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berem: It seems it has become a new trend for some men to request for their spouse to be to be pregnant fIrst before the proper marriage takes place.I have had the opportunity to ask about 20 yet to be married men and 15 of of them wants their wives to be to get pregnant first.I also asked them why they wanted it,I was shocked when they all said "I don't trust nigerian girls these days".
I have a cousin who is gonna be 34years by next year and she is not yet married.There is this guy she was introduced to for marriage but the man gave her condition that she must get pregnant first.My cousin being a very stubborn lady refused and said she will never get pregnant before marriage.Her mum has been worried because of her age and also being the first daughter.
My main worry now is that her mum wants me to advise her on what to do.Right now am confused.I don't know what kind of advice to give.Should I advise her to get pregnant or wait for the right time? Am really scared the guy might leave her if she refuses to get pregnant first.

You chose the right word 'trend'! It is fast becoming the in-thing in our contemporary times now! The fact is, if you think (to you ladies) you can trap that guy by becoming pregnant for him before marriage or after marriage I think you need to think again! Many guys are also using this method (unfortunately many Parents are involved in this 'contract scheme of marriage') to secure the ladies they want to marry, forgetting that it is only a woman that knows who is responsible for her pregnancy in the first place. If I must advice, marry her first then let pregnancy follows, impregnating her before marriage does not guarantee 'happy home' or secured marriage if I may put it that way.....I mean what do you imagine of a woman that gives birth before marriage only for her to lose her kids after 10 years into the marriage, a little obedience in the area of marriage will suffice at least based on Biblical teachings

am talkin: My mother.... Back in those days if my cousin should hear me sing MY MOTHER she wil start crying...
Serious cry ooooo.When ask she said the song makes her think her mom is dead

...there is this emotional touch deep down in your heart when you are singing that poem 'my mother' its just too real wao......I just love it

For those who attended nursery schools, you will agree with me that we have many nice nursery rhymes our teachers taught us those good old days, which must be memorized and we were good at just that! It was almost a rule that when we get home those days, we would not waste time to let our parents know we have a “new melody” to render for their listening pleasures at the dining tables, bedrooms, libraries, parlours, you just name them we would go on singing those melodious tunes to their admirations and if permitted, we choreographed along with it. We have a lot those days ranging from;

• Jack and Jill,
• Humpty-Dumpty,
• Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star,
• Baa-Baa Black Sheep,
• ABC
• Ladybug, Ladybug, Fly Away Home,
• Mary Had a Little Lamb,
• My Mother
• Polly Put That Kettle On,
• Thirty Days Hath September,
• London Bridge is Falling Down,
• Do-Re-Mi-Fa-So-La-Ti-Do,
• Three Blind Mice,
• Old Roger is Dead,
• The Old Woman Who Lived In a Shoe,
• Old MacDonald Had a Farm,
• Twelve Days of Christmas,
• Jingle Bell etc and not forgetting ‘A be Igi Oronbo’

…..and the list goes on and on. My favourite those days were three namely: My Mother [♫ who sat and wash my infant head, when sleeping on my cradle bed, and tears of joy and affection shed, my mother…. ♫]; Baa-Baa Black Sheep [♫ baa baa black sheep have you any wool, yes sir, yes sir, three bag full, one for my master, one for my….. ♫] and Mary Had a Little Lamb [♫ Mary had a little lamb, (little lamb little lamb), Mary had a little lamb its fleece was white as snow, and everywhere that Mary went, (Mary went Mary went), and everywhere that Mary went, the lamb was sure to go, it followed her to school one day……♫]

Up till now, I can still sing many of those wonderful, soul-lifting nursery rhymes! What sweet memories those lovely tunes evoke!

jacobscros: are hot babes in miniskirts and the club scene all there is to life?

Because there is no more sense in Nigeria's music industry. Why? It has been hijacked by pimps and bimbos

Andre Uweh: Merry christmas my champion.

Same to you my good friend and as u walk majestically into this new year, may the good God of Heaven be ur pillar of strength and grant you all ur wishes and make all ur enemies ur footstool in JESUS NAME (AMEN)!

berem: even If he made the list and he gets the highest. vote courtesy of the bigots on nairaland,does it stop Chinua Achebe from becoming a hero which he is? The man has written his memoir and passed his message.Let HATERS continue to hate.dem no go reach the level wey the man don reach!

Another gospel truth from my 'berem' Prof Chinua Achebe is like the great Obeche or Iroko tree that is unshakeable as far as the literary world is concerned!

Baby mama: So you are a college graduate
Wonders shall never cease
For real or you settled your teachers one by one and they gave you a certificate?
Who knew ?

you sef see am so? i was just wondering how visiting a university to chill out with friends can b tantamount to graduating! chemical engineering ko, chemical reaction ni! wao Babymama u really cracked me up wit dat

Barth Nnaji has my vote for his courage to quit when the "Powers that be" are trying to frustrate his efforts!

Donmichaelz: Am a yoruba,d most united people are Hausa's,i was born in d north,i spent all my life there.wen i went 2 d west d 1st tin i noticed was Me,myself nd I....dey dnt even lyk each oda.

You will live long my brother for spelling out the truth the way it is!!!

[center]Someday I will explain that I was at the birth of one of the footballing greats; Leo Messi! - Ronaldinho
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I have more than a hundred quotes from fellow footballers and other great sports personalities on Lionel Messi in my archive, but the above really catch my fancy and indeed captured the way I view this great football-prodigy of our time. History belongs to those who learn from it, Lionel Messi seems to be a good student of history having learned about the pitfalls that court stardom, he has been in charge of his game of stardom right from 2009 when he came to the ‘spotlight of recognition’ as the ‘World Best Player’ and up to now he is not ready to let go, in fact, he is still the BEST! Lionel Andre Messi came into this world some 25 years ago just like any other mortals; he was born like any normal being, but grew to be seen as a too fragile lad who will never be recognized to be a trail blazer in his chosen career. That once tiny, growth-deficient talent has now grown to be a titan, too mighty and relevant to be ignored. He seems to be ahead of his time with the way he carries himself both on and off the pitch. Welcome to the world of LIONEL MESSI!
At 25 and just 8 years plus into his blossoming career he has recorded strings of firsts and as well broken and set new world records in the game we all love to watch – football! He has eventually become the highest goal scorer in a calendar year with his total 91 haul. He has scored 195 goals so far in the league for Barcelona meaning that, César Rodríguez’s 192 efforts is now history. Messi as the highest league goal scorer in the history of Barcelona has a chance to envelope Real Madrid Raul’s 228 efforts by the time the season will be wrapped up in June 2013. It can be summarized that, what took César Rodríguez (another Barcelona Legend noted for scoring from corners) 13 years to build, Messi smashed in just 8 ½ years and what took Raul to build in 16 years, Messi may likely cancel by the time this season will be concluded come June 1st 2013 (all in Messi’s 9th years of professional football). With Messi’s current scoring form, Raul’s Champions League all time highest goals of 71 will be history by the time the 2013/2014 season ends. Below are the records he has broken, and other records within his reach in the not too far distance;
• Messi remains the only player in history to score 82 goals (for club and country) in a season (2011/12).
• Messi currently holds the record for the highest number of goals scored for club in a calendar year (2012) at 79.
• Messi currently has scored a record 59 league goals for Barcelona in a calendar year (2012).
• Messi has nine hat-tricks this calendar year (2012), seven for Barcelona and two for country.
• Messi is the first and only player to score 8 hat-tricks in La Liga in 2011/12 season.
• Messi currently holds the record for the highest numbers of hat-tricks scored in all competitions in the history of F.C Barcelona, he has 21 currently.
• Messi is currently the holder of most goals scored in half of a league (La Liga) with 26 goals.
• Messi (at 25 years old) only needs 5 more goals in the league to emerge as the youngest La Liga player ever to score 200 league goals, a record held by Telmo Zarra at 29 years 352 days.
• Messi currently holds the record as the only player with the highest numbers of braces at the beginning of a season (2012/13); he has 11 doubles so far and 22 in a calendar year, 2012.
• Messi will hit and pass the 300 mark of official goals scored in his entire club career (excluding friendlies) this season 2012/13, he currently has 288 in 355 games! I don’t know of any footballer whether living or dead at Messi’s age of 25 and his 9-year career of professional football who can boast of this record.
• Messi has currently reduced the official goals difference between him (he has 288 so far) and his closest rival, Cristiano Ronaldo (has 292 so far), to just 4 in all club’s career competitions and overall (that is for both club and country) to just 11, despite the fact that Cristiano Ronaldo began his professional career two good years ahead of Messi, that means, in this season (2012/13) Messi may likely surpass Cristiano Ronaldo’s total club’s goals, now that’s magical if you will ask me.
• Messi will likely surpass the all time record of 252 La Liga (league) goals in 278 games by Telmo Zarra (1940-1955) in the next 2013/14 season (he currently has 195 in 231 games).
• Messi remains the only player in the history of Champions League with the highest goals (26) scored in the knock-out phase.
• Messi only has the next season 2013/14 to beat Paulino Alcantara’s 369 goal haul in all competitions in Spanish football.
• Messi has now scored 319 career goals so far for club and country; he has 288 goals in 355 games for Barcelona and 31 goals in 76 games for Argentina.
• Messi will definitely score more than 50 league goals and more than 73 goals in all competitions in this season, 2012/13 (mark my words)!
• Messi will emerge at the end of this season, 2012/13 as the only player in the history of top flight league to score 50 and above in a back to back league matches!
In 1972, Müller at 27 years scored 42 goals in 34 games in the league, 7 in 6 in the Cup, 12 in 5 in the League Cup, 10 in 4 in the European Cup, 1 in 4 in the Cup Winners' Cup and 13 in 7 for Germany, that is, in 60 games he scored 85 times. Messi at 25 has now scored 91 in 2012: 59 in 38 league games, 5 in 8 in the Cup, 2 in 2 in the Super Copa, 13 in 12 in the Champions League and 12 in 9 for Argentina, that is, in 69 games he scored 91 times. Indeed, Müller is a goal machine! However, considering the fitness of players, better technologies in training players, lighter balls, better pitches and more strident rules now compared to the era of Müller, I think Messi deserves all the credits in goal scoring because Messi is more of a utility player who assists and still scores (remembered he had the highest numbers of goals scored and assists made with 73 goals and 29 assists last season, 2011/12 now that is terrific if you will ask me) with a class. Müller’s 15 years (at age 34) in Bayern Munich fetched him 398 goals in 453 appearances in the League and overall 566 goals in 607 appearances. If you ask me, I will bluntly tell you that a Lionel Messi will likely erase both records (in the league and overall) in his 13th season (2016/17 season, by the time he would be 29) with Barcelona. Comparing Müller’s goal scoring records with Messi I think it’s too early, I may be forced to go with Pep Guardiola (former Manager of Barcelona, who groomed Messi to this level) here when he declared that, “the best thing to do about Lionel Messi is, JUST WATCH HIM.” He is just 25 and already he has been compared to the ‘GREATS’ in the game, now if you would ask me, I will tell you, that is a record on its own. Müller was more of a modern Fillipo Inzaghi (king of the penalty box) the more reason a Messi who operates from virtually all the flanks in the field should be RESPECTED!
How good can this Bionic Extraterrestrial Mortal be? With lots of promising years ahead of him I think your guess is as good as mine. Indeed, Lionel Andre Messi has remodeled the face of football and left in his wake many greats who have plied their trades in the round leather game, and may likely be the most remarkable and greatest player ever in the history of the game by the time he finally hangs his boot. He plays the game with an in-depth passion and emotion that cannot be separated. A perfect role model for youngsters, he is far from scandals, no alcohols, multiple women, and other vices attached to stardom. He is a work of art to watch when dribbling, a perfect controller of the ball and an enigma when it comes to passes. He has proved time and again that, he has no rival and he may never will till he retires. His catalogues of solo goals are unmatched in this modern era of football, truly, this Messi can score a CENTURY, it’s a question of time! He is my Mr NumberOneDerful in the game of football, although, with due respects to other ‘GREATS’!
N.B: As 2013 is approaching and 2012 is winding up, it is important Messi’s efforts at goals be reviewed for the year 2012, below are his efforts;
Lionel Messi in 2012
His 0-goal games are 22
His 1-goal games are 16
His 2-goal games are 22
His 3-goal games are 6
His 4-goal games are 2
His 5-goal games is 1
Total 91 goals

there is something about that beat, that just wanna make you feeeeeeel and groooooovvveeee it all night lonnnnnngggggg! It deserves the attentions and the accoladessss!..

The Igbos of course; for their doggedness, courage, enterprising spirit in business, lion-heartedness, beauty (their females, smashingly beautiful ), never say die spirit, their spirits of brotherhood (alaba, abiriba connections etc) and most importantly mindful of their businesses! I give it up to the Igbos!!!

[quote author=ola_pluto]Refute me by naming that Nigerian president who has fought corruption as much as OBJ. Which Nigerian president has had the 'balls' to jail high class thieves?[/quote]Stop living in fairy tales son, this is not a place frequented by palmwine tappers and cattle rearers if there is a model in Africa that fought corruption Rawlings of Ghana is worth mentioning not Baba legba who was pretending to b curbing corruption when he was merely hounding his opponents around!

In my own candid opinion, I think they are almost on the same pedestal but for the mere fact that IBB opened the eyes of the professional military boys to the illegal oil money business, balkanized the military institution, ceded a large parcel of land belonging to Kwara State to his Niger State, plunge Nigeria into the first economic recession and above all institutionalized corruption in Nigeria made him the worst of the two no doubt!

Someone once said, after oil and our border security operatives (custom and immigration officials) our police comes third as the largest earner provided their 'hol it bribe' is contributed to the nation's coffer! Those guys are making a hell of a money on a daily basis. If a major road is making a 100000naira daily (which I know is much more) how much more other major roads in d country and by the way, I tot d IG had banned illegal checkpoints **tomakint sings, Nigeria I hail thee......**

@mimifonwon that was a very valid point you raised, my immediate younger brother is based in Atlanta and he relayed with me something similar to what u got in ur last post. The only dissimilarity was that after a while, the lady the man married from Naija eloped with another naija man in d US which left d other man totally shattered! To me, the way of life over there its like a dog eat dog one, very cold world! Nice write up and good job

NRI PRIEST: Where r you from,mate?

Ondo State! and you?

chess guru: Not been 2 d ife campus, but d uniport main campus (abuja campus) is really cool though.

guy u need 2 visit OAU, indeed the campus is a model for real academic scenario with a natural beauty. Right from road 1 you are suddenly presented with d football pitch on ur left and d imposing senate building overlooking d motion ground 2 ur right d rest is 4rm there. I did mgt & acct in OAU! oau no get rival esp in their academics pursuits, kudos 2 those guys!

[quote author=Real-Mccoy]True that. The more you dig in the more you will find out that a honest one is a rare gem. Most of my friends are Nigerians but I tend to be selective when it comes to real friends. Keep a distance if you don't want your life story to be on from page of NL....lol[/quote]The reason we are like that I don't know, i have witnessed many terrible tales in London especially Peckham, it was hellish...we are terrible abroad its dat bad

[quote author=Real-Mccoy]I wonder who told that tribal virus about this thread? I was expecting him to be on his clown dress to entertain bloggers on comedy section.[/quote] you have said it all, he (dayokanu a.k.a Ogbomosho Goat) is a perfect blend of a goat and a monkey always runnin to and fro this forum like a restless demon! Wao, i really enjoyed readin ur post good job! Next time, ignore the bigot

Tolexander: Nairaland Polymorph I hail o! Monicker po.

....and here you are 'feasting' on somebody's pooh, how unfortunate monicker ko, monica ni. Confirmed ignoramuse who revel in pooh

OAU, ILE IFE!
Enough slangs, but my favourite is, 'Igi Iwe, Eso odo' (literarily means, 'tree of books, fruits of failures') used to describe, someone always seen with books but ends up failing! And not forgetting 'risky burger' (fried egg and bread) men I too chop am no b small at Fajuyi hall upper buttery

Andre Uweh: Na Unibadan me graduate from ooh. Nothing concern me with great Ife. Though I respect great Ife as well as UNN.

Even if u paint the fact in white, the certified dolt cannot see it! Just ignore the 'Ogbomosho Goat'! I can bet, the e-goat is the first and only graduate in his lineage d more reason that thing dey 'shack am'

[quote author=Okiki_Oluwa]Yawns. Woke up to know wether the world has come to an end. Am I now in Heaven? No, still in Nigeria...
Tor! It's 21-12-2012 already.
But why is the world taking long to come to an end?
Don't mean to derail the thread[/quote]'But of that day and hour knoweth no man, no, not the angels of heaven, but my Father only.' (Matthew24:36)! Now that you have the answer, fear not and be not confused

Andre Uweh: Alex Ekwueme wasn't corrupt during his reign as second in command to Shagari. He came out poorer from that post compared to his wealth before he became VP.

Yo andre where av u been? Wel Ekwueme was a VP under a govt noted 2 b tribalistic, hence was under watch so u neva can tel if he was more privileged! Search the topic 'The Mystery Of The Idemili Culture' u are needed there, thanks

All being said, never doubt the abilities of these raptors! Golden, harpy, martial, phillipine eagles and the lammergeir have all been credited with abilities to lift preys 4 times their weight especially the golden eagles known to kill wolves in the Chinese plains of Mongolia!

NRI PRIEST: eew!

What?

ssjalo: @ poster
I will agreed with you, we have some who are not corrupt cos in all not every body will go to hell.

No, we have a few who are corrupt but shy to act it out and u forgot to add that, 'not everyone will go to heaven too'

@ OP, Olamide - 'first of all' supposed to be in your make-up list, i don't know of any song in 2012 that enjoyed regular airtime than that beautiful song it was a typical Naija Classic!

[quote author=berem!]i think why pythons are not eaten in some parts of igbo land is because of its medicinal purpose.can we ever forget the healing powers of ABUBU EKE? It is used mainly to heal fresh scars.but i wonder it is extracted from the pythons.[/quote]the same thing too is applicable too in Yorubaland where the 'fat of pythons' are used as medicines. Pythons and many wild animals are delicacies in my place!

[quote author=berem!]am confused o![/quote]d-o-n-t b-e c-o-n-f-u-s-e-d!!!

honeric01: Those that saw Jesus, how does he look like?

We have no way of knowing that, since there was no camera then!!!