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Pharoh:
This is your answer below

Thank you for saying the truth, please are you a male or female. I just wonder these days why ladies always want to throw in material success, successful career and independent women ideas in a marriage setting when this are not the main issues that will make the marriage to work.

Yes, you cited this post - Quote from: !amebo no1 on Today at 02:28:46 PM
ofcourse, ask genevieve nnaji why shes not married? @topic

But may I ask you, did Genevieve tell you and the poster that she can't find a man to be married to? Obviously, not.  It's from your own assumptions of the reasons she hadn't yet been married up till now. 

You see, you should all get it off your heads that marriage is compulsory - Marriage is not compulsory, ok! It is choice! You do it if you like.  Probably, Genevieve like Oprah has no intentions of getting married to anyone.  They have partners and they are happy and contented with that except people like you. 

Like I said earlier only confident and secured men can handle successful and strong women - not small frightened rodents, ok!  Is about time men should understand that their wives success is ultimately theirs and no one else! Afterall, who married this successful woman?  Is it not you? Thus, the success is yours and only yours and no need to be afraid of your own achievements!

In comparison, Genevieve you mentioned can't have been more popular or notorious than our Christiana Essien Igbokwe in her hay days in the 70's, ok! That's one of Nigerian daughters that put Nigerian women on the map. Respect!!!!!!!!!!!!!

During her time, she was written off, up and down the country that no man would dare touch her with a badge pole let alone marry her and even if they do, she would not have children (abi, you don see her boys haven't you).   However, a brother with foresight saw his chance and moved in - the rest is history. 

Today, Christiana Essien Igbokwe is a successful mother, artist, actress, business woman and more so, who is the looser now People like you who put women down. 

Stop being negative about successful women they are created for a reason and they are meant for special husbands and not for riff-raffs

becomrich,:
Theblessed here is my song for you.

Don moen --- God would make a way.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0hOjYR8UZT8


God will make a way
Where there seems to be no way
He works in ways we cannot see
He will make a way for me
He will be my guide
Hold me closely to His side
With love and strength
For each new day
He will make a way
He will make a way

By a roadway in the wilderness
He'll lead me
And rivers in the desert will I see
Heaven and earth will fade
But His Word will still remain
He will do something new today

becomrich,:
Thebless , if you marry someone in nigeria and run away abroad. Immigration may consider it a fraud. it is a 20 year jail term.

20 years, read it again in canada. Look the period where nigerian come and run away have gone. Immigration now knows that they dump thier citizen and get here to make false claim. You are consider a scam.  While dont you go to prison to see the numbers of nigeria serving prison term.  When you leave your partner before you become citizen they most like would hold on to your paper, they want to find out if you would commit a crime. Your time of getting your papers takes long. if others got thier citizen within a short period. They would hold on to yours and wait till you commit a crime. some wait  several years before they approve your citizenship. They send  information to the police for them to send a copy of your profile before granting you citizen. The police send thier opinion to them .

I was at JFK many year ago and I got delay  by the immigration because they wanted to verify an information. And I saw one arab man chain who was about to be deported. He just finished serving his prison term for immigration fraud, that is what he told me.

if you can marry your husband in Nigeria, dont look at the one in america. It is not worth it. It takes on the average about 5 to 7 years to get immigration paper and about another 1 to 2 years to file for the paper. That is 7 years of your life. Dont you want to wait 7 years for one man. who must have first married a woman before he got his papers. And there is no guarantee to immigration. It is like bingo.

even with paper, I know the hell I suffered. Not to talk of someone who have married someone before.

The immigration service keep a good profile of you. Go and ask Detriot immigration service about me. You can ask pastor james fadele, he would remember when I use to come to his detriot church. then he was the pastor of winner chapel. I mean the head of redeemed church in USA.

I know the hell I go thru. And I had to go to the church 3 times a week from canada.  And the same officer I same yestersday, and I may know him very very well. would still give me trouble.  If I am going back, and may be see him on the job, he would tell me, I am only doing my job. hope no heart feeling.

I have more than enough experience with immigration, that i can write you a book. They have a system that keep ever record of your in and out. They know if you are married or not. If you lie to them. they know.

it is even more difficult if you have been married before. It is like passing thru hell.  It give them a red signal that something is wrong. And they would do DNA and other tests.

You see the other nigerian you talk about, they dont tell you the truth. Thier wife may be living illegal in the USA. more than 80% of the time. You do not want to live illegal anywhere in the world.

If you want to married a person who live abroad. You can find out if he is married abroad or ever married aboard. Go to the USA embassy and ask, if you can prove to them , you are about to get married to him. they may tell you. If the man was married over here. divorce is not that easy, if the other person want to give you problem. It could take you ,

In short to be honest with you do not marry from Nigeria. The person you want to marry in nigeria are mostly 419 that what our experience show us. If you know you want to live here, open your heart and whoever God bring to you.

nigerian here most of them na 419 and Odu. Even when you go to nigerian church, that is the worst.
Your chances of finding a good wife or husband is with those who are born here. But those people who cross over from italy, holland, germany etc,  Olodu , i mean 419.

Look I have been a christain from childhood, and I say loud , I would most likely not close my eyes to most pastors abroad when they are praying. if you doubt me, if anyone is online verify in unilorin, i use go to the UCU, university of Ilorin christain union graduating book, they would find my picture and name. Or you go to the deeper life in Gbagada, many years ago. You can make a request, you would find my name on those student pastor kumuyi use to teach.

what am i telling stay away from trouble, this is how jail looks like. .   Men do not bend down to pick soap in USA jail. go find out the meaning. 

You see this pictures, pick your jail number. stay away from trouble.

If you stay away from nigerian abroad, trouble would stay away from you.  When they pick them up, they would pick you too. They never want to go back to nigeria alone. They start count and listing member. Your name may be among.
Yorubas would say, a man from a good home do not walk about in the middle of the night. 

pick your jail  number 21 or 22 or 23 or 24 or 25.
Me,  gege  ni omo eko lo.

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Hi Becomerich,

Thanks for a very good rib cracking essay and powerful imagery.  I have no intentions to be married again as I am happy with the one I'm with.  When no longer happy will let you know, ok!

Again, thanks for opening the eyes of some people back home thinking of a wonderful good life in the West maybe, they would learn something from this your experience and that of others you interacted with.  Certainly, on seeing these jail cages and the rabbits out of them cueing for a meal or something, any criminal back home would rethink his behaviours - I promise you.  God bless you for posting this for Nigerians because, you love your people and you don't want any one of them back home to end up in these cages.  Cheers! xx   

*Hauwa*:
koolchicco,

can one use dried bitter leaf for bitterleaf soup? will it still taste great?

my mom would say the secret of a less sleepy soup is buying light palm oil not the thick sleepy ones

sweetliet:
how to wash my hands inside d soup after adding salt and maggi

Really? Wash your hand in the soup after adding maggie cube?  What a kitchen skill! No wonder my belly to pain me here.

Whatever happened to HYGIENE AND CLEANLINESS IN THIS HOUSEHOLD Can someone help re-educating this person and don't blame mother please!  Probably didn't have much education herself but the young lady needs plenty of it, help!!!

lostgirl:
I am American married a Nigerian in registry ceremony in Nigeria. Never had a ceremony in U. S. Do I need to go thru the trouble of divorcing him in Nigeria or can I just go on with my life?

tensor777:
Let  me immediately dispel one myth here. Some people are saying it is only God that should punish gays.  That is so wrong. Througout history society has enacted laws and meted out appropiate punishments to deal with those who go against  those laws.
Saying that we should not stand against the abomination of homosexuality is just like saying society should not take a stand against stealing, perjury,fraud,etc because there is divine punishment for sin. That is pure nonsense.

Now, let's get this straight! No one is stopping you from HATING anyone if you like - that's you prerogative! Homosexuals have every rights as everyone else to live a happy, harmonious and secure life and with who they want to live it.  This behaviour has been around for a long time even in Biblical days yet societies all over the world have been unable to eradicate such behaviour, just as they'd been unable to stop, prevent or eradicate those you listed above.  If you like kill them all as you and other heartless beings are proposing here but I can assure you, more would be BORN by next year.  What next would you do then? Continue your witch-hunt and massacre

You see, the evils you listed here (stealing, perjury, fraud etc) could be said to be crime/sins committed against God and Society of which those affected directly suffered emotional, physical pain etc therefore, are justified for a redress/remedy by society.

How then, has homosexual lifestyle directly inflicted pain, injury or stop anyone, getting employment, education, worshipping whatever gods they chose, joining whatever political system they wish, supporting any Football team they wish, driving the smartest car in town if they so wish, living in Hollywood if that's their aim, educating their children abroad if they want, enjoying and living their lives the way they want and having sexual intercourse with anyone they wish?  In fact, some are even having sex intercourse with animals in this country (Nigeria) yet, the same society you are urging here to destroy homosexuals did nothing to such people practising bestiality and there you are, calling for the destruction of another human being just because of their sexual orientations? How hypocritical

Please, pray for God's divine interventions in these matters instead of calling for the killing of another human being as God himself abhors murder (Exodus, Chpt. 20 v. 13) of any kind let alone, a pre-meditated one as you are proposing. He will not forgive you - think seriously about it! Again, I say, they are not stopping you from living your GOLDEN LIFE so, "live and let live". Everyone is accountable to God Almighty one day, and only he can judge, no one else and stop stiring up crisis that never was!

spoilt:
@POSAKOSA and the blessed.

No she was newly pregnant when they met. He was already dating her before she finally admitted to him that she was but I guess it did not matter. 
There are many google hits about it.

http://www.heidiklumfans.com/heidi-klum-and-seal.php

Well, if she was, the story on her list of ex-boyfriends says differently and you too can check.  For all I know, the press at the time indicated she'd already had the baby before Seal was in the picture. Maybe, I'm wrong! Check this part of the story in the list below which suggests baby had obviously, been born and I quote,

"Around the same time of the birth, Heidi began a relationship with musician Seal. Heidi Klum and Seal married May 10, 2005, on a beach in Mexico." Click this now and check for yourself, ok! But whatever the truth, she has a baggage like everyone else which unlike other men, Seal was prepared to overlook to be with her and that's quite nice of him. Considering he's not quite handsome himself, why wouldn't he overlook all these warts and all to be with such a gorgeous woman, abi?   But, may I ask, how many Nigerian men would cope with a woman with this shopping list of ex-boyfriends and still went ahead to marry her? Na waoooooo!

POSAKOSA1:
my EYES-----ooooooow

POSAKOSA1:
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Akanbi_edu:
Madam EFCC lives in Nigeria and there has been, so far, no protest against the woman except on newspapers. If 140million living in Nigeria are not protesting, it could be one of two reasons.[b] Either Madam is doing well or 140million are afraid because they could be shot or manhandled by the ever zealous police. My point is that if you can't protest where there is serious risk, you are a coward who only want to take advantage of a more organized system abroad. [/b]These people who ran abroad thinking the wahala in Nigeria, usually think they can solve our problem here by harassing our public official out there. They are only doing more damage to the country and themselves.  Ever wonder why we are so notorious? It is not only because our leaders are not getting it right, it is also because we Nigerians keep abusing the leaders/country abroad and on any forum available. If you go around abusing your parents because they are theives, don't ever think you have exonerated yourself.

Tell them Ribadus and Elrufai's that their going around to abuse can not solve our problems, it only exposes our weaknesses more.

I repeat, the problem is here. If it is not solved here, it can not be solved.

So, you understand there is something wrong with your country? That there are severe risks to take if challenging your system but, why?  Is your system a Democracy or Autocracy  camouflaged with Democracy or what else? If a Democracy, why such risks? You understand Nigerians have no clue about Democracy - a country where people are afraid to protest peacefully without getting killed by the powers that be or imprisoned for a very long time without trial.  And, there you are calling them cowards! Shows your sense of fairness and justice! You are disgusting!

In writing this and challenging Nigerians abroad to come home and protest makes me sick of you! If you don't know what to say, just pass and stop your provocative commentaries here.  Because, you are unaffected by all the sufferings in Nigeria or should I say, you and your family are so well cushioned from the effects of poverty and misery of millions of Nigerians therefore, Nigerians can all rot if they like. Well, I have news for you and those almighty powers! Tell them, no one system last forever, their day shall certainly come and it's gonna be miserable for them. They think they've got all the powers therefore, on top of EVEREST (not for long) and who should challenge them?  

Never mind, the Almighty God is living above Everest and their day shall surely come, not necessarily in the way you and I might expect but in many other ways even the trillions of our Naira they stole would not save them and their family/friends. There are certain things money can not buy and it can not buy nor guarantee continuous good health! We all know that, don't we? Abacha didn't know his time was up and when it came - he was history! So, keep supporting those doing all the wrong things, ok! KNOWING THE RIGHT THING TO DO, AND FAIL TO DO IT, IS A SIN IN THE EYES OF GOD and you will be answerable for supporting evil.  You can all run but you can not hide!  

Imagine you knowing how corrupt the system you support is, a system that disregard all Democratic principles, known to all that you are challenging Nigerians abroad to come home and fight - would they ever get justice, if need be?? After all, it was corruption, unfairness, injustice and hardship/suffering that drove many Nigerians away from their own country that you are mocking them to come and challenge, you're disgusting! There you are again, trying to present your so called zealous Nigerian Police as the cause of the iniquity in our system. No, they are not rather mere product of the system.

Surely, it was this cruel system that set them up, abi Therefore, an integrated part of an atrocious and corrupt Nigerian Political system, isn't it So, why present the Nigerian Police as the almighty powers that be when actually, the Nigerian Police is only an Appointee by this cruel system and has no such massive powers. Their Oga does what your Oga tells him to do, else? So, if he tells him to kill everyone in the street of Abuja, Lagos, Benin, Enugu, Portharcourt, Kafanchan etc he would certainly do so in order to keep his job, no bi so o o!

Assuming Nigerians abroad accept your challenge and come home, have you considered the Public Order chaos and consequences, that might cause? Have you? Abi, you and those you support would be the first to pack your families in the Private Jet we - the people paid for and disappear out of the country to your safe havens in Switzerland, no bi so o o?? And poor Nigerians would then bore the brunt, isn't it? Imagine, a land people are already suffering and dying, you are inviting more chaos, that suggest the kind of a person you and your kind are! Sadist!

Pharoh:
It will be nice if you don't accuse me falsely, because i don't support your view doesn't mean i am a criminal. No one is traveling we all here waiting for the final outcome. Is it not the same corrupt UK and US you are protesting from, You think they don't have their own personal interest in Nigeria. With all the protesting and conviction Chile is now a better country right? What works for A might not necessary work for B. You could as well condemn the Militants doing it their own way.  

Eziachi:
I think that Nigerian rogue criminals and their relatives are gradually creeping into this forum, you can sense through their stupid comments. So when Gen Pinochet was arrested in London over the crime he committed in Chile during his cruel rule it was through the demonstration only in Chile?

It was Chileans abroad that made all things possible with their demonstrations here in London and with the aid of human right organizations, Pinochet finally face justice, he could face in Chile. Nigerian abroad are starting to wise up to their rogue rulers and they are careful now anytime they are in town to spend their ill-gotten cash. The same treatment awaits Babangida for killing Dele Giwa. U.K Human Right lawyers, for years had prepared case against him and waiting for his arrival and it was leaked to him. Hence since IBB left office he had never touch U.K till today.
He now makes vulture visits with his family to Monaco where he lodge most of his loot in his private jet.
In August this year the son of a governor from Niger Delta was manhandled in a broad day light in Woolwich South East London by a group of Nigeria teenage student and rob him of £4000 cash before the police arrived.  Then he thought he was in Nigeria when he boldly stated how much he had been robbed. The surprised police officers who were amazed started asking how he managed to get £4000 in cash and they put him in their car and drove away for question with many Nigerians around startled.

But what were they doing? You mean they were only retrieving our £4,000.00 without further injuries causing him severe pain and paralysis, eh? They should have given him a life long injury, where he would have been in a wheelchair or stretcher for life and get fed via various choices of feeding tubes e.g NG Tube (nasogastric tube), (EN) enteral or (TPN) total parenteral and (PEG) percutaneous endoscopic gastostomy feeding respectively. Take a pick for him??  I mean, a situation where someone will get to wash him and wipe is arse for him for the rest of his/family life.

Certainly, that's how I feel about them and I wish them all nothing, but DEATH and it will happen. I hate them for ruining our country.   Anyway, I so much thank the Nigerian teenage students for what they did so far.  Let them keep coming here to flash their ill-gotten money, and satan will have their heads one by one.

mr.official:
After all, you didn't say anything about it.

Yes, I did!  If you look closely, you'd noticed I interjected briefly where I said, that it is a blessing and not a jamb question. Sensed you'd prefer I say more on this topic? Well, its really annoying saying much to deaf ears when Nigerians could not even do any thing to rid themselves of these SUCKERS!! We are a nation of BIG MOUTHERS and DO NOTHINGS - that's what we are known for. 

If 'twas a case or topic involving women wanting EQUAL Rights from men/society, y'all would have been up in arms displaying your machismo and querying who gave us right to talk. . Now, I challenge you all (who call yourselves MALES) to show the same venom by physically going up to Abuja and drag Yar'dua and his henchmen onto Nigeria's HOT SEAT to answer the people instead of shouting women down when they ask for their rights. So, go show your male ego at Abuja Capital and let the world see, you can actually change the Country instead of talk, talk and more talk. . 

Anyway, Nigeria's oil is really a BIG, BIG BLESSING and God knew why he endowed Nigeria with this resource. Not because, Nigeria is Righteous country but because Our Heavenly Father knows she deserve it else, it wouldn't have been allocated to Nigeria. It would have been given to another country but unfortunately, it seemed cursed by tribalism, religious differences, inefficient and talentless leaders lacking creativity and foresight.

You see, none of these leaders have achieved anything they can be proud of, in Nigeria let alone on the International platform. Since they are not proud of themselves, how could they be proud of their own country in order to seek her better future.

They don't love themselves and can not love our beautiful Nigeria blessed with OIL, SAND AND SEA + MORE, MORE AND MORE!!!. Very sad, indeed!

saxywale:
jamb question,,

sandas:
i will say that white women have tendencies of cheating more than black women because of the society they live in.i have heard some stories that some white women that get married to black men. sleeps with some of their husband's brothers or friends if they go to visit them, but if they refuse to sleep with her she will throw the men out of their house.some even go to the extent of telling their husband that they want to sleep with his friend.because they don't view as anything, they just view it as expressing their feeling.which in black women society it is frowed upon to cheat as a woman although black women cheat too but in a decret manner.it is more rampant that the husbands of  some white women looks for men to sleep with their wife if she wants but, in black society it like a taboo.and it is a white society that u see wife and husband swap that the man can sleep with another person wife and the woman can sleep with another person husband in black women society that is frowned upon.

Absolutely right Sandas!  You got it! I have never known of Wife and Husband swopping until I arrived on this Island. They are still doing it as we write this! I can't imagine how I could share my own beautiful and God given Willy with another woman, otioooooo! My pride and joy which my husband has vowed upon his life belongs to me, with another women?  Known or unknown?lol!!!   Naaaaaaaaaaaa! Don't even think it! But, how can I love my husband this much and, allow him to go and share such intimacy with a stranger? It baffles me! Never, never, never!

To be honest, I am still wondering how some of these White women do it. Strange!!! But that's not to say, if one should look closely that, one would not find pockets of Black men/women here and there practising it.  They certainly do as our people are good at emulating/copying any thing they see in the West. If some of them would participate in party which is equally another name for 'wife/husband/girlfriend/boyfriend swopping' what makes anyone here doubt this? Hell, no!!!

eldee:
Thank you . . . this is exactly what I was trying to explain.
Social exclusion is the capital punishment for going against societal norms and disrespecting values . . . thats what a woman in Africa gets for cheating.
African women are scared of that . . . it doesn't apply to the men though.

say-d-fact:
take your time, u sure can survive without a 200k car, dat 1 na trouble u dey look for especially if your route follow 3rd mainland bridge, i pity u, cos thieves self go dey call u customer, 

Wow! You are original and you've made my day with your rib cracking jokes! You're the funniest man I'd ever seen on here.   Please consider, stand up COMEDY for career.  Sure, you will make!! You're absolutely hilarious!! Keep cracking those jokes!!!!