₦airaland Forum

Funny things I have found whilst browsing the internet mindlessly,

PLAYBUNNY!

I love my naiveness at times, I refuse to let the ways of the world to stop me from trusting people.

I love the fact that I have a tough conscience, this stops me from misbehaving and really I treat people better, cos I'm always thinking 'How would I want to be treated' and also I would find it hard to sleep at night if I did anything as little as hurt someone's feelings.

Physically, I truly love my legs, I wish I could get them out more, but hey --- the looks I would get!!

Lol , conscience is clear, wow you're conscience is very effective!!

I don't see anything to be ashamed of anymore, that is not the worst thing you could have said, and anybody who is wise knows not to believe everything everybody on this site say.

@ 9ja_boi ,

Wow, do you know what damage this thread could be possibly doing to this girl?

There's no need to stoop to somebody's level, no need.

God > Parents (Family) > People who helped me > People who tried to stop me

Don't be scared of his opinion of you, as far as I know, he shouldn't matter, it shouldn't matter whether he gets angry or anything, this is your future we are talking about, and if you're sure about your finace then this guy is just a time waster if allowed to take root will destroy your plans.

You need to talk to her about her fears. Seriously, she'll respect you for it. She will never be happy if you just dump her with no warning especially if she was gonna wait for you. This is exactly what happened to me, I lost respect for my guy cos he didn't even warn me he was gonna end the relationship, it was as if I was supposed to know that 'that's how it works'.

When you don't have a day job even taking out your garbage becomes a fashion cat walk.

It's probably the church you're in, also how active are you. I was like this too, until when I changed churches, after that I went back to mine and I appreciated how wonderful the sermons were. You tend to take things you're used to for granted,

Don't feel bad, no one ever said that you have to enjoy church, especially if it is laid out in such a boring manner. I appreciate my church now because they put so much effort into making it exciting and up to date. It's not about being the opposite to secular it's about adapting to the times. That doesn't mean our church supports gays or is pro-abortion or whatever, it's just we don't have a ban on secular music, and sometimes our pastor using cut-throat terms, let's not be angels for the 2 hrs we're in church then return to our alcohol drinking, sex talking surroundings,

My advice is try different churches and groups, you'll find what you're looking for if you get up and look

I don't get what the girls actually do. Maybe go for mature 'big girls' instead?

I'm sorry about that, you sound mature and you don't sound like you're looking for rebound, you just need reassurance. Don't worry, there's someone out there for you, and if you were the best b/f you could have been to her, rest assure you tried your best. Time is the best healer, it's good to talk about what happened though. That's the first step.

girlsoswit:
That is when u should be more watchful cause he's indirectly telling them "She's my nxt victim".

lol!!!

At jonpinjeff

Thanks for sharing that. I read it and I cried! I feel better

izeek:
waz the breakup that bad, that u can't even ask how she fairing and all?
old boy just try and make conver ook.

lol that's what I'm thinking, but it doesn't even have to be how it ended, it has more to do with how it was dealt with when it ended, if she left him, got with another guy, did all sorts of things to rub her new b/fs in his face, then he'd be feeling a lot of resentment towards her. I noticed guys are more difficult in this sense, sometimes when you hurt them, they can never (or not in less than a year) get over it, and it's usually when they're vulnerable do they come back. When they've still got game and girls are all over them, they couldn't care less about the ex (if she hurt them that is).

micklplus:
I read your other posts from other topics. You sure are still in love with your bobo but, u have to take it easy. i guess the brother is only trying to be polite, nice and courteous by being very matured about u and his occasional replies to you. He sure has moved on and prolly dating other babe. I will strong advice you to move on too. fashi the past and embrace the future. You sure WILL get another bobo that will truly love u with all his heart.

Cheers

Thanks

All the 'You're the only one for me' and 'I don't see myself rushing into a relationship anytime soon' lol,

That's true that people who hide their emails, like myself, do not want t be contacted via that email.

But that doesn't mean I wouldn't like a one to one chat with nairaland members. I can understand though why you'd want to remove the personal message option. As this site could become some sort of pick-up joint for people who are looking for partners and dating, when there's a forum for that already.

ima1:
the way i see it is if the guy doesn't want to introduce you to his friends because he thinks you would be flirty or his friends would snatch you from him then he is insecure, if he is embarrased of you then you don't need to be with him in the first place.

True!

Hmm, so if that is the advisable option, why is it, I am being treated like the b**** because I wasn't ready to reciprocate the friendship. And now that I am ready he is ignoring me?

I think there's nothing wrong with telling the guy that you want to be friends, but it'll take time and it won't just snap like that into place. That way you get time to yourself if you wish and he can understand that this is 'the time' you mentioned. I said exactly this and the thing still back fired. Guy never cared to begin with tbh. It all depends on the person. If the ex is a reasonable guy/girl they should be willing to work things through. The relationship doesn't just end after it ends . Most people think it does but unless you truly delete the person from your life, you're still having some sort of relationship with them whether it be a hate/enemy type relationship, friendship or potential rekindling the love type relationship

HCH3COO:
Quit lying. you ended it. In fact, after the breakup it's no longer compulsory to reply your emails, talkless of the days it takes.

You are truly uninformed but you feel it necessary to go full force and make outlandish statements despite this.

I said the words, now when someone refuses to reply, call or text you, makes excuses not to go out with you, see you, argues with you, wouldn't you say they've ended the relationship I may have been the one to have the guts to say 'let's end it' but it wasn't me who wanted to end the relationship. What I did was smart, I went against my feelings, because all signs were saying this guy wants to leave. Infact he had already left emotionally. Now before you go off making statements and accusing me of lying, why not just simply ask for the full version. There is no bias in this, whether I was the reason for him wanting to leave or it not, it doesn't matter! What matters is that he called it quits and I released myself by saying the words, in fact I think he was pushing me to say it, after behaving this way, he still could not muster up the courage to say he wanted out. I had to say it! Do you not think I am frustrated with this relationship enough?!! Do you also have to add your own!?

He pushed me away and HINTED to an extrem degree how much he wanted out of the relationship, told me he couldn't commit and everything, so yes he HURT ME! HE HURT ME!!! Especially as he claimed to love me only a week before he started this behaviour. I repeat. HE HURT ME! So, now that I'm ok and willing to talk to him, he is ignoring me, That is not okay, even if I did ignore him first, I had the right to after HE HURT ME!

Geddit!?

KarmaMod:
did you miss where I said "if you still have feelings". If one person still wants a relationship and the other do3snt, do you truly believe they can last as "friends"

Only time you can be friends with an ex is if he starts dating someone and you're completely fine with it to the point he can even talk to you about the relationship

Til then, people really shouldnt fool themselves.

No I didn't miss the part. I read it and still came to the same conclusion. I still believe that you should always agree to be friends because when time passes the feelings usually subside as you find someone else, or put the whole thing in perspective, also you get over the anger, or hurt, time heals. So then this is the time when you wish you hadn't told your ex to 'f***' for messing with you, or you 'don't want anything to do' with him in your life ever again.

I had feelings for my ex, but now I wish I wasn't so clouded by them that I refused his friendship, because now that I've forgiven him, I don't want an enemy,

ima1 adive me! do me! do me next!

I've heard guys be in relationships with their girlfriends for a long time and they don't introduce them to their friends. Now this could be 'cos the guy is scared that the girlfriend might be flirted with by his friends and she may get tempted (as the friends have similar personalities to you and one little tweak could make them more compatible with your girlfriend than you), or maybe he's embarrased of her or isn't comfortable with their relationship, or maybe he's scared of his friends making fun of how lovey dovey he is with her.

HCH3COO:
I don't think you want to start discussing chemistry here, when yours is in complete limbo.

When better to discuss chemistry than when discussing the chemistry between two people.

Anyways, without the cheesy line,

How do you know mine is in complete limbo. I've worked out my plan and I'm on my path to freedom. Currently in the dry season, where all I have to distract me is the site and its forums,

HCH3COO:
did you miss the part where I said "in your situation, i would say move on" , or were you too busy being distracted with thoughts of your ex.

Yes, I honestly did miss that part, it wasn't him who distracted me, it was these 6 or so topics I'm trying to keep track on and keep up with the 'various disagreements' we are having on them,

Lose already (the sun is coming up where I am!)

HCH3COO:
lol! never speechless.

I've come to notice that

Hmmmm, HCH3COO , I'm used to it being written as CH3COOH with the positively charged hydrogen ion on the negatively charged oxygen.
Since there are two carbons on the chain, I would say this is ethanoic acid. Or commonly known as Vinegar. Man, I still remember my chemistry.

You're not acid just vinegar, nice!

HCH3COO:
y

Because it is the sort of reply that will leave you speechles

HCH3COO:
It's time to swallow the whinny. Leap out from behind that bush you're hiding and release yourself to another man.

You can't be serious!!

Well at least it is positive advice.

Noted.

But she is asking what should she do, not what would/should he do.

This isn't personal.

HCH3COO:
Get a load of yourself. Was that addressed to me or the voice in your head

Both