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GreatDad19 good evening,

I applaud the way you’ve laid yourself bare here and, unflinchingly taken the kind of thunderous condemnation that can get hurled around. In all you’ve have remained resolutely focused on your desired, and dare I say the right, outcome – restoration of your home. I sincerely hope that this concludes with your testimony to the same!

Do forgive me if I am a little expansive, I like to address the specific and the more general. I’ve read through your 2 threads and get the sense that in all you are a responsible, earnest and serious guy – looking to do your best for your wife and family. That makes you a leader, as you well should be as a man, a husband, and a father.

Do not let imprecation about your less than perfect approach or manner get to you. None of us are, least of all those that are demanding it of you. Whenever I am asked to say a few words at weddings or to an intending couple, I always say to the groom “whether it’s her fault, or your fault, it’s your responsibility”. I see you taking responsibility here – every comment that does not acknowledge that and seek to deride you is mere gainsaying.

I hear your frustration – loudly! You work hard to provide for your family and sex is a right and one of the main things men typically delight in within marriage. It is more than just physical, although those benefits are myriad. It re-affirms the bond and is the one place only the two of you go.

You should actually have moved faster. I have been there, and will say this much. After tackling the issue head on, things were even better than before. Set your sights high, you don’t just want the restoration of your sex life, you want to elevate it to another level. Beyond mere relief, beyond the perfunctory, to the kind you mentally record and playback with a dopey smile on your face when you should be hard at work

Always take stock of your marriage – all areas - and if anything is slipping or awry, take steps to address it sooner rather than later, lest it become entrenched and nigh on intractable.

I can see why you confided in friends, they have generally got your back – especially longstanding ones. But please don’t. At most, one trusted person, preferably an elder, versed in marital issues, as opposed to a peer. You can’t always tell where friendships are going or will end. Your friends may be objective, but no wiser and, one person is sharing, more is broadcasting.

As to the oversensitivity issue, bro’, that is not atypical for your average woman, it’s one of the main ways we differ. You can praise her all day and make one constructive remark. The remark will override all else that came before and possibly much of what comes after. Dude, that thing will seed and grow fruit you will be eating for a long time.

While most men can shrug off most critiscm or spite, most women internalise and fuel their anxieties or insecurities – all the more if they are carrying past trauma that you may not even be aware of.

But now she is yours. It becomes your mandate to instil that sense of security and joy in her, by lovingly building her up. Be firm, be frank, but never verbally caustic, no matter the provocation. And try to not come across as condemnatory, it will build her confidence in sharing things and communicating with you, as opposed to making her clam up or go on the offensive.

It is that communication that will be the bedrock, and the way this issue has been difficult to address and festered indicates you have much to do here. As you have laid yourself bare here, do so with her. Not in a way that presents you as weak, or even vulnerable – that is dangerous to the dynamic – but in a way that lets her see she is the first port of call and your trusted confidante.

It would be hard for any spouse to think that their personal issues – and really sensitive ones – are being openly discussed. No, no, no, thrice no. It can progress to a point where the elder I mentioned is superfluous and friends are nowhere. All they see is that smile and your sense of uxory.

So you’ve been derided for you non-project management approach to situations. Listen, I’m a qualified coach and often neglect to apply the model in my personal life. Yes you could have been more considered, played a slightly longer game – it has been 2 years after all – and approached more warily, with the scene properly set.

Pick your self up, dust yourself off, learn the lessons and re-engage. Acknowledge your own cack-handedness, and hands up for the unpleasantness, its violence and has no place in a loving home. But do stress that you know things are not right and you’d like a progressive solution.

Allow your wife lead the conversation and take things at her own pace, but be sure to moderate and not let things slip or fade away. Don’t lose sight of the desired outcome – ensuring she knows what this is and is on-board. There is in all likelihood no quick or easy fix here. The first requirement is the acknowledgement, then the joint will to progress.

Before I forget. I know how easy it is to be flattered by the attentions of others. Most men can be distracted even without attention, but please guard your heart. I don’t believe deep down it’s a road you want to travel, but situations like this can open up a pathway – even if unintended. All the more reason to fix-up at home, that is the best preventative.

Go and get your wife back and get to work. The peace you crave shall be yours, with joy atop

All the best as you build your home and happy shagging

Best
TV

_{...if you believe drop to your knees, if not I can heartily recommend The Lord Jesus Christ...for the joy that is set before you...}

Timbuktuo:
Wasn't a fan of DJT's before now, but in the last year following him closely has warmed me up to him. Hillary, on the other hand, became repulsive to me. At the end of the day, it's about how they affect the world and I have no regrets pitching my tent with Trump, especially after he won.

His behaviour upon winning reminds me of virtue signalling beta boys here and, in real life I've become impatient with them. People like McCain and Romney are despised for not fighting the MSM and Dems like Trump did. Obviously, they could not lead. They wanted the power but not the responsibility that came with it. Even on twitter, Trump's fans are calling him out on appointing Romney who is a career/experienced politician. That should tell you all you need to know about the dignity o snakes and weasels. I hope he does well though, and doesn't let his voters down.

It was interesting seeing the 'grabgate' incident fizzle out like a wet firecracker. Dude came out quick and sharp and dustbinned the whole thing, and I looked with my mouth wide open. He's a fighter and a scrapper at that.

I also like how he's toying with the media. Dude is a master troll. .

Trust the family's doing good?

He roughed them up good.
Put his hands up for wrongdoing, but never apologised - Alpha
Went hard on the men in the primaries and played hardball - Alpha
Didn't cut the female contenders any slack because they were women - Alpha
Got called a misogynist and paraded his beautiful wife and daughters - Alpha
Called out the threat from Jihadist terrorism when HRC couldn't even name it - Alpha

I wonder about his competence, but If all he does is roll back some of the warped gender ideology Barry put in place, I'll be happy. Don't put my trust in any of them though.

We are all well thanks. Looking forward to the christmas season. Need somedowntime

Hope likewise.

Best
TV

^{...come, where's Cracky?}

...me likely, unabashedly serious about marriage. Highly commendable. as NL foremost marriage advocate, I have to drop in to encourage and exhort.

May all the serious minded singles be divinely paired with their spouses in a timely fashion this year. And, in a manner that elicits awe, wonder and praise. May all the sorrows of singleness, if any, be blotted out, and the myriad joys of marital harmony overflow in your lives.

May The Good Lord Himself set you in, and bless, your homes. You will be elevated, favoured, find good reward and warmth. You will pursue with success, be prosperous and fruitful, and the cynosure of all around you, as you live marriage as He intended.

Can I get an amen or 2! . Love weddings and marriage. May have to post some pix of myself and wifey' nuptials - loff you Mama


TV

^{...sisissoge, don't you dare edit my post this time. If you see the corner, corner eye I dey take look you eh!}

Gracious10:
So everyone complaining, how can Nurses serve you better?

Hearts in the right place, but this problem is systemic. The issues within the nursing profession are mostly symptomatic. A real long-term fix at branch level will be unsustainable without a corresponding one at root. Otherwise they'll be no more than palliative measures really - pun intended.


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Timbuktuo:
TV01, I don't know how I missed your last comment here.

Per the elections, I was ecstatic at the result for its implications and also the lessons I garnered along the fantastic ride.

DJT is a breath of fresh air in a world of supplicating, mangina simps. Look at the message of world leaders following the death of Castro, for instance. If anything, the whole cycle just reinforced in me the need to stick to one's convictions and tune out the noise of detractors and naysayers.

Holá T, No worries, bad timing. I knew no one was around, but felt I'd drop it anyway, knowing we could always re-visit.

Not a fan of either personally, and I think it was one big kick against PC gone wild. I think "presentation" was a winner for him. Stridently male, unrepentantly chauvinist and even a little tribal . Presented more as a leader and agent of popular change.

Rather pathetic HRC trying to get elected just because she is female - and the hopes of women everywhere dashed because she didn't win. Yeah, just like saying feminism emancipated women .

I was more interested in some of the Alpha traits he demonstrated - straight from the primaries where he made the other males look like "supplicating, mangina simps" , and the lessons men could take away for their everyday lives.


TV

...not sure why nursing professionals are being singled out here ?

Yes, I'm sure there are some bad apples, and maybe a few rotten eggs . And there is probably no gainsaying peoples individual experiences with some nurses, or even the mien of the "typical nurse".

But in all, there are victims as well. Victims of a failing state, with poor education and healthcare delivery. A state that doesn't make adequate provision or rightly reward the vast majority of it's workers.

Given the zeitgeist in Nigeria, do you really expect a cohort of people to demonstrate qualities and characteristics atypical to the general populace just because they are badged as nurses?

Even, even, if they joined the professional ranks with their hearts in the right place, do you really believe that the harsh conditions won't over time seriously affect their morale - let alone general well-being?

What of the executive, the judiciary, the legislature? What of your governors, commissioners and LG reps? Are their tragic shortcomings failings somehow ameliorated because they fail you with a smiley face and the occasional act of feudal largesse?

Abeg, free nurses jor. If you think an amiable bedside manner is our biggest problem, you never start.


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oaroloye:
My Doctrine is based on Techniques that have been proven to yield results.

May I ask a question please; what exactly are these results?

Cheers
TV

KANTE:
Hello people, I have this thing that has been bothering me of late. I find it so difficult dating anyone that is sluggish or slow and not neat. Not in any way praising myself but I find it difficult coping with such. I have left some relationships cos of this. I can't cope with the slow or sluggish. It's so hard tolerating it even when I try. Pls I will need some advice here. I just hope this doesn't become a problem for me. Even at work, I can't be close to you if same applies. I just hope I am fine.

Excellent, you know exactly what you like and what you can't tolerate.

In your personal life, you are allowed to have zero tolerance for anything you consider palla, palla . Socially you may have to be a tad more circumspect or tolerant. No problem here. Hope life treats you fairly . Get yours.


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IAmOged:
what u guys talking here?
off topics...
its like i heard 4 children fathered by different cave men seeds, the husband being a beta....how can cheating be respectful?
what d hell...dats one popoff cockold...lols..

cockolding...open marriage...bla bla....
laugh wan kill me ooo

...me sef, I'm trying to understand

A woman, who by her own admission is average and with no income of her own, is able to secure a high value - economically - man for marriage, yet at the same time, have 3 different - of physical high value - men father children by her.

Her "husband", is about 10 years older, ignorant of the fact that he is being repeatedly cuckolded and raising 3 sons for other men. It means she has "penile variety" and is happy. And, this is the "respectful & intelligent" way to cheat .

Her posts are receiving a degree of confirmation/validation, but no one else has come out to say, "I, my sister, my mother, my grandmother, a friend etc., also worked this model to great success"

I appreciate they are not "touching" her posts because of me , so what I'm after - on behalf of all the women who fantasize about such an arrangement, but don't have the wherewithal - is an understanding of how it works in practice.

It appears my thrust , of monogamous, faithful, biologically intact unions is passé, and not designed to optimise female happiness. So purple3091, the floor is all yours. Please educate [s]the Neanderthal, antediluvian, brutish & slopey foreheaded men of NL[/s] the ladies .


TV

^{...is anyone smelling what I am smelling}

purple3091:
mister,just because of the first post of yours that i quoted,you didn't like what i had typed,you keep calling me a troll....the initial post of yours i quoted was in reference to your last point on that post,which i gave my opinion.As for Toke and Anita,that's up to them,if i knew them i would definetly give them my advice of having the best of both worlds . have a good day/night,am out,for this topic.

You didn't answer a single one of my questions. If this model works, why are you denying a wider understanding of it? I'm sure there would be many takers if they just knew how .

And in as much as I don't believe and think you are trolling, some answers would help me to understand. How much older is your husband? Are the men, younger than you, are just younger than him?

How do you keep yourself in the kind of shape - after 1,2,3,4 children - that attract these "high-value" men? A high prtofile case like yours would contrast against seemingly beautiful and successful women who struggle with a single low value man . See why it's hard for me?


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demelza:
Apologies for butting in but please don't.
There is a mental picture I always have whenever I read your posts. It feels like someone pouring water on my head on a very hot afternoon. I don't even know if this makes sense.
If truly your way of thinking is as a result of Christianity, I would pick up my studies again.
This is no flattery Sir.
*goes back to lurking*

By all means...I detest flattery, but a well timed compliment such as yours gladdens the heart. Danke schön

TV

yetseyi:
^{. Its an ilu-oke accent, a lot of peeps may not notice since what he is saying is grammatically correct and even if it is not most who will listen wont even care. Religion section strange things are happening there, I was still telling someone off naira land that one needs to be careful of what one reads there, too many things that can question your faith if your conviction is not strong enough}

^{...I left as I felt we were always talking doctrine - maiinly tithe - and not the practical outworking. It seemed good to move and to tarry here as I acquired a family. I still read and post sometimes, but it appears to be all atheists vs theists. My faith is no longer shakeable like that. By Gods grace I have tasted.}

Father...the burden bearer.


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PunterTim:
Isn't it obvious already.

That she has the desire,guts and 'positive' character to go through with this tells a lot about her personality.

I like me a beautiful,confident,dangerous woman!

You obviously don't read a person by words like i do!

She didn't even claim beautiful for herself. Confident I can't gainsay, and dangerous? I'd agree, but probably not for the same reasons. And I read her all right. Objectively.

purple3091:
lol,your questions reminded me of 50cents song 21 questions

Nice try, but you trolling jor...

Anyway, you are wasted on me. You should set up shop and advice beautiful women like Toke and Anita who are struggling to share one averagely fit, decidedly plain and largely broke broda between them. And her's you with 4 and counting....


TV

yetseyi:
OKay but how do the exceptionally nice health workers in GHs do it. I have met a few that are very professional and I can't help but wonder if its not the same public health system.

They get paid accordingly. Money answereth...


TV

^{...wifey came in once and laughed at his accent, I chased her commot for kitchen, as in eh?...I'm not even conscious of the accent, just the content. I'm actually thinking of retrning whence I came...to the religion thread.}

purple3091:
attractive,muscular(which naturally comes with youth and is better in men) is of high pedigree if one looks at the physical qualities solely.i see both physical and economical as desireable,that's why am married to a man that is economical stable(enough for me to be a housewife,which i am doing),and i get the physical qualities from others.This is a model that works for many women married to older men,and who know their options.good day

So, you are a housewife who has 4 children by 4?? different men?

1. Are you not desirable enough to get both physical and economic attributes "solely" in one man
2. Is your husband party to this option you have decided on?
3. Was he complicit? Does he know the children are not his, or that he shares his matrimonial bed as it were?
4. Are you children aware, or do you plan to tell them of their lineage?
5. Are neither these men or their families concerned about their offspring?

Could you explain how this model works pain-free please. I see some people are in agreement with this .

PunterTim:
Advocate of beautiful perfect re-creation.
Would like to give you my seed,that's if you don't mind baby number 5!

Won't you first of all check that she's the quality of woman you would like to bear your seed ?


TV

yetseyi:
I do understand the pressures of working at a GH (it can be very terrible to be honest) its just that we expect better from our health workers, one should be able to control some things to a reasonable extent.


_{Morning Oga TV I am not really surprised , bro Gbiles messages are not really pleasing to the ear to a lot of hippy/modern Christians, Its for those who want in-depth exposition of the scriptures}

I'm sure many start with idealistic aspirations to really make a difference - then they jam the system . In some ways it's probably coping behaviour.

I'm sure some of the things they see will be heart-rending and they wouldn't be able to function, or function at best, if they let the softer skills get in the way, or try and remember those little touches .


TV

^{...abi. Some of those messages are like 2 hours . I mostly listen whilst cooking on Sunday evenings.}

purple3091:
umm...a woman doesn't need to be beautiful(or give other values like monetary etc,like men) to get physically intimate with attractive men,infact am average.

Correct. Sex with women should be very high value relative to sex with men, so women do not have to be outstanding to get men to have sex with them.

And correct again, women can sometimes, offset, compliment or replace beauty or physical desirability (the main thing men look for) with other values. However, I refer to marriage, or at least child-bearing.

purple3091:
anyway decency(if you are talking about morals) in men is unfounded generally(saying this in regards to your line about the younger men having to be descent).a woman hardly has to try,its great the only thing a woman would have to try for in an attractive man,on average/in general,is a relationship,and since am already taken i don't care.as the old man brings in the cash,i get the muscular,strongest,peak quality body(as well as seed) from my lover(s),its the best of both worlds

Attractive, and even muscular, does not mean decent, moral, or of high pedigree. For a start, no decent & moral male of high pedigree would want just anyone bearing his children. Neither would he want them raised without him being in situ, or by another man.

So we differ on that point. If you see only physical characteristics as desirable or important, that's fine,. but you have not met the pedigree, morality and decency criteria I set. And you have already denied 3 of your 4 offspring their right to know their lineage .

purple3091:
AND,it's not trolling,its talking/referencing your last point about women being bind because of the whole younger men vs older men,when choosing etc

Even if it's not trolling, as I noted, as a model, it will only be successfully obtainable by a very few - statistically insignificant number of - women. The factors to juggle are too many, as are the potential negative outcomes.

You can ask our resident women here if they have the wherewithal to even consider it . And what may possibly be obtainable by a handful of women, is pretty much standard for numerous men - even in cultures that abhor it. Abi no be babymama'ism dey trend?

And by older, I don't necessarily mean huge age-gaps, it's more about status and being established, or on track to realise obvious potential.


TV

TheArchangel:
Nigerian nurses are the products of Nigerian environment.

Absolutely. Wifey' sister is HR manager for a large London hospital, she's always regaling us with stories about how the Naija nurses are always being reported and up for disciplinary action due to their poor bedside manner .

When we had TVJnr, I swear the place was like Agege . Most of the nurses, even the lead one, were all Nigerian. Especially night shift - they love night shift . Lots of the patients sef...my socialite MIL - as ever - struck up convo with the lady in the opposite bed, turns out we "know them". We even had visitor mix-up

"Right", I thought we are moving - we already had technically, the house thing just took like 7 months instead of 3 so we missed it for his birth. Nice leafy suburbia. What did we find when our daughter came along? Almost all the Dr's were Naija...even the lead ObyGyny? Barely a year later I met the Dr who delivered her at a party? Reverse colonisation .

Apologies for derailing jare...just feeling the boy this morning

yetseyi:
Not just nurses, a sizeable amount of the health workers in a our general hospitals are inconsiderate and lack empathy.

Very common in government hospitals.

Where the conditions and environment are probably harsh for workers and patients. The nurses, as are everyone else, just products of this.


TV

^{Morning yetseyi, how far? I've been watching YouTube videos of Bro' Gbile. I'm quite surprised about the low number of views. Some barely make a 1'000 - and I listen to each one at least 2ce}

purple3091:
the only women that are in a bind are ones who cant/wont think and do intelligently.i choose the best of both worlds :am married to an older man + have affairs with younger men(eveb 3 of the 4 children were sired by the younger ones)...younger men are more physically attractive than older,the only thing older men have are economic 'attractiveness'.i mean women are the desireable and attractive sex,never have to give monetary value for sex etc no matter age.

And this is "doing intelligently"
And you repeatedly managed to get decent high value younger men to father your children

Sounds like a model. Unfortunately, you'd have to be beautiful, high achieving, sexy by the bucket-load, and a whole host of other things to make it work for you.

But if you were, you would get the man of your spec, and wouldn't need to do this. And unfortunately, only 0.0000000000001% of women have both the qualities and the will to try this. In fact, if you had the qualities, you wouldn't need to try it.

Nice trolling attempt though


TV

wapu:
Hi TV I've read some of your post and you seen very knowledgeable.

I have marital problems I'll like to share with you if you don't mind.
I don't want to bring on it online. I'll prefer someone I don't know.

I sent you a DM kindly reply.

Hi wapu, thanks for the compliment. As a rule I don't. You can mention me in an old post and I'll find you there. Best, TV.

sisisioge:
Even though the bobo in question is worth fighting for, I dont want that kind of drama in my life. So leave him alone!

No. You don't fight for a man, that fight might not end. He fights for you, that's why he's a man, and that way you are covered.

sisisioge:
May God bless you with a good man.

May your prayer redound to you.


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IAmOged:
That research is flawed....
its should have been renamed effects of poor upbringing of male children into sissy and messed up immature wierdos dis morderntimes....main theme of this our arguments....
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A male child of 25 or less, brought up in the right path of masculinity would boxed down any matured woman of any maturity age ....
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Prehistoric times, even in the Bible times shows young men lording and displaying more maturity over aged mature women .
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I wouldnt be surprised if this so called research was taken in d lands of moderntimes distortionists....
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we know where these societies are heading to...failed relationship,failed marriage everywhere...they are all fvcked up in their own binding...
its a stupid research..

Your head dey dere . Exactly as I noted.

Even if the research is right, they are looking at the outcomes in males and indicting them, instead of the root causes. Women are repulsed by older men. How many girls will date their age mates?


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bukatyne:
Well you just proved her right.

The age range is just to bridge the immaturity gap then...

And not all the problems in this world is as a result of 'inequality'...

Some women are just repulsed by older men!

No...the age gap is for two main reasons - which as it where are intertwined;

1. Biological - women typically reach full maturity earlier than men, it's natural.
2. Social - men need the additional time to "establish" themselves". Note how they are rarely ready for marriage as early as women. And women tend to marry up.

So the maturity or lack of, is for two main reasons;

1. Same as above which is natural - if you can become a mother at 13/14, you need to know whats up.
2. Socially as outlined previously - men are being feminised, not being initiated into manhood, and encouraged to prolong their pubescent years.

Many of the issues in the male/female dynamic are due to the ruptions caused by the drive for equality/sameness. Women are repulsed by older (more mature) men, and at the same time turned off by younger (immature) men - there are in a bind then are'nt they


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ItsQuinn:
A study into the differences in maturity between genders revealed both men and women agree men remain 'immature' well into their late 30s and early 40s.

But the average age at which women mature emerged as 32.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/10111993/Men-grow-up-at-43-11-years-later-than-women.html

This is only an issue - where it exists for a number of reasons, inter-alia;

1.Men are no longer being raised with the early stage initiation rites that were designed to accelerate manhood and responsibility.
2. Worse still, boys and girls are being raised in like manner, with the emphasis on femininity, hence adversely affecting boys.
3. Men are being taught to please women by trying to please women, when what pleases women is men being unrepentantly masculine
4. Equality drive making women think they should marry men of similar age, when historically, a decent gap was best (half mans age +7 rule)

This answers all your posts on this thread this morning .


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DarkRebel101:
“A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee” — Psalm 91:7

I take it you know the predicate to this blessing? The foundation upon which it rests, the font from whence it springs?

Psalm 91 1 He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. 2 I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust....

Your writings clearly show that you don't have an altar or are constantly seeking His face, or in His presence. Let alone that you place your faith and trust in Him. You neither believe God, nor The Word, nor the scriptures.

You demonstrate classic behaviours of antisocial personality disorder. Scheming, lying, you are manipulative, calculating, narcissistic, a lack of remorse, impaired cognitive function, a tendency to immorality. Little time for accepted social norms or levels of conduct.

All the while pretending to be an exemplar. You may pretend, but the mask will always slip. Perhaps that's why you carouse so effortlessly with the amoral amongst us. Blasphemy comes easy doesn't it? Repent and seek healing.


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oieda:
It seems you do not get the point of the last post I made to you.

Let me put it another way. So you are saying you follow to the letter, every single instruction given by the teachings of your religion? Without fault? If yes, then I may say this post I quoted is valid. Else, what you believe is different from what your religion says in that area you have fault. What you believe in and what you do is very connected.

I believe every teaching in my Christian faith about relationships between men and women, marriage and divorce. I also understand them, embrace them, fully agree with the practical reasons and spiritual implications, as well as live and preach them.

Is that clear enough?


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missjo:
LOL, I'm tired of that boy. On that thread I'm sure you saw the screenshot I posted.
Guess what? All but one of the hidden posts on that screenshot came from different usernames because each one kept getting banned. He bragged in one hidden comment by telling me he's going to keep typing nasty things to me and if he gets banned, he'll log on with another account to continue. All this was after he got so upset with me because I kept tagging the mods, and he even asked me why I keep involving the mods.

This child keeps asking for proof when he very well knows he's guilty (talk about someone with a serious case of behavioral dissociative disorder ), and he's not ashamed about it at all to still have the guts to type my username here. SAD
After all the vitriol and insulting words he meted on me, this boy had the guts to still hit on me (with boldness) and then thought I would lick up those juvenile pick up lines which I last heard when I was in high school. Such a thirsty little worm.

The only people who take him serious probably know absolutely nothing about him, and I'm disappointed it's usually ladies who should be able to see through it that fawn over him.

From the very first time I came across his post on this forum, I instantly sensed something wasn't right even without knowing anything previously about the user.
The comments were too long, filled with unnecessary fancy words, and he kept making use of the word immature to denigrate any opinion that's not in line with his, thereby giving the impression he is the mature one. IT WAS A DELIBERATE ATTEMPT TO WIN THE HEART OF ANY WOMAN READING IT and that's where the red signs showed.
Too deliberate, too obvious, too thirsty, and by the time I came across his subsequent posts, I saw through it all.

I did 0! I saw the initial gra-gra before I logged off, then the rest the next day. Frankly the boy is either disturbed and/or a scammer - one can't read 2 consecutive posts of his without sensing that. In saner climes his behaviour would have been considered threatening.

Psychosis interspersed with some good points and lucid moments. Like most nutters I suppose . Let's see the "right-on" people following him - oops, the usual suspects . Funny how many that hate me love scammers.


TV

Fervent Catholic, devout Christian my hairy bottom

francis18:
AND THE SISSY LITTLE BOY WENT TO REPORT ME TO THE MOD TO HIDE THE POST THAT EXPOSED HIS POLYMONIKER. THE MANY MONIKERS HE USES TO LIKE HIS OWN POSTS.I WAS HERE AND RECORDED AT LEAST 9 GHOST MONIKERS THAT ARE NOT ACTIVE AND THE THREE OTHERS HE ADMITTED TO OWN.
I KNEW THIS BOY WAS A COWARD.YOU HAVE BEEN EXPOSED.7 MONIKERS BELONGING TO ONE PERSON.FROM RAP SECTION, ROMANCE TO FAMILY.

Don't worry, he can't go - maybe we will commot pant, from another scammers nyash today, today . Funny how it's usually our empowered NL women that fall under their sway .

IAMOged is totally right here - https://www.nairaland.com/3482015/how-women-form-opinion. Too many women are dangerously prone to being led by feelings.

Anyway sha, na since Eden. They just need a serpent - 1 Timothy 2:14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman, because she was fully deceived, fell into transgression.

francis18:

A FOOL WILL ALWAYS REMAIN A FOOL. HE SEEKS ATTENTION AND VALIDITY FROM POTENTIAL SCAMMERS WHO ARE THE OLD DESPERATE BIMBOS OF THIS FORUM.HE FEELS THE NEED TO JUMP AT ANY POST HE THINKS HE CAN GAIN THEIR ATTENTION.HE WRITE TOO MANY INCOHERENT AND USELESS NONSENSE GRAMMAR JUST TO TRY TOO HARD AND THEN KISS THESE WOMEN ASSES.ANY DISCUSSION THAT DOESNT CONCERN HIM,HE WILL JUMP AT IT TO PROVE A POINT.A TEENAGER THAT HAVE NOT EVEN SEEN THE FOUR WALLS OF UNIVERSITY.AFTER BEING CHASED IN RAP AND ROMANCE SECTION FOR HIS SCAMS,HE IS NOW HERE FOR THESE BRAINLESS BIMBOS WHO GET ATTENTION FOR THIS IDIOT.NO WONDER SIENA WAS ABLE TO FOOL MOST OF YOU HERE, ANY MAN WHO SEEMS TO BE MUMU AND WOMAN DEFENDER NOT KNOWING THEY ARE WORSE IN REAL LIFE BUT TO GET TO YOUR PANTIES IS THE ONLY WAY.

HE SAID HE DOESNT LIKE HIS OWN POST?I STAYED HERE AFTER MIDNIGHT WATCHING THIS TEEN LIKING HIS OWN POST, AND EACH TIME THERE IS A STRANGE MONIKER VIEWING THE LIKES KEEP GOING UP,THEN I GO GOOGLE IT,NO POST FROM THOSE MONIKER LITTLE DID I REMEMBER TO SCREEN GRAB THEM.NOW THIS IS PATHETIC,THIS BOY IS SICK AND HUNGER WILL MAKE HIM DO ANYTHING TO GET THESE BIMBOS ATTENTION.HE IS DESPERATE AND HOPELESS.FOAMING ANYWHERE A WOMAN MATTER IS INVOLVED.A BOY THAT HAS NEVER WORKED IN HIS LIFE, NEVER PAY RENT,NEVER BEEN ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD EXCEPT HIS OLD PAPA RUSTED HOUSE BUT THINK HE KNOWS MORE THAN ANYONE HERE.HE EVEN HAVE THE GUT TO SAY HE STAYED LATE FOR SOME OFFICE WORK HOW CAN A HUMAN BEING STAY FROM 8 AM TO 2 AM THEN WAKE UP AGAIN 9 AM TO 1 AM AND THE CIRCLE CONTINUES FOOL PEOPLE INTO BELIEVING THAT HE IS A USEFUL FELLOW.

COME AND FOAM AS USUAL AND RIDICULE YOURSELF MORE, LOSER.I KNOW WHENEVER YOU LOG OUT,YOU FEEL WORTHLESS BECAUSE THIS IS WHAT YOU ARE.A LONELY,WORTHLESS,SCAMMER,ATTENTION SEEKER TEEN BOY.

TV

ColinAdua:
See TV,
You cannot come to the thread or discussion arena of someone who believes that marriage, wife and children are an unnecessary burden, hence unnecessary in this present era of horrible distress, who also believes that married men are FOOLISH, in fact very foolish and not expect him/her to SLIGHT MARRIAGE and co.

So get used to it. That one is not talk!

Hmmm! See its cheer stupidity not to vote candidate B, if candidate A is bad, cos its merit or demerits that makes one good or bad.

Good day!

But your beliefs about marriage are just that beliefs, not facts, or a sure prescription. And they can, and have been falsified by married people. In the same way that single people have also falsified your beliefs about singleness by wanting to be married.

I personally testify of the blessing and goodness of marriage, and also against singleness, having tried singleness and not enjoying it, finding marriage so much more fulfilling. And I'm sure some - such as yourself will see it in reverse.


TV

^{...voting for candidate a who is bad, but perceived better than candidate b is still a fail. Vote for neither or find candidate c.}

DarkRebel101:
This is the only part of your post worthy of a reply. The rest were no different from tirades of a juvenile teenager.

Ascribe to it what you will, I repeat you are no Catholic and never a Christian. Evidence of everything I said abounds in your posts. I only ever speak truth - no matter who squirms in their own soiled underwear . Are these the writings/words of a believer?

DarkRebel101:
Score who? Ladies like you? Where have you ever seen me trying to score any lady beyond the superficial gibes and teases? I told you that you're delusional and out of your mind. I have lots of babes with benefits offline, online babes are not my thing.

The charge here is lying, not fornication, we know you have 0,000,000.00 trillion babes .

DarkRebel101:
Do I have to buy you a candy? A tiara? Take you out for a nice dinner? Give you a chaste kiss until your cheeks are smitten with weights of a smarting dimple? Or do I need to go for broke by giving you a Donald-Trumpalingus?

Vulgar, vulgar, vulgar. Not sophomoric, not juvenile, not babyish, simply thuggish & insensate

DarkRebel101:
Poly-monickerer, liking his own posts, e.t.c...I've already told you that you suffer delusions of grandeur and are largely insecure, and surely must think I consider you important enough to through all that trouble.

Recently proven by MissJo on this thread;https://www.nairaland.com/3474720/between-immature-young-guy-older/3#51285909, and obvious from even a cursory look at your posting patterns. Even self-confessed ;

DarkRebel101:
Iamwestafrican was only one of the 2 or 3 alternates, not many.

DarkRebel101:
I've always maintained that whoever is uncomfortable at something as footling as internet likes and shares, and his only explanation is that his opponent must be giving it to himself, then that person embodies pettiness and must be far removed from reality. I thing you need a break off social media. If you want the likes to stop then you would need to have a round discussion with my followers and those who agree with my post(s).

Silence, you've been outed repeatedly. And I have way more haters than you have followers. Process that

DarkRebel101:
I'm a fervent Catholic (not a perfect one), I may be flawed and I may not accept all that the Bible states as the Gospel truth, but that's only because I place higher valuation on personal spirituality (which you aren't privy to), and I'm still better than you because unlike you I'm not self-righteous, hypocritical and judgemental—all of which which Christ stridently reproached the Pharisees for.

You are not a Christian...can you take time to listen to yourself . "You don't believe the gospel is the gospel truth". You claim Christianity, but you have a "personal spirituality". Why would I want to be privy to a belief system that can't proudly declare itself to the whole world .

As I told you, if you reject any part of the bible, you tacitly reject the gospel as the latter rest on the former and together they make a whole. The Lord Jesus affirmed it, so you cannot claim belief in Him and reject the scriptures. John 5:39 "You pore over the Scriptures because you think you have eternal life in them, yet they testify about Me". Everything from the 6 day creation, to the consummation. And intellectually it, is dishonest to at once claim it and disbelieve it.

And you are better than me? Again, you fail to understand Christianity...it's about Christ and who you are in Him, and Him in you, not judging yourself against others. Having said that, no, you are not better than me . God-fearing husband and father...faux boyfriend

DarkRebel101:
You make false accusations on Nairaland (e.g I like my own posts), you curse and abuse people and use foul language, you are pretentious and overly judgemental. (and only God knows what other nefarious activities you engage in offline) – a good Christian ought not to do these things. If you dropped dead now, are you sure to make heaven? Do away with this sanctimonious attitude, it's the biggest problem Christianity faces today and what repels non-Christians.

1. You do like your own posts, and it is evident - and cringingly pathetic
2. Show me where I have cursed and abused anyone? And anyone who didn't initiate it or willingly join the fray
3. Show me where I have used foul language and I'll deactivate. As if in any event, someone who uses the term "Trumpalingus" could accuse me on that score
4. It's the Holy Spirit that convicts of sin, righteousness and judgement. Those who are repelled simply refuse to countenance their own fallen state.
5. Christianity has no problems, it's those that refuse to accept the light of Jesus Christ that have problems - whatever they label themselves

DarkRebel101:
Research has shown that those who act like they are holier than others are usually those found wanting.

Which research is this - amongst followers of personal spirituality and happiness seekers ? The bible says Psalm 28:1 The wicked flee when no man pursueth: but the righteous are bold as a lion .

DarkRebel101:
At this age it's hard to believe you are still as mentally mature as a ten-year-old is. I can only pray and hope that the wisdom of God locates you in good time, until then I'll leave you to your folly.

God doesn't hear the prayers of proud and boastful fornicators...sorry liars Proverbs 15:8 The sacrifice of the wicked is an abomination to the LORD: but the prayer of the upright is his delight.

DarkRebel101:
Do not quote me again. If you do, you would be ignored. I'm done bandying words with an adult who has refused to grow up.

So? I'm a youthful adult . You are the very essence of a de-natured male. Chromosomally XY, but in being, eviscerated of everything masculine. A "try hard", and most tragically of all, it's to seek the validation of women?

And no, you don't have a girlfriend, or "lots of friends with benefits". You have a visibly miserable existence which you try and fix with a pathetically bogus online persona. I've always pitied you.

But my pity is not redemptive. Repent...and apologise for the foul and vulgar language with which you've desecrated this board. Stop overcompensating with your mis-use of words and scrabbled bloviate.

I applaud the effort and if there is any honest intent, but a true wordsmith never loses sight of artfully and humorously communicating, and a principled man is never vulgar.

"Awon Daddeee wa "


TV

ColinAdua:
But its not the target of this thread, so there's no need understanding and accepting that some men are crazy about marriage. The sole essence of this thread is to promote singlehood. Anything about this thread is about the superiority of singleness.


Thank God, you noticed that it was a response. Which means I didn't attack first.

This wasn't your main intension. Your main intension is that "none of my reasons is right enough". By choosing singleness am already denigrating marriage and married men.

Then please why were you so uncomfortable as to label me bitter, cos I rejected your values? You even went ahead to call me valueless that I judged your children only by their pictures. When its only their pictures that you showcased.

Colin, please calm down. Champion singleness all you please, for all, any, and even for no reason if you so desire. But no need to denigrate marriage, married men, women and children.

Like I said, don't vote for candidate b because candidate a is bad, vote for candidate b on their own merits.

Have a pleasant evening.


TV

IAmOged:
DARKREBEL...in proving his "BUGOGU BANGO" sissy lifestyle-gallery, he keeps on wallowing in his piggydirth he tried so hard to escape-always contradicting himself.....
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Sir TV i think its a waste of time answering and lecturing these subjectively flawed moderntimes distortionists...

A poly-monickerer who likes his own posts, a de-masculinised man who labours for sniffs, and a fervent Catholic who slavishly courts and agrees with those who denigrate Christianity. It doesn't get any more effete than that .


TV

^{...Crackhaus, where are you? Your yard dog is foaming again}