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 Romance › Re: This Things Called Girls Are Evil by TheSeeker(m): 3:03pm On Jul 29, 2009 |
Not all women are evil. But a callous woman, is worse than the devil. Hey, what's up with all the insults on the dude? You're just trying to prove his point. So stop it already  |
| Romance › Re: Describe Love In Just One Word! by TheSeeker(m): 2:46pm On Jul 29, 2009 |
whitelexi:Scientifically informative  |
| Romance › Re: Describe Love In Just One Word! by TheSeeker(m): 2:43pm On Jul 29, 2009 |
Yes, if I am asked in different contexts, those are the words I'd use. Compremende? |
| Romance › Re: Is He A Cheater? by TheSeeker(m): 2:41pm On Jul 29, 2009 |
I have to be blunt with you here, so it'll hurt a little. First of all, you're stalking: Why do you have to keep stalking his contacts all over? Would you be happy if he did that? Really, would you? You keep tabs on him makes him look like he's a player, which you can't truly say for now he is. He may have different people he had relationships with, and maybe didn't properly and finally break them off before he got involved with you --- but does that make him a player? If he had wanted to lie to you, he couldn't have told you she was living in his house in Nigeria. Second, you're insulting, intolerable and being unnecessarily bitchy: Why did you have to insult him? Why calling him names? How will you have reacted if the table was to be turned around? Now, with all your stalking, what results have you come up with? Nothing! You have successfully turned him off of you. No one likes being stalked about, whether or not you have anything to hide. Everything has to work out naturally. It'd have been much better if you asked him who these people are instead of contacting them behind his back(that's so vile). I will also add that, you don't trust your man. Saying you've been married before sure should have taught you that in every relationship you have to trust otherwise everything will go on to crash. You sure don't act like you're 33. Work on your trust issue because as far as I can see from here, I don't see the guy lying to you -- at least just yet --- judging from what you've said on here. Need I say to you, that men don't like a woman who loses her cool and starts cussing out. You have to work on that, or you'll be irritable to men. No man wants a woman who cusses all the time. If you know you love him, go back to him, talk over your doubts and have them resolved. Don't converse with his contacts behind him. Don't check his phones until he's comfortable with it(you can ask him why). Talk things out with him, OK? |
| Romance › Re: Describe Love In Just One Word! by TheSeeker(m): 2:25pm On Jul 29, 2009 |
Love is killing Love is interesting Love is pain Love is endurance Love is patience Love is understanding Above all, Love is God! |
| Romance › Re: How Great Is It To Remain Friends With Your Ex? by TheSeeker(m): 2:03pm On Jul 29, 2009 |
He is on cheap drugs! I understand you trying to hold on with him when he had emphatically made it clear to you that he wanted you no more. You obviously loved him no doubt, but it was evident that he never did love you; yes, he may have treated you good and all of that, but why did his feelings for you decline sharply? Infatuation, mega-likeness was all it ever was. You said he was seeing someone in his office, it's very conspicuous that he's regretted from there and thought of the "weakest" person to handle and hold water for his shameless and characterless excuses, guess what, you were chosen. His feelings suddenly sprouting out of his empty heart are all sham. He still doesn't mean them -- and need I remind you that he never meant them more than 2 years you dated? He never appreciated you. You did your best to make the relationship work, but he's made you look like a fool even when all you wanted was work things out with him. Right now, what I think you need is smartening from your hurt, make the most of every available happy moment you have and hope for the best to come. Going back to being friends with him means nothing to me --- it means you're letting your guard down for him to drown you in another emotional swamp. Believe me, you may think he doesn't know your weakness but after dating you for such a long time, he sure does and will make use of that tool against you. My advice is you should refrain from any kind of contact with him, delete his messages the instant they appear on your phone; if you can, have his number barred from calling yours. Don't agree to see him anywhere; you have to stand your ground and retain your pride. Your heart, mind and soul should be your utmost concern now. After all, you have other friends, don't you? So what's it matter if he's not your friend? Send him to hell, he's finished. |
| Romance › Re: It Is Adviceble To Give My Financee Some Money To Trade With. by TheSeeker(m): 1:36pm On Jul 29, 2009 |
I don't think anything is wrong with giving your fiancee money to trade with. Certainly, I want to believe that you know everything you do, you have to do it wholeheartedly without having to shield under any kind of pretense -- you have to let your mind be clear of any kind of doubts before you give it to her. Subsequently, you have to ask yourself some questions: **What kind of business is she going to do? ** Does she have the required experience; has she been involved in it? ** How favorable is the region of her proposed business for what she's venturing in? ** How well can she manage money? ** Does she have dependents? e.g., family etc., ** Is she a material freak?(every woman, I think, is materialistic; but some are freaks of it) ** How long have you been in this relationship to know it'll end up in marriage? ** Is she hardworking, initiative, creative, smart and intelligent? ** How can she turn a failure-looking situation into a potential success? I have to let you know that, you shouldn't expose this to your friends or they will poison your mind and let you act otherwise; you have to take your decision based on what you find out about her relativity with the business line she wants to get on. |
| Romance › Re: Please Write An Open Letter To Your Ex by TheSeeker(m): 12:55pm On Jul 29, 2009 |
Dicey but here goes : Dear ex, I don't know where to start from so I'll say it like it comes from my mind. All those times we were together, I wished everything was different and as good as we planned. You were good and all of a sudden I don't know what came over you and an abrupt change slapped my face from you. I thought we could work it out as I was very patient to sorting out issues with you and endure the excruciating pains your exasperating behaviors posed on my heart; alas it was all not good enough for you. You told me several times I was the best man for you; the best you've ever had. I wondrously think, why then all the attitudes from you? I initially thought it must have been some kind of pressure, I opted for a talk with you --- which you never agreed to. I gave you some time to cool off, then you accused me of being so far away from you. I came closer, you said I was pressing and pressurizing. I'm sure I loved you unfortunately you couldn't see that. We had too many differences, I know but we promised to walking through them all as we successfully did in the early months of the relationship - but what ever happened to the time we shared together, the understanding we had, the kind of bond we shared? We loved each other then. It was a shame it had to end that way. It didn't help any better that you weren't ready to communicate your issues, worries and problems with me, and I hoped you would someday. But we didn't come to that, ever. I'm not pushing blames on you, neither am I trying to make you feel bad. I guess I'm just trying to let you know that you were a good girl, but we lacked communication. I wish it could have been better, but oh, it's one of those wishes that we have which never comes true. I hope you're doing greatly well in all ramifications; be a good girl, have fun, be lively. I wish you the very best now and in the days ahead. TheSeeker |
| Romance › Re: Why Wouldnt You Allow Your Friend To Date Your Sister Or Brother? by TheSeeker(m): 12:05pm On Jul 29, 2009 |
If he's a good guy, why not? What difference does it make if she had met the same kind of guy elsewhere and he wasn't my friend, will I object? Of course not. |
| Culture › Re: Osun -- State Of The Living Spring! Identify Here by TheSeeker(op): 11:29am On Jul 29, 2009 |
And Susan Wenger's residence was just a few meters down the OJA OBA market & the ATAOJA palace. The ARUGBA for Osun Festivals are always VIRGINS. They aren't allowed to get married or have any kind of relationship with a man or woman until they have completed their vows. However, this could be for several years. They are also chosen from certain families; but they always get whatever they want. |
| Romance › Re: Is Six Years Not Too Much? by TheSeeker(m): 3:59pm On Jul 28, 2009 |
[quote author=sharkz_ibt link=topic=302137.msg4261391#msg4261391 date=1248792551]well i guess im gaining my ground again, i love her so much, just too much .im willing to wait for six yrs but she never told me wat i will b waiting for, if she is down for me or not thats y im loosing patience[/quote]How long have you been dating her? What position is your relationship now? Again, I think the best thing is talk to her and know what she's asked you to hold on for 6 years for. By the way, what did y'all talk about before she pulled the 6 year string? |
| Romance › Re: If You Found Out That You've Been Dating A Cultist: by TheSeeker(m): 3:56pm On Jul 28, 2009 |
What kind of cultist? Money ritual cultist? School cultist? Societal cultist? What kind? |
| Romance › Re: How Esle Can One Say I Dont Want? by TheSeeker(m): 3:40pm On Jul 28, 2009 |
MoneyRule:Might work with women with great exposure and patient tolerance. Judging it from a Nigerian perspective, no lady will agree to that and if the ex agrees to, she will only end up harming the current girl. The best way to it is, go talk to her where the both of them will be and no one else. They should spend as much time as possible to sort this out, or his girlfriend will be the one caught up in the peril |
| Romance › Re: Does Genotype Really Matters In Courtship? by TheSeeker(m): 3:21pm On Jul 28, 2009 |
Unless you can handle the pain, the emotional torture and dehydration of losing a child/children, it is not a good idea. 2 Likes |
| Romance › Re: Can You Love Somebody Without Trust? by TheSeeker(m): 3:19pm On Jul 28, 2009 |
Yes, you can love someone without trusting them. If y'all break up after a hurtful relationship, you can decide not to trust again, then quit the relationship but you can still love the person. However, love without trust can go wane at some point. |
| Romance › Re: How Esle Can One Say I Dont Want? by TheSeeker(m): 3:08pm On Jul 28, 2009 |
Just the way you said it "I don't want" |
| Romance › Re: Female Nairalanders, Pls Be Sincere by TheSeeker(m): 2:53pm On Jul 28, 2009 |
gloriuss:Yes, such guys are the kind that don't have hope, don't want to seek any and lack the potential to dig one up for themselves; such guys deserve to be dumped. If he worked along with your motivation, you wouldn't have dumped him. |
| Romance › Re: Female Nairalanders, Pls Be Sincere by TheSeeker(m): 2:43pm On Jul 28, 2009 |
Jilt is a common occurrence. Your observation, poster, is very true. There are many reasons as regards to this. A guy who is yet to be "made" have four types : ** Willing to better himself, striving hard to ensure he comes off and breaks off the chains of penury; and has some opportunities or hope for some. ** Lazy, waiting for bread to be dropped on his laps. ** Willing to make use of every opportunity he has, but has none. ** Just unlucky; no matter what opportunity he has, something happens that blows it and never was any his fault. It's just pure unluckiness. Ladies will stick with the first type apparently. They will break off from the second, maybe the third and definitely the fourth. It's not easy for a girl to stick to a guy who's unlucky especially these times where time does nothing but flies. They will work with the first type of guy because there's an instrument to work with -- opportunities. Without opportunities, you merely can't do anything unless miracle happens, which, only "losers"(depends) hope for. Everyone wants a comfortable relationship, but if presently it doesn't show off any sign of comfort then chances are that you'll work to make it better for the both of you, only when the other party is willing and ready to make use of every opportunity available to them. However, I have to admit that there are ladies who are simply gold diggers, intolerable, and lazy. They can't and will never endure the pressure, the tribulations and the rigor that comes with day in and out struggling to introduce comfort into their relationship. Guys on the other hand cannot envisage a future with a girl who has no future. I don't know of any guy who would date a girl who doesn't have prospects, plans for herself --- at least for myself. Everyone wants a partner they can be proud of, someone you can show off to your friends; a partner that when married can be an exemplary factor to your kids. When a woman drops a "made" guy for a "more made" guy, she's a gold digger. |
| Sports › Re: N8.2 Billion NTA U-17 World Cup Scandal by TheSeeker(m): 1:38pm On Jul 28, 2009 |
desgiezd:The opposite is the meaning in Nigeria. |
| Romance › Re: Is Six Years Not Too Much? by TheSeeker(m): 1:23pm On Jul 28, 2009 |
If I may ask, why asterisk the rest part of your numbers? It's either you have them up there or you don't. What's up with the email address anyways? If you really need advice, you'd have to follow this thread no matter what. But, I'll drop my thought. You said you're in final year, and she's in final year which explains that you're on almost the same academics stage. OK, agreed that the kind of relationship you want with her is a serious, long term and marriage-pointing one, she definitely has to take her time. Kissing or having sex with her has nothing to do with her feelings or where she stands with you. The most important thing is her integrity to living up to her words in 6 years. Another important question is, can you wait for 6 years? I want you to understand that, medicine major isn't just some easy major where you can handle the pressure of a relationship and that of your academics. It requires a lot of seriousness, ardent reading, unceasing studying and a lot of concentration. I'm sure you don't want an unsuccessful medical student as a girlfriend and, she was sent to school just so she can study and not get caught up in a relationship --- her education is a first priority; you blew in along the line. Definitely she's got to put you on hold so as to attain all she wants educationally and get back with you later on. My point is, if you think she's worth waiting for, sure, why not? I'm in no denial of the fact that, she must show you signs that she will keep her words. You have to be in contact, probably talk a few times but should be kinda short. On a negative threshold, maybe she doesn't know how to put you off and thinks that's the best way to go by it. Either way, she has to exhibit signs that will make you comfortable that she's ready for you when she's done in 6 years. The big questions still remain, can you wait for her? Can you stand the pressure?Will she keep her words? Do you think you'll be compatible after all the wait? Do you see a great sign of a greater blending between you both? These are questions you have to answer in your heart honestly before you know what decision to make, but take the above suggestions into critical observation. |
| Sports › Re: N8.2 Billion NTA U-17 World Cup Scandal by TheSeeker(m): 1:06pm On Jul 28, 2009 |
Nigeria is dead; can we all observe a moment of silence?  |
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