do not do BLIND and THICK PATRIOTISM. I am absolutely passionate about things I consider "UNFAIR and UNJUST" therefore, I expect negative reactions from all and sundry to my post but, who cares as long as I have the last word.

You see, I could see why you needed a man in your life - but do you really need them? Look at it now?? Like most  women would do including myself, you did it to give your children a real sense of family unit and the stability in life but unfortunately and out of your desperation, you made a wrong decision by choosing 'a loser, a dupe and a thief' and that's the mistake we make in order to mature. Hear it now, and let me make it clear to all non-Nigerian women who fancy our men.  

To start with, Nigerian men are very smart and very, very witty - don't mess with them!

In terms of relationships, they prefer their women to be VIRGINS and the younger they are, the better, ok!

They do not marry women that have been ridden by other men and have children by them, period. Why?  Because society frown on that and their mates and family would jeer and abuse them for it for life and they won't have face hence, an ego bashing factor. They don't go there! Again, listen, they may tell you everything you want to hear to convince you, but remember this word "THEY DON'T GO THERE!" and if they say they do, I need the statistics to prove it! A handful of people is not enough to prove the true nature of things, abi??

If they ever do, they are not being honest! They are doing it for material reasons - there is something in it for them, something to be gained from it and the relationship won't last a second once they get that thing.  If there are children in that relationship, they would still leave but keep bumping in and out of their children's lives without much contributions, what a mess! If you want that for your children, good luck!!!   

In their interactions with a woman with children from previous relationships, they are reluctant to accept and treat your children as they would, their own. No!!! Nigerian men or should I say African men as a whole, don't operate like that.

Like most Western men, would take on a child that is not theirs and give him/her life and future they can only dream of, raising them completely as their own without complaints or asking for rewards? Naaaaaa!!!!! They don't do that. They are highly discriminatory in this aspect. If they ever go into it, they are basically swallowing bitter pills and you would know about it when you have arguments. They would not play a truly fatherly role in those children's lives. I know many would comment negatively about my post on here but I don't give a monkey therefore, I challenge them to point to the statistics that vindicated them in this aspect. It's all about humanity, isn't it 

Also, in a broken marriage/relationship, 30% (Ah, this is a high number o o ) of Nigerian men would only look after their own children if you are lucky and I know how many of these children (victims) languishing/suffering badly as a result of the abandonment from their fathers. In this respect, majority would dump their children and abandon their responsibilities on their ex-wives/girlfriends and move on to another desperately husband searching Nigerian woman or women from other races, just like youself etc who think they are the best women for him.

This is one of the reasons men all over the world trash women.  Because, they know another desperately husband searching woman is round the corner and waiting to take them on, once they move out of their family homes. This is the problem!  If only women would stick together and give such men their matching orders - to go back to their wives/girlfriends and children then, men would begin to rethink their behaviours towards women but, would women do so?? No, hence men continue to abuse our intelligence.

So, my dear sister do whatever you can to rid this rogue, off your hands please.  I really pity you as this is one of the things that give Nigerians negative name all over the world. Too bad but good luck with your fight to rid yourself off, this dead donkey!

Sagamite:
Jesus Christ!!!

And you would be wondering why men treat you like dirt to the point of the consistent bitterness towards men you show on NL.

Believe me, you don't deserve any better in treatment.

But, Sagamite what would warrant the name of Our Lord Jesus Christ be used in vain this way? Is it only to let the lady know you've logged on, eh?? 

You see, people are entitled to say what they like even if it hurts sometimes. 
And, it takes a mature mind to turn over the leave and move on.  Negative attacks on innocent people on here does not really show maturity, does it 

Besides, do I look like a lady that cares about, anyone here (male/female) liking her? Eh?  You see, that shows CONFIDENCE and maturity.  People with low self esteem and lacking in confidence worry about what the world might think about them.  This lady, don't give a monkey who likes, treats or hates their hearts off here, ok?  'Cos:


a) The men you are talking about don't exist - they are virtual hence, behind the screens? 

b) Do I know you and these guys or do you know me?  If so, at which junction does our roads cross each
other?  

c) Is there a chance we might meet each other in the street one day? Obviously, not!

d) Why being negative about someone you don't even know and don't have the remotest chance of physically meeting them in your life time? My dear, that's insanity if I were you, hang your face in shame!!

d) What's the point of your attacks when you can not help yourselves - you have no powers to stop, prevent,
restrict me from spawning what you consider my vileness against men.

Besides, as most Nigerian men are very controlling do I look like someone you could tame? Why not have a go!!! You see, one thing about Nigerian men is that, you like pretentious women. Well, you came to the wrong DOOR.  Unfortunately, this one don't pretend. With me, what you see, is what you get. The more you gang up against me for no obvious reasons apart from your petty jealousies, the more my resolve to hit you all where it hurts (in your bell bags! ) as I won't be backing down.

Do you know what? I do understand why some of you are so negative. Because of your insecurities? You're frightened, a woman is coming to rule the world isn't it?  And your only way to counteract this threat/effect, is by presenting negativity via name calling, abuse, intimidation and violence, all the hallmarks of VULNERABLE LOSERS. So, carry on with your negative attitudes - petty jealousies and, hating as much as you like, bullying as much as want to, intimidating as if N/L belongs to you and your family and the little silly school gang ups you all do here - typical of your IMMATURITY. Hopefully, one day you'd all grow up and accept your realities, it's just round the corner!

sara j:
I am not one bit surprised. ''I don't know who theese iss, she's a customer''.

Nigerian men are just what you can sum up in the last statement.

Sociopathich f***ing liars.

They wouldn't know the truth if it hit them in the face!!!

May they all burn in hell.

I feel sorry for my Naija sisters'.

You deserve so much better. get a appreciative white man.

At least white men admit their flaunts.

I know many naija women who live near me

and their man can't stop f***ing around.

It pisses me off rightly

Except my father, my father is great.

~Sissy~:
and its not even as if the so called males they kill themselves over are any better the females, many of are full of irresponsibility and uselessness but as long as they have a carrot under there, its all good.

Oh Sissy, you can say that again, love you babe! As you said, most of these only children are useless vagabonds. In fact, they are agents of satan that came to destroy their family.  My own cousin (the only son of my uncle) is languishing in Nigerian jail serving life for a very criminal offence (I should not go into here) and this has impacted heavily on our family. Having this kind of a son to carry the family name, does it really worth it? I wonder! Don't worry, time will change the brainless and illogical views of these ignorants in our society.

Not being able to have a male child, is it a crime? I hear some people say how would the family name be remembered? My answer to that is, is it really important? The best example of this is flashing on our faces and minds daily.  Our Lord Jesus Christ never married nor had children of his own - what about him and what further examples could we learn from?  

Also, lesser folks such as Obama, Bill Clinton, George Bush, the Queen's father - King George, all the Holy men of God e.g. the late Pope John Paul and the present Pope/Priests past and present and many other important and influential men of this world don't give a damn (and their names still exist) let alone these insignificant and empty shells we have here, making unnecessary noises for their inability to produce a male child.  They should hang themselves in shame! Since, having male children is a macho thing, and all powers are in their hands, why can't they create the male children they so desperately need instead of making empty noises here. Since it is so easy, why not DO IT YOURSELF!!!!

Imagine, a man battering his wife for his own inadequacy when she should have showed him the door on his first attempt. Well, I don't blame them - the blame is on women! I don't know why some women put up with this kind of crap when they can take control of their own lives. Glad, things like this are happening and women are learning from their mistakes - that's the best teacher shaa!

becomrich,:
Jakumo, I remember one of my experience over here, it was like a gang. Some of the people already know themself. They would talk to each other, and tell sister X to call sister B and say this. And they would now call the sister B and pretend that God have just told them to call them about what sisiter X says. Sister B would start believing that it is God O.

This is how they use to operate here, some of them I later discovered were family members. It was like a mafia or secret occult. It was more of acting out the miracle of God. That can not be God.

A pastor that is here now in the GTA in redeemed, I told my wife she did not believe. So i am put it on the internet , One of thier pastor I spoke to just less than 5 minute about an issue , did not know I was with that person quickly call another person make it look another way.  and quickly call a brother to call the person. Is that a man of God.  NO. I am not a person that tell lies.  If redeemed want to know that pastor, please give me  a call 416 904 5008. I am ready to pay for a polygraph or lie dectector test for this redeemed pastor to prove he is a fraudster. If he is ready to take the test.  So you can see that is no a man of God but a con man or 419 .
Another call a lady that there is demon in her house and broke up the family. telling all lies. And even people thier international passport disappear. How can that person be a pastor. Do you now call that person a prophet of God. NO. Open your eyes very well, so that men do not decieve you.


When I said the word of God is like incantation please this is what i mean. when satan came to Jesus. He did not tell satan go away. He use the word of God. He said "it is written".  It you do not use the word of God. it would not work. By "his word, everything was made."

If you know how to handle his word, you would be sure, with what you can do.

Dis Guy:
well if you keep saying it to yourself online and on paper, tehn you will get the same result, isnt it about time women in the society actually start doing something about it??

i mean you read in the nigerian newspaper; a learned judge sentencing a rapist to  six month prison with the option of a 6000naira fine (£25)  and you wonder what the ministry of women affairs, educated women (those that keep telling the world they want respect), female judges, pastors etc are doing about this barbaric laws in our society!

zoe80:
My humble counsel 2 all nd sundary is that, we shld fear God, and keep His commandments, (Eccl. 12:13-14). God is not joking with His ministers, remember Moses, Aaron and Mariam. They can make mistakes, but we must be very careful as xtians d way we comment on th. Pr 7:11em

ellagold:
This is ridiculous,please note this is beyond just being an African man it is a total demonstration of foolishness and ignorance of the highest order.

African men are wonderful and I will forever be grateful to God for being an African,Nairaland forumites.

The man is the one who have refuse ti grow out of his 17th century mentality.

Oh, oh my brother there are still millions of them out there with this archaic mentality. To change this man's thinking, African Society would have to start respecting their women and treating them as equals in all aspects.  Also, society has to change their beliefs and values as they still have it that having a son means, keeping the family name going and there is no way, a female child could suffice. 

So, to be able to get African men/women to accept a gift of a female child without murmur, you have to wean off, not only Africans but also other 3rd World societies e.g all Asia Countries, South America etc the idea that men are more important than women, this way, you'd begin to make a change.  

However, you have to start from school by teaching kids that everyone is equal irrespective of there sex/gender because, the issue here is not necessarily a matter of sex/gender rather, that of EQUALITY.  Men still think they are superior to women and do not want to accept that women are equal to them in any way, that's where the problem lies (CERTAINLY, WE ARE WHETHER THEY LIKE IT OR NOT. FOR GOD CREATED US ALL EQUALLY IN HIS OWN IMAGE - Come on, argue that and let's see?
IT IS THEIR PROBLEM NOT OURS!!!!!)

You see, my own uncle is one of this kind. He had 7 daughters and cried at each of his daughters birth why can't I have a son? My elder brother had 6 and I keep having girls? Well, God did answer him with 1 boy and twenty something years later, he is now into all sorts of evil - in fact, a criminal.  That's the way heaven rewards people for being ungrateful to God.  In fact, some of these only children do end up spoilt/damaged by family thus, this  defeats the objective.

posakosa:
goodness ----- is this worth All thepurple and big caps----- my eyes-----ooow my eyes----

ovo4u:
If i said am not mad at this your post, that it to say am lieing,because you sound so ignorant to judge your fellow human being, tell me what has this guy done wrong, that you want him to go on fasting a prayiny? He said fela is GOd, and why don't you just read and work off, instead you see things would start happening to him like he would say it juju,Do you forget that it the same that bible that you say our God is Jealous and same Bible that say judge no one,if he said Fela is God,sure let it be and don't be here trying to tell me you know all about God.

I want to ask you so much question about God, just do me favour and answer them:

What do you know about God?
How many Religion's do we have in the world?
Do you know that all every religion believed their people would go to Heaven? just as much as you believed in yours?which am sure would go by Jesus christ the son of God, don't get me wrong, am a christain,but if someone choice a word to describe something as a belief, you don't judge them base on that.
Do you know in the world today christain doubt themself? is this right also in the site of God?
if we are so much in serving the same God,why don't we just follow one day, why million's of God's and what make you think the one you believed is the most high? have you also thought of the other people and those who doesn't believed?
Was Jesus a Nigger or some like those white f**king racism people?

My dear be very careful and don't judge no body okay? if he say Fela is God sure it can be his God, and everything start from someone,do you think the other religion's in heard of today they just begin without no body proceeding it?

Please let who want to praise A praise that A and who want to praise B praise that B, can't you say the the world is in a confusing mode,no body know what is right about religion, and you can prove is the best, so just stick to yours and keep shut.

Thanks! Good you are a "Christian" and sorry if I offended you! But, I can't ignore my brother making a terrible mistake in comparing a mortal human being with our Almighty God! 

I repeat, our God is a jealous God and no one can compare else, their destruction.  You only have to read the Books of Isaiah and Ezekiel (the whole of them - Chapter 1 to end) to realise what can happen to people who do these things. The word of God lives forever!  It never changes.  AS IT WAS IN THE BEGINNING, IT'S NOW AND EVER SHALL BE WORLD WITHOUT END, AMEN! 

You accused me of judging my brother but in my view, I did not however, I respect your perspective.  All I did was warning him about the implications of such act and to PRAY and ask for God's mercy because, I believe he does not understand it. To me and some other people on here, the comment is blasphemous and I know you'd disagree but it doesn't matter. Secondly, I did not say he should FAST but can do so, if he wants after all, we are all sinners and when we HUMBLE OURSELVES and ask for forgiveness, he is a forgiving God and will forgive us so, what's your problem

And to answer your question - I understand there are many religions in the world and many believe they would enter heaven but I must proclaim this, only those who believe in Jesus Christ the only son of God Almighty will see the Kingdom of God, Amen!. The rest is just a joke! And for those Christians you mentioned who doubt themselves, they are not much of Christians anyway and you should not sweat over them, ok!

Their beliefs are not strong and they have no faith in God so, why count them as CHRISTIANS when obviously, they are not. With Faith in God, there is nothing you can not ACHIEVE! You need patience, you need prayers, you need fasting, and you need belief and that STRONG Faith in God to succeed! So, you can see, it's not a journey for the faint-hearted Christians, they have to be  devout Christians in all aspects and not Christians when it suits them! God bless!

Secretz:
Wonders shall never end. . . . but seriously, it's not unheard of, and its fricking pathetic, giving sincere Nigerians a bad name. Anyways, now adays, it's not unheard of for the home office to ask supposed 'genuinely' married couples to consumate their marriage. So we'll see how far others want to get if they try and pull this one. 

OBVIOUS:
Fela is GOD.

You see, I could not ignore this one.  You mean, you compared Fela with our God?  Please, don't get carried away with your emotions, ok! Hope you have not triggered your own downfall?  Can you handle the wrath of God? 

Remember, our God is a 'Jealous God' and nothing can compare with God Almighty.  Please, kneel down now and ask for forgiveness!  Don't delay before things starts happening to you and you start blaming your enemies for doing juju on you. 

Remember, no one is doing juju on you or your family but you, yourself.  You might not have realised you have provoked God with this Fela comparison so, pray and ask for forgiveness before it's too late for you. Think about it if I were you!!!

smasher1:
@ TheBLESSED, Benin-Asaba road has been finished since 2003 same goes for Benin-Warri road. They are one of the best roads nationwide. What part of the earth(world) are you residing and when did you visit naija last. Dont comment on what you dont know possibly because many of you in the diaspora fly with an aircraft you dont have an idea the good & bad portions in the country.