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Monfeels:
I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.

When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.

The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.

The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.

Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.

When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.

Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.

I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.

All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice.

You possess some weird traits and I think there is a problem. I will advice you see a physiologist, as anything I will say may not be really accurate.

Mavereek:
I can do 70 straight. But i usually do 50 closed arm and 50 wide arm push up every morning. Total of 100. I can do up to 300 when I'm In the mood.

Hats off to you man!

Both you and your girl are dumb and don't actually know what you want. Look! Virginity or what ever ain't a big deal, this I think shouldn't Even be an issue.

Anyway , ya lot deserve each other.

Its a normal behavior, most guys are like that(including me), nothing odd. However, I wish ladies in this part of the world will adjust their mentality and realize its absolutely okay for a Lady to make the first shot, its a two street ya know.

Nothing happened there. The girl was just being friendly while the sons mum is blunt and straight-forward. I love people like that.

adecz:



Buhari had succeeded in assembling
the dumbest & most hypocritical
cabinet in the history of this country.

They are ready to be hoodwinked or
bamboozled into anything due to their
collective low IQs..

From handling COVID-19 palliatives to
the response to the initial threat, when
they refused to shut airports .

They just jump at any rumored treatment
as if we don't have medical professionals
to consult before making medical decisions.

Bauchi governor has "ordered" that all
COVID-19 must be treated with Chloroquine
just because Trump initially recommended it.

They may soon recommend bleach.

On point!. Its not only Nigeria, most African leader's are dumb and inept. Imaging such gullibility!

The WHO has warned repeatedly that it will take 18 months at least for a reliable vaccine to be available and yet these dummies think they can Short-cut their way to a cure.

Africa, particularly Nigeria is a deep mess bro.

MrBrownJay1:
get yourself a French GF/BF who does NOT speak English, stay away from English speaking people, go to an intensive French language course (no Duolingo etc)... and within 1yr you will definitely speak French.



if you act right, you dress right, you present yourself right, hang in the right places and dont say dumb shiit, you can be with any women you desire in France (whether white, black, arabic or eskimo)... the difference is YOU, not the women.

You have a very positive outlook towards life in general. That's amazing. I wish I can learn from you.

OK guys, let settle this argument once and for all!

The most common method economists use to measure a country development is by using the IHDI - inequality human development index. This indicator captures : life expectancy, income and average years of schooling.

113 Ghana 0.427 0.596 28.3

126 Nigeria 0.349 0.534 34.6

So you can see Ghana has IHDI score of 427 while Nigeria has 349. This is a huge difference and tells you all you need to know.

Kuwait has the most valuable currency in the world but does that mean it is more developed than Norway( the country with the highest IHDI score in the world)? Hell no.

I hope I have settled this matter.

tonididdy:
You can't make comparison with two things you know nothing about.
You also cannot make comparison with one side of a thing you know and another side you know nothing about.
It's a blind argument.
Those saying Nigeria is Eldorado, surely have never left their states talk less the country.
I have never bring to Ghana (the OP has and have every information right to make comparison)
But if you have never bring outside Nigeria, then you would feel everything else anyone is saying is mere exaggeration.
I had same feeling until I travelled out of Nigeria in fact out of Africa and believe you me, every corner of this country irritates me.
Indeed this is a shit hole.


.... Just travel and see you lots, travel and see.

How is where you live currently compared to Nigeria(in terms of standard of living)?

Tobexin:
[s][/s]I won’t advise any black person to move to Germany if he want to be successful in life you can be comfortable I am not doubting the fact! UK is the best destination to go to hustle as a black person in Europe but Getting their permanent residency is the problem.[s][/s]

Scaremongers have completely succeed in misleading you with their inaccurate and extreme rhetoric.

Let's be clear here, racism in Germany is not as bad as as this guys exaggerate.

janettee:
People who want to come to Germany should read that second paragraph well because it's 100% the truth. I'm in the system so I know this country isn't designed for us at all. Their laws alone, some of them don't make sense especially when it comes to renewing your residence permit.

Why are you always sounding like a pessimist? Racism exist in Germany, so what? No country is free from racism and discrimination, just that some are good at hiding it.

So spare us with "there is racism" "you will be discriminated" " the people are unfriendly " bullshit.

Focus on the good side - positive. And if that is hard for you, then don't comment at all. Because it doesn't make sense to me how you always preach and overemphasize about racism in Germany when we already have the full picture.

You are doing a good job op. It's amazing that you open your own thread rather than derailing Munich lover thread.

Anyway, tell us more about Berlin regarding day-to-day life.

chubinwa:
This is purely a social class rift. considering the circumstances around poly graduates, it is certain that the man will not accept you.[s][/s] the only thing that can suit his pride now is money. make more money. I don't mean saving your little salary to accumulate it. I mean make money on bases, this is the only solution. [s][/s]

You guys talk as if one can just become rich overnight. This is pure delusion.

What will you gain from spreading misinformation?

EgunMogaji2:
Thank you.

Have a nice day

Its okay if you disagree with me but I am afraid you are probably out of touch with reality.

EgunMogaji2:
Of what importance is what country I reside in to you or to the conversation?

I’m trying to follow a logical path to the debate.

The question I asked is highly relevant to this discussion.

Its like saying a person saying Apples are amazing fruits but doesn't eat them.

I am afraid I sensed hypocrisy.

EgunMogaji2:
Just keep an open mind for the future because you’ll get it then when you’re at sunset like me. Many of us are back and some have made very significant investments here that’s paying off handsomely.

This is not to discourage you or anyone from traveling out. It’s not up to me.

My self assigned task on here is to balance out the equation for those that don’t want to or cannot afford to travel out. Nigeria is not all that bad.

I’ve seen both sides of the equation and I can report authoritatively.

[b][/b]If Nigeria can solve two things, electricity and security then you’ll see an influx of returnees and foreigners [b][/b]that’ll be unbelievable.

Sorry but that's poor delusion.

Even within the EU, citizens of economically weak countries like Romania and Bulgaria ( these countries are miles ahead of Nigeria in every aspect) are migrating to more better countries like Germany and UK. So its way more complicated than you think.

Assuming Nigeria fix it security and power issues, and? (Most African countries have achieved that) how about critical sectors like health, basic infrastructure - transportation and clean water? Need I remember you that half of it's citizens are living in absolute poverty?

My point is Nigeria is sinking a ship ( it doesn't gives me any pleasure saying this about my fatherland). We've got to be honest and stop latching on some BS anecdotes. Let facts and figures speak for themselves. The country is in a pathetic situation.

A lot of youth are frustrated and see emigration as a viable solution. And millions who left won't come back because they are pretty much glad they have finally dump the shit hole.

Beautyaddy:
Lol!...You meant to say that it's Nigerians that have failed themselves as well as the Country.

Its a matter if good leadership.

EgunMogaji2:
The USA is the land of double taxation

The money I have left after paying employment tax is also taxed when I buy petrol, grocery, cellular bills, all other bills.

I’m better off in Nigeria.

PS:[/b] I as in EgunMogaji is better of in Nigeria.[b] Your mileage may and should probably vary

With the above statement it prompts the question - why are you still in the US?

Etinosa1234:
[s][/s]True Bro... Nigerians are only good at complaining..

This same guy who might not be able to handle a councillors position would be the one complaining about the state governor...
They say.. Nigerian leaders are bad...where are they from... Are they not Nigerians also..
For years .. we've been recycling and using New set of leaders and all we get is still the usual complaint that Nigeria is bad.. Isn't it clear that the problem is no longer the leaders but the people.. The people are the main cause of the problem...they know what the issue is and have decided to close their eyes to it..If the person they voted into Power is doing bad... they'll close their eyes to the nonsense the govt did and even go ahead to defend them sef... but if another govt of which they are not in support. does it.. They'll start accusing vehemently...

Look at this Lockdown for example.. after criticizing the govt for not closing down borders early enough, they still violated the lockdown..This Same pple will still come out and criticise the govt another day
This Op that is criticizing Nigeria like dis...tell him to bring ideas that will lift the country... he'll keep mute...
The same person that has not head any organisation ..Even as little as boyscout will think to rule is very easy...

They complain that Nigeria is bad...but when they finally move abroad.. they'll commit all sorts of evil...
It's because of pple like dem dat Nigeria has strict visa and migration rules
The more we complain...we close our eyes to the opportunities that we can create
[s][/s]

Load of nonsense

Nigeria has failed its citizens take it or leave it.