₦airaland Forum

ifyalways: Ehen.
Maria ekwekwana Imakwa Tosh na-achu ma okuko ma ngwere since O gachara nite club last weekend ga para akwuna doro tattoo n'ahu ya nile. Ekwekwala. dump him for good.

Pres-elect, .

jadelyn007: Real men will read dis and learn frm it while boys will read this and cuss d Op.real men r doers,boys r talkers(talk is cheap)!!real men make sense frm dis write up dat boys call 'nonsense',boys can't even read between d lines.real men dnt hv to call demselves men,their action speaks for dem,boys claim dey r men n yet can't pay their own house rent.#My own humble opinion

99cent: first of all, why do you use the word "girl" as a point of comparison to the word "men"?

also, are men supposed to dress 'ugly'? all people, male or female, should dress neatly.
besides the emphasis that women should spend a lot of time looking good wasn't always that way. there are periods in history when men put more focus on their looks than women. in fact, men in the 16th century europe are known to wear heels and fashionable clothes and wigs. u can see the remnants of this tradition in the wigs judges wear in courts and even in renaissance oil paintings.

the point is that women should be able to decide for themselves how they want to look. In puritan societies, in fact, women are banned from wearing make-up, jewelry or looking "good". they are forced to dress very plainly and drab.
this is also a way of repressing women by enforcing societal code of dressing or appearance on them. there are many ways to repress women.
else, how would u explain that in some societies women are pressured to look good. whereas in other societies, women have to look plain. keep in mind, no rule whatsoever applies to men who can look however they want!

gender roles are social constructs (man made) NOT biological.

this is the same argument pro-rapists make. when a girl is raped, they blame it on the girl and say things like "why weren't you covering up in a burqa" or "why were you walking down the street by yourself without a chaperone" etc. the rapist or sexual abuser goes scot free in Africa and may be even praised by other males .society condones sexual exploits by males and condemns women for the same. Africa as a continent has the highest rate of sexua.l violence in the world.

when there is a government and rule of law, males that impregnate women will be forced to bear responsibility in form of child support and other means. this is enforced in western countries. that's why women can wear whatever clothes they want and there is no sexual repression for women in western countries. they are not made to feel ashamed of their sex. men are held to the same level of responsibility.

also there is such thing as condoms, birth control pills, and abortions.

why are girls under pressure to get married? again you use the word girls and men on the same level.
are we still living in a world where 50yr old men marry 15yr old girls?
also, fertility rate and sexism have high correlation just so you know. if you visit a society where women are giving birth to 4-10 kids per woman, the level of sexism and horrible treatment of women will be much higher than societies where average number of kids per woman in around 2 kids (western countries!). that says a LOT.

can you post that statistic for me to see?
and who told you men "lead" in relationships? behind closed doors, at least 50% of relationships are led by women (all things being equal ex finances) leadership is mostly a personality trait. not a gender trait. Maybe in Africa where women are repressed and forced to act "meek" but if we went by nature, leadership will show in equal rates between men and women. ex. men who show leadership seen as leaders. whereas women who show leadership seen as "bitchy"
again, sexism at play.

again, this is the pro-rapist argument you are making. a man is allowed to sit comfortably while a woman is made to assume contortions that very uncomfortable just to "protect" herself from men.
if urinating upwards is the most comfortable position for a woman to urinate. then YES women should urinate upwards. This is not about women becoming men. but about women gaining basic common sense rights that are withheld from them in sexist societies.

true. no one is asking that women become men. just challenging sexism which exists in our society.
may men don't want it. why should they? they are benefiting from the system and they will fight to protect the status quo.

J12: This Chimamanda is sexy o I hard a proper bòner while watching her gesticulate

stillwater: I agree society impounds on us to mate with what's readily available and that attitude needs to be changed.

ItsModella: yay!! I'll take Adaobi along with me

adaobi123: Yaaay America here I come !

Matthew briggs: LOl epic, U don denounce the fight for gender equality because of 2 Disney tickets, women rights movt still have a long way to go, . toshmann you try, you took down a feminist, with one wannabe feminist with just 2 disney tickets. You too much

ItsModella: I'm sorry, I thought what we had was an adult-kiddo relationship

ItsModella: I'm not back in the States yet.

Anyway, I want some candies and ice cream.

ItsModella: papa tosh, how are you?

ItsModella:

PHIPEX: A brilliant presentation judging from the perpective of a social crusader but what I don't get yet is if there is a limit to this theory of equality of sexes. Nigeria is a highly religious society and the 3 dominant religions(Christianity, Islam and Pegans) are not in support of absolute equality of gender. From the Biblical perspective, God said while placing a curse on Eve that she shall be subject to the wishes of the Man. If we juxtapose religious doctrines which we follow with the current drive for equality we'll realise that absolute equality of gender is very hard to sell. I recognise that the aspects of these gender role expectations that are more social than religious can be alterered but the message of absolute equality may not sell even in the next century.

J12: Do I need to watch the video to know what she has to say. I already know she has to say and wants to say..
Nigerian women have rights (as mucg as men) under the Nigerian constitution, unless their are special rights that you wish were accorded to women.
Are there any rights who wish women had in Nigeria that they don't currently have? Please do elaborate on them. . .

ItsModella: hahahaha!! Wtf? At the beginning of the video, she mentioned that what she means by feminism is different from the popular idea or notion of feminism. Basically, she's speaking more from a cultural perspective than a legal/constitutional perspective as you're making it seem. Seriously, watch the video and stop making unrelated and laughable comments.

adaobi123:

Im not a feminist

lorretta u: I'm surprised this very interesting topic has such low number of followership.shows how much our mne aren't ready to accept women as equals.
Sad

I just dey show you mercy ni o. You suppose to dey thank me for being considerate.

Tosh, you no dey rest? One day, na chic go hold you hostage

Egba girl: j'ai pas dit vingt. j'ai dit vingt-... c'est evident que tu ne comprends pas mais vraiment c'est au revoir.