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Our food is the tastiest but many foreigners usually complain about the strong aroma.

If only ladies know how guys appreciate their natural looks.

Most men don't see all those funny impossible hairstyles ladies put on in the name of wigs or the paintings on their faces that gives them impossible looks.

Just look as natural as you can and see Real men drool over you.

#TeamNaturalBeauty.

AngusTV:
It still boils down to understanding God’s word for yourself.

The way I might read the Bible and understand it might be diffferwnt from yours. So I shouldn’t force you to understand and see things from my own perception or understanding.

We should pray for the spirit of discernment too. To be able to tell what is good and what is bad

Shalom

The bottom line is that people have given their own definition of sins and that is very ok as long as they make it a standard for themselves and not for others.

I created this thread because of the way Many pastors go about condemning innocent souls because ''THEY BATTLE WITH BAD HABITS'' that are not really sin, they present salvation as a thing you achieve by yourself through works and not by grace.... they make it look extremely difficult for salvation to be embraced and they usually present salvation in an arrogant manner rather than solemnly.

GOD accepts people as they are and by the time you start condemning a person that has not even come to christ because he has some crazy habits, then what message are you passing across?

This thread is to give hope to those who battle with addictions or some form of crazy habits...to tell them there is hope in Christ Jesus...to assure them that Jesus will never shut the gates of heaven against them even if they struggle with these habits till death and finally, to let them understand that it is the holy spirit who helps us to overcome sins and bad habits and not by our own power.

Lalasticlala happy Sunday to you.

Zzor:
are you even handsome to start with,what is so special about a man being handsome?All a man need is money and discipline.Stop letting it intoxicate you

Why are you using another person's pics as your profile dp?

See fine boy turn himself to demon with money millions of people are praying to see.

ItsTerah:
I know I'm going to get alot of insults from you guys and that's why I didn't use my original Nairaland account for this, but please hear me out and give me good advice.

I'm the kind of girl that doesn't love easily. I don't think I've ever fallen in love before. I have dated just one guy and I broke up with him when he tried to rape me. I'm still a virgin and the reason is because I have trust issues. I know that if I have sex with a guy I'll become very attached and my heart can easily be broken. So I'm waiting for a guy I can trust.

I recently just started dating someone. I'm not in love with him but we've been very good friends and when he asked me out I just had to say yes so that I wouldn't lose him. I've still not had sex with him and I like that he respects my wishes. My boyfriend loves me and although I don't love him equally I've opened up to him about how difficult it is for me to reciprocate love.

Then there is this other guy I just became friends with. I won't lie, I'm sexually attracted to this guy. My sexual attraction to him intensified when he opened up to me about his kinks which are similar to mine. He told me he has feelings for me and likes me alot and can't get me out of his mind. I admitted I am sexually attracted to him but that I don't have feelings for him. I know he is sexually attracted to me and has made advances at me and even asked for nude pictures all of which I refused. But I still talk to him. He knows about my boyfriend and is aware of my situation. Occasionally he flirts with me but I try not to flirt back. I've tried to bury my sexual attraction to him but he is just so physically appealing. I've made it clear that I want to be just friends and he seems okay with it. I know I'm principled enough to not allow him have sex with me I'm wondering if it's safe being just friends with him. I enjoy talking to him and don't want to end our friendship.

You are just about to make your first relationship mistake in your life.

You see those feelings of chemistry, biology, and physics are in fact the terrible ones that make many ladies cry HAD I KNOWN but that other guy you think you don't love is the real deal.

it takes time to fall in love so give that first guy time and i bet you will come to love him so much but this other guy is a bad guy but unfortunately, ladies love bad guys.

This is my candid advice.

We are all humans and are prone to mistakes, no one should judge anyone.

As long as we depend on the holy spirit, he will perfect our salvation, we can never overcome sins or bad habits on our own.

About two weeks ago, I saw a man preaching in public and he was practically pointing at smokers telling them that they will end up in hell if they don't quit smoking and I was so dumbfounded and I began to wonder...who gave him the right to judge people and condemn them because they smoke? and come to think of it, when does the habit of smoking translate to an act of sin?

It is very disheartening that the devil has used heretic teachings by ''Pastors'' who are meant to lead people to heaven to instead send many to hell and even as I write this, many souls are trooping to HELL in their millions, not because of any other reason but because of the harsh false teachings of many Preachers who have given their own definition of sins rather than teach the real truth from the scriptures, they have defined an act that seems UNPLEASANT to them as a sin even when the bible at no point made clear reference to such acts as sins.

One of such heretic teaching is equating bad habits to sin...In life, habits are neither good nor bad, but where a habit moves toward, by a specific impulse or desire is where it begins to be defined as a virtue or a vice.

Do you know that many pastors preach that anyone who drinks alcohol, smokes(Weed, Cigarette, shisha....), gambles, masturbates, uses pieces of jewelry, indulge in polygamy, does cosmetic surgery of any type, uses makeup, has body art, piercings and on and on WILL NEVER MAKE HEAVEN?

Can we just close our eyes and imagine for a minute how unbelievable it is to even think that billions of people indulging in the aforementioned will go straight to hell if they die struggling with those habits.

WHAT IS THE POINT?

We have clear sins as made known by the scriptures and we have bad habits which are not sins and can never prevent us from making heaven. Bad habits could damage us totally like drinking alcohol which even in small quantity can damage our organs, smoking weed, shisha, a cigarette can damage our organs and cut our lives short, masturbation is very addictive and could affect productivity and gambling can destroy us financially... but that still does not make them sins and anyone indulging in any of these should never at any time condemn him or herself to hell but should call on the Holy Spirit to help and trust GOD because when the holy spirit comes into your life, every bad habit or sinful habit will be a thing of the past BUT THE PROBLEM IS THAT MANY PEOPLE DON'T TRULY SEEK THE HELP OF THE HOLY SPIRIT. You can't have the holy spirit in you and still enjoy or crave for sins...that is the difference between a truly born again individual and one who is taking GOD's grace for granted.

Jesus said in the book of John 6;37 '' All those the Father gives me will come to me, and whoever comes to me I will never drive away.'' Jesus will never drive you away or condemn you because you struggle with any crazy habit or even sins. The scriptures encourage us in the book of Philippians 2:12 '' Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed--not only in my presence but now much more in my absence--continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling,

Salvation is a work in progress, a continuum, some attain maturity faster than others but nobody can be more born again that a born again neither can we be more human than another human, we only grow in maturity and that is what GOD wants us to do, to strive to be better and better and never allow any bad habit or sin make us give up and condemn ourselves to hell.

This is not a message of convenience but a message of hope, and liberation and i hope this ministers to someone.

Chai! See song... Percusion on point.

Do I blame them? I blame the lame Commedians who usually exalt them with silly jokes of portraying Soldiers as demigod.

Let any crazy naija soldier try rubbish with me because of the uniform, he or she will pray to turn back the hands of time.

stchinedu:
How do you mean please?

There is more to it.

This story does not add up.

MsDoris:
BBNaija 2020: Kaisha Says All Relationships In The House Are Fake, Reveals Who The Winner Would Be

Newly evicted Big Brother Lockdown housemate, Kaisha Umaru, has named the housemate she thinks and wants to win this season's grand prize of N85 million.

Speaking to Ebuka Uchendu, the host of BBNaija on African Magic, Kaisha named Dorathy as the possible winner.

According to her, Dorathy would win because she is real, she has not changed her character.

The Sokoto born further stated that she doesn't think any relationship in the house is real.

She also revealed that she will be focusing on her skin care brand and would further her education.

https://www.mimidoris.com/2020/08/bbnaija-kaisha-says-all-relationships.html

Crazy generation, what could be more real in a relationship when sex is involved.

Awon Omokomo. I wonder what goes through the minds of these ladies who have lived like dogs yet clamouring for a faithful husband when they should even pray to be with a man who will find them worthy of a concubine.

wickyyolo:
You’re poor that’s why.

Poor people make these kind of statements

You are the one who is mentally and psychologically poor no pun intended.

The guy you quoted made perfect sense.

ArcFresky:
Someone that didn't work ₦1, is saying his networth?

My thoughts exactly. This life no balance at all.

When some people work their way up, some just have the luck of a rich dad.

The latter should keep shut when the former speak.

Mizflo:
Thanks for the advice. I have lost faith in Jesus because if he was there I wouldn’t have been suffering like this . I don’t want to look for him because he has never care about me and I don’t want to know him

I think you are crossing the line here. It was not Jesus that made you open your legs when you know you were not ready to be a mum so don't sound this way.

Anyways just calm down, all will be well.

Petyprincess:
Thanks for the compliment

Ma je kan ko ba e o

ipodstinks:
I don't care, your guy can come from Mars. All I know is that, I don't date broke ladies. If you don't have good job or your own account is not fat as you want and still lazy. Bleep off, I don't want leeche in my life.

I am not dangote , but capable of feeding any woman for the rest of her life.

Broke girls don't have life. Guys should reason and start going for ladies with class. The class I mean is not those that use cream and make up to deceive themselves. But those with brain and hardwork, those that have money in their bank accounts. Don't allow any leeches in your life.


Beauty pageant has money or not and she's doing well for herself. So those are the kind of women I talk about.

Not leeches, I mean broke ass ladies

For your mind, a guy that have a lady that suffer with him will now leave her for you when he has his money. Yinmu.

There is a difference between broke leeches and a broke undemanding lady.

I know many broke ladies who will never leech on any man.

HBB1:
Legs and feet o!

You should see me asking girls,' can I see your feet?!'

Weird!

Like seriously!

Petyprincess:
Girl how can i like this 100 times?
You nailed it!! Here on nairaland any girl that wants a rich guy is oloshô
But i good wife materials is a girl that wants broke husbands that wnt be able to take care of himself not to talk of family!
I didn't suffer in my father's house so why will i suffer in my husband's house?so because i want to prove to some broke and insecure guys here i should marry a broke guy
See guys there are many ladies out there that wants a broke guy,gp for them!! But as long as i have many choices i will never go for a broke man!!

You all get it twisted.

There is nothing wrong in desiring a guy that is capable but you all fail to realize that wealth is progressive meaning it is step by step so ruining a way from broke guys make you a real gold digger cos that made guy you want was once broke and can still be broke even if you met him as a rich guy.

Except you all want to be second wives it makes no sense expecting a guy in his early 30s to be made. This is common sense ... So work hard on making your own money so that the young man you are with will have enough space to build his wealth.

Nuff said.

Ursulaa:
Fair, tall and slightly muscular... Add soft lips and am good to go

I thought you would love black to complement your fair skin.

Udeyhere:
Me, I can't take my eyes off from a slim, tall and dark skin Lady with small breast and mortar Nyah's size

And some small tits ladies will be feeling insecure that they don't have big bxxbs yet here is a guy in love with small tits. This life funny.

lekush:
As for me, I prefer the lady to be dark in complexion or slightly off dark in skin colour, but definitely not fair (fair skin colour is a turn off for me). Also prefer her to be slim with moderate butts and boobs. Much boobs is allowed and she must be able to dress well with good spoken english

Wow! you see what i mean, it is hard to believe that some guys get turned of by light skin, yet some ladies will do anything to get a fair skin.

jaxxy:
What does it profit a man to be calling or describing the spec he likes without ensuring he is also the spec his spec will like??

It will only end in gnashing if teeth and wailing.

I see people describing Beyoncé or Tyson beckford based on their spec bt I observed they themselves don’t exactly fit what their specs will want so pls tell me are we serious or daydreaming??

People shud ensure they are their specs own spec too I can’t shout

If you direct this to the ladies i will understand cos men can always get their specs but the ladies will only hope they get their specs. If a man sees his spec he will surely approach her if he is man enough but a typical lady will rarely approach her spech but would rather give funny unrealistic green light with hope that the guy woos her. Very sad indeed.

lalasticlala:
If I say my own enh

Talk am

Lalasticlala happy Sunday.

What is your own definition? I need your answer o.

NewDelhi:
The most annoying part is that he took away with him the secret location of some of his stashed wealth.

This is the secret to the ever growing wealth of many banks.

Many people have died leaving billions in banks.

Ladycewhy:
wait o, I am interested in this sexual decency, which styles are decent for a lady ,make I take notes .


All this penis wielding people on this forum will not seize to amaze me with their misogyny.

Sexual decency is not about sex styles but by my definition it means a lady keeping her legs shut till marriage Asides unfortunate cases of molestation.

And if at all she can't due to the crazy world of indecency we now live in, a lady's body count before marriage should never exceed more than a guy or two max.

I don't want to argue this... You askedc me my definition of sexual decency and I just gave it to you.

I'm not judging a by lady with several body counts and I can even marry a repentant LovePeddler so don't think I'm condemning anyone here... Just stating my definition.

pocohantas:
He typed absolute nonsense. You mean my fiance’s EX would come to our engagement pictures to say she misses how he licks her pussy and he will be PROUD? What kind of man is that?




And what is your definition of sexual decorum/decency? That a lady has an EX? What evidence do you have that he fcked her? Because it is normal for guys to play that card when things don’t go their way. Men are fcking women, so women will fck men.

Whether he did her or not, the comment should never be seen as offensive (Even when it is totally foolish and uncalled for) that is my point.

Many ladies have lived like dogs and they will gladly defend it so they must brace up for situations such as this. I cant explain it further...MEN WILL ALWAYS FVCK WOMEN AND WOMEN WILL ALWAYS FVCK MEN so if a man won't take offence with such expose, i think women should embrace it too to prove their non challance to sexual decency.

Petyprincess:
I understand your point but do you feel a guy with good qualities don't approach ladies?

You can't blame women for not approaching a guy that matches their criteria but the question is are you matching his criteria?

For example a lady might want an old and extremely rich man while the man wants a young,beautiful girl but this lady is 35 years old so the point of getting this man is extremely low

The point is no matter how high your criteria is, if you have the criteria this person wants in a lady you will easily click. One thing guys don't know is a lady don't have to be rich to get a extremely rich guy,most rich guys look for entirely different criteria they prefer in a woman.

Above all we have preferences which everyone should respect,when guys say they want under 18,young and virgin girl i dont get mad but when a lady says she prefers a rich guy there is always a problem!!

Make she make the move first.