₦airaland Forum

asunaobi:
You are a true Nigerian! May you waka and never stumble and may 2010 bring you a huge success in all areas of your life.

No2Atheism:
- It is this inferiority complex that makes people build glorified prisons and live in them . . .

- Before now i used to wonder why some people go to great lenghts to live build mansions in places with semi-rural settings that contain less number of houses and more natural landscape . . . it is recently that I also realised that I simply can't even bring myself to become huddled up in an area without having at least a plot of land containing nothing other than trees and green grass.

Its unfortunate, but it seems Africans don't understand that they don't need to throw out their former village landscape . . . all Africans need to do is merely replace the old houses with modern ones while still leaving the natural landscape intact. . .

I would love to see Nigeria enact and enforce laws that make people provide spaces for Trees and green grass in their houses . . .

God bless you! You understand what life and living is all about. 

Everyone except those being negative knows that Oyibo knows how to live life and loves living a good life therefore, suffering or excessive suffering is out of question for most of them - they take the quick option usually, SUICIDE. 

In contrast, our people know nothing else but suffering and we are so scared of death, not to talk of suicides when suffering gets out of hand! Therefore, we prefer to suffer till 'D' as they usually would take solace in the saying "No condition is permanent" than kill themselves, otio! !!

This is because, most have suffered a lot in their lives that, they know no difference but sufferings - they are covered with it and would not even recognise a good life if it's thrown at them. Psychologically, they identify with nothing else but struggles.


The main culprit here is, ignorance/short-sightedness and, this is a curse!  God does not want us to suffer this way but, our leaders have ensured we remain in bondage for their own good/benefits.  Is it not our duty to scrambled out of this bondage and assert our rights?

According to someone here, Africans have always live near nature e.g. trees green grasses, bushes, forests and if they are wild so, what? After all, the whole world was once a forest so, what's the heck! But these days, our people could no longer see that living near nature is a good thing that can psychologically, improves their health.  But I ask, how could they see it when they are all concerned and focused on the chase for their daily bread.  Poverty is evil, you know!

Yet, in the midst of this poverty, you have crimes of all kinds hence, according to you, we have glorified prisons as homes and I add, corrugated bunkers as well.  They call these beautiful homes - homes their owners can't even breath in, let alone enjoy.  Is that the Country I should be proud of, really?? A country that can't even offer its citizens basic security - a fundamental Human Right it owes it's citizens. 

For those making noises here, about this obvious truth in Lagos I say please, get a life! Stop this blind patriotisms!   The guy, is absolutely right, get it?

ROSSIKE:
But in a big developing country like Nigeria, in today's world, it would be a big shock if we didn't have slums.

Here's the capital of India below, Mumbai. India is hailed as some sort of ''shining light'' by the western media, who, while quick to highlight African problems, never show the world the true situation in  Asia.

Mumbai, India 

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Sao Paulo, Brazil

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I don't see much by way of ''greenery'' in these places, and they've got more than their fair share of shacks.

So we're not alone in this thing. Let us just try to get things better without  assuming foolishly that everywhere else is so much better than Nigeria.

Wow!!!  What a wonderful and beautiful site these are

Nigerians, we should all aim for these high standards, shouldn't we?  How marvellous? 
You see, poverty is a psychological thing and, it is evil, too! Why is it that poor people always feel guilty at enjoying quality and reasonable life, other people take for granted?  Do they not think, they deserve better? These are questions we poor people should seriously address because, there is something wrong with us somewhere! Our heads, minds and psychs needs to be checked!

If anyone should come up here and say he/she does not deserve a good and less difficulty life, instead of this 'Tinker' lifestyle, there is something psychologically wrong somewhere that no one could help them with, too bad.

Perhaps, it would be nice to call those living in V.I and Ikoye to lower their standards and try this Tinker lifestyle for one day only, and see what they would tell you maybe, you'd start to love yourself as you realise you deserve far better.

Boy, life is too short to waste it in extreme poverty and misery like this.  Again, let me tell you, there's nothing wrong in enjoying life after all, you have only one shot at it and there's no dress rehearsal here, when you'd gone!

!amebo no1:
Is it compulsory for a wife to make love to her husband? if it is compulsory, then It is compulsory to wash your husbands clothes, but BF? i mean what the hell?

I never washed his clothes when i was dating him

No, amebo! That one different o o ! Na mutuality and amicability o o o! Je, je the man catch im monkey

chika98:
The blessed for all of our sakes can you please write in smaller font??

But, why are you reading my essay?  You see, you don't have to read it. Just pass!  Besides, you're powerless over what I write here, understand??

Please, pass and stop looking for trouble, it doesn't suit you!

Kay 17:
typical nigerian response, try to shout down at the truth. it simply means there is a lot to be done.

George_D:
Theblessed, you don't really need to scream to get heard. even if you wisper, the wise ones will still hear you and take caution, ok?

Thanks for your advice! But this is 'Choice' what can you do about it? If you have no powers to change a single letter in this posting, common sense suggests, PASS QUIETLY, huh!

Biabeke:
Most women in Nigeria endure cheating husbands and boyfriends because of the poor economic situation.  As for the married women, they linger in the marriage, because of the stigma that comes with becoming a divorcee.  Nigeria is a very judgemental society.  Let us not forget that.

Absolutely true my sister! Don't worry, things are changing and with the way Technology is penetrating cultures all over the world, Nigerian men would know what 'Hit' them and thus, learn to respect their women.

You see, before, Nigerians never used to travel much but these days, imagine the population of Nigerians abroad, all coming home with new ideas and borrowed cultures.  Sorry, for the TRADITIONALISTS soon they would join the bandwagon and won't be able to salvage what's left of our culture! It's a matter of time!

Esibi:
Where both partners have mutual respect for each other, there is no such thing as 'it is compulsory for the husband or the wife to do one thing or the other'. The exception to this view are the naturally roles of who donates the egg and who donates the spermatozoa.

A woman may be the one empowered to build the family house while the man may be the one available to wash the dishes and cook the familiy meal.

I speak as a married man.

I had to wash my wifes' clothes along with those of my baby and myself just yesterday and I felt happy doing that while she (my wife) prepares our dinner.
There is joy in making life easy for others (most especially for those who you truly love).

harakiri:
If you continue with this bimbo mentality of yours, i promise you. . .fifteen years from now, YOU WILL STILL BE SINGLE! ! !

Mark my words (everyone)

Hey, bro! 

Inasmuch as I don't support the idea of a wife not washing her husbands clothes, I want to make it clear to you that 'marriage' is not COMPULSORY.  It is choice!

In your writing, you mentioned how the lady would still remain single in 15yrs from now as if, marriage is compulsory and in fact, her life would not be fulfilled without it, really Well, I want you to understand that, marriage is not made for everyone besides, there are alternatives to marriage. We were never told that Adam and Eve were married in any Registry Office or Church or Synagogue or Mosque to make them full and complete husband and wife, were we? Yet, they were COMPANIONS to each other and went on to have their own children, didn't they? Doing so, did it change the ideas about marriage or strengthened it?  What they did is symbolic of what most people are doing today however, there is a difference - the law of God is far, far different to that of man. Theirs were God's intention and that's the difference. .  

Again, you said women want children more that men do after all, why do they have their wombs? I would like to word the same question differently - what is the primary purpose of humans (males/female) sex organs? You see, women want children for different reasons from men (emotional, to experience motherhood, fulfilment and to procreate etc) whilst men definitely want them for procreation i.e. keeping the family name 'Rolling' as well as giving them pleasure and a sense of having a child of their own (blood and flesh).  So, both equally need children hence men and women are EQUAL in the presence of God. Therefore, God made this possible through procreation as both could not have children without the other. Try it if you can and see whether it's a macho thing! You both have to bring in your halves to make ONE WHOLE NUMBER i.e produce one complete human being! So, women should be respected and treated as equals because, without their own halves, there's no family name, period! 

Again, having children is not compulsory.  We don't have to have them if we don't want to as having children or not, is one of those CHOICES one has to make in life.  Because it's choice, it's not compulsory that we should all procreate and if it was, why is it that some people are deprived of that by nature - deprived from experiencing the joys of fatherhood/motherhood? Yes, it's true in this modern times, Technology has tried its best at reversing the plans of nature yet, this Technology belongs to God and so far, not everyone is succeeding with its products e.g. IVF (In-vitro Fertilisation) etc because, nature still has control on things - God's will must be done!. 

My brother in your writing, I could sense some antagonisms about women please, respect them and treat them as equals and not as MASTER and SLAVES, not in this modern times, anyway.  If I should borrow your words, 'there are many divorces in the US and the UK' but I ask, who is the loser here Everyone loses but some people lose more than others and that's MEN!

Yes, women would lose their home, security and standard of living hence poverty would strike and strike hard however, men would not only lose money, their home, family unit , sense of self and now wait for the big one - LONELINESS that nearly killed them in the Garden of Eden, remember? So, don't go there! In this modern times, if you really want a peaceful and long lasting marriage in your life, treat your wife with LOVE, RESPECT and as EQUALS that way, she will RECIPROCATE 110% to the envy of your friends and neighbours because, we women know how to give a man a good loving! Try it!!

becomrich;:
Here is it. I am not a church goer, I not a church worker , I am born again. because church goer and church worker does not mean you are born again. Been born again is been transform in your mind.  The real issue is greed and foolishness. 
And when one partner is proud and arrogant. It kills a marriage.
You cant only have a good marriage if you have two humble and honest people. If the other people is a liar and a cheat, you cant have a good marriage.
If a person is arrogant and proud. How can they have good marriage.

If your marriage depend on your pastor or church or parent. You would never have a good marriage. Look I have an aunty whose whole life was destroyed by a pastor. I am telling you the truth. if i am telling a lie her cousin use to be with the NTA, you know her. The pastor was a 419 pastor. He was a pastor because he was collecting thier money and telling them lies.  That why you find me, critic pastor alot. Till this moment I am talking this aunty of mine, never had a baby. She should be about 60 years now. Her married got destroyed because she assume that all pastors are men of God. That not truth. If a pastors is looking for the down fall of your marriage. How can that man be a pastors.

You see let me put it this way have you seen Pastor Adeboye wife going to Bishop Oyedepo church every sunday?  No. If Pastor Adeboye start going to Bishop Oyedepo church , Do you think Bishop Oyedepo would question it. If he is a man of God? But if he does not question it. He is a false pastor. It means , he is more interested in the tithe and offering you offer him than your life.

What Am I saying is that God has a principle. I dont care if you are in North america. There is a principle God as laid in the bible if one person in a relationship does not follow it. The marriage is over.

Take your external family out of your marriage. If your sister, mother , father , pastor and brother are now the people, who determine your life  is finished. Look your brother only care for his children, so is your sister. When they say kill one person. They would shoot your child and let thier only child live. This is wisdom. It is like a story of a witch, they say bring your husband let us eat today, why dont you ask them, why they have not brought thier own husband, so that you can eat him first.??

Look, if you give pastor adeboye a gun and in a boat one person need to live. Your child or pastor adeboye child. 1 second history is made. Why, the yorubas says ti eni te ni, te to te to.  Well I dont  know how to explain this in english. But its means what is your is your and what is others is others.


If you give an igboman the chance to kill an igboman or kill a yorubaman to save one. The igbo man would shoot down the yoruba man several times. Why? They igbos would call it "Nkem". That how life and marriage is. If you take your partner like your, it would work. If your put other thing above your partner like mother, sister, brother, pastor , church and others. Your marriage would never work.

I say it again. The igbos call it   " Nkem"

Kilonso:
Saying that marriage is overrated is just like saying that life is overrated as well. So since there is an Umar Farooq Abdullah, just as there are a numberless of individuals who live their lives with utmost reckless abandon, would not give the room for an utterance such as saying that life is overrated. And I needn't remind anyone here that the life most of us got is as a result of the (so-called overrated) marriages which took places at some points in some time. So an institution such as marriage can never be overrated. Other institutions such as your churches, your schools, your banks and you as individuals could be overrated but not marriage. A number of marriages might have failed, but out of a good number of those failed marriages, inspiring individuals who did a number on us have emerged.
Once other institutions fail. nothing good, and I mean nothing good come out of them from that moment, because they were overrated.

sweetmadam:
@The blessed   Are you trying to blind us with your neon-sign written post? You for erect sign board.lol.

patwhizkid:
Thank God i don't have a brother in that school o.

blinksy:
if u're not destined 2 die of HIV/AIDS, u're nt going 2 contact it. So guys don't b so scared.

tcreations:
well it is a mans world or nature to cheat on their patner and the best thing to done is silence cos i believe it works they will rather start feeling bad try and see