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cowboyvs:
Good day Folks, I am not going to bore you with all the details. Ok, I have been a member of this Forum but I really need matured advise cos I am in a dilemma right now. I met this cute babe in 2021. She is from Edo I am Igbo. I was really thinking of getting married to her but I have some serious concerns.

Firstly, sometime last year she came visiting. While she was sleeping on my laps her phone screen lit up so I was tempted to look and I saw message delivered to Mariam. So something whispered to me to check the content of the message. When I checked, I discovered that the message was deleted after it was sent.

So being a Guyman, that discovery spurred my curiosity. What I did was to copy the number and checked on Truecaller, lo and behold a Man’s name appeared. So I checked his name on face book and checked on WhatsApp too and I saw it was a married Man with five kids.

So I waited till morning and confronted her. Initially, she denied it was a man but when I confronted her with my evidence she confessed it was a married man. I enquired further and she told me they have had s*x like 4 times while we were dating ooo. I butted her out of my house and blocked her completely.

But this babe will be using other pple’s phones to call and be sending msgs telling me she is sorry. So at a point I forgave her and we continued, but, I was not ready to start trusting her again. So last week, I was trying to see if she has truly turned a new leaf before making a major move by going to see her parents. I was shocked what I saw in her WhatsApp.

There was this random dude asking her out. From their chats she told the guy that she has a boyfriend so she can’t have anything to do with him. But, she sent him a video of her touching her Vagi*a. Telling him she wets and squirts very well. When the guy demanded they see so he can feel her she told him no that her Vagin* is only for her boyfriend. Also I saw so many guys asking her out but she kept telling them she is in a serious relationship and she can’t date them.

So I am really confused. She is 22 and I am 33. It pains me so much cos this girl is so loving and caring and also a good cook. She treats me well and has never disrespected me. I am really hurting inside cos I feel this is not the kind of woman I wanna marry like how do u expose the most intimate part of ur body to someone else. Is it lack of maturity or she is jst loose and I didn’t know. I have refused picking her calls but she keeps on begging and sending msgs seriously. I am tired.

Please I need matured advise cos I am no longer getting young and I wanna settle down ASAP.

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Techpik:
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obaaderemi:
Now, he can be blamed for putting them in the situation. I am more than 50% sure he spent most of that money on his wife. From what he wrote, the woman wasn't working before and was just freeloading off him as per wife- husband thing. He even had to assure her that getting a teaching job was a temporary thing, he would hustle for money to give her a poultry. May God let him live long. He is worshipping her.

Like seriously@ bolded! Are you sure you read his post? His major source of livelihood was stolen. That alone can demoralize an individual and lead to a few unwise decisions. People are going through a lot. The wife should understand that.

It is not really the woman planning to leave that I'm against. It's the attitude behind it. How can you begin to shun your husband in public because he is a debtor? This is the time he needs loved ones around him most. Now, if things turn around then she will come back and they will start enjoying it together. E kare. I can also distance myself from a disgraced person if he has always been a bad person but not a man who has always tried to hold things together for his family.
.If the man needed to be by himself at a time like this, he would be the one to suggest it, and even jump at the woman's idea. But he knows better. That's why he is feeling low about it. That doesn't look like a woman trying to give a troubled man space, she is giving herself space from a man she has been ashamed to associate with lately.
Loneliness will make his mental health worse. Unless he is the one who wants that space. If a woman has a problem and the husband says, 'Let me leave you in the house so that you can sort yourself out.' How does that sound.
We know. They should slug it out together. The wife has a #20,000 job. The man should go and get a job too instead of lamenting here. He should forget about loan apps or trying to start a business.
If she truly loves him and she is not a Fairweather wife, she should stick by him if he is a man who is honest and respects her. That man may commit suicide if he is too lonely.

Mjshexy:
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africantycoon:
The wife ought to bear and generate money during the troubling time otherwise it becomes à marriage of convenience where both parties remain together only when theres money and part when there is no money....

obaaderemi:
Is leaving him the solution to the problem? They more probably than not spent the money together. The wife can not be excused in the case, especially if she is trying to run away. The man messed up financially but it wasn't entirely his fault. He said his bike was stolen. Look, people fall into all kinds of problems. That's life. But it is at such times that really need their family and friends around them.

How can you run away from your home because your husband is a debtor and the secret is out in the open. What would see do if the man suffers a terminal illness? Reason am now.
My own be say: he should stop gambling and get a job . Even if it is okada riding like he was doing before.

adisabarber:
In this case, the wife already told him why she's doing it.

Emekaonline:
Ipobians are always clever by half. I will answer you but why dont you complete all my questions? You have not even asnwered the main question of how many job adverts today that who they are looking for are 3rd class graduates? Then I will answer you

Emekaonline:
Will you also hire a 3rd class graduate when you have so many first class brains? Hahahahaha. Obi is the least qualified person to govern Nigeria. Don't you get it? How many Job adverts today are looking for 3rd class graudate? Even your own father will be reluctant to hand over his company if you graduated with 3rd class

Emekaonline:
Hahaha. Just read this and dispute it

GOODMAN88:
I now believe that TINUBU have 80% chance of becoming the president of this country.

Many before 2014 said and swear that BUHARI will die. Many swear with their god that he will never become president.

Now he is about to finish.

The more they mock TINUBU ,the more many will vote for him.

obaaderemi:
I don't understand o. A woman stopped associating with her husband in public because he is a known debtor. She is even talking of moving away for awhile. Meanwhile, her income is the mainstay of the family at the moment. What sort you of woman is that

And I see fellow men saying she is not a bad woman, 'Oh, she just needs space. After your situation improves she will come back.'

Is it not now he needs her the most? When I was at my lowest in life my true friend didn't run away from me. He even visited me more than I visited him. He wasn't ashamed to associate with me in public. He was just always there. He was even of a different tribe!(God rest his soul.) Op, your wife is not your friend! She should go if she wants to go and you'll be a fool to take her back. Tell her that like you mean it!

And your problem is not as big as you think. It's money problem, thank God you don't have serious health problems. You think you have a problem? Go out and see people with serious problems. You better thank your God and go and look for a job to keep body and soul together for now until things change. And, I beg you- stop gambling!!! BTW, Are you sure the gambling is not what is driving your wife away?

Gabby2022:
Try money in minutes or umba it won't be 150k but it will be reasonable

olab059:
The first question I have for you...Have you ever been in a similar situation before? Have you ever been owing multiple loan apps that keep calling you every day? Yes or No?

olab059:
What I will say is...you can hardly get out of the debt by your own power, and no one person can help you out of it. It takes divine intervention. I'm not saying you have to be super religious, cos I wasn't and still am not. But you just have to believe that that things will get better...while doing your best, just believe that something will happen to elevate you out of the mess you're in, and it will gradually happen, or happen all of a sudden all in one day. Just believe. But don't let the thought of the debt consume you, cos the more you think of your debt, the deeper you sink in it. Cos what you think about is what you attract. Just focus on getting money, and believe that things will work out.

africantycoon:
Your write up shows and proves that women only do what is convenient for them and that they are not prepared to stress themselves in a relationship......

I expected the woman to be with the husband thru thick and thin - women will not stand by you in time of trouble indefinitely....only until it start stressing them...

Marriage is not the peaceful utopia we all assume with "two is better than one"!

adisabarber:
You need to focus on your children. There's nothing you can do. Your financial situation has put you in trouble that only money can solve.

adenigga:
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mubaudeenka:

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Reader530:
Good day my people. I want to marry a girl. She respects me so much. She is very intelligent and hardworking. She is productive. She has many talents.

In fact, during rainy season, she will leave city for her village and go to farm that is where she spens her annual leave. She cooks well, she can plait hair all styles and she can plait her hair herself of all styles. She is God fearing, always from work, church, domestic chores and other things at home that earns her money.

She is beautiful but has a curved back. My challenge is curved back, how can I overcome this challenge. Matured advice please.

Chinkoalhaji34:
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Please vote Asiwaju Tinubu.

blamingthedevil:
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