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fpeter:
At 18, I didn't have any worries in the world
Graduated at 23 and wasn't bothered about being serious
At 26, I felt my older ones had something wrong with them hence they weren't getting married
30...Naim i realise say i should have married the dudes from 6yrs back... ...I started praying

gentlegenius:
What about those below 18? Pls say something about them because my girlfriend falls there.

henrimoto:
@Toks2008, One Thousand Likes for you!

humilitypays:
‎Well-researched, and in fact well written article. Well done!

But you didn't classify the age ranges properly.


It should have been:

17 - 23
24 - 28
29 - 35
35 - 40
40 and above.

The best age range of ladies to go for if you want a healthy, awesome relationship/marriage with little‎ or no drama is 29 - 35yrs range.

24 - 28yrs range is also okay but anything below 25yrs is a suicide mission!

Once again, nice write-up‎

elfmann:
But it's 6 pack! Not 6 packs.

JaneyBlingx:
No 4

Omotayor123:
Toks you are right...,

Waiting for the Men version sha..

UndisputedBosom:
Not 100% truth cox girls under 16 nowadays knows what money is in a relationship

UndisputedBosom:
Not 100% truth cox girls under 16 nowadays knows what money is in a relationship

ItsQuinn:
Thank God i don't see myself on Op's list

havennie:
U have a point, but hey i am not blind. A pot belly cannot just develop overnight, can it?
I don't think any man can stay close to me if he doesn't work out or maintain a good diet regularly. The kind of heat he will face from me ehn, he won't be able to take it.

havennie:
Thank u for this thread Op.
For me, any guy with a protruding stomach that comes my way in the name of toasting me, i turn him down immediately, i dont want to know about his money or family name. I just get irritated at the sight of it seriously.

Okite15:
both d deceivers and d deceived are in d same shoe, stop deceiving people DAT dey can marry a divorcee. that said, a natural man cannot understand d things of d spirit! its clear u need salvation, quote me anywhere. Ciao...

Excuzeme:
Stop biting yourself in the tongue!
It takes a dunce to do that.

Below is your quote advocating the prospective bride/groom to go seek REASON FOR THE DIVORCE, from the "Ex".




Why seek information from a 'source' (the Ex) when you are sure the information given will be FALSE and UNRELIABLE?
It simply shows a lack of clarity of the thought process on the part of whoever does that.
No long story, its a dud.

Okite15:
bro, dats ur sch of thought, no scripture is of private interpretation, and dats wat u did in DAT write up. Divorce and remarriage is a sin, be it male or female, there's nothing insightful Abt DAT thread. just please accept d scripture in black and white, u are not wiser Dan d author- God. God bless.

JingoOAU:
In my own personal opinion, Desmond is blessed enough to pay for the whole hospital bills....he takes home nothing less than 5million per month as state house of assembly member

Pheals:
from thief to thief! ! Politicians in Nigeria are heartless o! !!! We don't have to leave this to God. ..if you have anything at home start using it now to curse them

ConcNiggress56:
i am decent and hardworking. i don't wear provocative outfits although i stay classy. this my father's agemate has been on my neck for some time now just to go down with me. i keep telling him NO and all but he won't bulge a bit. he's got a wife and kids.. i don't wanna ruin his home neither do i want to put my own future in jeopardy by sleeping with him..

however, jobs are very scarce in this country and i don't wanna lose this 6-figure paying job cos he keeps threatening to lay me off if i don't do his bidding.. what do i do?? please advice!!


mods.. i will appreciate if you can push this to fp... i am so confused right now... i need people's opinion.


cc lalasticlala, seun

Okite15:
the Bible. Weda u believe it or not doesn't change its stand!

Okite15:
if you marry a divorcee, u are an adulterer. simple. Neva marry a divorcée

shaybe:
Early Christianity was Roman Catholicism. Other groups were suppressed successfully.

The English bible which you all base your faith on exists because of the church on England.

The Church of England was founded to facilitate the divorce of the founder.

The English bible you know exists because of divorce.

I cannot comment about earlier Latin, Hebrew and Greek bibles.

But just stating how everyone came to be debating the contents of this book. Divorce!!

A historical fact.

Excuzeme:
This does not make sense one bit!

How did you ever come about the coloured part?
There are millions of people who found TRUE LOVE in their second marriage, Male and Female, and lived together till death!

BTW: there are things that cant be forgiven, or "forgotten", which makes re-unification IMPOSSIBLE and DIVORCE the ONLY ALTERNATIVE!
For[b] example[/b], Man caught his wife with his Brother!

Also, there are times when a divorce is better alternative than forcing two "mad humans" to live under the same roof!
Although, l think it should not be taken for granted, due to its effects on the children, if any

dotedote:
[[b]what about gambling habits, shameless infidelity acts, stealing and every rehabilitation exercise has proved ineffective?[/b]

histemple:
I doubt seriously if you are married because of your submissions herein. The OP is spot on.
There is no perfect marriage anywhere in the world, the happy families you see, are products of continued resilience and tolerance.

First, you must understand that the institution called marriage is under serious and CONTINUOUS attack by the devil. So, some things happening in marriages are spiritually manipulated and can only be understood by married people.

So, if a husband/wife offends the other and he/she is truly sorry, then the one insisting on divorce is either unforgiving or has no regard for marriage. Such person will always have reasons to walk away from subsequent marriage (s).

He rightly captured it when he said "there is a party that isn't willing to divorce". If you are lucky to have a remorseful and apologetic partner who wants the marriage intact, you should be happy and forgiving. Then follow up with prayers.

From experience, the party who is insistent on divorce thinks the grass is greener on the other side.

lanreni:
Don't waste your time.the stubborn goats will never listen to intelligent advice. my sister almost fell for this. she almost married a "divorced" pastor in the name of desperation. today she is happily married.

merxi55:
not on this aspect oh...lmao

nelsonjj:
For This Recession, How Can A Man Think Of getting Married To A Divorcee When Single And Searching Girls N Ladies Abound. Op, This Topic They Somehow Nah. Dont Worry Hunger Don Make Man Wise O

Amelian:
There's no ex on this earth that will talk good of their past exs especially when they know someone better is coming to take their place..
U are just inviting more headaches to your life by snooping around too much..
Let the sleeping dogs lie and a better person in the relationship

drnoel:
Since I have to explain an adage to you. I think its "fair to ask for you relatives to return back the dowry paid for marrying your mom", no insults meant but it is alway spoken like this in igboland before an explanation is given.

I have seen many cases of divorce and know many people that have had one, are fighting one and are currently going through one.
The necessity to meet with or speak to the partner of the person in question is irrelevant and only brings confusion. I know a friend that his Caucasian wife visited him at his base and after a long night of activity and serious all night vigil. She called him the next day after she arrived her base and asked for a divorce.
There are many questions that such actions as meeting the partner can never answer. Divorcee's are not animals or monsters like our Nigerian society likes to portray them, they are human beings with emotions and feeling. They get hurt nust like u and me, they shit, they spit and they get sick. Its only due to human weakness or failure of an action or inaction that have placed them at such receving end. They should not be stigmatized because it but rather be understood.
I could tell u many other examples but with stop here. Its a wonderful topic though. God bless.

drnoel:
Yes ur statistics is very factual cos its what we have to fight with while counseling these people. I agree with asking questions and doing ur discrete research before jumping the broom but thats as far as I think it should be taken. The idea of speaking with the other spouse is wrong and will only bring bias