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Nturguy1122:
I wouldn't try cause there'll be bloodshed wen mother sees her dauther and the daughter sees her step sister who sees her mothers friend

LOBATAN.

jayloms:
Some fella up there just said my mind. If by exes you mean those we had an actual relationship with, then, the numbers for me isn't quite high. Just came out of the second one. but, for d number of times I've suspended those legs, only a dickometer would give an accurate figure cause I lost count. You should realize that getting a pvssy these days isn't much a herculean task like it used to be back in d days.

interesting.

Chai..guys don bad tey tey

MRBrownJ:
@Toks2008
these exes are needed in order to make us the experienced people we are today, so a partner can/should only appreciate that.
also, as we all know how COMPLEX women are, it would crazy to expect anyone to have a smooth sailing on their 1st few gfs, as they are all s different yet so similar. a newbie is bound for crashes, misunderstanding and heartbreaks, but thats the learning process... and you need to have "some" experience with them before you can remotely hope to settle down with one of them. you MUST be highly educated on the subject, if you want to have any chances of passing the test of "serious r/ship" with flying colours.

lol..chai

grad2012:
happy easter

lol!

flexxyworld:
Na sold out e go be ooo

Habba! how many dem be?na truck load?

I once had a lady friend and we got talking about our exes and while she was yapping away gladly,i could count like 7 exes from her story but since i had no intention of dating her i just had to ignore.

Also i have met several guys who have lost count of exes talking about real ex with sexual affairs and i kept wondering how crazy the world have become because back in the days,it is even a shame for a lady to say she has gone to bed with another man asides her hubby and even as guys we were so conscious of good moral standards but today men and women alike can not even remember how many exes they have had in the past and they talk about it with so much indifference.

So i ask this crazy fun question;As a guy if you are to invite to a private party all the ladies you have gone to bed with and as a lady if you were to do same to all the guys that have slept with you,how many invitees would you be expecting?

I know while some guys may gladly state it out,many ladies won't dare except the ones that have not really had a rough past.lol!

I am not expecting much comments on this thread tho but just to point out to the fact that it pays to be sexually decent because that is the only way you can earn respect in a crazy pervert world we live in.

For me i will certainly have a scanty party.

*Just thinking out loud*

Sometimes these political appointees need training in knowing how to present issues.Even Buhari is guilty of unpalatable utterances.

Inasmuch as i do not support them deceiving the populace,i believe there are a thousand and one ways of presenting issues of national interest in such a way that will not generate panic.

kaziblake:
After making it, he will realize you aren't his type and dump your sorry ass.
Witness it a lot of time.

The question still remains...are you dating a struggling man because you want to be with him or you are doing him a fAvour?

RichYoungNigga:
The reasons Why we Nigerians live abroad are.
1. We want uninterrupted electricity ( For 10 years now, i haven't seen electricity go off for just 2 minutes)
2. We won't be treated differently because we are poor or not so rich.
3. The police don't manhandle us
4. Good roads (I haven't seen a gutter or an open rain drainage in 10 years)
5. Human Rights (We can take Bill Gates, Rick Ross to court and still win) can you take Dangote to court in Nigeria and win your case ??
6. There is law and orderliness (You can't use a siren or get preferential treatment because you're rich) you must obey the law or you pay heavily.
7. Free education(no ASUU strike) and health care.
8.We make good money (A janitor, Bus driver earns what a Nigerian bank manager earn in one month in just 2 weeks

9. Everything works.
10. No jungle justice (You won't be killed and burned for just stealing a car) or getting beat by 100 people because you stole a phone
11. Life is good

You have said it all.

Im even considering relocating to the states at least for ther next 9yrs.

As an enterprenure i have realized that i can operate my business from overseas,alo as a politician i have realized that money is a great de facto in pushing your ambition.

As an e-commerce consultant with focus on online fx trading which is one of my specialties,i designed a software that allows investors make regular average monthly profit of 10 to 20% profit yet Nigerian investors hardly patronize and most of my clients are based abroad.

This is because most Nigerians do this business with ridiculously low capital that makes no profit sense if they have to earn 10 to 20% profit...so sad.

If anyone has the opportunity abeg go out,make very good money and come back here to invest.

We need to really pray for this country.

halfricanadian:
Wat dah fuvk

Op also do not complain

When a guy spends for a girl care for her and she dumps him nd marry anoda guy
1. She never said she was going to be with him for life
2. She really doesnt even av to love such guy he is just an helper
3. He must av been so so not attractive she needed sumtin better
4. A sissy is better than him

Wat is good for d girls is good for the guys

Im sure even you can see the difference because in this case,the guy spends on her asides the love he has for her.

KingCheezyPuff:
Mmm,You misunderstand.I meant I wouldn't call me bein' with him when he was low a favor.
Though I will say this man left a rider.
Isn't this the type of woman men say they want
One that will be there whether he's high or he's low

I see.

daretodiffer:
How is that possible? The only consideration would be their behaviors bearing in mind that money changes people.

My heart cannot crave. Let's stop it at that

issorite.

daretodiffer:
Suicide mission

I will follow my brain then my heart. I believe you choose who you fall in love with

As in following your heart a suicide mission?

LOBATAN

So you will choose a ricj guy even when your heart craves for the struggling guy?

KingCheezyPuff:
I wouldn't call it a favor but I'd sho' wish I had'uh come cross him when he was already rich then

Favour indeed.

daretodiffer:
Which one is logical and rational?

The poor man, in your own opinion may cheat, may abuse them etc etc

And a rich who may do the same

Which one will you choose?

Great question.

The answer is simple...I WILL FOLLOW MY HEART and face the consequence.

This is exactly mi point.

delishpot:
If reverse was the case would you say the same thing? If they reject a guy because he is poor, you come here to cry foul and say they don't see potential. If they follow the one with money, you cry that they are gold diggers. If they hang with broke on who finally gets rich, you say it was a gamble and they should not expect any reward for staying with him when he was poor rather they should have worked on themselves. Na wetin dem go do wey boys no go cry foul?
If a woman does this same thing, una go rain abuses on her.

You and who dey cry fowl? na goat you for cry.

Iif you dont see my point no wahala.

daretodiffer:
We are still saying the same thing

What use is marrying a poor man that might leave you when you have rich man that might also leave you too?

Easy Peasy
Life is easy

Funny enough they say they prefer a rich man that may latter leave them.

Ok lets take a look at this scenario..Shade meets Tunde,a struggling dude and she remains with him,loves him and remains faithful to him and latter fortune smiles on Tunde and he becomes rich and leaves shade to start an affair with another lady...

In the world of most ladies especially of Nigeria descend,Tunde is not just a heart breaker but an ungrateful guy.

ok pause ladies,get a glass of cold water,sit on your sofa and take a chill pill then answer these questions?

1.When shade was dating the struggling tunde,was she so sure he was going to be rich one day?
2.Was Shade doing Tunde a favour by dating him in his struggling times or was it because of mutual love?
3.Is there a guaranty that if shade dates a made dude,he won't also dump her.

In-fact many ladies now use these words"Of what use is loving and staying with a struggling guy when he is likely to dump you if he becomes rich? abeg i no fit suffer with any man o"

Please this is not a female bashing thread but a pragmatic approach to this anomalous mindset many ladies have.Now get this straight and tell your friends to tell their friends this fact.

"If you want to stay with a man please do regardless of his status and if you have a struggling guy as a bae and you see another made man you desire please dump his ass and go your way" You are not doing any struggling guy a favor by dating him and you are never compelled to stay with a struggling guy...every affair is a risk

And please get this guy's code straight from me....That you suffer with a guy in his trying times may earn you his respect,undying love and most likely earn you a ring but will not always earn you his 100% sexual faithfulness and this in most cases is what many ladies term as ungratefulness which is not only funny but awkward.

I hope this makes sense.

I always tell ladies,no matter what,let the guy come to your family home if he means business or no deal.

Rayhutar:
You dont conclude like that, feeding here in Germany like breakfast cost an average of 5€ which is about N1,600. Ghana economy and Nigerian economy are not the same. The same thing with South Africa, there is what they called purchasing power parity and each country has it own purchasing power parity.

Damn N1,600!

See i wont deceive you, if you have money,just stay put in Nigeria and invest and if you are outside and have made good money please invest in Nigeria and you will see the meaning of true patronage.

We have the population,and in-fact the purchasing power just that the socio economy platform is very very faulty

I was in Ghana for a week last two months and i can tell you for a fact that asides the regular supply of electricity,feeding in Nigeria is quite cheaper than in ghana.

I had a breakfast for 7cedis which is about N900(Changed 1cedis for N130) and you can get same quality of food for N250 here in Nigeria meaning you can use the money paid fore a square meal in Ghana to eat 3 square meals in Nigeria..i even had my beards trimmed for 5 cedis which is N650 habba! what i will do here for N100

I should be in South Africa next month and compare the cost of feeding there to Nigeria or if anyone here resides in south Africa or other countries,you can simply make the comparisons.

edygistvilla:
I recently took on a job, about few days ago (less than two weeks), as a office assistant/ Computer operator at an office located at Ojudu Berger. This is partly because I had just finished the just concluded Jamb utme examination and I was less-busy at home and I needed to develop work ethics and gain professional experiences that would be vital in future. There are TONs of stuff you have to learn while being in this position & I was doing great making photocopies, taking passports, and even helping out in typying. When we are less busy, My boss comes for a chat with my co-workers﹑ which they eagerly and actively participate but I don't. Not because I do not like my Boss or I'm avoidant, but I prefer being at peace with my thought and value my personal space. Then I noticed after few days, Her behaviour and mood towards me changed for the worse as she shouts at me and insults me if i make mistakes, Ofcourse, That's not a problem, but the hurtful part is she hurls insult on my personality. She says to me "You stand there like mumu'', 'Dondie'', 'Lookie lookie like deaf and dumb' e.t.c .
But today at work, I made a mistake with taking a passport photograph due to the fact that the pressure was much coupled with the over-crowded enivironment.She instantly got annoyed and said she can't tolerate a dull and mumu person and that I'm too dull. She said I should leave.

I was pissed because I had not been given a chance to learn everything needed to know Yet. I think this was really unfair since I was not even given a chance to improve. She said blame me for being an "observer", but she had to let me go.

I'm not sad this happen but this had triggered my incentiveness and challenged me the more. I'm even courting an idea of developing a start-up.

Apparently you have no clue of what introvert means.

Your sack has nothing to do with introversion.Intro Apparently you have no clue of what introvert means.

Your sack has nothing to do with introversion.Intro Apparently you have no clue of what introvert means.

Your sack has nothing to do with introversion.

Introversts socialize very well.Your problem is ASDS which is anti social disorder syndrome.

Jadekitana:
Mine is 9th, what's your date?

Lol

Good day Queen of shebba. I saw your diary but Contrary to your notion about me,im not annoying as you think..tho im over 6ft,im a down to earth person lol.

Im happy to know you are 25 cos i have a policy of not even thinking of woing any lady below 25 for a serious affair as most of them still want to galivant but knowing you are 25,i believe you should be opened to commitment which is what most responsible guys seek for.

Im too introverted and disciplined so some ladies find this annoying but unfortunately this is who i am.

Stay blessed.

MRBrownJ:
bro, you missed the point here. her weight is not the issue, her weight CHANGE is... as we can clearly understand that the lady put on weight, as she is saying herself that "she is trying her best to work on that".

so the important question IS: if a man is attracted to a woman because of her mind/character AND physical appearance, should he continue and pretend to "still" be physically attracted to her if/when her appearance changes (to a level that is clearly unacceptable to him)?

Nice one..I love your argument and on this note i will say NO.

I am still single today because i am very picky and i can and will never compromise what i want in a lady especially the physical attributes cos im very very visual.

Nevertheless i can not say because i love a lady, i should now cope with her going out of shape but then if a man really loves the soul inside that body, he will not be too mad about weight gain to the extent of comparing her to her friend.

sas91:
Pls I need your honest opinion on this matter , i'm a lady with an average height and weighing 70kg, my fiance always complain about my weight and I know I'm trying my best working on it. But this time around he compared me with my friend and said my friend has a better body structure than I, that i'm not more beautiful as I used to be and that if I want to be his wife then I must Slim down. And so many things I can't even mention. He finally asked if I am ready to do all he wants.
my fear is did he truly love me? what if I Slim down now and even get fatter after giving birth to a baby, wld he then hate me so much? i'm confused and scared of going on with the relationship, Pls I need advice from experienced people.

I once created a thread about this.
https://www.nairaland.com/2567000/amazing-diverse-beauty-women-photo

Excerpts:
Every woman is excellently beautiful no matter how she looks.

I believe that every man on earth will have his specification as regards how he wants his lady to look and if you are a lady reading this,im very positive that you will fit into one of these body structures and if you look closely, you will see that each of these ladies are beautiful in their own different ways.

I know some guys that will never go for a slim lady while some will prefer skinny ones.I also have a brother who will never touch slim ladies so the good news is that no matter how you look,there is a man out there who will love you just the way you are.

Don't allow any man manage you, talk down on you or make you feel second best because of your body structure and the first duty you owe yourself is loving yourself the way you are and when you try to keep fit,don't do it for any man but only do it to maintain good health.

daretodiffer:
Sexual assault not rape, That was a mistake.

I am well aware that some if not most teens are sexually aware however a student-teacher relationship cannot be justified. Too much downsides to such relationships that makes it extremely difficult to accept. There are numerous ways to prevent relationships like that. This doe snot mean that I am disregarding the fact that there would be unfounded allegation regardless a teacher involved in a teacher-student relationship must be penalised if found to be true.

Also, several online recounts of this man paint him to be a pervert, his behavior in class and towards students are improper. His case is too extreme to even pity him a little. He needs to be ban from teaching in general.

I totally agree.

Btw Joavid please come and learn how to behave like a sane human on an interactive forum. As you can see, this moniker who i believe is also a lady like you expressed her opinion without using any profanity.

Joavid:
a man is been accused of molestation, which from this thread has been happening long time and you are here talking off point.

do you have any sense in that misogynistic brain of yours?

I would have let it pass but since i have a rationale post to point you to i believe it is expedient that i call you out.Please joavid,you don't have to display a crass attitude on-line by cursing everyone all in the name of making comments because on this thread alone you have cursed about 4 people just because they expressed their opinion.Please adjust and make your parents happy that the money spent on your education counts.

Please don't bother quoting me cos i just added you to the list of female trolls on nairaland i stopped responding to but if you change i just might consider removing your name from the list.

Tolatutu:
As long as the girl(s) is underage its statutory rape.We need to start getting serious about laws protecting minors. There is a reason you are not allowed to vote or drive till 18 in Nigeria and thats because children below that age lack the capacity to make sound decisions. Its up to the adult to always know better

I totally second you on this and if you read the story i illustrated, i made the right move by "avoiding" the temptation or how do you explain her deliberate act of seduction.

But the fact still remains that the school authority ought to put adequate measures in place like installing surveillance cameras and more because if we continue to expect the male teachers to use their discretion to curtail the excesses of these daring teenage girls then we may never see an end to these menace.

daretodiffer:
He may be innocent of the rape allegation however it is highly likely that he is guilty of sexual impropriety.

Rape ke?i can bet my left eye on it that there was never anything like that but pure consentual act but as minors,the blame will always fall on the man.

I remember a case of a 16year old ss3 neighbor of mine who usually comes to charge her phone in my apartment.

The day she came wearing a skin tight pants and as she bent to charge i said JESUS cos i could not believe wat i saw...

I asked her how old she is and she said 16 going to 17 i was like GOD FORBID i let this girl give me bad name so i did the best thing and i bought a very long extension fuse box which i extended outside from my apartment so i wont even have to see her or anyone whenever they need to charge their phones.

Im writing this to buttress the fact that these young sexually active girls are far worse than we think so the school authority must beef up their vigilance on the male teachers who may not be decent enough to overcome the temptations from these sexually curious teens.

Bellfun:
I have a neighbor who recently finished from QC...she told me that not only were the students themselves involved in acts of Lesbianism... The female teachers also gets into the act with female students!

She told me that most seniors students have v!brators!!!!

So when i heard the allegations against this man...and the subsequent denial by the school authority..and the "organized" protest...i knew truly something fishy was going on in that school!

The government need to probe the school authority!!!

Sometimes i read some stories and i smh.

The day i caught my niece of 14years watching porn on her lappy was the day i lost hope in the chastity of these young girls.

It is easy for people to call names expecially parents while neglecting the primary duties of training their daughters the right way.

How many adult male here can overcome the temptation of a 16 or 17 year old girl who practically leads them on?

until parents learn to play their roles,until the crazy NBC does something to ban pornographic music videos and until the society at large work together to sanitize the whole system i guess a case such as this will continue to be the norm.

God help us.

But for the fact that i still have unfinished business in this crazy world, i would have preferred to just close my eyes right now and find myself in my mansion in paradise.

Trust me guys, nothing is worth it in this crazy clueless world nothing but a chase after the wind.

If you love yourself, give your life to Christ this second because that is the only guaranty you have for a better after life.Even atheists know this and mist of them accept Christ at the point of death.

BISIXCLUSIVE:
geraraheeeee joor, who told u say virgin no get alternative? o some of them go don suck, and give styles tire, shebi na the gate dey never open.

Secondary virgins lol.

Some even do anal sef.Oga o

KingCheezyPuff:
No,Toks.I like my combination most of all.

Good.

unfortunately the op did not present difficult choices cos i know many guys with all these qualities just that most of them are players.