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adahib: I have this very beautiful friend who is guilty of number 1.she wants to get as many certificates as possible before she decides to get married claiming she may not see a man who will tolerate all the schooling she has in mind.as much as i agree with a woman obtaining as much qualifications as she can hold,it is also sensible to apply a little common sense.time waits for none.i know one can get married at any age but most men and women would prefer to marry one who is seen to be young.

Bold comments sum it up.

Rehnoy: . OOOH my God!!! So what do we DO?

Just be yourself.

There is a worrisome trend observed presently pertaining to the age of many single ladies in Nigeria.

In my view, these are some of the various factors that could be responsible for this growing trend and possible solutions to it.

1. Educational factor:

Many Nigerian ladies tend to believe that they must acquire a certain level of education before they settle down as a wife irrespective of their age.

Unfortunately this should not be so. Many Nigerian ladies tend to secure admission into tertiary institutions rather too late and if they have to wait to acquire the first degree before settling down then they just might be too advanced in age.

You can be married and still attain any level of education you desire.It all depends on proper planning and understanding between you and your hubby.

2. Believing there is still time:

Many Nigerian ladies usually have the false believe that they need to enjoy their singleness before "giving up" their freedom to a man.

This is a big lie from the pits of hell because enjoying your freedom has no other connotation other than frolicking with as many men as you want which usually has a negative consequence in the long run. If you are fortunate to see a man that loves you and want to settle down with you then why frustrate him out of the affair thinking you are still young. There is no ideal age for marriage but it makes more sense to settle down before that sound thirty is added to your age because believe me, many unmarried men love to marry a twenty something year old lady.

3. Tight age difference:

This is not really a strong factor in many advanced countries of the world where there is a low poverty level but in Nigeria, we need to take this into consideration.

A 19 year old lady falling in love with a 20yr old guy has automatically consented to the possibly of waiting for about 8/9 years for the guy to achieve a level of stability before ever thinking of settling down but dating a man of 25years may reduce her waiting years if the guy is truly sincere with her.

Remember that age is no barrier with respect to love but in Nigeria, it is worth considering if you really don't want to risk been dumped due to very long period of courtship which is not advisable so i advice every young lady to date a man with age gap that is reasonable enough to allow the man some level of independence.

4. Been too dependent.

Men will run away from a lady that is too dependent whether you are 18years or 25years. A man will not mind to settle for a lady of lower status than you are if she shows some level of independence so rather than be too dependent, try to be as independent as you can and you are almost certain he will want to settle down with you faster than you can imagine.Little wonder why many independent ladies are hot cakes for eligible bachelors so get something doing and stop making crazy demands all the time.

5 Looking for ready made man.

Look here ladies, don't fool yourself. Trying to catch a big fish is ok but not advisable.
If it happens by chance, fine but deliberately shoving off suitors simply because they are not rich is never the best and this brings the 4th factor back into the picture.

Worse still, most rich guys will never respect you and will always fight the taught that you are with them because of their money. So stop looking out for a ready made man and give genuine feelings a chance. Look for potentials and not a made man.

6. HIGH EXPECTATION;

Let me skip every other factors too numerous to highlight and dwell on this very important factor which is by far one of the most important factors why we have many single ladies above 30yrs in Nigeria.

Many Ladies dream of fairy tale weddings. They want 10step cakes, wedding gowns from the best designers and they always want to compete with their friends who just had a flamboyant wedding and they foolishly discuss this with their fiance who is still trying to get a job.

Before you say jack, this guy will take to his heels even if he genuinely loves you and settle for a younger lady hoping by the time the young lady attains a ripe age for marriage, he would have been ok enough to have such expensive wedding.

Get this straight,99% of high society weddings you see are either sponsored by the bride or the groom's parents who have all the cash to throw around. Learn to plan your life in respect to your financial status and that of your fiance.

Your spouse is just 30 and still struggling while you are 25 yet you are expecting to have a wedding worth over 1million naira or even over 500k yet you know that both parents can not even afford this so why not cut down the cost and do a moderate wedding and start your lives happily.

You can decide to do wedding worth millions of naira later in life when you are rich enough.

This factor is responsible for many broken relationships and its high time our Nigerian ladies realized this.

7. Bad character:

I can't stress this enough. Many ladies are very proud, arrogant, abusive,domineering and highly flirtatious. Believe me,you may end up never getting married and if you luckily get married then get ready to be thrown out except you change fast. No man can cope with such.

8.Curse:

This is Africa where diabolism can't be overruled so be very vigilant with your situation. Our movies have illustrated facts that can not be ignored.

Pray to GOD if you realize that you are still single against all odds.

Hope this helps.

Source: Olabode Olatokunbo

Good Muslims are more disciplined than most Christians no doubt and are even more kind and tolerant. But how i wish i can make all Muslims believe that except they accept Jesus as their savior,they will not enter aljonah. This is the Bitter truth

mayten30: oh my mighty GOD,what am I seeing?you this ea seller has come again?where u dey all this while,long time oooo,how ea market?e be like say you no see ea sell again abi?being broke na disease for real,so na because say u know see ea sell na him come make you as you old reach come dey share super-story that touches the heart with us.and do you also remember that time that you are always advertising your stupid ea for sale

Some of you guys keep proving me right over and over again that 99% of fx traders on this forum are babies and lack even the minimum intelligence to make reasonable post let alone trade fx.

Fx trading is for intelligent people. Where in my posts did i market any EA but what i did was simply air my view.

This is why i say Seun will keep on getting vindicated by all these noise makers and confused people who claim to be traders.

Many people here who claim to be traders are not worth it maybe just 1% know what they are doing. Its been noise making 99% of the time right from season one. Now im happy Seun has made it very glaring that Most people here who claim to be traders are losers and will remain losers until you prove him wrong rather than exhibit baseless sarcasm.

InvertedHammer:
The easiest way to blow a trading account is to auto-trade. Take it to the banks. No food for lazy person. You must put in the work.

No shortcut to success, forex-trading included.

You can run the best algorithm but you ain't going no where. I have been in this business long enough to see all manners of braggarts disappear. You can tell because it usually happens after excessive volatility and gyrations in prices. All of a sudden folks disappear from forum.

I miss Alan Greenspan. Back then, we use to trade how big the portfolio he was taking to the Fed meeting was. Equity indices will go haywire and then risk assets would gyrate so vigorously that everyone who thought they had it figured out were left holding empty bags.

Let me re-state my position coming from a veteran, you will keep making money in fx. Then from no where comes the freaking verbal or some kind of intervention. Booooom! Stops will fail to be triggered. Manually closing for where? And since most folks have MM brokers, the spread will be astronomically high to steal the little left in your account.
Some people tend to stay away when there is many major economic release on the desk. But some interventions come out of the blue and that's the one that catches people unawares and take away all that fund they built over course of months.
The best of the best get taken once in a while too. I mean guys that work for Goldman Sachs, Banks,Hedge funds, etc. Yep! Those guys from MIT, Havard, Oxford, Yales and other fancy colleges get nailed too.

Yet, you want to believe folks here nibbling cents here and there with less than 10 years experience trading financial instruments.

I am not here to Batter words. I can see you still have a lot to understand about Eas and money management.

You wrote"The easiest way to blow a trading account is to auto-trade. Take it to the banks. No food for lazy person. You must put in the work."

Let me take the stress to educate you on this.

When i say auto trade,i am simply implying that you autotrade your very own manual trading method and this is the area many traders fail to understand. If you must use another person auto system then you must learn the way it works.

And who says its a child's play to auto trade and does not involve work.FYI it requires even more brain work than you can ever imagine.

I don't know why many of you guys fail to see this truth. Trading this business manually can not get most traders anywhere because of greed and lack of discipline.Plain English

scopusng: A proof that some of us are doing very well in forex.My signatory below is also a proof. Doubters should shut up

It is people like you who make Seun get even more vindicated. What rubbish have you just cut and paste? Many of you think this business is a joke and that is why people like Seun will always mock us.

Enough of all these cut and paste nonsense. If you want to show proof then we have standard monitoring sites that do that.

Until we give this business some credibility, we will always be mocked so please lets be matured and real.

babypipsy: Hi guys, I am quite surprised that these troop led by "Major General" Seun would march into the territory of a group of peaceful, analytical minds trying to make a living. It is very unfair to cause such distractions at this point in time.
Where were you 13 Seasons ago when this all started? Is it now you realised that "Forex is a dangerous hobby"? You don't have to enforce your opinion on people(especially adults).


Seun, I think they really deserve an apology from you.

Dear fx traders, you don't have to prove to anyone the reality of what you do, no one is compelled to get involved.

God bless us all.

That is where you guys will continue to fool yourselves. Why get involved in what you can't prove its worth. Even GOD who created us in his image always proves himself over and over again that he is GOD. This type of comment goes a long way to vindicate Seun.

Seun, get this straight. Fx trading is profitable but many Nigerian fx traders are noise makers and babies enmeshed in Forex hype.99% of Nigerian traders will not agree that they fail over and over again in this business due to GREED AND INDISCIPLINE as a result of manually trading the crazy market yet they will never show the world that the business is indeed profitable.

Seun, you know me quite well that i have been in this for years and if all the traders in this forum don't see any reason to prove you wrong THEN I WILL. Its not easy to develop a profitable method for this business but i thank GOD i have and when i finally start my automated trading i promise to send you the link and i hope in 12 months from now, you will have the humility to come render apologies to every trader on this forum but before then,you owe nobody any apology.

End of story.

McNelson: @seun............ the fact that, you don't succeed in a particular business does not mean that business is not valid. Have been a trader for the past three years with records to show. I do nothing that freelancing, online biz and forex. to the Glory of God.....It has been a good one so far. Please, try to respect people's opinion

Its so unfortunate that most of us who claim to be fx traders acts so childish.

Seun is entitled to his opinion and the best thing nay one against his opinion can do is to prove him wrong hence its better we all shut up and stop criticizing him.

With due respect, most people making too much hype on this thread are starters in this business.

I have been in this for 5years now and talking about confronting seun on fx issues i believe no one here have done more than i did.

https://www.nairaland.com/197480/most-unethical-hypocritical-act-all
https://www.nairaland.com/248324/need-explanation-seun-naijacutie
https://www.nairaland.com/326505/seun-please-explain-why-placed

But i have come to realize that the best way to shut critics up is to show them proof that fx trading is profitable and not by noise making or making baseless comments.

Friends, lets face it and i believe that i am in the right position to give you all one or two candid advice on this business.

Forget all you have learnt for a second. Talk about trends, support and res, Elliot wave,chart pattern, price action e.t.c i have read and understand every bit of all these rhetoric. I actually created a thread in 2008.https://www.nairaland.com/208970/trading-forex-right-way

BUT THIS IS MY CONCLUSION

1.It will take the special grace of GOD for anyone to make consistent profit in this business trading manually. Take it to the bank

2.Spend time developing a good trading method and do thorough testing to be sure its dependable.

3. Automate this manual method and it costs about 200/300usd to convert your very own manual trading method into an EA which some people call robot.

4. Pay a vps(virtual private server) service to host your platform 24/7 and attach the software(your manual trading method now converted to EA or robot)

5. Go about your normal life and get busy with another business leaving your account to run on automation.

In my years of experience, i have come to realize that it is not lack of knowledge that make us lose over and over again but EMOTIONS.

If you are so sure you are good yet you keep losing your equity then don't fool thinking you can recover your loss through manual trade executions, you will lose more so switch to automation and be happy.

So guys, the only way you can proof to Seun that he is wrong is to show him proof that we can make consistent profit from fx trading for a very long time and that is what counts.

There is nothing anybody can tell me to dis believe that we can't profit from fx trading. We can make consistent profits ONLY IF WE TRADE WITHOUT GREED.


BUT THE QUESTION IS"HOW EASY IS IT TO TRADE MANUALLY WITHOUT BEEN GREEDY"?

[quote author=mr.drizzy]This so called forex sef,nvr really heard anyone say he won huge all i keep seeing na loose loose,smh!..the betting business is so so much beta dan dis,anyway na choice sha! Imagine loosing as high as $10k in forex,lols,its very hard b4 u see something like dat in punting.also naijababe amd hummer,make una take am easy on segun! Part of what he said is ryt,abi i lie?[/quote]I fought Seun took and nail 5 years ago(https://www.nairaland.com/197480/most-unethical-hypocritical-act-all#3142448)over this issue but i now see the angle he was coming from then. Nevertheless friends, don't get it twisted, we all can make very good income from fx only if we trade without greed WHICH IS ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE IN MANUAL TRADE EXECUTION for 99% of traders especially Nigerian traders.

Toks2008: I wouldn't have commented on this if i did not see it on the front page.

Friends, let me make this straight and blunt.

Many people will end up wasting their time, money and life trying to trade successfully because they will always fail.

Fear and greed will always come in.

IF YOU HAVE AND I REPEAT, IF YOU HAVE A GOOD TRADING METHOD THAT YOU ARE SURE OF, AUTOMATE IT AND LET IT HANDLE YOUR TRADES.

Go about your life. Do other businesses and be ok with a decent profit from the results of the automated trading.

Don't ever allow any fund manager handle your money with manual trade executions and for the automated fund management, see live trading result for at least 3 months before investing.

Manually trading this business is a waste of time for 99% of traders and only 1%(not 5% will end up profitable trading manually)

This is my honest opinion.

If only you guys can see the truth. Brokers are feeding large on our emotions. Be wise guys, i have been in this business long enough to understand that we have so much noise making and hype in this business.

lets face it, you have 1k and you see a swift move in a specific direction and your analysis suggest you hop in. Will you be cautious enough to use just 2/3%? HELL NO. 99% of manual traders will risk more to make fast big cash and then random moves start and they get so scared and exit at a big loss.This continues and then all equity gone. Then the traders puts in another equity due to the addictive nature of fx trading and the circle begins.

Many people are in jail right now and many are in self exile as a result of trying to make quick big cash from fx trading. I don't blame them, its just pure human emotion.

I came here sometime saying 10% average monthly profit is ok with cumulative profit of over 400% in a year and some say im a joke.

The truth is;even with my sound knowledge in fx trading, i cant trade manually because I AM A GREEDY TRADER. Nothing else to it.

Many of us know our charts very well and in fact most traders understand the trend almost perfectly
but the problem is greed.

For me, i have combined all mu knowledge into creating a software and im not her to market any shit but just making you all to understand IN MY OPINION that you should stop trading this crazy business manually if you can't tame that GREED in you else you will realize too late after you must have wasted years and hard earned money trying to trade this business manually.

frenchman2: @kcc515
keep it up. winners don't quite. I love your spirit. Never say die.

I wouldn't have commented on this if i did not see it on the front page.

Friends, let me make this straight and blunt.

Many people will end up wasting their time, money and life trying to trade successfully because they will always fail.

Fear and greed will always come in.

IF YOU HAVE AND I REPEAT, IF YOU HAVE A GOOD TRADING METHOD THAT YOU ARE SURE OF, AUTOMATE IT AND LET IT HANDLE YOUR TRADES.

Go about your life. Do other businesses and be ok with a decent profit from the results of the automated trading.

Don't ever allow any fund manager handle your money with manual trade executions and for the automated fund management, see live trading result for at least 3 months before investing.

Manually trading this business is a waste of time for 99% of traders and only 1%(not 5% will end up profitable trading manually)

This is my honest opinion.

Emmanueledu: I belive is him! cos d eyes are just a striking resemblance

Yes that eyes

[quote author=optimus-prime1]Olamide is really Good, but You cant compare Olamide with Dagrin naw haba?
I mean Olamide said so himself that Dagrin was better...
Dagrin was just the hardcore yoruba phenomena!
Omo so fun entertainment-R.I.P my Brother.[/quote]Very true but i love Olamide so so so much. Very good and versatile


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VL2wgKQWjno

Honestly some women have ego problem.

My wife is also separated from me right now staying with her sis for about 3 months now. Wetin be the issue? Incompatibility. Yet we have been together for 11 years, 6 years of marriage.

All i believe is that at one point or the other, marriage becomes so frustrating for no justifiable reason and there comes a moment of madness for either parties and when this moment comes, only patience can build things. My guy, whether she says sorry or not, forget divorce because GOD hates divorce and he states that emphatically in Malachi 2:16 "I hate divorce, says the LORD God of Israel"

So whether she says sorry or not, for the sake of GOD and your happiness, forgive and forget.I know when my wife eventually comes back, she will never say she is sorry yet im willing to forgive her.

This may sound stupid.

What the lady did was totally wrong because abortion is murder. Nevertheless, if that guy is a believer and he makes it to heaven then no wahala at all because that child will definitely be with him as his legitimate child and the father child relationship will continue in heaven.

In case you don't know, all aborted children go to heaven and actually grow there.

So unfortunate the culture of chastity has been destroyed. This is why once a girl is dis-flowered,her chances of been chaste till after marriage remains obscure. No man will want to deprive himself knowing you are already fairly used. Too too bad.

i hope they have a home in Heaven

Kulas: Why is it that most of these celebrities changes husband an wives like clothes?,divorce is always in their dictionary.Only a countable number of them maintains their marriage for better for worst.I cant imagine myself dating a lady i know another man has dated let alone marrying a divorcee that another man has "chopped the thing anyhow".Women don finish?

i wonder o. when we have over 1 billion single sweet succulent young single ladies everywhere begging to be dated.

Charles Shaw: Stewpeed!
She Divorced her hubby to marry this Crúmb,
And this Púke found it worthy to marry this second hand Stìnker.
Whicheva way, Both r Despicable.
*Spits @ their union*

Spiting is mild. Just defecated on them.Useless people with useless life styles.

Oshiite: Low self esteem,thats the kind of trash men like to hear,u have just dug ur grave in the hands of that man,well goodluck shaa

Na wa o. The lady was just trying to make a joke out of it, kai~ you harsh o

OP forget story, she needs you by her side. Simple

She probably taught she could cope with your long absence due to your work so maybe you should find time to see her every weekend at least. Women need attention and they get hysterical if not giving to them.

The OP must be a foreigner. This story is as old as Nigeria.

I will do this only if i really offended her and im convinced that i goofed like she catching me pants down with another lady or took her for granted in one way or the other. But if she insists on maintaining her stand then i will forget about her. But i will never beg a lady to love me let alone kneel down to do that.

NB: Never beg anyone to give you a space in their life.If they really want you, they will create a space for you.

Hmmn!, i dont know what to say. But i guess its better now that you guys are not married.

My case is a more serious one. My wife just got disconnected from me due to incompatibility issue after coping for 11years with me claiming i took her for granted and now the feelings are gone.

I tried to make her understand but she just wouldn't claiming she would have stayed if she had a child for me bla bla bla.

No be small thing o. For over two months now the series film never end o,she just left like that to stay with her sis. Courted for 6years and married for five years now.

So when i say its better that you guys are not married, i know exactly what im saying. though painful but just move on if there is no more feelings for her. Better now.

osca123: a good tread here Mr Toks pls keep it up

tHANKS

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]I hope things will eventually work out for ur (both of u) good [/quote]I appreciate your encouragement. She is damn lucky that i love her and am a believer else i would have moved on with other chicks.

I just advice guys to look beyond a girl been a virgin and consider other factors. Thats my point and i hope you guys take note of this.