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STFUareyouG0d:
Can't marry a divorcee tho

On the contrary, a divorcee is a better option anydday anytime but that depends on the type of divorcee you meet which boils down to making a very good due diligence.

Are never married single guys any better than the divorcee? Remember that experience is a plus.

Diddyydiva:
Toks you are right this time

On the contrary, you want to believe i am right this time and not that i have been wrong all the while..

Lovelynature:
Nicely written. But I'm just wondering which ex would give you a concrete answer, when they don't want to remember what happened between them.

Instead of trying to investigate all these, why not try to find out what both of you share in common - how compatibility you are - things he/she can or can not tolerate no matter what.
This way you know where to draw lines - either to ride on or back off

No matter how the ex tries to give a false info,there will always be a clue to who that person really is.

This does not apply to divorcee alone but even the unmarried.

drnoel:
Confused, inappropriate and laden with errors. The problem about giving an advice is knowing that an advice given to an individual should also be taken by the giver. As it is this advice written here fails to have strength and purpose to be taken. Nairalanders over to una.

Shey you have taken that thing again...

Because you are not communicating at all.

Mimzyy:
Ok, let's look at this scenario, a man that has been sex-starved by his wife for more than a year (for flimsy excuses) decides to ask for a divorce cos he doesn't wana cheat and he needs to remarry as they have no child(ren) yet.Will you imply that the man isn't justified enough?

Sexual deprivation is a sin even in the bible but if i am a woman i will not just buy that excuse without asking some vital questions.

Infact i always love it when a new lady or man who wants to come into the life of a dirvocee to find a way of having a one on one conversation with teh ex of that person...sounds stupid but it makes sense as it will save one from avoidable heartbreak.

The bottom-line is that one should not just buy any pooh story but try to really find out what went down.

Let me crave the indulgence of lalasticlala...I believe this makes sense.

Mimzyy:
#Flawed . Hasty Generalization Toks.
So if a lady/guy is being emotionally/physically abused and it gets to a point where he/she can't take it anymore hence a call for divorce, it means the individual will always have a reason to divorce again and again? I actually wish you posted this in the family section but oh well...

Many people now use flimsy adjectives to buttress their premeditated act of divorce..emotional abuse,irreconcilable differences bla bla bla..

Talk about physical abuse and i will agree and i mean wife or husband battering...any other reason is a facade.

But then as i wrote, investigate and you wil know if the divorce is justified.

In every case of divorce, there is rarely a situation where the two parties involved will be totally willing to part and there is usually a party that wants reconciliation and another that insists that it is over.

Before you marry a divorcee please make sure you find out the reason for the divorce and if it is possible,have a discussion with the ex to hear the other side of the story and no matter the false representation given by the ex, you will still have an idea of the type of person he or she is and the reason for the divorce because in most cases, the party who insists on divorce will always have a reason to divorce again and again.

Marriage is a union between two forgivers and if you cannot forgive a spouse who is sorry then what is the guaranty that your next marriage will work?

So ladies and guys, before you marry a divorcee, be sure to find out why that person is leaving his or her marriage because no matter how innocuous that person may look to you,you must understand that many people are like the leopard who never change its spots and most often,any party who insists on divorce especially due to irreconcilable differences will always have reason to divorce the new partner because even if you change partners a million times, there will always be irreconcilable differences.

I hope this makes sense.

analice107:
Just negodu!!!!
You are warning Promise01 forgetting he is responding to a post. what did you do to the muslim who came in with a derailing tactics, you want to claim you didn't see his post?

Lexiconkabir came in trying to derail your thread, you ignored him but faced someone else. Its well with you

analice107:
Have now seen who wants to derail your thread?
was this thread ever about Islam? he was the one who brought in islam, but rather than face him, you faced Promise01.

analice107:
Just negodu!!!!
You are warning Promise01 forgetting he is responding to a post. what did you do to the muslim who came in with a derailing tactics, you want to claim you didn't see his post?

Lexiconkabir came in trying to derail your thread, you ignored him but faced someone else. Its well with you

The guy was only making an opinion void of abusive words while promise replied with the vulgar phrase "Islamic slaves" and this is unacceptable.

That's my point.

psucc:
And what's her message to her followers: dump him and 'move on'? Hhaahahah.

So many people will eventually walked their feet into hell following these new generation of pastors.

This is why I asked lalasticlala to consider this thread for front page

https://www.nairaland.com/3384570/does-god-permit-woman-divorce

Many ladies are just acting out their will but except her case is hinged on desertion without any hope of reconciliation then I say congrats to her else she is only living a sinful life.

Tolexander:
a ke gbajure o!
The crown can't weigh 100kg!

Maybe they meant to say 100grams

Bkfire:
i can see your backward- reading -arabic- brain is in comatose.
I am an atheist like Ali sina, wafa sultan, and whole lots who expose the fraud Islam;mohamed and Allah.
Keep your frustration to yourself..

Is it true that Atheist never have peace until they eventually accept the existence of GOD?

Lalasticlala i will be exceptionally glad if this can be made more public

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on:
See frustration Biko nu
I'm a programmer with several years of experience, I teach people and I post tutorials here on nairaland and people send me emails to get thier job done for them, na em you day police me.
You go soon die o
If na gimakon you day look, continue looking at me no go get job way you go day do, tomorrow when you see me in business section showing a new car, you go day beef me.
Your islam don do you, you no know left from right, continue to look gimakon, you and Ibrahim go soon day contest who old pass.

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Lol! easy abeg

Bigcake:
Lalasticlacla has been placed on " ban" for using the word "toto".. ban expires on 20-12-2033.

Jokes apart the guy dey Try..not easy at all.

michaelobinna:
Op... U left out NCAN (name checkers association of Nairaland) they can be crazy at times with tribal names like afonja warriors, brown roof republic... Flat head/Jews descendants ,where the heck do they coin all that from...

Infact always burst out laughing anytime I read those names and naira land memes are also very hilarious.

lalasticlala:
"I saw mosquitoes in my house, should I kill it?", cc lalasticlala

" I want to sleep with my girlfriend, How do I start?", cc lalasticlala

" My toto de scratch me, Help Me please!!", cc lalasticlala


Lwkmh

Lalasticlala choose one of my sisters and I give you only 3 hours to make your choice...I Don dey promise you since.

I hope say you fine o because...

I watched my ex grow from skinny lady to a curvy chic so that is no biggy.

Infact show me a lady at 16 and i will tell you how her curves will look at 30.

ceasare:
This e money of a guy is just courting too much attention to himself.either deliberately or otherwise
I don't understand what he is trying to achieve? People who can convert his drug money to coins don't
Flaunt it on social media Abeg.one wonders what is source of money is ?clearing and forwarding? I mean
Who imports these days......record label what's d total gross from sold out concert and endorsement from
Him brother KCee whacked album ohhhh better still harrysong made LP selling onnitunes.he should spare us.
Now it's looking more like this guy and Linda are paying for advert on Nairaland cos d way there matter dey
Feature he pass d dollar/naira rate....
In a better country by now d guy suppose to dey answer question for DSS or EFCC chamber.he just doesn't
Justify his wealth except na ogwu ego(blood money) finish.

Exactly my point.

People who make legitimate money dont flaunt.

Look at world richest men and women and check their life styles. I respect rich people and i wish them well but only those who make legitimate money.

I am not the type that hates on very rich people because i am not poor but i will be the last to be wowed by riches with unknown source.

What exactly does he do for a living? Does he make legitimate money? i know many posters will quote and lambaste me but then what else can i say to a generation so perverted with money and would do anything to have it.

EternalTruths:
What is needed is a prayer chain and not a new villa because a new President, staff, friends etc will still pollute if they involve themselves in fetish things

You are still not catching the drift...how can you cleanse a house whose foundation is soaked with human blood?

Do you know the number of human sacrifices and demonic covenant that was made at the foundation of Aso rock?

WEe will always have bed leaders but when a house is hunted by negative forces, forces of backwardness and stagnation then even an angel will battle to do something good in such a place.

misscall247:
lol.....unfortunately Nigeria can not afford to build a new presidential site now.

But we can afford to waste our time voting every 4years just to have same leaders fail us back to back.

If they can't build another one just let them abandon this present one and lodge somewhere.

Stella died,Yaradua died,patience almost died and we only knew about them cos they are high profiled.

If you know what it means for a place to be hunted you will understand better...Yes a leader can be generally bad but watch the trend from when Babangida left till date and you will agree that Aso Villa is indeed a curse.

totorimi:
Is he not supposed to be an educated man who's mind is supposed to be freed from all this mess. What then is this crap he is talking.

Chai see your way of reasoning....pray make dem no remember you, trust me, youwill believe in black magic by force.

Tocheagle:
THERE ARE CERTAIN THINGS WE SHOULDNT TAKE LIKE A JOKE. I HAVE HEARD SEVERAL PEOPLE SAY SUCH THINGS . EVERY PERSON WHO MEANS WELL FOR NIGERIA GOES THERE AND SUDDENLY CHANGES .

I am writing this for the last time.

Lets go to our twitter handle and start the campaign


[size=30pt]#AbandonAsoRockNow[/size]

It is one thing for a leader to be in a cult or new agers as they call it and it is another for the foundation of the seat of power to be enmeshed in human sacrifice.

Buhari tried to avoid Aso rock but yielded at the end.

Please lets start this campaign.

CFCman:
Building a new Presidential complex would cost no less than N5bn; and in this recession, most Nigerians would surely rise against such expenditure.

But I agree that Aso Rock should be closed or even demolished because there is no way good governance can emanate from a building that has been dedicated to idols, and has dead bodies as it's foundation.

See even if it will cost 10billion dollars so be it otherwise we will just be in a pendulous situation.

I had a revelation about this some years ago but now coming from someone who has beebn an insider i guess no more doubts.

Any Nigerian who says this is superstitious should go to his village for real tutelage.

Progressive01:
In essence, Agbati is telling us Jogogoro the Clueless Drunkard, was a killer and a blood sucker.

Gbam!..likewise Obasanjo,Abacha,babangida...

Abel202:
Now this is an exposé from an Aso Rock insider.
As a Nigerian with verse experience in life, I can not dismiss this. In fact I think this is a very true reflection of happenings in that villa from an insider.
Chai- no wonder no Leader that ever gets there ever leads us effectively.
Does it mean that Nigeria is doomed then?
Oh - there was a country ...

No we are not doomed...we can start a campaign today about building a new seat of power...let's not look at the expenses but the relevance...if the foundation of a house is faulty then the structure is at risk.

#AbandonAsoRocknow

Fit2Rule:
We can call him names now. But let's watch out. He'll turn out to be right after all. I won't accept the presidency of Nigeria even if it comes with a #50m a month basic salary.

I will gladly accept but will not sleep in A so villa.

Buhari tried to avoid Aso villa but at the end yielded

Many do not know that why abdusalam abubakar left was because his wife Justice Fati Lami Abubakar did not move to Aso rock but stayed back in Lagos which was why she was instrumental in the change of power as she practically reminded her husband to do the needful.

If she had moved in I guess that spirit would have made her so stubborn and would have encouraged her hubby to remain in power.

Missmossy:
So true, lot of things happening in the spiritual realm. Spirit of error truly is at its full speed. Only God can deliver them. He would surely stand by His own never forsaking them. Those who do charms and are surrounded by voodoo are still sleeping while they think they are up and doing.


Aso rock should be delivered, no wonder Mama Peace suffered hers too then. Jonathan wasn't left out loosing relatives close to when his tenure in office was expiring. Only God saves

Please this is not about deliverance but outright abandonment because if GOD opens your eyes to see the number of human sacrifice in the foundation you will fear.