₦airaland Forum

Eniolakiite:
Someone once said to a young girl “Go to America, women have choices in America”

As a woman, America and most developed countries will always put you first

In America, the woman owns the child 90%. She is considered before the man.
And you can’t get away with abusing or maltreating a woman. The system favors women here.

However women shouldn’t abuse this power. Use it accordingly.

Satan always makes them abuse it even if they never wanted to expecially if the guy is unlucky to have a good job. The lady will immediately pick a calculator to see how much she stands to get from the government as a single mum (Afterall she is technically one cos of lack of support from the guy)..
Once she sees the amount, the next thing is to tell the guy to move or she declares she is no longer with the guy... Case closed.

lefulefu:
its their system that messes up marriage.Its like the system encourages women to seperate and divorce.Sometimes a woman can just be bored with the marriage and tells the man she wants a divorce and the courts will start forcing to pay alimony and other expenses even if he"s dead broke.

First Nd foremost they hardly even marry in the real sense... They just form partners and anytime they feel they are no longer in love they throw you out of the house.

They make more money staying single than staying married so why do they need the men. They have crazy intimacy gadgets of various types to please them within minutes so what is the need of a guy with his wahala who may hardly satisfy them.

Guys who come home to marry usually regret cos once their wives get there they copy their ways and they even do it worse in most cases.

I have seen men in their 50s and 60s leaving their marriages to start living alone... It is in Africa that people still respect n crave for marriages... Out there it is baby mama n Daddy that is the norm where a lady may have 3kids for 3 different men n guys will have kids from different ladies... Ladies share men with dignity and the men sleep around like mad dogs. .

If Devil now helps you that you have a child with a jezebel you Don finish. Just start putting aside big money every month for the next 17years of your life as child support... Let me stop here abeg.

The devil has messed up the western world as regards marriage big time.

It will take the special grace of GOD for any man or woman to find purposeful marriage in the western world.

The moment you are leaving naija to settle abroad be it any EU or American country or Canada,... Just sign away marital dream.

Only 1 out of every 50 couples enjoy marital bliss if you marry from there no matter how careful and romantic you may be.

Its like these countries are cursed with marital problems.

woke4eva:
Zombie generations......What a pity...They will only have power to insult pastors like they forced you to come to church or give tithe??

Yes Pastor you have been right all long while the herd of Nigerian zombies have been crucifying you and misquoting you..

Is wearing a mask scientific...??.....The answer is definitely NO!!


You can imagine wearing ankara , bra, pant and all sort of funny and dirty looking clothe material all in the name of preventing covid 19.....lol


You are only killing yourselves and decreasing your immune system...Nobody has a prove that covid 19 is airborne.....You are only decreasing your oxygen intake there by increasing your stress hormone (cortisol)......And that indeed makes your more susceptible to being a victim of their satanic PLANdemic.... Cuz ofcourse your eyes is a free passage for mr. corona ........Can you now see the stupidity??..

Wear the mask forcefully or you will be arrested......If we can force them to adhere to that; they will be ready to swallow anything.....Heeheee...Shame!!

I pity this generation....It is almost looking like a lost cause and it is quite sad.....sobs

COVID is very Airborne. In the context of COVID-19, the airborne transmission may be possible in specific circumstances and settings in which procedures or support treatments that generate aerosols are performed. You may argue that it is nt an effective way of prevention and i will not agree less with you but because the virus is present in aerosols,it will prevent those who already have the virus from spreading it to others when they sneeze,cough or even talk and also because some people are asymptomatic and yet can still spread it,it has become imperative for everyone to wear a face mask at least at this point. But as i wrote, the big problem is hygiene, and face mask quality which is a big problem in a place like Nigeria.

Wearing of good facemask will limit the spread to a certain level but the problem is with people wearing substandard facemasks.

He made sense though.

funmisticqueen2:
he is the only one in the marriage. Let him be single abeg

I kinda understand his angle.

noakchukibadan:
Hello,

Please no ethnic banters. One of us is from Ekiti, and the other is from Benue. I am married for 8 years with 2 kids. It has been one problem to another.

I must be very frank, before marriage, my wife had many very questionable characters, but unfortunately we did the marriage counseling in a church were the pastor happened to be her family member. Many of the issues would have been resolved, but when I raised those issues about her character the pastor promised me that everything will be fine after the marriage.
Although this is not an excuse, but looking back now I would have been more patient and taken my decision myself instead of rushing into the marriage. For this I HOLD MYSELF ACCOUNTABLE

There is hardly nothing we do not quarrel about, I have always been the one to initiate settlement. The only way I ensure that there is peace in the house is for me not to complain about anything. Even at that, there is always trouble. If the children do anything wrong, she always says those characters the children are exhibiting are not from her and that she is not surprised that they inherited such characters from me.

She can go for months without talking to me, even if I tried to, I have done all I could do, I have begged, cried prayed. I just feel tired and exhausted from trying to make the marriage work or have peace in the home, the sad part is that she often reminds me every time there is misunderstanding that I should remember that she can stay on her own without talking to any body. Just to add, she is very prayerful.

OTHER INFORMATION.
1. I can say conveniently that there is no money problem at home. Finance is okay.
2. I went to see her father 2 years ago, the man said unfortunately he can not do anything. This is true because she was raised away from her Father, she has no contact with any of her fathers family and her father has a zero say in her life.
3. she has 5 elders ones, non of them is in communication with her because of many unresolved issues. Of her 3 younger ones she only maintains a relationship with the last boy who is just 14 years. .
4. Her mum can not talk to her because she simply dares not. However, behind, her mother use to beg me and she kept saying she understands her daughter's character and that she is doing her best by praying and doing deliverance for her.
5. She is not in contact with her maternal uncles and aunt because she said they supported her elder ones when she had problem with them.

So I am stuck with no one to help call the both of us and resolve the issue.

Every year for 5 straight years, she always forgets my birthday, last year, she forgot also, three days later, she bought me a present and I refused to collect the present and I asked her why does she keep forgetting my birthday, year after year for 5 years. She just said sorry, but I left the present in the room, she never bothered to bring the present to me. Another birthday was gone yesterday 2nd May, and as I write, no happy birthday yet.

I literally cook for myself, and all domestic things I do for myself.

I will end this by saying that in fairness to her, her character was not too different before the marriage and courtship, sincerely only once, that was like one year before the marriage I broke up with her, she came to apologize and promised that she will change. Her mother also came to apologize to me also.

This woman has refused to change or allow peace to hold sway, she is right every time, while everybody around is wrong. Sincerely, I do not know what to do anymore.

I am tired and exhausted. I do not know what to do anymore. I am 42, I was diagnosed of high blood pressure 2 years ago.

She will out grow it.
Just continue to be nice and forget divorce for the sake of the kids.

See bro. No marriage is perfect. You can marry another lady and reAlize that her own wahala is a child's play.

Atheistan:
After now you will see a picture of 5 people coming down from plane

Gbam!

And guess what?, they will find lame excuse to give.

davidmoyes:
They should stay the Bleep away

Bunch of hopeless liars. Who will want to come back to naija from US Canada or UK cos of corona?... Our clueless government trying hard to be relevant.

When they eventually bring them I will like to see returnees from these countries I mentioned.

swetjo:
Please let go and move on with your life.

Honestly. The way she is going about this is so sad

I pity her tho cos she is definitely ignorant of the happenings in Nigeria.

She should just move on.

Alcapodetuti:
The estranged wife of the Oluwo of Iwo land, Queen Chanel chin have come out to defend herself over the several abuse labeled on her personality by people hired by Oluwo, accusing her of being a bad wife for releasing the secret video recording of the Oluwo wrapping marijuana while in the palace and another one where the King admits involvement in credit card scam.

Olori Chanel chin reveal that the King at different times threatened to kill her, claiming he has the Nigeria police at his beckon. According to her, the Oluwo said that he’ll claim she (Chanel) caught fever and die. Claiming she made those video recording for her own safety, because she knew her waterloo will come before the king.

Oba Adewale Akanbi, known for his controversial image which spewed from several controversies he drew to himself and the royal court since November 9, 2015 when he was ‘selected’ and ‘appointed’ by former Governor Rauf Aregbesola of Osun State didn’t handle the sacking of his Olori right.

Watch the full clip of her defense below


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1zBQGC8Bn48

https://asabeafrika.com/why-i-recorded-oluwos-atrocities-inside-the-palace-olori-chanel-chin/

I pity this babe. She will just kill herself with mental illness.

She thinks this is western world where people give a hute.

Better move on and stop acting depressed.

sapientia:
Do you know how many strains out there?

No matter the strains, Herd immunity will take care of it as long as many people adhere to strict rules of preventing the virus.

As Lock down is eased today in Lagos with over 22million residents, the battle against Covid has started and it may interest you all that *Herd immunity* has automatically set in.

It means as many people as possible will be infected with the virus and possibly build a natural immunity against it without showing any symptoms while some may fatally succumb to it and of course some will have mild symptoms.

Every one in Lagos must fall into one of these categories so it is up to you to strive to be in a favourable group and the best bet is to follow strict rules to avoid contracting the virus and as I always reiterate... Pray to GOD for the ultimate protection.

Herd immunity seems to be the only way to stop the spread for now and I pray that none of us reading this will be among those who will pay the ultimate price for the battle against the invisible enemy.

Stay Face.

Lalasticlala i strongly believe this should be beamed.

GAZZUZZ:
A school of thought shared by many.

True.

Crazeman03:
Hello Nairalanders, Hope you guys are staying Safe. Please don't mind my writing, I will make it short as possible.

I met this wonderful lady Last year and everything as been going good until 7 months ago when she told me she was Hiv+. That hit me hard but that didn't change anything, she was surprised I didnt react and opening up to me didn't scare me because I'm negative though we haven't had sex yet before the moment.

Now it been 4month we've been having unprotected sex. I'm not afraid of contracting the virus, as she keeps taking are med and viral load is low. I made sure before we went for test before having unprotected sex. Her CD4 count is above 750 and viral load is below 20, which make hiv undetectable in her.

Now one night around 3months ago, she woke me up in the middle of the night to ask me, why do I love her knowing fully well about her status because she could believe she will ever had a relationship with someone negative not even in this Nigeria by the way they stigmatize a hiv+ people. I told her the reason and I'm not afraid hiv is not the worse or the baddest of diseases. There are more killer diseases than HIV and HIV is not a diseases but a virus. Only attack your immune system and its no longer a deadly virus.

Now. The problem I have now is that whenever I imagine myself having it and how I will popping drugs everyday, make me kinda moody towards her, because I always keep telling her to always take her drugs. Last night she discover she was pregnant and I'm just imagining things how everything will play out, I know when she will be out to bed she won't be able to breastfeed. People will ask questions. I really need to tell someone in my family but I don't know who. My mom my react and the other person I trust is my younger sister.

On her own part, only her elder sister and brother knew she as the virus. And she had it since 2007.

I only need an advice if I need to tell any member of my family, looking to settle down with her this October.

Go ahead and marry her.

Encourage her to take her meds so that the viral load can remain insignificant.

But if you feel compelled to leave her, just let her know that you will always be there for her and the baby but things might get very complicated if you leave her at this point to marry another lady.

kunlesehan:
Serious Advice Needed Here oo
LOCKDOWN AND WEDDING PALAVA:

Traditional Marriage was fixed for 29th of March and Wedding was Fixed for 4th of April, the Traditional marriage was done and dusted but wedding could not hold as a result of #COVID-19

Now Pastor said the lady must not stay in the man's house till after wedding, pls advice.
Can a man still stay alone and marry his pillowcases even after traditional wedding, if you are the girl what will you do in this case, because the father said he has given his daughter out in marriage.

What's your take on this...

Some Nigerians and this lopsided mindset that until you do church wedding then you have not wedded.

This is what happens when you allow a mere man with a pastoral title control your life.

2by40ft:
the best thing is if you don't have any important work and you have the opportunity, please avoid going places. Catching covid-19 is very easy.

Very very easy... Expecially when it is airborne.

SweetCunt97:
Like that of buhari ba?

Nah you talk am.

SweetCunt97:
His doppelganger?

It is very easy to create a life like mask and the user will look perfectly like the original person.

This is not Kanu.

He is more fluent and posh than this. Except something about him changed.

This is the Kanu I know speaking here.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0cx9-1QbHnI

LibertyRep:
They will just be toying with people's emotion.

Just yesterday, I still heard the jingles of IBEDC warning that there's no free electricity and unmetered customers should come to their office to pick their bills.

If the deal hasn't been finalized, there's no point in telling the public so as not to put unnecessary friction between the DISCOs and their customers.

Anytime i see this type of topic my heart bleeds.

Abeg which free electricity? do they even provide electricity in the first place? or maybe im the one getting it twisted.

It is like promising to give your Babe a treat with money you don't even have. The worst-case scenario is for them to put everybody in darkness as usual and not bring bills for 3 months unlike now that they bill us without supplying any electricity.

I don't know about the sex part but without sounding hypocritical I want to acknowledge the fact that GOD is the greatest Artist. Chai, see raw beauty.

As per my spec, just give me a petite lady with onion booty. I dislike big ass with a passion.

The ex-factor is a terrible thing.

hahn:
Bro, this issue will escalate. I swear. Nigerians are being very ignorant and emotional with coming to terms with the potential disaster this covid-19 will bring.

Hunger kills too remember!

airminem:


Thanks for the kind words

The unfortunate twist is that terrible scammers have made it difficult for people to help.

In your case I find it disturbing that you pegged it to N800 which makes it look sketchy.

Just ask for assistance without putting any stipulated sum so that it will look credible.

airminem:


Please assist me if you can


2121923725Uba 800 naira please

I feel you sis. It is well with you.

Felincous:
Bros, stop blaming the government, the people said they were tired of the lock down and u are here mentioning government again. I 4see a situation where Nigerians will beg the government to lock down again. By the time it dawned on us, some educated illiterates won't have strength to be spewing thrash on Naira land.

So the people should die in Silence abi.

In U.K the government continues to pay salaries of all workers up to 80% each month.

Gives business owners up to £2800 each month.

Makes provision for people to suspend rent payment for 3months.

Gives money to the unemployed.

Gives £60k to families with f any doctor who dies in the course of treating patients with Covid and so much more.

Please why will people not enjoy lock down?

In naija hunger is killing people and you want them to remain indoors... Abeg think nah.

meobizy:
Our copy copy government is following the moves of modern nations without considering their efficiency in controlling the situation. I will remain at home till late July because from now till then there is no sure control measure to contain the spread of the virus apart from self-isolation.

Germany with all their advancements is about shutting down for the second time due to a resurge and U.K is still on lockdown so who be Nigerian government with their backwardness to guaranty adequate measures?

dederocs:
stay home lazy head, so you can not use your brain and wear mask, and keep social distancing...do you know the govt is broke due to shut down of economic activity, borrowing money up and down...use your brain.

And who told you face mask and washing of hands are sure proof of preventing the virus.

Small thing una don dey ask like agbero online. My point is clear. The Nigerian government is just willing to sacrifice the citizens because of their ineptitude. We can only pray for a miracle.

I'm so scared for Nigeria.

They are easing lock down simply because of the ineptitude thereby willing to sacrifice the citizens.

Call me a prophet of doom if you like but all I see is a failed government willing to watch many die cos lives don't matter to them.

I pray for a miracle so this infection won't escalate.

Beautykate:
I am writing to ask if you can help me to persuade my husband to do less around the house. I am worried that he is going to make himself ill from exhaustion. Also, and it is hard for me to say this to him without being hurtful, I married him for his fun personality not his work ethic and I fear I am losing him to domestic drudgery. I want an equal partner, not a slave.

We have a toddler and a baby, born few months ago. During the pregnancy, I was quite tired and run down and my darling, supportive husband started to do more and more around the house and with our son (and despite a full-time, responsible job, he has always done more than his fair share of housework). I am now breastfeeding the baby, which is tough because he barely stops feeding and won't really nap anywhere except in my arms.

So this leaves my husband doing the shopping, tidying, washing and cooking. He gets up at 6am every morning to get our toddler ready for nursery, with a packed lunch, and he drops him off before he can get himself off to work. Meanwhile, I just sit around feeding the baby!

I feel permanently guilty and as if the only way I will get my husband to do less is if I do more. The thing is that I can walk away from mess and he can't.

I hugely appreciate him helping, but, beyond the basics, would rather see him sleeping or even cuddling me on the sofa rather than trying to be on top of everything. I love my husband – he is truly the sweetest, most loving, most wonderful lover and father, but I find myself resenting the fact that I barely see his fun side these days because he is so tired that he is essentially ill – and I can't help thinking it is at least partly self-inflicted

So what exactly do you want us to do?

OK send us your address so we can come to your house to talk to him.

annyz:
Has he taken care of his people before trying to rescue others? That's why I find it difficult to believe the source.

Gbam!