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Acidosis:
How did you transition from buying your wife a car and a wristwatch worth 75k to giving her 3k to cook for you and your two kids?

If your story is true (which I 100% doubt), then you have a bigger problem on your hands - the problem of financial stup*dity.

If you're doubting it then I can say you haven't really understand life...it can humble anyone.


Pls don't say that again...abeg

That will be a dream come true for me. It was my childhood friend and I that used to anticipate our first time on plane, how and what the feelings will be, but now he's located in Arkansas now and here I am, just looking at it at a far distance. If just to carry me up and landed back in a sec it will be a dream come true at 35.

elipheleh:
So a responsible man does not have the rights to be respected by his own household?

So being responsible does not worth anything in your house?

So a man should invite others to beg before his own wife will act in line and respect him?

So a woman giving birth gives her license to start disrespecting her husband? Hasn't many women on earth given birth and still sensible?

You see how stupid and daft you sound?

Oga ade, be calming down. I don't want to reply to the op details, but seeing this spark something out of me. I was so angry when I saw the word "tamed", when I read "after spending 300k for are C's". I'm very sorry to say this but I can smell pride, too much ego and so on ... This is wife we're talking about not girlfriend, it's his responsibility to cater for his family, who else does he expects to cater for the hospital bills? Me? You?. Though, it is not that I'm supporting the behavior of the wife, and as a man, it pains when your wife is acting in a disrespectful manner. He should try to find out why not yelling for respect hereandia. It takes some stupidity sometimes to stay in marriage. Oga the poster, pls calm down all will be fine.

francisbarrack:
Firstly ur friend should put age aside/family pressure.
Get more information about him n know about his past secondly she should seek God guildlines through fasting n prayers. She should not rush.

Exactly my advice to her, but I think she's taking her time now. Thanks nairalanders

ednut1:
Likely going to end up in tears. How old is she

like 35

Uniquetani1:
Trouble dey sleep, your friend want wake am

Pls explain more

Which book/s can I get to read on Commercial Cleaning business? I had searched but couldn't find one... Please

truthhurts2:
A VERY CLOSE FRIEND OF MINE. She's overdue and desperate for marriage, and she used to be unlucky when it comes to finding the right partner. She just met a guy that is of age but single, this guy is not financially bouyant but she is(self employed). Both of them are desperate to get married that within a month of their meeting this guy had introduced her to most of his family if not all. This my friend is ready to give him money for business of his choice or bring him into her business so they can both be doing it together, ready to get new apartment for both of them that in short , she's going to be the breadwinner of the family if they later end up together. Now, HER FEAR... What if she get unlucky again with him? What if this guy dupe her? Is it the right thing to do for a guy that she barely know nothing of?

NOTE... Pressure is on this lady from her family

Your advice are needed pls...

Your kindly advise is needed ejoor

Blunttruth:
No, the man duped people, and disappeared. They waited till he came around for naming ceremony and had him arrested. The wife had no idea he was involved in fraud

oh! He got what he deserves then

Blunttruth:
Too many redflags. I know a lady exactly like this. She was self employed And doing well for herself,but was almost 40 and desperate. She met a guy and within 3 months they were married. Just two years into the marriage the man ram down her business, ran away in the guise of going to look for business opportunities,he came home for their first child's naming ceremony and got arrested for fraud. Till today,the once thriving lady has gone back to ground zero, her husband is in jail, her only gain in the marriage is the child she had.
The lady in question has to be extremely careful. We don't want to be hearing takes of woe later.

you mean wife got her husband arrested? What will she tell their child?

Medianna:
I don't mean to be sarcastic.
But the age her family didn't want her to reach without getting married, she's there already,so why the pressure again?
Sometimes I laugh at scenarios like this.
She should just be careful Sha, even relationships that we are confident it will walk out,some never does at a point, talk more of the one you have your reservations.

I think it's a normal thing for parents to starts asking questions when they see that the time has overlong due. We can't blame them

Kobojunkie:
Ask her to come online to seek advice. E get why!

give your own opinion... lobatan

Kobojunkie:
Tell your friend to come to submit her own story by herself here on nairaland in order to get feedback live.

she called to seek my opinion, and the matter come get k-leg for me

Kobojunkie:
Tell your friend to come to submit her own story by herself here on nairaland in order to get feedback live.

she's doesn't even aware of nairaland

Bluezy13:
She should get a scale.
Put her desperation on one side of the scale.
Put her fears on the other side of the scale.
Weigh them.

Whichever outweighs will give her a choice.

This sounds logical...

A VERY CLOSE FRIEND OF MINE. She's overdue and desperate for marriage, and she used to be unlucky when it comes to finding the right partner. She just met a guy that is of age but single, this guy is not financially bouyant but she is(self employed). Both of them are desperate to get married that within a month of their meeting this guy had introduced her to most of his family if not all. This my friend is ready to give him money for business of his choice or bring him into her business so they can both be doing it together, ready to get new apartment for both of them that in short , she's going to be the breadwinner of the family if they later end up together. Now, HER FEAR... What if she get unlucky again with him? What if this guy dupe her? Is it the right thing to do for a guy that she barely know nothing of?

NOTE... Pressure is on this lady from her family

Your advice are needed pls...

LordBabs:
Go and enrol the slavery services of your in-laws or baale instead. Mad man! 15k per day would be just fine for me.

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If you can do laundry work and you live in Ogbomosho, Oyo state. Call this number 08079302332
2 workers needed.

The pay is 15k

Smartguyboy:
Merry Christmas to my follow nairalander even though I don’t have any friends here but we move.

This Christmas has been the worst since my existence but I give baba God the praise I am living after accident I had almost kill someone with my car but thank God nothing happened to the little boy just scratch.

Just packed the car 150k for one side mirror

Thank God baba

Merry Christmas to you all and a prosperous New year ahead...

RedChiefPriest:
Na this beautiful Art Deco don become like this?
Only God fit comfort this people sha and if they get insurance also e go help.

Nemesis... Is God not wonderful?

Hmmm...

What most of you called grass is grace to most people(including me).

Things are hard my people, but we keep on praying and pushing

obembet:
The funniest part of it is that they will be the one to make the move

I retired from the thread when I saw this. You deserve an award for the best joker of the century.

Oshin56:
I'm from Emure. Zero 8 zero fifty8threefor02threetwo

08079302332...Pls what's your full name?

Oshin56:
please are you from emure EKITI?

I am...

Jennifer663:
Help the poor now...

They are coming for your head Jenny...

Kobojunkie:
1. Well, any of us know people like you who always seem to be playing catchup regarding what is happening around them. While your kind is busy gathering their "evidence" for their mega showcases, everyone else around, including neighbors and kids on the street, has already received and long processed the details long before. Continue!

2. Prayer has absolutely nothing to do with evil. So long as you are dealing with humans, expect it to happen and brace yourself for it. Living in ignorance, a form of denial of this fact has not and will not help anyone.

3. I have been in all kinds of shoes in my lifetime, and not once have I regretted ever learning the truth of my situation. See, in order to grow as an individual, you need truth - even if it has to hit you like a ton of bricks. That's the only way to wisdom in this life - truth/facts. Living a lie is living an utterly worthless existence.

4. "Honesty is the best policy". Those who choose to keep their mouths shut, are they better in any way or form than the one who spoke up? You may try to imagine them so but commonsense/wisdom says otherwise.

I don't want to continue dragging this with you kobojunkie. We both know that we can't hide under a FINGER, and that's what you're doing right now. But, you and I know that that tragedy wouldn't have happened if ONLY one person had face front.


Ire oo

Kobojunkie:
I have asked you too several times now and you have yet to respond either. If your wife were cheating on you, will you gladly turn a deaf ear to such information all in the name of maintaining what is a false image of a happy marriage?

Will you chose ignorance of your wife's cheating to learning the truth of the paternity of the one's you happily boast are your children in marriage.

Ignorance is never bliss....and the truth does not check your schedule before it arrives at your door. If this woman had not spoken up, the wife would have learned either from someone else, or from catching the man herself or maybe from contracting an std as a result of his escapades... What happened to this family is what pretty much happens to every family living a fake identity. Once the damage is done, it is only a matter of time before relate catches up.

From the moment that man ventured out on his marriage, he already destroyed it himself. It was only a matter of time before that which was hidden caught up with daily life of his family.

Stop this meaningless attempt to shift blame onto someone for speaking up. The die was cast by the filandering husband in the family you pretend to care so much for.

You see, I'm this kind of a person that looks more than I speaks. Before a third party starts to give me clue, I personally, would have gather more than enough clues/or evidences myself , it will be in a family meeting which will includes both her parents and siblings that I will showcase all evidence. Which is to tell you that I can't act immediately based on what I was told from the outside... That's me.

You know, no one prays to be the circumstances of any evil, be the person that stand at the of an evil doing.

Let me ask you this, can you imagine yourself be in the shoe of that lady?

Modify: Mind you, it might not be that lady
alone knows about the infidelity of that man towards his wife but which they decided to mind their business.

Kobojunkie:
Who gives a flying fk who cheating started with? No sane individual wakes up in the morning declaring it OK to fall victim to fraud or betrayal because it happens to everyone else.

So what if the gossip is herself a cheat? Does that somehow render the information she has unreliable or something? Is there some rule that insists cheats are unreliable source of information on other cheats?

Abegi , stop arguing this nonsense o'jare!

This foolish "mind your business" culture is reason why Nigeria remains the stagnant cesspit it is today and reason why relationships, even marriage are nothing to write home about.

I get your point kobojunkie, you get some points right, so right! And you even opened my eyes to some facts, but still,you haven't answer my question! Pls I need you to answer, what would have happened to that family at the moment if the lady had minded her business?

Kobojunkie:
Why should she feel guilty for telling the truth about what she knew?
And what part of the story informs you that the wife driving after her cheating husband was the fault of the woman who gave her news of her husband's cheating habits? Did the informant ask the wife to drive speedily after the husband or what?

Also, according to what I have learned of the incident, the husband new the wife was chasing after him, so why didn't he stop if he cared so much for his wife?

Are you sincerely wanting us here to believe that if your wife were cheating on you, you would not want anyone informing you of the truth about your situation and marriage? You would rather continue blindly rather than have someone help you with that which you aren't aware of in your union?

Kobo, cheating doesn't start with that man ,and, it wouldn't end with him! No be today. And who tells you that the lady's ( the gossiper) husband is not cheating also? But pls answer this question, I'm still saying, what would have happened to that family if that lady had minded her business?

deewhydoski:
Married men in the house, Is it normal for someone that is getting marry in the next one month to be nervous and anxious at the same time?

Beeni ooooo, a norm that is normal