I don't mean to cry over spilt milk, but next time, never, ever, ever let them take your car.
Plus, i don't want to encourage bribe giving or taking, but those 120k guys would have collected 5k 'abeg', if the car was not in their possession or if you did not seem so desperate. Even after they took it, they could have still agreed for less than 10k, especially if they could avoid sharing it with some 'Oga'.
Finally just chuck her initial reaction up to her being upset and frustrated. Who wouldn't be, if they came out of the market to see that their car was not where they parked it? In this Lagos??
When She cools off, try to let Her know, you understand She was upset, but that Her words made you feel some kind of way. ( Take responsibility for how you feel). Then move on. You don't need to announce that you will no longer be driving Her.
If She shows understanding of how you feel/felt and apologizes, you can let bygones be bygones... otherwise bro, keep moving on.
maikbanj: Good evening fam. I just want to drop this here even though I feel it's not the right thread. I like the romance forum.
I have a colleague at the office and she lives not too far from me. I have a good relationship with her husband as he's a Yoruba man. It happens she's still a learner and isn't too good driving. Although,she tries and I kinda supervise her but she never listens. She just wants to do her own thing. I end up driving almost every time
On our way back from work today she drove and she wanted to branch at a market to purchase some groceries so she was looking for where to park her car. I showed her a place and she said no that the place was too deep. But cars were parked there. I left her alone and she parked close to a bus stop. When she left,I was just in the car pressing my phone and Task force came and impounded the car. I tried pleading but to no avail. They asked if I was the owner of the car and I said no that it's for a colleague and she was going to be with us soon. The plea fell on deaf ears and they drove me and the car to the police station close by.
I tried calling my dad to know if he knew anyone there as he usually have lil connect but he said no. So I tried going back to where we parked so I could tell her what happend and where the car was. Fortunately, before I got to the gate of the station she was walking like a soldier angry saying why did I let them carry the car and all. And I told her how I pleaded and how they wanted to lessen the tire if I didn't give them the key. Still she was furious and was talking plenty things that got me annoyed that if it was my car would I have allowed them carry it that wasn't I a man to handle them.
The people said for violating I was going to pay 120k. And I just didn't know what to say. So I was like let's call Baba(her husband ), just to know if he had a connect. And she flared up saying what kinda talk was that and all like I was her baby or something. She said things that got me angry and I told her it's indeed not her fault and I kept quiet.
In the end I did some transfers and she gave some amount too.
I have made my decision not to drive her again because I was really hurt with the kind of things she said. And when we were heading home I called her attention to it gently. Yet she was saying why would I have allowed them carry the car that if it was my car nko. And lots of things.
I don't want to ruin the relationship I have with her husband
Please I need to be advised because I have crossed my mind not to drive nor go with her anymore
1. Ambassador Sheik Gumi, ambassador to bandits, defender of terrorists and Chief of banditry intelligence. And
2. Governors Mattawalle & Co. Chief differentiators between Bandits and Criminals, Key Negotiators with terrorist and silent bearers of shocking revelations on those behind the terroristic and bandistristic kidnapping...
Over to you. He who compromises with criminals today will live or die to compromise another day. Enjoy the monsters that you made.
Until the price of Turkey and Titus goes up. I am not a fan of beef, but i am not so naive to think that a scarcity of beef will not impact the price of other animal protein.
BabaOwen: I've been eating turkey and Titus. Let them go to hell with their cows wey no dey sweet sef.
I don't know if you over reacted. Maybe She's the one over reacting. But next time try to avoid this approach of combing through a list. Just give Her what you have. Let Her know it's what you can afford, for now, and tell Her to please try and make it work.
Henrymorre: I will try to make this story very short.
So I've always loved my babe, buy her stuffs, gives her money, takes her out, etc. So tomorrow is her birthday, and she has a very bad hair. We where talking over on phone yesterday, and she asked me to send her money to make her hair, plus she also said she doesn't have money to do her bday, and wants me to help her on it. Well, I wanted to help her do her bday shaa, just to make her happy, but I can't carry all the responsibilities alone, so I said no to her getting money to do her hair. I told her to make her hair by herself or wear a wig, since I will be ,
Paying for hotel Buying the cakes Buying the drinks Buying the meat Calling DJ to play song for her and her friends Plus giving her a gift..
She started acting all up, that she will do the bday with her friends that she doesn't need me in it anymore, that her friend will make her hair for free blah blah, and she will sleep over at her friends place. Etc
So guys the question, is this lady really a wife material? Or someone who is just there to eat money and go?
Is there no rule of Law? No process for investigation? No apprehension of criminal elements? No bringing of any one to justice And you think they wont kidnap again next week?
In case you do not know, the Attorney General has one of the most sweeping powers of any public official, under the Nigerian Constitution. (Sections 174 and 211) He/She is an appointed- not elected- official. Their duty is to the country not the party.
PaChukwudi44: How can a mere Attorney General be more powerful than a whole National and International Leader of APC and the most powerful politician in Nigeria
This reminds me of the parable of the "Fox and the Grapes"
#SourGrapes
Kriss216: I went to the market yesterday to buy cow meat for stew. They said no cow meat, I kukuma buy One old layer chicken, N2400. I use am cook stew and one wicked pot of Egusi soup. There's this joy anytime I opened my pot of stew and see the head of the chicken smiling at me.
In this whole story, where did you see "friends" to be minimized / avoided or "unsuspecting insiders"??
Try not to see every issue only through the lenses of what is doing you?
P.S. Don't forget to see the good Humankind, that was Humane and kind enough to notice and save the kids from the evil ones
chatinent: Humankind is the most evil thing that happened to earth.
I tell people to minimise the friends they keep, and bring home. If possible, have no friends.
In every death attack, there is every tendency that there must be an unsuspecting insider.
(Chews kolanut)
Ka a sịkwa ihe mere Chineke ji kwaa mmakwaara maka ike ụmụ mmadụ!
Humans are very wicked!
Don't tell anyone about anything good you intend doing; it builds up a citadel of envy in them! Don't tell them about what you intend buying!
(Hmmmmms)
These evil people are our neighbours, social media chat mates, and our religious members! They will stop at nothing to yes their get-rich-by-all-means mentality.
Eniyan buruju.
Mafi munin abin da zai iya faruwa da kai shine dogaro da abokin karya.
(Crosses hands) It's not as though there are many real friends! Everyone around you is selfish; all for benefits in one way or another!
What's really bothering you about the placenta, Sir? As in Ki ni big deal?? I don't think the issue is the placenta but your belief that She is trying to take over your marriage and your wife is carrying Her along. Or something close to something to similar to something that is equally proportonal to that.
Now you are dragging your child into a problem that started between you , your wife and mother-in-law . Right now, i think you should keep your feelings and ego aside, and focus on that child, like a responsible Father, Sir !!!
TainyLite: Last week Tuesday, my wife gave birth to a son which is my second born... She has been staying at her mom's place due to misunderstanding we had around September....
After I paid hospital bills and gave her money for baby items on that Tuesday morning, she told my parents she has buried the placenta... I could not go to see her immediately I was called and I had to send my parents there due to my work...
This is a lady I want to separate from due to her mum trying to take over the marriage and my wife is always carrying her along... Now the woman is demanding I come see the son and apologize to her and sincerely I am standing on my ground that since she buried the placenta I will never go there to go see the child except they come to my parent's place on the naming ceremony....
The truth is I can't afford to live a second with my wife and I really want ur advice before tomorrow....
Offpoint1: Collect your balance and find somewhere else relocate... You no fit use your own money buy wahala for yourself.
Living in the same house with your landlord or lady is among the 1001 ways to die. Number 6 pricisely.
Collect balance? From a Nigerian Landlord Which country are you in. They will tell you to wait till they get a new tenant, and then you're stuck. Except of course, you have the bucks for new apartment.
What is one sided, about the fact that someone assaulted Her to the point of requiring multiple surgeries Or you want to say there is some justification for a policeman to take such an action?
Fahdiga: If this news is true then the policeman must be brought to justice but I hardly believe a one sided story more especially coming from a woman
Pharrel was still 'learning work' when these guys were already mainstream, way back when. Listen to #OneMoreTime realeased about 14 years before #GetLucky Enjoy
We achieved something, we exposed the government for what it was; and we awakened in citizens an anger against injustice that we seem to have lost. Change will not happen overnight. Change will not be painless. But change must surely come.
EmeraldKing7: Sadly we didn't achieve anything with this #Endsars protest
Police are still terrorizing the youths and the government is arresting people who coordinated the protests
What is the point of trying to be an Alpha Male, when you can just be You?
Viicfuntop: You are just 20 jeez. I thought you would say 28. I have a friend like you, exactly as you described but he is an alpha male. Go on YouTube and Quora and read up about self esteem or how to become (I don’t know, tough). Calm down jo. My brother is quite young but 50 year old people in the church would not speak him to him anyhow or even have the guts to move close to him. They can’t even ask him anything because they somehow fear him. A 22 year old guy. It’s how you carry yourself. My brother is literally an Alpha male. Go on YouTube and listen to Alpha males videos and you could also read books like the 48 laws of power. I’m 25 and a 23 year old man has made me feel intimidated and I have never seen him before. It’s how you carry yourself. I’m an introvert as well but I tell you that people hate to talk to me in real life. I don’t like disrespect. My face already is not smiling. If you cross the line, I don’t care how old you are. I’ll reduce you to nothing there. If the usher had come to me like that, I would ask “Am I the only one using my phone” and if she says yes, or you can talk to me like that in the church, i would tell her to tell everyone to drop theirs or is that her power limited to people she can intimidate? I can be that rude as well. Do what I said, it will work
Work on building your muscle and body mass... You're 20, give your self some time. Most of all accept and appreciate your uniqueness. Don't begrudge the one's who misjudge you. And wait for the ones that appreciate you.
Chiminemine: Hello guys. I just received one of the biggest insults of my life today in church.
So I went to church today and along the line, I decided to scroll through NAIRALAND a little bit because the sermon was a little boring. So as I was pressing my phone in peace ohhh, one usher just came to where I sat and taped me. as I looked at her, she stretched her hand out signaling she wanted to sieze my phone. At first I was confused because where I was a lot of people where operating their phones but she didn't approach them. I didn't want to insult her or create a scene so I just lied that I was sending someone an important text. Then she said I should be quick and put out the phone, That if I were in a lecture hall would I use my phone in the presence of the lecturer? So I obliged. I experience similar scenarios a lot in my life and it makes me sad sometimes. Sometimes, teenage boys would be interacting with me as if I am in their age grade. My peers wouldn't want to be around me because they would feel I am just a kid. I can't get a girlfriend because girls look at me like their younger brothers. this has turned me into a full time introvert . I am really hurt. Even my own father uses my statur to insult me at times . It's only by my thick voice that people can tell that I am grown up and thats not enough.
Guys please help me, I need advice. I am 20 years old and 5 foot 8 inches tall.
My Wife just told me about a former university room mate that was as bad, if not worse than this girl. If some girls still dey learn, na serious spiritual dirtiness be dat ooo
SirDelight: Considering your doubt whether she's ever been laid or not, it sounds like she's not a promiscuous lady. If poverty has not stopped my manhood from raising head at the moment, I would have asked for her contact coz I can manage such a lady. She would definitely adjust,,, may not be 100% change though.
You may still need to sit her down & talk some sense into her. May God help you both.
She was already moving up in the world, and if She needed the royal family catchet, why did She eventually opt out of it?
The dragging, beef and to an extent , racism from the British Media is enough to make anyone consider quitting, but most people prefer money and the trappings of wealth over peace of mind, until they realize, peace of mind is all we really seek.
modath: One was born into it, one knowingly opened eyes & went into it... how on earth did they ever think they could experience normalcy?.
As much as the British press and public are mad racist Bulldogs, Meghan needed the royal family catchet to move up in the world... pray for them & wish them the best in their journey through life..
onatisi: Calling these people terrorists,bandits ,herdsmen or even kidnappers is just a way of camouflaging the truth and reality , this is a full fledged insurgency in its infancy stage. When it gets to a stage sheik Gumi influence will no longer work. We should ask ourselves, what happens if Gumi dies today and these rebels attack again ,who will negotiate with them. This is a full blown rebel movement
What is Sheik Gumi's actual role in all of these? How does pampering people who killed an innocent child solve any problem?? At these rate, are our leaders not serving the interest of terrorists themselves
I will try to make this as short and simple as possible.
My kid sister texted me on WhatsApp this evening saying she almost got raped by the guy crediting her online wallet for her, I drove straight to my mum's store because I was just leaving the office.
Now I met her and asked what's up.
She has an online wallet where she recharges decoders, pays electricity bills for people, sells airtime and data etc. She is a student and she's doing that business in my mum's store so she could help herself in school.
She said someone sent her 30k to pay his electricity bill and also recharge his decoder for him so she went to the guy's shop to get her account credited but he wasn't there then she called him and he directed her to his house in that same street very close to the shop. She got there and the guy tried forcing himself on her, mind you she's on her period, she refused and during the scuffle she lost one of her earrings, she begged me not to take action that the guy has apologised, seeing that I was very hurt and I wanted to confront the guy at that moment. while she was explaining to me the guy called and kept on apologizing but I'm not having any of that.
I wanted to call some of my friends to beat up the guy but after she begged me, I still want confront the guy, warn him seriously but I need advice on if that's the best thing to do or which way do you think is best to approach the situation?
I will try to make this as short and simple as possible.
My kid sister texted me on WhatsApp this evening saying she almost got raped by the guy crediting her online wallet for her, I drove straight to my mum's store because I was just leaving the office.
Now I met her and asked what's up.
She has an online wallet where she recharges decoders, pays electricity bills for people, sells airtime and data etc. She is a student and she's doing that business in my mum's store so she could help herself in school.
She said someone sent her 30k to pay his electricity bill and also recharge his decoder for him so she went to the guy's shop to get her account credited but he wasn't there then she called him and he directed her to his house in that same street very close to the shop. She got there and the guy tried forcing himself on her, mind you she's on her period, she refused and during the scuffle she lost one of her earrings, she begged me not to take action that the guy has apologised, seeing that I was very hurt and I wanted to confront the guy at that moment. while she was explaining to me the guy called and kept on apologizing but I'm not having any of that.
I wanted to call some of my friends to beat up the guy but after she begged me, I still want confront the guy, warn him seriously but I need advice on if that's the best thing to do or which way do you think is best to approach the situation?
Have you told your girl that the baby died? What was her reaction??
The only thing I can hold on to , as a basis for suspecting your girlfriend, is Her feeling the need to tell you that She is not possessed.
Then again, it may all just be a coincidence. And except there was contact between your girlfriend and the little baby, She CANT be held guilty by a court of law, as the Law does not recognize 'witchcraft'
kingofchess: I Am Planning To Marry A Lady And This Happened. Pls Help
I am in my early 30 and I have been dating this lady for a year now and we are planning to settle down together and this happened.
There is this 11 months old baby in my compound who is very close to me and she just started walking. The very first time she saw my girl, she was soo scared and started crawling very fast towards her mum and crying. I quickly ran after her and carried her back to where my girl was sitting down, this time, the crying and running became very intense, I was shocked and I asked why the baby was so scared of her and she said she doesn't know.
Two days later, she came to my place and immediately this baby saw her she was scared and crying that was when I jokily asked her if she is a witch and she got angry and left my house. After she left, a lot of questions started running through my mind: like, is she a witch? Does she has a marine spirit? What did that little girl saw in her? In fact a lot of questions. She later called that same night and was like; baby, I am not possess ooh, I should not allow this little baby come between us ooh and that she loves me very much.
To cut the story short, less than two weeks later, the baby DIED. I was so scared if the baby actually saw something in her and she decided to shut the baby up ( I don't know, just an assumption).
Ever since then, I have been scared of my girl and I really don't know what to do. Please, I need your candid advice. Please guys, how can i make the moderators move this post to front page.
Career › Re: My Hot Tempered Colleague by TheGift: 1:30pm On Mar 03, 2021
And you think they wont kidnap again next week? 
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