₦airaland Forum

To GOD be the glory.

And she still looks very beautiful and sexy to me. Funny but true.

When will nairaland allow us to breathe?

I am tired of reading these crazy boring stories of ladies doing what 99% of them know how to do best. Mtsheww

Just passing by though.

Do you guys know that pride price is actually a penalty in the bible and not what people take it to be these days?

They collect bride price in the Jewish tradition as penalty for sleeping with a lady that has not been giving to you in marriage and even if you pay bride price to the father, you may still be denied the lady.

The Hebrew Bible mention the practice of paying a bride price to the father of a minor girl. The practice of the bride price is referred to in the Bible, in the Old Testament. Exodus 22:16–17 says:

If a man seduces a virgin who is not pledged to be married and sleeps with her, he must pay the bride-price, and she shall be his wife. If her father absolutely refuses to give her to him, he must still pay the bride-price for virgins.


But today, poverty, crazy tradition and greed of parents has turned it to another thing

Girls make up for what they dont have.

A true beauty will only use lip jel if needs be and maybe powder. Any other thing is not important.

I hate it when ladies scrape off the entire eyebrow just to replace with crazy pencil drawing. We guys love simple looking ladies.

There is a worrisome trend observed presently pertaining to the age of many single ladies in Nigeria.

In my view, these are some of the various factors that could be responsible for this growing trend and possible solutions to it.

1. Educational factor:

Many Nigerian ladies tend to believe that they must acquire a certain level of education before they settle down as a wife irrespective of their age.

Unfortunately this should not be so. Many Nigerian ladies tend to secure admission into tertiary institutions rather too late and if they have to wait to acquire the first degree before settling down then they just might be too advanced in age.

You can be married and still attain any level of education you desire.It all depends on proper planning and understanding between you and your hubby.

2. Believing there is still time:

Many Nigerian ladies usually have the false believe that they need to enjoy their singleness before "giving up" their freedom to a man.

This is a big lie from the pits of hell because enjoying your freedom has no other connotation other than frolicking with as many men as you want which usually has a negative consequence in the long run. If you are fortunate to see a man that loves you and want to settle down with you then why frustrate him out of the affair thinking you are still young. There is no ideal age for marriage but it makes more sense to settle down before that sound thirty is added to your age because believe me, many unmarried men love to marry a twenty something year old lady.

3. Tight age difference:

This is not really a strong factor in many advanced countries of the world where there is a low poverty level but in Nigeria, we need to take this into consideration.

A 19 year old lady falling in love with a 20yr old guy has automatically consented to the possibly of waiting for about 8/9 years for the guy to achieve a level of stability before ever thinking of settling down but dating a man of 25years may reduce her waiting years if the guy is truly sincere with her.

Remember that age is no barrier with respect to love but in Nigeria, it is worth considering if you really don't want to risk been dumped due to very long period of courtship which is not advisable so i advice every young lady to date a man with age gap that is reasonable enough to allow the man some level of independence.

4. Been too dependent.

Men will run away from a lady that is too dependent whether you are 18years or 25years. A man will not mind to settle for a lady of lower status than you are if she shows some level of independence so rather than be too dependent, try to be as independent as you can and you are almost certain he will want to settle down with you faster than you can imagine.Little wonder why many independent ladies are hot cakes for eligible bachelors so get something doing and stop making crazy demands all the time.

5 Looking for ready made man.

Look here ladies, don't fool yourself. Trying to catch a big fish is ok but not advisable.
If it happens by chance, fine but deliberately shoving off suitors simply because they are not rich is never the best and this brings the 4th factor back into the picture.

Worse still, most rich guys will never respect you and will always fight the taught that you are with them because of their money. So stop looking out for a ready made man and give genuine feelings a chance. Look for potentials and not a made man.

6. HIGH EXPECTATION;

Let me skip every other factors too numerous to highlight and dwell on this very important factor which is by far one of the most important factors why we have many single ladies above 30yrs in Nigeria.

Many Ladies dream of fairy tale weddings. They want 10step cakes, wedding gowns from the best designers and they always want to compete with their friends who just had a flamboyant wedding and they foolishly discuss this with their fiance who is still trying to get a job.

Before you say jack, this guy will take to his heels even if he genuinely loves you and settle for a younger lady hoping by the time the young lady attains a ripe age for marriage, he would have been ok enough to have such expensive wedding.

Get this straight,99% of high society weddings you see are either sponsored by the bride or the groom's parents who have all the cash to throw around. Learn to plan your life in respect to your financial status and that of your fiance.

Your spouse is just 30 and still struggling while you are 25 yet you are expecting to have a wedding worth over 1million naira or even over 500k yet you know that both parents can not even afford this so why not cut down the cost and do a moderate wedding and start your lives happily.

You can decide to do wedding worth millions of naira later in life when you are rich enough.

This factor is responsible for many broken relationships and its high time our Nigerian ladies realized this.

7. Bad character:

I can't stress this enough. Many ladies are very proud, arrogant, abusive,domineering and highly flirtatious. Believe me,you may end up never getting married and if you luckily get married then get ready to be thrown out except you change fast. No man can cope with such.

8.Curse:

This is Africa where diabolism can't be overruled so be very vigilant with your situation. Our movies have illustrated facts that can not be ignored.

Pray to GOD if you realize that you are still single against all odds.

Hope this helps.

Source: Olabode Olatokunbo

londoner: What do you mean "ladies"...as if all ladies have the same preference.

Some women prefer lighter guys, others are attracted on an individual basis. let that poster speak for herself and not ALL ladies.



BTW Dude, you tried to bleach.....end of story now you are trying to oversabi the matter.

Light golden skin or caramel is beautiful and so is chocolate and very dark skin.


You did not learn the lesson life should have taught you. There is no monopoly on beauty...........

you must be a trouble maker. Did you read through this thread at all?

Toks2008: Please please don't get it twisted, i will never put any one down never. Its all a matter of choice.One man's meat is a another person's poison.

[quote author=Subomi-luv]Lol you are too much. Everyone has their preference but that does not mean you must put others down. if my preference is dark-skinned men but i see a hot lighter skinned guy who is better than a dark-skinned guy i'll give props where due. Also at the end of the day, whats most important is a good person who will treat you write irrespective of his/her complexion [/quote]Please please don't get it twisted, i will never put any one down never. Its all a matter of choice.One man's meat is a another person's poison.

vivalableue: I can't seem to be attracted to lighter skin guys except for the one and only Jesse Williams, So if I'm choosing tubaba won!

Honestly i never knew Ladies prefer dark skinned guys more until i started using lemon plus in my 100levels in school to change my skin color as i taught my dark skin was a turn off.

Two ladies boldly approached me telling me to my face how stupid i was by trying to destroy my complexion saying they have always admired me. I stopped immediately and became proud of my color ever since.

I'm proud to be dark skinned. Even if im a lady, i will go for 2face any day. I always wonder how ladies cope with seeing light skinned stuff. Apologies to fair guys please.

Be like say i fine pass them. Even in this simple pix and not a special effect photo quality.

ODENIG: Those northern elders are the Boko haram member what are they doing since,When igbos and other christains are been killed.Nortern Elder Dan buru ba shege to you all .Killers and vampires of the northern state .Why dont you people stop sucking blood.Why not convince the BH before now to stand down.Foolish and greedy elders let them go and inform Algeria,Mali,northern Cameroon,Chad and Libya to come and face Nigerian government.Imagine Borno state indegene,a lecturer was killed.Many northerners are been killed in scores and this satanic idiot are saying war is been declared against north.I USE THIS MEDIUM TO SAY THAT SUCH MEN SHOULD BE ARRESTED AND KILLED BECAUSE THEY THE FACE BEHIND BOKO HARAM CULT OPERATION IN NIGERIA.

can you imagine?

Yet some one is her vomiting trash that GOD is a GOD of peace when the same GOD was not consulted before the crazy amalgamation took place.

Chibuebem: which God are u talking about. Not the true God. He wants peace. Whoever reads this. Remember this statement, and mark my words. Nigeria is one. Naija will not break up. Naija will have peace and tranquility. Light will shine once more, and the light will stay. The devil wants to tear this country apart. God wants to build it up. We pray for an end to tribalism, to hatred. We pray for light and peace

Are you residing in Nigeria or abroad? I believe if you have had one of your family members massacred by BH madness you will not be vomiting this trash. One Nigeria indeed. I am sure you are related to some of the selfish politicians enjoying this error of one Nigeria.

Nigeria may breakup before 2015 ? OPC leader, Fasheun - DailyPost Nigeria. Nigeria may break up before 2015 if ... — Balarabe Musa

I am saying it for the avoidance of doubt that Nigeria will break up. Whether we pray or not, it is the wish of God. I know many people may not like to hear this. Some may be saying why is this man talking like this, but it is what God has decreed. Nigeria will not experience peace until it breaks up. I don’t know when it will happen but it will come to pass.-Primate OLABAYO.


Let us check the map of Nigeria very well and we will see that the master planner, the creator of mankind and the earth has clearly divided this country into three with river Niger and benue. Until we revert to this plan, we will never have headway in this country.Toks

Beautiful. More success bro.

I only hope these guys also have a mansion in heaven. Because in s much as it is cool to build mansions on earth, they are vanities of life. Only one thing matters, your eternal life.

Let me give you ladies this vital info.

Try to eat a clove of garlic each night before you sleep or at least three nights in a week and you will never have to fear cancer of any type.

There are many health benefits of garlic that are not even listed here. It cured my terrible toot ache.

Best way to take it,

just before you sleep, pill a clove and chew it raw not swallow to release the allicin(active component)then brush your teeth afterwards. In the morning the odor should reduce totally after brushing. It is very effective for those with mouth odor.

In-fact the best natural remedies for many ailments and its known as the best natural antibiotics in the world.

Let me give you ladies this vital info.

Try to eat a clove of garlic each night before you sleep or at least three nights in a week and you will never have to fear cancer of any type.

There are many health benefits of garlic that are not even listed here. It cured my terrible toot ache.

Best way to take it,

just before you sleep, pill a clove and eat it raw then brush your teeth afterwards. In the morning the odor should reduce totally after brushing. It is very effective for those with mouth odour.

In-fact the best natural remedies for many ailments and its known as the best natural antibiotics in the world.

DAN ADAMS: "She Told Me She's A Virgin But She Has Been Sleeping With Our Neighbours"
I really need help to deal with this betrayal
I'm facing.
I am a 26-year-old man and my girlfriend is
23. We both attend OOU and we stay in an
apartment off campus. She seemed to be a
lovely girl. She cooked for me, took care of
me and was always there for me. We have
not been having sex throughout our
relationship because she told me she was a
virgin. Although I was tempted to go out
and sleep with someone else, I resisted
because I felt she was a good woman and
does not deserve it.
I have heard rumors previously about her
having something to do with some guys in
the area, I refused to believe because I
simply trusted her.
One day, she told me she was gong to
Lagos to see her family. I saw her off to the
bus stop and went for lectures. When I got
back from classes. I needed to borrow some
books for upcoming exams. I went to a
friend who then told me to go ask another
classmate who lives close. When I got there
and knocked, the door opened and it was
my girl standing before me. Tying a towel.
I can't even describe the shock I felt at that
point. I went back to my room in a daze and
just sat quietly. Eventually she came in and
she started pleading. I remembered all the
rumors I've heard and I made her tell me
everything. It was then she told me the
truth, about a few guys in the area she had
slept with. She claims she did not mean to lie
to me. That she only wanted to impress me
and that is why she lied that she was a
virgin. She also says she didn't expect to fall
in love with me and when she did, she did
not know how to tell the truth. She told me
she tried to stop being with the other guys
but she could not.
Since that day, I have moved out of the
apartment we shared. It's been about 2
months and I can't even get over the
betrayal. I feel like I have been played for a
fool. She has been begging me to forgive
and take her back. I don't just want to let
her go, I want to come up with a way that
she will feel the pain she inflicted on me. I
want revenge and I don't think I will be
okay if I don't pay her back.
Please advise.

MTSHEW! Another boring story of a slut doing what she knows how to do best. Man grab yourlife back, 99.9% of ladies are sluts. Next topic please

Whatsapp is very very useful especially in breaking apart married couples.

Oh my sweetheart, thank GOD you are ok. I love this lady so so much. Truly the best.

Mystery 1: Same situation Bro. But no cause for alarm.Just reassure her that she can't get more than you are giving her ''down there''. she needs that assurance.I do same.

Na wah for these ladies. Its like there is a similar spirit that operates in all of them just that the level of suppression differs from one lady to another.

Proverbs 31:10-31

The Woman Who Fears the Lord

10 [a] An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.
14 She is like the ships of the merchant;
she brings her food from afar.
15 She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household
and portions for her maidens.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
17 She dresses herself[b] with strength
and makes her arms strong.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.
19 She puts her hands to the distaff,
and her hands hold the spindle.
20 She opens her hand to the poor
and reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet.[c]
22 She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers sashes to the merchant.
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
27 She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.

Can we still find a lady with these qualities in this present world. 4 months ago i will say yes but now i don't really know.

poison ivy19: he who has not sinned shud b d first to cast a stone,moreova did she say she slept wit d married man?

Maybe they just laid side by side together in same bed.

byvan: Now I know why I can walk over a cheat's corpse and feel nothing .You tripped and fell on his Dickson,that can happen to anybody can't it OP?What you did is a physical manifestation of your subconscious cravings, admit it and face your demons.

Right on point.

I became so scared when my wife and i were having some friendly chat and we were discussing our fantasies. She said she normally imagines how it will be making love to another man.

Though i made her a woman at 19 and according to her i have always been the only man but at 30 she now feels she is disconnected and she needs to be sure of her feelings for me after 11long years of been together.

I cant categorically say she is cheating because i have absolutely no reason to say that since i have no evidence but believe me, I was so so amazed so all these stories i read on NL are comedy compared to what is really going on.

[quote author=Clitorial.Dept.]best thing to do is just use and dump the sluts.

any romance I have left is getting a pack of condom, picking the bills at the bar and heading to a motel.

that's it.

I will call you, don't bother calling me treatment[/quote]Unfortunately, they are necessary evils because we must marry one and start a family with her but then just have it at the back of your mind that she can com up with a horror movie script that will shake you to the marrows.

Just pray to GOD to come across one of the 0.01% that are truly virtuous and Godly in every aspect.

tommiesyn: @Aloe, you once disproved with cheating, but obviously, you now subscribe to it, ba? And if your guy does the same, he, as well as all guys will be chronic cheats to you, isn't it. I wish you what you think you deserve, ''

I'm so sorry to say this but it will take the grace of GOD for me to have high regards for ladies.

99.999% are either sluts or sluts in the making.And for the men, just be yourself. Don't strain trying to please any lady. Most of them are not worth it because if you like cur your heart in two and give them one,they are almost likely to still mess up.

The gene of eve still runs in them,canny,manipulative and rebellious to the man that truly loves them just to be used and dumped by the man they claim they have feelings for.

They are bunch of headaches and epitome of confusion.GOD help us.

The more you grow the more you will understand that no one can be trusted so all these talk about someone sleeping with a man or woman asides their fiance/fiancee or spouse is comical. Lets discuss something more weighty.


Do not trust a neighbor; put no confidence in a friend. Even with the woman who lies in your embrace guard the words of your lips.Micah 7:5

next topic please.

I am tired of reading these type of stories abeg.

The point is that whether you are just dating or married to anyone, expect heartbreak anytime. Trust nobody. LOVE DOES NOT EXIST IN THIS WORLD EXCEPT GOD'S TRUE LOVE.

Get married because it is necessary but expect any crazy act from your spouse at any time.

Lets be real. This thing called L.O.V.E is a facade.

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youngalex: At times i ask why so much pressure is on singles to settle down without first considering the financial implications which might be burdensome after marriage...Guys..Will you prefer to marry just because u have a steady job or do u prefer to attain financial stability before thinkin of marriage?

Ask the ladies what they prefer. They are the cause of the confusion, always wanting a ready made man.

Flaubert Ajiero: Many women are in relationships with guys I refer to as "still single" and "seriously searching" it's a very challenging situation to be in as a woman. From a man's perspective here are the 7 ways to dictate it.

1: The Answer To Everything Is "Maybe"

Example:

He’ll maybe have time to see you tomorrow. He’ll maybe be able to come over and watch a movie for the night. When maybe becomes his go-to answer for nearly everything, maybe he’s single too. Okay, he most likely is single and very unavailable.

2: He Doesn't Go Out and Do Things Publicly With You: When your relationship is kept quiet and out of the public, he’s hiding you from something. Which technically implies, he's still single.

3: He's Not Interested In Meeting Your Friends: If your guy has no desire to meet your friends or vice-versa,you’re probably just a temp girlfriend.It's a matter of time before you realize,there isn't any relationship.

4: He Still Keeps In touch with Ex Girlfriends: Why would he still keep in touch with her? Your guess is as good as mine.

5: He Doesn't Answer The Phone In Front Of You: We're meant to be open and honest with each other, right? So why is he off you to take a call if he's not hiding something.

6: He Never Invites you To His Place: One key reason to this,is that,he's not ready to share life with you yet.

7: He Sees You only At Night Hours: Like often said "women are men's trophy" so why would a guy parade his only at night hours?

I am totally confused. This should be the opposite because all the signs highlighted here goes to show that he is not single but passing time with you. Abi na only me dey observe this?

jackymfon: 3. If you decide to divorce your wife, you will stigmatize your daughter becos your family will always refer to her mothers adulterous affair and besides if you guys divorce, you marry again, your wife too marries again what happens to her, where will she fit in the equation, also consider the fact that even single guys these days are not finding it easy to settle down becos of the issue of a good wife, one that is not in it for the money or other reasons other than love, but you know your wife loves you despite her actions.

Be strong, give her a second chance and when those pictures flood your mind remind yourself, that its in the past and all of you have moved on from there. cheers.

You have said it all. End of story.