Kobojunkie:
So why exactly do you feel guilty for having him arrested for 2 days? Would this all had gone better if he had taken to smashing your head after smashing everything else?

Now that you are obviously aware the man has taken to acting out violently, don't you think it makes sense at this point to distance yourself and your kids from him instead of worrying whether he is in speaking terms and if he has eaten or not? Please, separate yourself from that man asap. The space might do him a whole hell of good..

Good advice

Babatunjo:
Not sure if the OP will get to read this:

A man who drinks to overcome his family problems will eventually ruin that family. The wife and kids will also suffer and it will affect their future.

Life happens to everyone and I don't blame him at all for the financial challenges... However he has 100% blame for a decision to start drinking to forget his problems.. it's selfish and a lazy solution.
If he's truly depressed he should confide in you and take antidepressant drugs and counselling.

Most domestic violence and abuse are almost always linked to alcohol use. Almost always.
Apart from you being traumatized, you children are already being condemned to grow up with serious psychological trauma.

I'm not exonerated you too, especially if you are a nagging person which pushes most men, especially those with low self esteem to alcohol use which they now use to come and confront their wives and cause all sorts of domestic violence and abuse, usually in the presence of the children...

So.. my advice is for you to leave the marriage.
Let me repeat again. Leave the marriage very early.
Even if he makes it back again, he'll use it to punish you.

I am a man, but for the sake of your young children, your sanity and if you want to enjoy your old age, start strategizing now on how to leave.. and leave once your plans are solid.

As for the man, don't hate him.. he's a victim of life plus his inborn personality.. stay in touch with him, send money to him when you can.

Good advice separate from him at the moment

Persephone1:
May we not marry a boy man

Dear Op, my people have an adage it is: Aiki lo kabo ile ejo , ka tun sore. It means we don't come back from court to become friends. Arresting your husband may be right or wrong but what happens when he is released?
If you were arrested as a wife, will you be happy with your husband and let everything go back to normal when you are released?
Especially in this part of the world.

If you still want a happy marriage after a dispute, police station should not be an option. In the sight of the law, you are right but culturally you are not.

Get elders to speak to him, I hope he listens. May God help you. This matter deep i can't think straight self

Please don't ever consider this comment because if you accept violence it will continue until you are no more

The guy is a manipulator & looking for how to redeem his image which he used his iberiberism to destroy.

Whether Baba Tinubu's polices are good or bad it's not your business. Lol his dancing naked in the market place has failed him. He's now looking for....

Oga Tinubu no mind Yul na everywhere belly full

He didn’t pay bride price so he got not children & any man that marries her na her children's father

I don't borrow things from people but people are not ok they don't like to buy what the need even when they have the money like my neighbour & some of my colleagues that have entitlement mentality & they are also shameless because they will have the guts to discuss about you when you don't give them.
My suggestion is that parents should do better by raising their kids well.

Lies I don't think this particular Eze crowned Gov. Uzodinma any title.
Lies Lies.
I learnt that they refused and in last December ie 2022 he arrested the traditional rules are some allegations .

After scalling you teeth will be shocking you & in few weeks time it will go back to its default.

Note it will be whitish after scalling but by the time you get home you will start regretting it.

The first & only time I did scalling in Surulere I really loved it while still in the hospital & i said to myself that it will hence forth be a routine thing. But by the time I got and after experiencing the shock I didn't do it again.
Note it's supposed to be free because of HMO so I decided to forfeit the dental part every year.

PLEASE DON'T SCALE ANYTHING just find the toothpaste that removes the stains.

shielaAhmed:
Nairaland has finally become a breeding ground for tribalism in Nigeria. Many threads on this platform contains tribal hate and the moderators/owner of this site is not doing anything about it.


Don’t be too surprised if this site receives a hefty fine from the Government soon.

Though I don't support tribalism but you would have complained during the campaign when people were fighting here

bukatyne:


May is a stupid, bad wife agreed.

Only a mad man would insist on staying with a stupid, bad wife.

As it stands, this divorce is doing Yul a huge favour; his stupid, bad wife who caused the death of his first son is leaving the picture.

Yul should do thanksgiving in his place of worship on their day of service.

Exactly. Thank you.
The people the recruited think that average Nigerian is senseless and they are all over the social media making nasty comments

07kjb:
May should go and rest

I trust my IGBO people she will soon lose all those children,she think Say na Europe she dey

God forbid she will never lose any of her children again. I cover them with the blood of Jesus.

The court will give the mother the custody of the other children below 18 years of age and probably give Yul supervised visit rights because of his attitude so far on SM . The court will believe that he lacks the moral capacity to have unrestricted access or train the to the children or be left alone with the children.

I wish her well. The death of their son was really a big blow to her yet Yul was re traumatising the family.

Every Yul in our lives die by fire

emadamysy:
Monthly Income less than 100k and you dey suggest 2 pikin, for this economy
Even one sef, e no reach. Make them just marry and no born biko

Your last line .You're wicked lol

AdiscoPele:
But why? Why are the igbos doing this? This is the same way the OPM pastor, instead of scolding and advising those young lads that danced on duty, he gave them scholarship to study abroad and what was the outcome.

What has happened in the case of this young girl should never been give ethnic colouration but the igbos and this behaviour of 'them against us' attitude will never augur well.

It has been confirmed that qr code on the result she posted doesn't bear her name, that alone should have rising a cause for concern but I was shocked with the response of Innoson to the issue. They were indirectly blaming JAMB. Mind you, the fraud was uncovered by Anambra State government because they were diligent in their duties. They also wanted to honour the young lady but had to verify before that and it was discovered that the result was fake. What we expected any sane individual or organisation to do next is carry out a forensic investigation yo unravel those behind this ignoble act, but what do we have now, igbos claiming victimisation.

This is wrong and should be condemned.

So, if she wasn't discovered or caught yo have falsified her result, they wouldn't have given her a foreign scholarship.

Pls, Igbos, change our attitudes towards others and stop believing that we all hate you. We don't.

We know that fraud should not be celebrated however in this case instead of Jamb to do a proper investigation to unravel the truth on this matter it's quick to issue press statement calling the girl a fraud.
I like what Oby Ezekisiri said about this matter. In a sane environment the government could have suspended some people because of this noise.

skales67:
Too bad. No wonder my married female clients who book me for a good time usually ask me to switch of my phone once I am in the hotel room with them.

The last one that booked me last weekend even collected the phone and threw it into the drawer close to the bed and closed it. I was like haba...e don reach that level?

Now I can see the reason why they are scared.

Men like this are shameless!

What a man or woman sow so he or she will reap.

Foolish & devilish man

Chia this's very unfortunate.

taylor89:
E never crash reach my side oo

Don't mind them. That was the same thing they said about gas but gas is still #800 a litre.

OldBeer:
I remember when ibos were jubilating as if they had won world cup during Assurance era. Their loudness and caustic behavior worsened when she born boy. According to dem, Chioma position is solid as she don born "heir".

They thought Yorubas discriminated against gender like they did and refused every advice to the contrary.


Yoruba women suffered during that period ehn...
But see now. See who dem dey use shiit rub for face and she no fit do anything because na Davido hold knife and yam.

He is a miracle working God

Lol you are a wicked person. I don faint

lavylilly:
Are you Married?
Oh I forgot, you got divorced

Is she really divorced?

My own is that he should do the right things that will take Abia state most especially Aba to an enviable height

Gadafii:
until he learn to free himself from the bondage of kpekus, nobody go free am

He makes the same mistakes all the time, he has refuse to learn or mature, too randy and reckless, he’s a celebrity for God’s sake, his life is in the open and people are seeing it, you can’t tell people to free him when he is the one that practically put his life in the open

Look at all the dumb evidence he’s leaving behind, paying a hooker from his personal account, chatting her up from his verified page, how dumb can he be

I have always said this, people around Davido no mean well for am, they are just with him to enjoy the perks, unfortunately he’s yet to understand

I feel Davido is the kind of person that wouldn't want anyone to stop or give him advice when he wants to engage in some nonsense. So I don't blame his crew.
And you know most times they are under the influence of something.

I thank God everyday that I am no longer in Lagos. I left Lagos almost 4 years ago & have not been to Lagos since then

Okealaaye:


I wonder o. Hasn't James Hadley Chase said, You Never Know With Women? I wonder why Baba God created women. Today's women no be nobody's helpmeet at all. Whatever a man gathered using needle, they squander away using shovel. God for create man as hermaphrodite like the snail. No shame whatsoever. Woman wey fight you and carry you go court for divorce go still come attend im piking graduation or wedding for your house!

This below is different now or should she keep malice for long when children are involved?

Woman wey fight you and carry you go court for divorce go still come attend im piking graduation or wedding for your house!

There's no how Davido will not be a carrier of difference STIs because this Anita is a big time "ahewo"

Davido no get sense

My heart felt sympathy goes to .... Plenty breakfast loading, Davido is for the street and will always remain on the street. I wonder what chioma was thinking when she kolobi public property. Davido is a nuisance albeit a rich nuisance.
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My salary is .....but I trek to the office because it's on the next street from my residence. But sometimes I board keke #100 to our office.

I don't regret relocating from Lagos state even though our office closed in Nigeria & the job I am doing presently brought me to the state where I live.

ThaOwerriMan:


He has won the hearts of many. If not that criminal Rochas who damaged Imo, by now more developmental projects would have been undertaken

If a election is conducted free & fair in Imo state today Hope will fail woefully. What has he done in Imo state?

Who's performing in Imo state? Abegi bro go collect your pay from the governor. Uzodinma just take small thing better pass Ikpeazu when he was governor of Abia state.

I can relate office gang up can kill one's spirit but you need to keep your head straight & continue to do what is right.

talented321:
Na the mumu and entitled ladies dey take cheating serious, real women understand when their men cheat.

Lol your comment cracked me up ooh