₦airaland Forum

Olaoluwa122:
P.O awareness is really going far...he is also a good candidate..but sha...Vote Atiku come 2023

� Seriously? Is anyone still talking about Atiku?

From Social Media to the streets, all I am hearing is PitObi or Asiwaju.

This is like the first time in weeks that I have heard Atiku.

guobe:
I have a very close relation that refused his wife from working because he felt if she starts working and earning well she may nolonger regard him. Is it true that when women start having money they nolonger regard their husband.

Please tell your friend:

He is foolish for wanting to control a Woman by not allowing Her earn. The quality of your family, life and that of your children will be worse than it could be.

It is foolish to think in this day and age, you need money to make YOUR Woman regard you. Women are working more and making more money than in the days of our fathers and grand fathers.

It will take more than money to hold a Woman down. As long as you are taking care of your responsibilities as a Man, you can only be disregarded when you don’t regard yourself.

And if it bothers you so much that your Wife is making more than you, why don’t you simply hustle to up your game and make much more. After all, you are the Man who can do better than any Woman.

You do not elevate yourself by putting another person (especially your wife) down.

If you don’t want your wife to earn, go and look for a young clueless 18+ year old in the village that doesn’t have a mind of their own.

Good luck.

Stop thinking about the costs and take your son to the a good hospital that will give Him care. Decide that if they don’t take your child you are not living there. Tell them you will pay but first let them start treating the child.

There will be no better advise you will get here than putting your child in the hands of professional care.

Pojomojo:
What childhood dream did you have but unfortunately Nigeria happened to you?

I wanted to be a doctor but ended up a teacher, what about you?

My dream career before JS 3 was to go to space, so I guess astronaut. But once the educational system decided I was an arts student, that dream began to die.

Before SS 1,If was talking with a friend I’d say advertising (I used to wonder how those ads were made, then I went to secondary school with a course mate, whose grand dad was The first indigenous managing director and chairman of Nigeria’s pioneer advertising agency, Lowe Lintas Limited and He used to tell us advertising stories) so maybe that influenced me

But if you were an authority figure - like teacher or uncle- and you asked me, I would say “Lawyer”. I can’t say it’s because my Dad, who was already an accountant , also read Law and was called to Bar in my JS1. Otherwise, why didn’t I say accountant? Maybe cos I was not the most comfortable with Maths??

Anyway, by the time I was about to enter Uni, I wasn’t sure what I wanted. At some point if you asked me, I’d say sociology, I guess I made sense of it cos that’s what Unilag offered me. I ended up not going there.

I even ended up reading English in LASU cos the school I applied to had been closed for over a year due to student activism and I was tired of waiting.

But guess what? right in the middle of my second semester in LASU, on a day that I had been chosen to lead a class group assignment, I learnt I had to depart almost a thousand kilometers northward to zaria.

I ended up getting an LL.B from ABU Zaria, and a BL from the Nigerian Law School.

And many years after, Yes, I am a Lawyer, but it’s only about 10% of what I do, and what brings in the dough. At some point in my career , I even worked in a top advertising firm too Law was a very good foundation though.

P.S.

Nigeria did not happen to you. All over the world there are people not doing what they dreamt to do. It is not only a Nigerian reality, it is wholly a Human reality.

Life never truly follows a straight line. As a wiseman once said; “Life is lived forward but understood backwards” . You are right where you need to be, you just need clarity, to truly see.

Where you are coming from, will always be a foundation. Where you are going to is more about the journey than the destination. Your life is still going on; there’s still room for growth and innovation. Selah.

chypotenti:
I am practically confused right now, which do I go for, A 50k job with a Fintech or a 30k job with a Bank?

I would say “none of the above” cos the money is too small. Barely enough to transport one to and from work. Except you are just going for experience.

In which case I’ll say go for the Fintech, more opportunity (for growth) more flexibility (less rules and regulations to conform to, less grunt work, more open to remote work , less straight jacketed, less jackets, more jeans & t-shirts. You get? ) .

Fintech is the future; even the banks are moving towards and investing in fintech. Thus in the future, even if you decide to work in a bank, Fintech experience will give you an edge.

If nothing else, the 50k Fintech job will mean more transport money and less transporting

ogbiwa:
https://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/world-news/mum-daughter-6-gang-raped-27341053

This Indian rape disease is still alive and well. Even a Woman is organizing for another Woman to be raped.

If only those things unsuspecting Women knew. So sad.

adewaleadeyemi8:
she has also given me her condition to remain fit and keep my size in check or else deal is off

That’s fair enough. All the best!

lavylilly:
What scam has become so normalized that people don't even notice it? �

Companies hiring social media managers and expecting them to do photography, videography, graphic design, copywriting, brand strategy, monitor metrics, host YouTube, make tiktok dances. The work of an entire marketing team, w/little to no pay

*Telling people to register for a free service but asking them to input their payment card details, first.

*Using filters to enhance our looks on social media, to give impressions to fake friends and total strangers online.

*Agreeing that we have read and understood terms and conditions , by clicking “Yes”. Even when we didn’t read a single line.

*The Nigerian Constitution

*Fuel Subsidy

*The formal Educational system

*Pyramid schemes

*”Privacy” on the internet ; there’s no such thing.

Most brides? Do you have data to back your claim that it is “most brides”?

If no! You might want to use “some brides”, instead; to avoid the fallacy of hasty generalizations or exaggeration.

emmyluizzz:
f*CK off

Why are you pained by His assertion?

gnykelly:
Something like these

Doesn’t the 24 hour rule on Porn, given to Facebook and Twitter, apply to Nairaland

adewaleadeyemi8:
I can relate to this situation mehn, i no fit do pass myself for dis life. carry big woman before we marry abi, d boobs and ass go dey confuse my eyes ehn, but after marriage and childbirth i go come dey ask myself wetin really happen. I married my wife slim and i don give her advice to maintain dat shape ooooo

You are you maintaining your V shape & “six pack”? Try not to demand for what you are not ready to give. Especially from someone whose chances have been impacted by things like child birth.

God1000:
It serves him right, don't marry a lady because she's beautiful, chubby or good in bed, it's all evanescence

Marriage is more than that

No need for the judgement as in “serves him right”. We don’t know if that is the only reason He married His wife.

And While physical Attractiveness to and sexual compatibility with ones partner is not the main thing, it has been proven to improve the health of marital relationships.

What really is your problem?

That She is sharing messages from another church on Her phone?

Or that She is sharing any church message at all?

You left the message that was being preached in church and busy bodied into someone’s privacy so much that you could see exactly what she was doing on Her private phone.

You are so self righteous that the only part that moved you about the sermon was when it came to correcting someone.

And you did such a poor job of it that your act , rather than reconcile Her to truth stirred up anger.

Yet you can’t see that it is your distracted, unfocused , busy bodying, judge mental and provocative self that has the real problem.

Remember: first remove the log from your eyes before attempting to remove a spec from another. From Gods perspective our problems should always be bigger in our eyes than that of another.

And that is how you learn to love, which is the beginning and end of the Law. Learn how to love. Start by loving yourself. So that you stop allowing other people’s lives affect you so negatively

Danibonk:
Kwankwanso is looking for a relevant southern candidate he knows he is only popular in Kano and some other state

Kano is the second largest state in Nigeria after Lagos. And has consistently returned the highest tally of voters in all elections in the country.

A popular Man of God , with access to WhatsApp , email mass and social media, who claims to be in contact with God is sooo worried about losing His contacts

Olarhhh:
I and my husband live in a mini flat (a room and parlor self contain) and since the very day we got the place early last year, his younger brother has been living with us because he fought with their father and my husband told him to come over to his place (we weren't married then but live together) so he continued living with us till he went to school last year November, and we were both happy that we can finally have our own privacy.

Meanwhile my husband has a very nosy family, different family member keep coming to visit Everytime and spending up to 2 weeks until I change attitude to them and make them leave.

Fast forward to December, a month after his brother left, the parents called to let his sister move with us, hubby declined but his family won't budge so he accepted.

Now hubby has travelled abroad and the sister wouldn't leave, I don't know what to do, she doesn't do anything here and she's rude. I want her to leave, I've tried stopping all the comfort she enjoys when her brother was around.

Please help

This is an issue to address with your husband not your in laws, lest you become the evil Wife. Couples, especially young couples need to have their privacy without the external pressure from family and in-laws.

For now, until She eventually leaves your house, you need to find a way to not let it affect you mentally.

TMSMedia:
https://igberetvnews.com/1422745/moment-secondary-school-students-outran-police-officer-owerri-imo-photos-video/

As a former Mischievous secondary school student. I can tell you that secondary school students are some of the fastest runners. Especially for a poorly paid, unfit and possibly intoxicated police officer carrying a rifle.

eddie7:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/06/ahmed-lawan-stranded-as-inec-certifies-bashir-machina-winner-of-yobe-north/

Very good. Rubber stamp Joker of a senate president, who really believed He could buy His way to the Presidency with money. LMAO.

He should go and enjoy His trophy wife that He married to consolidate power , clown.

YorubaIsGreat:
https://punchng.com/south-south-apc-leaders-pledge-support-for-tinubu/

Which south-south leaders? Okowa is a leader from the South-South, is he pledging support for Tinubu? I am from the South-South; any so called leader ,who without my permission, pledges on my behalf ( especially for Tinubu or Atiku), is not my leader.

Rosenews2233:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gNiBzXCqQmU

Ekweremadu, Wife Denied Bail by UK Magistrate’s Court

ARISE International correspondent, Adefemi Akinsanya reports on the arrest of Nigerian Senator Ike Ekweremadu and his wife by the UK police for allegedly taking and underaged boy to the UK for organ harvesting. The Ekweremadu's have currently been denied bail as investigations into their role in the case unfolds.

To be a living kidney donor, you must be of good physical and mental health.

You would typically be between the ages of 18 and 60 years.

Ekweremadu and His Wife are in deep shit.

lorbah001:
Sad situation!

He's got all the resources to do it legally but why does he resort to this?

What becomes the condition of his sick child after this avoidable publicity?

Kept asking myself several questions as to why taking this route...

The biggest loser in this case is; the boy allegedly trafficked, the sick child and Nigeria at large!

The boy has been saved. He may even be given asylum.

Rosenews2233:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gNiBzXCqQmU

Ekweremadu, Wife Denied Bail by UK Magistrate’s Court

ARISE International correspondent, Adefemi Akinsanya reports on the arrest of Nigerian Senator Ike Ekweremadu and his wife by the UK police for allegedly taking and underaged boy to the UK for organ harvesting. The Ekweremadu's have currently been denied bail as investigations into their role in the case unfolds.

To be a living kidney donor, you must be of good physical and mental health.

You would typically be between the ages of 18 and 60 years.

Ekweremadu and His Wife are in deep shit.

IyaTola:
Good evening,

My younger cousin got both offer below
80k in ikoyi with pension and HMO or
80k in Ikeja with no Pension or HMO

He resides in Alimosho

Which would you choose and why?

If He resides in alimosho, the answer is obvious.

Except he likes to get inadequate sleep , wake up at 4:30-5am to join the rat race to third mainland bridge and another 2 hours Back to the mainland. Not to talk of the transport costs at a modest 1000 per day= 5k per week , that is 20k per month on transport, when Alimosho can be as low as 2k. Costs of eating out is higher in Ikoyi.

Maybe there is something in Ikoyi I am not seeing, but He’ll be so much more burnt out if He does that; that He will really need the HMO.

Is it worth it? That’s the question that He alone ultimately has to answer.

Nozino:
There’s something fundamentally wrong with the black man.

Speak for yourself, self loathing and biased blackman.

What about white pedophiles, serial killers , and cult leaders? is there nothing fundamentally wrong with them?

If what you say is true, then There’s something fundamentally wrong with you.

DriverX:
E pain her Sha.

How do you know? You think everyone thinks like you?

Thank God She didn’t agree for that Man child. How childish can an adult be. You are married yet still petty 7 years after. She doesn’t reply and you assume attitude. You don’t even know if the person is dealing with stuff.

These are the kind of idiots that give Men a bad name. I would have called Him a goat but I don’t like insulting people.

IyaTola:
Maybe you go me wrong, I am saying state the advantages/demerits of staying on the mainland/island

Ok.

There are no merits or demerits, per say. It all depends on the individual their preferences and peculiar circumstances.

For me, some things I hate about the island these days though are:

*Its getting more and more crowded than when we were growing up
*Traffic not only because of the crowd of residents but for the many visitors who come there for work and play
*Fake life; many pretentious people, living in poor overpriced accommodation, just to be able to say they live on the island.
*The water especially in Lekki axis has smell and taste, and you have to spend money on drinking and bathing water. I can’t even use my filter for it.
*Flooding during the rainy seasons and it is no respecter of locations as floods regularly hit Lekki, Ikoyi, VGC, VI and even banana island. And it’s not surprising because a lot of the island is sand filled land. Where I live on the mainland it can rain for a whole month and there will still be no flooding. The ground is high, the are wide drainages and the entire suburb is surrounded by a canal where all the water drains
*Related to the above, I suspect that there will be a major flooding or tsunami event, sometime in the near or far future and places like the island, which have been massively sand filled will be worst hit. As far back as the early nineties I remember an over flowing of bar beach that covered Ahamadu Bello Way and got as far as 1004.
*I also personally like where I live and work on the mainland cos I am 15 minutes from the local and international airports as well as Lagos Ibadan on the very rare occasion that I need to head out by road.

I hope with this few points of mine, I have been able to convince you why, I a former islander chose to become a full time mainlander.

Please Note: what works for me may not work for you.

Frigga13:
A lot you won’t understand

No need to write

Thank you

I schooled in the North, have a lot of northern friends there. There is a lot I understand.

Sounds more like you have nothing to write in response to my questions.

Thank you.

Frigga13:
Reason why I like my North.. they will never say what they’re not so sure of

But down south

Everyone go dey him house the talk wetin the happen for places they’ve never visited or have an idea what they place looks like

.. hypocrites that can judge .. especially the igbo people ... with all their noise about registration , peter Obi , Pvc ... Bornu alone is still much ahead of entire east on registration of new voters

Very quietly doing theirs ... to an Igbo OBi supporters.. Na Obi make people dey register to get pvc ..
They sabi judge and conclude ..

While Yoruba sabi analyze .. wetin. Dem no sabi at all

Tell them reality .. south will abuse you .


Power to the people
North 2023

The only part of your post I don’t get is

“Power to the People
North 2023”

The same North whose leaders have disempowered their people?

The same North with the highest number of poverty stricken people?

The same North with the highest percentage of illiterate people?

The same North that has led the country to its worst economic state since the early 1980s?

The same north through which the security of the country has degenerated to near Syrian and Afghanistan levels?

Surely, you must be referring to another North, like Northern Ireland or the one in Game of thrones . SMH

IyaTola:
Please, share the difference for others to learn.

Is there anything in my post implying that there is any difference? If anything , I am saying exposure can be gotten on both the island and the mainland.

If any of these two guys win, they will be the lap dogs of the West, meaning we MAY become like sitting ducks.