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There are people , then there is your Father. It's easier to have peace if it is a stranger than if it's your trusted friend or family, not to talk of Father.

thor=Ventura1 post=98374327]If up to the moment you saw the bat, nothing evil has happened to you, worry less.
Every human possess the right to choose whatever works for them, the moment you understand this and begin to respect people for the choice, you begin to have peace.[/quote]

If as you say your Father prays and fasts and attends Bible school, then He is at best a chritstian who is suffering from a pre-conversion disposition which attempts to live a Christian life with a diabolical mindset. And at worst He is a hypocrite, who doesnt truly believe in God but uses religion as a cloak for His dark ways.

Ask Him to explain to the Bat in His wardrobe to you, that you may know the truth. For only the Truth will set you, ,and hopefully your Father, free.

DNP2020:
Very Strange Experience With My Father. Should I Be Worried?

Hello guys.. the background behind this story is lenghty so to spare you the trouble ill jump straight to the point. My father though he has his flaws is a very religious and i dare say principled man in some aspects.n He never misses church service. Went to bible school. At one point he was even a house fellowship leader. He prays and fast often.

So on this day i was standing in the doorway to my dads room. He wanted to send me on an erand ''i think'', so he opened his wardrope to get to get the money. Immediately he opened his wardrop i saw a BAT...yes BAT hanging upside down right there in his wardrope. In shock i jumped and shouted

''daddy see bat see bat !!!''.

Guess what he did. He simply smiled and gently closed his wardrope. I have never been this confused. I saw a bat hanging upside down in his wardrop and all he did was smile and gently closed the door. I don't know what to make of it. I have already concluded, there is no way on earth this is from God. Up until this time i have never seen a bat up close in real time. The closest ive been was watch them on television. Contemplate how scared and confused i am now. I picked up an excuse and ran out of the house to go stay with my relative..its been a week since i left and im still too scared to go back.

What do you folks make of this? How can a man who prays and fast and attends bible school have a BAT in his wardrope. WTF !!

Theres a part two and this one is about my mother.

Don't marry Her? Don't run away! Just let Her be and Let Her go! Because She is confused. And YOU are confused. And right now, the only thing both of you can do is multiply confusion.

Forget about relationships for now and get your act together.

uote author=Tbadbad post=98242162]Hello everyone, ‘my story is long but I will skip some to try to make it short, sorry for my grammatical error, I am not a writer and I am writing with pains and I might made some mistakes, please bear with me.

I have been dating my wife to be since 2017, I have been taking care of her and everything, the truth is I was hearing some funny stuff about her since I met her but I didn’t take it serious because I trusted her and I really thought she was decent from every other girls.

When I met her, she told me she had only dated 3 boys for have sex only three times, her first boyfriend and two other girls she met in school. I really believed her because she was acting decent.

At a point I began to suspect her when I started hearing some stuff about her but I didn’t pay attention because I trusted her, sometimes when I asked her if she ever dated some one else or cheating on me, she will just turn the whole thing to quarrel and I will just lock up.

Fast forward to 2020, I got her pregnant before I left Nigeria, we did introductions, but she lost the baby during child birth which was so painful to us, but after some month I begin to hear some news about her, and I confronted her and threatened her that I have proof, which she confess to me that she has dated about 3 boys, slept with them several times, she also bleeped 2 girls just once and they didn’t date, she just had crush on them and bleeped them before she met me, and she cheated on me when she found out I was chatting with my ex’s, she couldn’t bear the pains even after begging her, sex her and still give her money to school, the same week she met a guy and bleeped him because she wanted to ease her pains, and 2019 when we had little quarrel, she met a guy and bleeped twice because she thought we broke up (what happened was that we had little argument and I have her money to sch and we didn’t talk for a week, that week she met a guy and stayed dated him because she thought we broke up).

I was heart broken when she told me, and I wanted to brk up, her parents begged me and they never supported her and they were even surprised she could do such thing because she came from a very decent background. I forgave her but I still have the pains in my heart, we always chat everyday, because of corona things are some how and I don’t have money like before, she begins to show me some attitude which is not really comfortable and I explain things to her and she apologized.

So last month she told me since I left she have been having sexual urge to sleep with a girl because she have been watching lesbian porn, that she promised never to cheat on me with a man and it’s taboo but she wanted to have sex with a female, I was so shocked and didn’t know what to do. She said she just started having the strange feelings because she have been watching lesbian porn since I left, I feel like I don’t know anything about her, I wanted to brk up now because she is begging me and she is saying she is just trying to be truthful to me because she promised herself never to hide anything from me or lie to me. What should I do? Should I continue to be with her and marry her? Or run away? Mine she have never slept with a woman before and she has always hated lesbian but because I have been a way since feb 2020, she usually watch porn to help herself. Pls what should I do?[/quote]

Don't get it twisted, the pressure was to get #Trump out! because , for the majority, nothing could be worse than #DonTheCon

Odewaleadesoye:
Firstly, congratulations once again to President Joe Biden and Vice President Kamala Harris.

I pray that God will uphold them.

Honestly, it won't be funny if these people disappoint the world at large because the pressure is too much on them as if they are the saviours of the world.

Well, God will direct their steps.

They won't fall.

They won't lie like the owner of this cap

Do you think those wicked people have peaceful sleep?
If you like sit at the top or the bottom of the heap
What you sow is what you will reap,

malcom1X:
Take a look at Nigerian politicians taking our money. I want to ask you one question, is God punishing them?

No. Because this world has been given over to the prince of this world, he controls everything. When the rapture comes, what will be the ratio of good people to bad people.

Think. You either follow the train or not.
I noticed this 5 years ago.

The good people have been punishing the bad people for so long and now the bad people are 5
takung over the world and you will do nothing about it. The police can't save you. You know it.

Gbogbowa:
Trump is the best that has happened to American in the last four years,sir you join to remove jonathan and install bihari here we are today,very soon the world will start having war starting from isreal,I rest my case

You have no case.

malcom1X:
This is not Trump's last day in office.

But the truth is you need to do something bad to be accepted in this life. That's why they hate Trump.

I pity your children, if this is what you (will) teach them. Do something bad to be accepted indeed... #SMH

Bunmacy:
damn you don't use your brain at all!! I'm very sure you didn't make it to ss3. I warn your types to stay off the post. If you can't think you can't get the message in the post and I will never simplify it for you dumb squid!!

Hahahahahaha

Hmmmm..

There is a lot to unpack here. I may have to come back later, but for now let me just say if you guys were really ok until May last year-apart from "minor issues", then there is hope for restoration. But something will need to change, for change to come.

I would have said you should speak with someone whom He respects and holds in high regards, like maybe His Mum and hopefully not His nativ3e doctor

Vevejoy:
Plesse forget the errors and focus on the content.

So here's my issue.

I've been married for 6yrs and it's been a blissful journey- of course with minor issues here and there but nothing to worry about until May 5th 2020 when I'd say things turned upside down.

We live abroad and struggled to have kids but God finally blessed us with a beautiful daughter in Sept 2019. Child care being super expensive here, we wanted one of our moms to come help us with the baby when I return to work after my maternity leave. So on the eve of our wedding anniversary which was the 4th of May last year, I asked my husband for the say 10th time about beginning the procedure of bringing a mom over to help since I'll be returning to work. He asked which mom and I said in my exact words; "of course my mom" because I know that when a woman gives birth, her mom usually go to help her. Did that change our story? My God, marriage has been one hell of a thing since that day.

My husband said I am selfish, disrespectful, and want to dominate him. He said things will never be the same again and since then, my marriage has been a stress zone.

My husband is numb to my feelings. He's been ignoring me, I've been a nag I'll admit since tue incident last year. I now talk alot and mostly complain about everything whenever we are together. It's sad and I've actually had conversations with myself to ignore him and stop nagging but I continue to do it, I need help on how to shut up and observe.

I can cry from now to die kingdom come and this man wouldn't be moved. He cannot shift his stance because of me at all. He does whatever he likes and disregard everything I say. E.g before this crisis, we had an appointment to see our Dr to start trying for baby number two because the Dr's advised that since we just had a baby, it's best to try for another soonest given that we had challenges conceiving the first one. This man cancelled the appointment with our Dr and has blatantly refused to start trying for a baby right now. He says when the time comes he'll let me know. Up till now the time has not come despite the fact that delaying may impact our chance of conceiving again. What a life!� � �.

Also, he has decided that no parent will come and I'm back to work already. My poor baby who use to sleep till 9am now suffer in this winter getting up at 6am to be dropped off at daycare all because her father is angry and want to make sure he doesn't do anything that will make his wife smile. He'll rather spend thorns of money paying for daycare even after I've told him that I don't mind his mom coming. Mind u, I have a very good relationship with my inlaws, especially my mom inlaw so it's not an inlaw fight.

The worst of them all is that despite living abroad for 17yrs, this man believes so much in native doctors to the extend that I can't even explain. Infact it's something that I've always fought him about and talked against. I've even complained about it to his family. And guess what, when I talk against, he tells his native drs who of course has ignited the fire in our home. Can you believe that in this chaos this man took me on a vacation in August last year that he wanted to clear his mind so we can start a new chapter and be happy again only to tell me that I have been trying to use a charm on him in the past months thats why things got rough. He said the 3 women I am using appeared to him but he is stronger ����. I am laughing because I felt pity and ashamed for him. How can a grown man be this vulnerable to suitsayers? I have never in my entire life visited a native doctor for myself not to talk of going to take a charmI didn'tvisit the native drs when I was strugglingto have a baby and this man thinks I'llvisit one now to charm him. Wondering y he will even believe such a thing. Infact I don't even know any native doctor. So when he said that, I told him that if I had known that his change of attitude is because of this stupid reason, I would not have fought for my marriage like I did. Of course I got so mad and told him a piece of my mind. I am even ashamed of telling people that despite this man's exposure he consults native Dr's in Africa more than even the people in Africa. Infact if they say yes that's what he listens to. He has even paid a flight from here to Africa because a native Dr told him that his dad who raised him to be the man he is today is trying to kill him and he should come for protection.

I decided to tell his mom about the accusation. His mom told me she scolded at him and warned him never to say such nonsense. Well I just pity him and I'm praying for him. But truth is I regret my marriage to him because of these his believes. I just don't believe in divorce and don't even have the heart to move out I would have done so. Mind u, I am 100% independent so it's not an issue of being scared of surviving alone.

Well one Sunday night as usual I talked to him like crazy and he said "all he wants is for our relationship to work and he will put in his best effort with support from me. I said I want same and will put in my best effort with support from him too*. This happened around september and things have been like normal on and off since then.

I have a few worries which I'd like you to advise me on the way forward.
- My husband is heartless. No matter how I lament, cry, beg, approach him nicely. Infact no matter the manner in which I bring up an issue to him, he doesn't get moved at all. He stays on his stance and doesn't care. How am I suppose to live with a man like this. He goes mute when I try having a conversation with him.

- I have a weakness of talking alot which I acknowledge and I'm doing my best to work on it though I'm yet to change completely. But I can say there's a huge improvement. Infact I'm able to walk away now.

Can a marriage really work out out without a compromise from both parties? I feel like I am compromising alot but this man is doing whatever he likes. In all of these he doesn't cheat but has abused me physically 4times in our 6yrs of marriage which I'm still pained about. The worst abuse right now is emotional abuse and I've told him so several times.

We use to be an exemplary and happy couple up till this may 2020. What will you do in a situation like mine With? With a man like my husband who I'd say lacks empathy and a concience how do I deal with him? His mom said she talked to him but I don't see any difference.

I feel miserable right now in my marriage. Since I got married this is our hardest hit and unfortunately it got prolonged probably bc of his native Dr's who told him I am using a charm on him which he believed.


Help me out please

Bunmacy:
A food not meant for all is not to be considered edible. Only deep thinkers will decode. S*x War Threats.

Potential paedophile spotted.

Kriss216:
Women and their self-centered attitude. You don’t want your fellow woman to enjoy the gbola with you. They will hoard their kpekus from men and still our gbola from their fellow women. Wicked gender!






I’m a bit confused here.

Don't be confused:

A 20 year old married GIRL,
who was likely bethroted at less than 14,
Allegedly killed a 17 year old girl,
For dating Her Husband since She was 11
And planning to marry Him on the 9th
Probably due to girl - child level of jealousy and emotional immaturity.

What is confusing me now is how old is the Man sef?

I am Happy if She's Happy. I only hope that is not Make-up I see, on the face of the infant baby.

Abdulazeez99:
Nollywood actress Etinosa Idemudia has revealed the face of her daughter and her name Ofure Izoduwa Christabel, Igbere TV reports.

The Warri born shared the cover of La Mode magazine which they both covered on Instagram on Monday.



https://www.instagram.com/p/CKLkFvDhW-X/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Etinosa welcomed her daughter on December 26.

She did not reveal the father of her child.

Decide WHAT you want for your life, before you decide WHO you want in your life!

Money2000:
Hello NLers... Sometimes ago, I was in dilemma to leave my loyal and faithful girlfriend...
Guess what? I finally caught her cheating. She was double dating for 3 months (dating myself and one other guy).

I have dated this babe for 4 years, until I caught her cheating. I was so angry that I ended the relationship.
I am in a new relationship anyway, but I can’t seem to find the friendship I had with my ex.

I sometimes feel I go extra miles to impress this new girl (not like she bills me, but I caught her one time receiving money gift from a guy, whom she claims that they are just friends, and that she would stop talking to him) although she appreciates every little thing I do. She has also been supportive.

My ex apologized and beg me to reconcile things with her, but I thought I love this new babe more than her... so I told her to move on. After like 2 months, she has finally moved on oh.

The problem now is that, I am beginning to miss my ex so much, the friendship we had, the mind blowing s*x and some other experience we had together, how we have helped each other grow in life financially (my ex was with me when I was broke and had nothing) P.S: my new gf is kind of boring in bed, her pre-intimacy game and s*x is nothing compared to my ex (I prefer my ex)...

These days, any small thing, I am dreaming of my ex, seeing her in my dream, which makes me very happy... but when I wake up to reality, I become sad because it’s just a dream.

I have taken this my new gf to family, and I’ve also met her family too...

Now, I am in a dilemma if to go beg my ex for reconciliation because I miss her so much... I think I have actually not moved on...

I need your advice pls

deantimes:
http://saharareporters.com/2021/01/15/sokoto-cleric-kukah-challenge-nigerian-government-and-we-will-crucify-you

This kind of god that can only convert people by force of violence or by fear of death, is that one a god?

deantimes:
http://saharareporters.com/2021/01/15/sokoto-cleric-kukah-challenge-nigerian-government-and-we-will-crucify-you

With Imams like this who will be convinced that Islam is a tolerant religion of Peace?

Isn't this plain and simple terrorism, when He says not even the government will be able to stop them?

What is the difference between this and Boko Haram?

What is the DSS waiting for?

eddynaira125:
This are mathematical laws that u should obey,


U can't ask God y thou shall not kill



2*3= lll lll. Three in two places

0*3 =. Means 3 in zero places

That's is y we arrive there as our final ans

The first two lines of your post were not necessary to answer the question= 0

The last two lines of your post is a very intelligent and sufficient answer to the question = 1

In the end, it's all Ones and Zeroes.

AustineJohn908:
Then why was the President given the Power to grant Pardon to anyone? Didn't I heard he pardon some guy some few months ago?
So then if he can pardon that guy, who says he can't pardon him self

You obviously didnt read or understand my last post.

I will just say again, stop talking authoritatively about things you have no clue about. Research first before you talk so you don't go around spreading ignorance.

AustineJohn908:
You forget he is still President and can grant himself Presidential pardon if he pleases and not even Biden can change that.
So bro be calm, Trump is not going to Prison. he has lost today but he will come back stronger tomorrow in 2025 I think..(That's if he chooses)
and one thing I'm assure is that if Biden fails, Americans who voted against Trump will not fail to vote for Trump come 2025 if Trump chooses to run

Please show me the Stupid American Law that allows anyone the power to pardon themselves.

How possible, anywhere in the world, is it to Pardon ones-self or anyone else for a crime one has not been found guilty of? Can you see how illogical it is.

In that case, He is free to go on a serial killing and raping spree over the next few days, then pardon himself before 12 noon on the 20th.

Do you think the framers of the Constitution were that stupid Try not to talk authoritatively of things you don't know about.

whyteteeth:
First and foremost I am a 2.2 graduate. But from what I have seen so far, I have come to discover that job adverts specifically give preference to first class and 2.1 graduates and very few give room for 2.2 applicants. And I am yet to see any job specification that includes graduates of third class degree.

Now someone with a third class degree can only do masters after completion of a postgraduate diploma. However, job advertisements for lecturing positions still lay emphasis on minimum of 2.2 for lecturing positions. So a third class degree applicant who has masters and PhD still doesn't stand a chance as compared to first and 2.1 or 2.2 applicants.

So my question is, what is the way forward for third class graduates, should they abandon the degree and enrol for another first degree? Or universities should abolish the award of third class degrees to graduates.

In my own opinion, students who have poor grades that will eventually earn them a third class degree should be given some form of remedial programmes for a year or two which will attract additional fees so they can have opportunity to boost their grades and at least earn a 2.2 upon graduation. Just my opinion!

Please feel free to make your contributions as well. There are a lot of third class degree holders out there who are really frustrated and would want some advice on what to do!

If drop outs are running the world , Gates, Jobs, Zuckerberg e.t.c then you can do or be anything you want with a 3rd class.

Some of those drop outs have gone on to be visiting lecturers, graduation commencement speakers and honorary degree holders.

Just focus on and boost your own internal CGPA.

Hongkog:
If Trump is a dictator what more of Jack Dorsey and Mark Zurg?

About her political career, chill and watch how she will becomes the FIRST FEMALE PRESIDENT OF AMERICA. Her politics is second to non man, it's way too big.

I don't understand you people who keep comparing the president of a country with CEOs of private companies. Were Jack and Zucl voted in an Election? Are Twitter and Facebook a country #SMH

Kriss216:
Dear men, never inform your wife before you carry out DNA test on your child/children.

Research by WHO shows 99.897689% of Nigerian women will oppose the idea of carrying out DNA on their children.


Dear Women, if to close legs never taya you, don’t marry! we need you unmarried so we can desist from committing adultery.

Where is this WHO research you are quoting.

ImDStar:
I am likewise on this table.

3m budget
Civil Engineering HND
3-4 years of working experience
I will be 31 this year
I am Single (but getting lots of pressure to marry my long time girl.)

But I just want to travel out of this country.

I am in a serious dilemma now.

Someone should genuinely advice please.

Before you decide to Marry a Woman, you should be clear in which Direction you are going.

This is why you should think of what you want, assuming you don't have a girl. What would be your choice. When you are sure, bring Her into the picture only if you think She fits and if you are committed to Her.

Then you guys can find a way to make it work.

But if She say She no won go, then its an indication you might not be able to make it work. Then maybe its time to let Her go. You're still in your early 30s.

Whatever you do, don't marry because of pressure, the people pressuring you will not come and build your marital home with you.

Hongkog:
Pure truth.
The democrats used Twitter and Facebook to Influence the elections, they're going to pay for it .

If the President's account can be banned then we're not safe. Anytime we say something that Jack or Mark Zurg ain't okay with they can sensor us without a second thought.

For those who don't believe that the ILLUMINATI exist what happened in the US should make you understand that they control all the Big companies and are everywhere. All the popular social media can't barn 1 person for some false accusation except for the fact that everything is engineered by the illuminati, truth be told trump didn't encourage any violence. Anyways God will not let his servant see disgrace. CALAMITY WILL SURELY OVERTAKE THE WICKED AND THOSE WHO HATE THE RIGHTEOUS WILL BE PUNISHED.

The thing is they have been censoring you and everyone else, even without shutting your account. They know how to promote what they want and quiet what they don't want.

SAMBARRY:
yinmu

The woman that didn't show signs of sickness and died all of a sudden.ahannnnnn

You too add 2+2 and check am na.how old are you sef?

I sha hope you are not a teenager if not odabooo

Hahahaha... You keep bringing age into the matter. Enjoy your old age ooo.

jansonn:
But seriously, I speak based on my experience!! I live in Kaduna state and I'm neither a northerner or muslim, it's important to state that el rufai is one of the best gov in Nigeria based on infrastructural developments!! Most of you might say he's a fanatic and a bigot but this man doesn't care about anyone whether Hausa or Christian, presently he has demolished over 5 major markets in the state from which his people (Hausa) majorly feed from. One of the woes of his gov is this banditry and kidnapping, that has single handedly destroyed every other thing he has done for this state.
Also, el rufai is sturborn, he doesn't listen to anyone, I'm sure the advices are just there as appointees and nothing else and he doesn't really care what the people will go through from whatever policy he's making but if we base performance in structure, advancement, roads and educational policies, el rufai is the best both in the north and Nigeria

A balanced and well put point. More of this on Nairaland, please?

SAMBARRY:
continue forming woke

Omode n'shey e

Don't people die of natural causes or illness again.?

Continue being foolish by acting on mere suspicion and superstition without verifiable evidence.

Its people like you that will kill an Old Woman because an Owl flew into Her compound and you didn't see it fly out. Owl wey God create ooo. #SMH

Lordswazz:
Story. First it was "Mueller report will remove him," then "impeachment," none worked. He'll be fine bro.

You're still going back to when He had immunity. And don't forget He was impeached.

Now we are taking about crimes preceding His Presidency like tax evasion and His many treasonable actions while He was there.


But let's not get ahead of ourselves.

Neddstark:
When Antifa rioted and burnt police stations, you didn't seek to frustrate the sponsors. But on Trump's case, he is the greatest evil ever.

Who were the sponsors of Antifa ?

At least with the invasion of the Capitol holding Confederate flags (a treasonable offence) and guns, leading to the death of five people- we all know it was the lying, narcissistic, divisive and sore loser, clown in the White House that sponsored and incited them.

Lordswazz:
Regardless of all the shenanigans, he's an ex US president and by far the richest ever. There are also millions of Americans who idolize him, so he'll be fine in the end. He be entitled to every benefit all ex-US presidents are entitled to by law.

He will no longer have Presidential Immunity from prosecution and the cases are going start coming from left right and centre. Let's see whether His "Ex-President" status will help Him then.

Kriss216:
The year just started, but, I nominate this post as the Most Foolish post of the year!



Trying to compare staying in Canada and staying in Nigeria should be treated as a Criminal offence.

Have you been to Canada before?

hush15:
Then you know nothing about loyalty...

I agree, I don't know anything about your warped definition of "Loyalty" which means staying Loyal even if it means compromising my values, the safety of my friends and Family and the constitution I swore to uphold.

I hope that is not the kind of "Loyalty" you will teach your children. Otherwise, this country is in serious trouble.

SAMBARRY:


Wontifi shetutu

Wontifi Shogun owo

Wontifi renew owo won

Some Nigerian's sha. People cannot die again without it having anything to do with Ritual Killing or some other suspicious something. #SMH