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Kobojunkie:
Tell your friend to come to submit her own story by herself here on nairaland in order to get feedback live.

she's doesn't even aware of nairaland

Bluezy13:
She should get a scale.
Put her desperation on one side of the scale.
Put her fears on the other side of the scale.
Weigh them.

Whichever outweighs will give her a choice.

This sounds logical...

A VERY CLOSE FRIEND OF MINE. She's overdue and desperate for marriage, and she used to be unlucky when it comes to finding the right partner. She just met a guy that is of age but single, this guy is not financially bouyant but she is(self employed). Both of them are desperate to get married that within a month of their meeting this guy had introduced her to most of his family if not all. This my friend is ready to give him money for business of his choice or bring him into her business so they can both be doing it together, ready to get new apartment for both of them that in short , she's going to be the breadwinner of the family if they later end up together. Now, HER FEAR... What if she get unlucky again with him? What if this guy dupe her? Is it the right thing to do for a guy that she barely know nothing of?

NOTE... Pressure is on this lady from her family

Your advice are needed pls...

LordBabs:
Go and enrol the slavery services of your in-laws or baale instead. Mad man! 15k per day would be just fine for me.

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Smartguyboy:
Merry Christmas to my follow nairalander even though I don’t have any friends here but we move.

This Christmas has been the worst since my existence but I give baba God the praise I am living after accident I had almost kill someone with my car but thank God nothing happened to the little boy just scratch.

Just packed the car 150k for one side mirror

Thank God baba

Merry Christmas to you all and a prosperous New year ahead...

RedChiefPriest:
Na this beautiful Art Deco don become like this?
Only God fit comfort this people sha and if they get insurance also e go help.

Nemesis... Is God not wonderful?

Hmmm...

What most of you called grass is grace to most people(including me).

Things are hard my people, but we keep on praying and pushing

obembet:
The funniest part of it is that they will be the one to make the move

I retired from the thread when I saw this. You deserve an award for the best joker of the century.

Oshin56:
I'm from Emure. Zero 8 zero fifty8threefor02threetwo

08079302332...Pls what's your full name?

Oshin56:
please are you from emure EKITI?

I am...

Jennifer663:
Help the poor now...

They are coming for your head Jenny...

Kobojunkie:
1. Well, any of us know people like you who always seem to be playing catchup regarding what is happening around them. While your kind is busy gathering their "evidence" for their mega showcases, everyone else around, including neighbors and kids on the street, has already received and long processed the details long before. Continue!

2. Prayer has absolutely nothing to do with evil. So long as you are dealing with humans, expect it to happen and brace yourself for it. Living in ignorance, a form of denial of this fact has not and will not help anyone.

3. I have been in all kinds of shoes in my lifetime, and not once have I regretted ever learning the truth of my situation. See, in order to grow as an individual, you need truth - even if it has to hit you like a ton of bricks. That's the only way to wisdom in this life - truth/facts. Living a lie is living an utterly worthless existence.

4. "Honesty is the best policy". Those who choose to keep their mouths shut, are they better in any way or form than the one who spoke up? You may try to imagine them so but commonsense/wisdom says otherwise.

I don't want to continue dragging this with you kobojunkie. We both know that we can't hide under a FINGER, and that's what you're doing right now. But, you and I know that that tragedy wouldn't have happened if ONLY one person had face front.


Ire oo

Kobojunkie:
I have asked you too several times now and you have yet to respond either. If your wife were cheating on you, will you gladly turn a deaf ear to such information all in the name of maintaining what is a false image of a happy marriage?

Will you chose ignorance of your wife's cheating to learning the truth of the paternity of the one's you happily boast are your children in marriage.

Ignorance is never bliss....and the truth does not check your schedule before it arrives at your door. If this woman had not spoken up, the wife would have learned either from someone else, or from catching the man herself or maybe from contracting an std as a result of his escapades... What happened to this family is what pretty much happens to every family living a fake identity. Once the damage is done, it is only a matter of time before relate catches up.

From the moment that man ventured out on his marriage, he already destroyed it himself. It was only a matter of time before that which was hidden caught up with daily life of his family.

Stop this meaningless attempt to shift blame onto someone for speaking up. The die was cast by the filandering husband in the family you pretend to care so much for.

You see, I'm this kind of a person that looks more than I speaks. Before a third party starts to give me clue, I personally, would have gather more than enough clues/or evidences myself , it will be in a family meeting which will includes both her parents and siblings that I will showcase all evidence. Which is to tell you that I can't act immediately based on what I was told from the outside... That's me.

You know, no one prays to be the circumstances of any evil, be the person that stand at the of an evil doing.

Let me ask you this, can you imagine yourself be in the shoe of that lady?

Modify: Mind you, it might not be that lady
alone knows about the infidelity of that man towards his wife but which they decided to mind their business.

Kobojunkie:
Who gives a flying fk who cheating started with? No sane individual wakes up in the morning declaring it OK to fall victim to fraud or betrayal because it happens to everyone else.

So what if the gossip is herself a cheat? Does that somehow render the information she has unreliable or something? Is there some rule that insists cheats are unreliable source of information on other cheats?

Abegi , stop arguing this nonsense o'jare!

This foolish "mind your business" culture is reason why Nigeria remains the stagnant cesspit it is today and reason why relationships, even marriage are nothing to write home about.

I get your point kobojunkie, you get some points right, so right! And you even opened my eyes to some facts, but still,you haven't answer my question! Pls I need you to answer, what would have happened to that family at the moment if the lady had minded her business?

Kobojunkie:
Why should she feel guilty for telling the truth about what she knew?
And what part of the story informs you that the wife driving after her cheating husband was the fault of the woman who gave her news of her husband's cheating habits? Did the informant ask the wife to drive speedily after the husband or what?

Also, according to what I have learned of the incident, the husband new the wife was chasing after him, so why didn't he stop if he cared so much for his wife?

Are you sincerely wanting us here to believe that if your wife were cheating on you, you would not want anyone informing you of the truth about your situation and marriage? You would rather continue blindly rather than have someone help you with that which you aren't aware of in your union?

Kobo, cheating doesn't start with that man ,and, it wouldn't end with him! No be today. And who tells you that the lady's ( the gossiper) husband is not cheating also? But pls answer this question, I'm still saying, what would have happened to that family if that lady had minded her business?

deewhydoski:
Married men in the house, Is it normal for someone that is getting marry in the next one month to be nervous and anxious at the same time?

Beeni ooooo, a norm that is normal

Fiscus105:
Do u know reason why mum did that?

Claiming to be a bias judge on one sided story, portraits you as a big fool on faceless forum.

Are you for real right now

Fiscus105:
Hope u know she has more money to give u if she wanted?

Do Not Demonize church because ur mother refused to give u money. The reason ur mum is treating u like that u hide it but trying to portrait church negatively.

Hellooooo!

pocohantas:
The lady is not a big fool. The man is the FOOL for lying to his wife that he is going on a business trip only to go meet a side chick well into her 30s who is a known Calabar hookup WOMAN. You won’t call a man a fool if he told another man his wife who claimed to travel is with a sugar boy in SPAR.

When will you men ever take the blame for your COMMUNITY GBOLAS?

Are you aware that the man recovered from a stroke? He was nursed to health by his late wife. But the moment he could get his legs and penis moving again- it was to start pursuing woman.

@poco, I'm a married man, I detest cheating and I can never tolerate it, I can't just cope with a cheating partner. We all agreed the man is faulty he should never have cheated on his wife. But Poco, I want to put this question to you. How would you feel if you are the woman/lady ( God forbid it's you) that gossip it to the wife which the chasing later resulted to her death, and put the husband in a coma/death? Pls answer it with all sincererity, no stereotype, forget blaming the cheating husband and all that. How would you feel?

Cregon:
Greetings to elders and knowledgeable folks in the house. Kindly assist me in this family matter.

There is this person I know who was impregnated by her boyfriend a few years back. She didn't abort the child.

Three years has gone by and yet the young man has refused to lift a finger in caring for the child, who is now in school.

The weight of catering for this child is really telling on the girl and her family.

So advise me. What legal steps can be taken? Can he be charged to court?

Mod: Kindly help me by moving this to the front page. Thanks.

My granny once told me something some years back...

She said: son
Me: yes granny
She: I'm 109 years old, do you know what has kept me this far
Me: No granny
She: it's because I have always minding my business.

Cornerstone2018:
It might just be a test o, life is so unpredictable, yeah... she needs you today, you might need her tomorrow. Let the grown up kids visit her pending the time God gives her own child.

But she shouldn't be taking it personal. She was getting toooooo attached to the baby. Prevention, my brother, they says is better than cure.


Ire o

May God provides for your husband, the best thing is to get your own apartment and move out of that place ASAP please. I'm smelling danger...btw 2 brothers, btw you and the wife , and btw your kids( most especially your 7month old baby) and the wife.

Ire o

Fahvvy:
That a person has a genetic predisposition to a trait doesn't mean that, that trait will ALWAYS find expression ...

Lemme give you an example...
Are you aware that diabetic can also be caused by genetics? That is to say, there is a genetic predisposition to diabetes....

However, not everyone who has this genetic predisposition to diabetes end up having diabetes, you know why?

That's because once they discover that they have a genetic predisposition to diabetes (usually from family history), they take measures to put it at Bay and as such, they can live their lives without ever having diabetes even though they have a genetic predisposition to it...

So NO genetics isn't always "stronger" and sometimes "nurture" can triumph nature ...

Secondly...
What the OP described above are social vices: Yahoo, cultism, etc...
And the last time I checked, social vices aren't genetical.... That is, there is no "cultistic genes" or "yoohic genes" in man ...

So how those kids turned out to be, is Majorly environmental, ie, how they were raised ...

Pls watch ur back, I will find you and I will marry you because, I fuccking love you

You've said it all

Hmmmm.... I think I had read a thread here on NL that talked about how most Nigerian men fails to help there fellow men but preferred the opposite gender when in position to do so.

@op, I'm not against you helping women/ladies to secure a job/or financially, but I know that there might have been some of your male friends that need that same job but you chose to look away thinking you have nothing to gain from them ( which in most cases, it's the other way round), but you let your dicck to take hold of you. Tell me your propeller have not been propelling her all this while and thunder strike that your gbola.

My advice: Cut all your connection with her in all possible way, this might be a drop of water out of an ocean in what is to come, in other words, she might ruin you the more if you're not careful.

Abizz and lucrativebusiness or what is it, you've Sha both turn this thread to a 2 [/s]gender[s] man business right? But I pray the business is lucrative for you guys

Akerele44:
I search ur number in WhatsApp...not on WhatsApp

Not explanation on nairaland

U can also chat me up on WhatsApp
09032090847

From Lagos state Eti-Osa but what my Dad told us is that is grandpa dad is from Èkìtì i think Emure Ekiti...i think e also said from a royal family at emure ekiti

One located, many more to go...

phemmyfour:
Chai ..loss of money
What a huge financial loss

habaaa have a little bit of remorse nah, why money first... Rip to the dead

Jennifer663:
Rip..
See wasted money o

It's tempting

Akerele44:
Want to know what other people would do in ur situation


May God almighty not let's us be in ur situation

It's a curse

pls where is your Akerele's from? Ekiti? ... Will like to know you 08079302332