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frozen70g:
Until you are married, read from now till tomorrow, you can't get the point

frozen70g:
I love this post, am glad women have realised that they are responsible for their own happiness

Don't expect any man to guarantee you of your happiness

Love your home and work hard to keep your home going

As for the men, keep eating different kind of soups, at a time you will loose appetite of soup that's when old age will take a toll on them

Meanwhile, the woman would have moved on to get a man that will appreciate her

That's how it works, if you leave her for another woman, she will get another man that will treasure her, by the time you come back to her, her heart already belongs to another man

You will be left with no option than to endure

But for how long ❓

timelessaproko:
Source: http://timelessaproko.com/2019/10/14/life-check-frank-edoho-past-decision-now-having-a-toll-on-his-present-as-he-ages/

sarrki:
The border closure is 100% ok for us to be able to think inward

The bbc pidgin news which I copied is an attest that we are doing well as a nation 8





https://www.bbc.com/pidgin/tori-49817208

Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband

Dear all

I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.

Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.

Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,

i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.

On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.

Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .

But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.

I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.

I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.

Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?

Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all

Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.

Emotionally, i am done.

lefulefu:
british girls are timid>?

lefulefu:
not exactly true.outside nigeria a lady can approach u and strike a conversation with u and from there normal friendship can start.she might not tell u directly that she likes u but she will give u obvious signs .Toks u are in the uk nau so why u been economical with the truth.how many uk girls dey clam up and squeeze their face if a guy says hi like they do in nigeria .i am in the dominica here and over here a lady can approach u and strike a conversation with u. there is no timidity here but then in nigeria i believe the guys still a part of the blame cos in nigeria if a lady is bold enough to approach a guy she fancy to strike a decent convo they will be calling her ashawo.the way of doing things in nigeria has made many nigeria girls very timid and anti social.no be their fault.

lefulefu:
well outside naija if a girl like u either she go give u very obvious signs that she likes or she might even approach u.its just that in naija if a lady approach a guy or make it obvious that she likes the guy then naija dudes will start tagging her as ashawo or cheap girl so dats why many naija babes dey always lock up.but the funny thing is that naija ladies outside nigeria also act the way non naija ladies act by approaching u or giving u obvious signs.if guys in naija start appreciating bold ladies then more will come out of their shells .

yeyeosoronga:
Having a standard should never be about money, if we settle down to analyse it. But money makes life sweeter
No woman should lower her standard in order to bear missus, and no man should settle either. Such marriages are oftentimes miserable ones.
If you love comes into the picture, great. Afterall love covers a multitude of sins. However, if you lower your standards, there will always be that background resentment. That's not healthy for any relationship.

William5432:
Honestly, i have gone for local rice like the president planned.

Am really enjoying it and wish they never open those borders. Our farmers are doing great and Thai rice never left them a slut.

Well, if you haven't listen to Teni's New EP "Billionaire", you're missing a lot, Download Now!

post=83082151:
Slow and steady we will get to a New and better Nigeria.

Nigeria will be great again in our lifetime.

We remain positive.

God bless Nigeria.


We pray that prayer is for only you and your people.
Illiterate that cannot even spell ordinary 'great'!
Disappointment of a wailer!

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Honestly. Most times I used to ask this question.I'm still yet to understand why its difficult for most ladies to make decisions when it comes to marriage.

Plead:
I have my own house/car, I earn 300k monthly and I’m happily married .

If that is what you call broke I pity you


No female in my hood is dependent on some nigga to buy sanitary pad unlike e-broke rat like you

otherway:
AMEN BABA.

GOD bless you too.

otherway:
Hmmmmm! I got so emotional and shed tears when i read this part. at this time in the last 3 years i was so broke and i remember borrowing 1k from a niece but today i earn about N1M a month when converted to the same Naira i borrowed and this is just the starting point for me.

Indeed the state of being broke or poor is relative and temporary.

GOD BLESS YOU TOKS BABA for your never-ending insightful threads. I just hope ladies learn.

Raalsalghul:
This is a very smart comment and has been the bane of some single women who want to marry.

It's hard to believe that out of all the men that've approached you in your life time, you've not seen your spec or something close to that.

Guest007:
Misery loves company.


I went for my 'Imaginary standards' and even added more to the list and when I saw him, I approached him and the rest is history.

Keep your god and your god sent man... I have my man and I chose the best man for me. I didn't wait, I didn't accept mediocre, I opted for the later. I grew a pair and got my man!

blank your mind from any Imaginary standard you have created for yourself and allow GOD HAVE HIS WAY or simply develop the balls to approach any guy that matches your imagination and stop bothering GOD.

*watch them bash me because I am happy*

Guest007:
I opted for growing a pair and finding my perfect man... Good luck to those who have to drop their standards

Simplep:
Ok,what you are trying to say is.......?

Okoronkwow:
You're a millionaire at 25,Are you a kidnapper? Come to okija and swear you're not a thief. �

2blockus:
Hello friends although this may sound strange to some person but it's the truth.

I started masturbating when I was 15 and I did it until I grew up and I feel is better than having girls that will take all my time and money.

fast forward I got a job and I pray to God to help stop this practice, another thought came to me that I should marry @ 27 so I can stop this act which I did and got married to a lovely wife.

At the first month I feel it will work not until one day my wife refuse me sex that made me to get angry I just pray to get to the office on time so I can help my self.

this was how it started and now I can't remember the last I had sex with her. infact it took us 10 month before she could conceive and people thought she had problem but I know the cause.

please I need a matured advice as she have caught me severally doing it in the restroom and I was just ashamed of myself.

note i still watch porn but not much shaaa.

Queenflourish:
She's not beautiful at all without makeup

mindtricks:
Your head dey at the bolded joor.
It is amazing that nudity is the new fashion.
Unless they leave some private parts open for public viewing, they are not yet well dressed.
The bill putting that in check wont be out of place.

phineas:
Lecturers are not harrased.They lack self control in Nigeria but not abroad.Whats the difference.

Its an enviroment that tolerates abuse by the lecturers unbated in Nigeria.That must be addressed.