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The 30k difference isn’t worth your unhappiness.
Go for the lesser paying job that offers career growth and fulfillment. Then work towards developing and positioning yourself better pay on the same job or a similarly fulfilling job elsewhere.

Trulydude:
Hello House,
Please I have a dicey situations here, can you give your input.
After concluding my youth service at Firm ABC in Lagos, the company wanted to retain me with a gross salary of 100k, but I don't want the job, I am an engineering graduate with average skills and so much potentials. I hate the job just because of it's description, it is base on trial and error and sometimes a lot of energy and effort is used to deliver some services, Moreover, the job is frustrating and tiring and also I don't think I see any likelihood of carrier growth from that job; because as an engineer you are to work under the supervision of a registered engineer before you get COREN certification.

Then, company CDE gave me another offer for 70k Gross, and the company is Telecoms company and I see a lot of potential with this new company, though the pay is something else.

So, please I need some experts views, comments and recommendations; which one should I go for?

Typical Northern Nigerian idiot trying to glorify the fantastically corrupt shithole country.

Bunch of idiots doing the same thing over & over again and expecting a different result?
You recycle the same old thieves and expect a different developmental outcome from them each time? Why did God make most Nigerians so brainlessly stupid?’

Honestly, Nigerians must be congratulated for surviving the horror that is Buhari.
I just believe Nigerians have resigned to fate, given that they put themselves in this predicament.

These people that are reluctant to speak truth to power like the biblical prophets did and Jesus did want me to believe their words

So, why didn’t this senile oparun sign the electoral bill and return it for amendment
Just like he has done for the Budget and PIB
The people that still believe in this dubious despot are the real problem of Nigeria!

The West has tacitly conditioned our minds to abhor polygamy. Even legal civil marriage forbids it. If not, most of us will prefer polygamy to all these one wife and several side chic rubbish we do.

lexy2014:
if its just down to poverty, then all the rich men carrying small girls up and down outside their marriages would have had polygamous marriages

All talk, no action.

For fairness and equity, it is desirable that a decent and wise Igbo man or woman is given the chance at leading this quagmire called Nigeria.
But, I do not agree that Igbos understand Nigeria better. At least I can speak for Yorubas. They do not understand us.
1. Most Igbos hate Yorubas.
2. Yorubas know it.
3. Yorubas are endlessly willing and able to reciprocate the gesture Igbos direct at them.

Only poor polygamous men have issues with their wives. With adequate wealth and wisdom, polygamy is the best option. It even curbs the incessant madness women display in marriage. Women don't threaten or become problematic for their polygamous husbands. They know by doing so, they will only shift the man's attention to the other women. Our forefather's and the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob knew this and there was peace.
Monogamy is mostly problematic... just look at the 1st monogamous man Adam. Adam lived a miserable life and got misled in his monogamous marriage.

Look at how beautiful those hands look. Yet she felt so insecure that she had to fix that ugly artificial nails?!!! Good for her!

When will our ladies learn that the more natural you look, the better?

CAVEAT- The natural look is for the beautiful ladies o! Not the Bobrisky 'unmade up' look alikes shouting 'I can't date a broke guy' upadan internet.

Oga, go and give barber N500 to cut your hair properly! The cut looks like a newly released prisoner's hair who used blade to augument his looks.

Rating? 10/100

How is that our business in the South?!

Oga carry your cross jor! Just like you asked us to carry our cross when we were invaded in the South.

Excellent Job by the police. I hope Hisbah Police also arrested ALL the ladies for PROSTITUTION? the criminal code does not criminalize prostitution, but the patronage of prostitutes.

The ladies would not have fallen victim if they did not go to the HOTEL to sell their bodies for the agreed amount.

Have you divorced her? If not, she is still part of your life.
Initiate divorce proceedings against her if you are serious about her being your ex.
You can also ask your girlfriend being intimidated to file harassment complaint against her.
In all, please take care of your kids in the best way that you can. Lodge a formal complaint & Ignore your wife’s madness. A lot of Nigerian women are like that.

Unique357:
My wife left me when I lost everything. She took our two children with her and has blocked me everywhere. I couldn't reach her to speak with my children. I have tried reaching her parents to no avail.

But now that things are going well for me, my brother in law lifted me and I am back to business and I have a girlfriend we are getting married next year march by God's grace.

Now my ex is back in the picture making life difficult for my girlfriend. She is blackmailing her and bombarding her with nasty messages to the extend of humiliating her in public, calling her all sorts of names like husband snatcher etc. I am angry with her because she has left me when I needed her the most and this girlfriend stood by me with my poor conditions and now she wants to play victim and putting the blame on my girl.

I want to arrest her and let her rot in jail but on the other side I don't want to do it for the sake of our children who are 10 years and 7 years. I want to deal with her in a calm way because there are children involved . What do you think I should do?

Imbecilic old fool!

This woman wants us to keep remembering how fishy her p*ssy smells?
There are times when you acknowledge your mistakes and chart a better course for your life.
Tega going to BBN as a married woman and f*cking up the way you did should be enough for you to avoid public scrutiny that will surely come with videos like this.

You judge ALL men by the yardstick of a GAY man pretending to be straight? Is that a fair measurement?
The guy did not do well for trying to deceive you into marriage. He doesn’t last long because he was just managing to endure sex with you. His office friend gave him better sexual encounters … however deranged.
Move on with your life. Watch out for REAL MEN & give them the right attention & watch your life & impression of REAL MEN change.

GurlFriend:
I see a bunch of threads here created by guys who see nothing good in the women folk, but if I start writing about the evils that men commit, the mods may move the thread to the literature section.

My Experience

I am pretty, well kept and groomed and at an age where although I may not be a spring chick, I am still young enough to attract attention from guys in their early 20s who have no qualms about toasting their elder sister's age mates. I have had my fair share lovers but I am currently sworn off men till such a time I recover from the trauma of my latest experience in the hands of the 'ejaculating gender.'

My now ex, let's call him Kingsley was supposed to be a godsent. He is fair, heavily bearded, handsome and a single father. He is also terrible in bed. TERRIBLE. He doesn't last more than 4 minutes, and once he reaches the four minutes mark, he spurts his disgusting seed into the condom and goes limp for the rest of the time with him. Even if I squeeze and massage his small member like bitter leave, he will remain limp like golden penny noodles.

That did not stop me from giving two years of my life to him because I genuinely loved him and felt I could cope with the terrible sex; man shall not live by nacks alone. I had met his family, he had met mine, we were literally 5 and 6. We fixed the wedding for January 8 next year. I'm looking at the stupid IV as I'm typing this.

So we closed for the year at my work place on December 24th and I decided to spend the evening with him. We had agreed that no more nights over till the wedding since it was barely a month away, so we might as well start living right before God. None the less, I had closed by 2pm, I didn't look forward to spending the whole evening in my hot apartment alone so I, against better judgement went to his place and let myself in. His line of work doesn't give him the luxury of closing early like me, so the apartment was also empty but he has a generator and AC.

I settled in, began watching movies on his laptop. I don't know the devil that pushed me to leave the film I was watching to start snooping through his files. In my two years of dating I have never gone through his phone or PC because if you cherish your peace of mind, never snoop through your partner's devices otherwise you will see things. What you are looking for, you will find it.

He has this folder in his laptop called 'Don Quixote.exe' which I see all the time. I asked him what it was some time back and he casually said they are program files and if I mess with them, I will disorganize his laptop. The same devil I had earlier mentioned pushed me to open Don Quixote, and behold, what did I see?

Gay porn. Man nacking man. Woman nacking woman. My fiance is gay, I think. Or bi-sexual. I don't know. My hands are shaking again.

I'm so hurt. Photos upon photos of homosexual and lesbian contents. But this is not where the story ends.

After the initial shock of these disgusting photos, I was confused, shocked, disappointed. I quickly shut down the laptop, prepared dinner (Indomie) and cried myself to sleep on the bed because I'm a very emotional person. I took Lexotan so I could sleep.

Around 10, I think, Kingley came back. He didn't know I was in the house because I left the lights off. He, however didn't come back alone. He came back with a guest. A male guest. I know this dude is his lover because I know him from the office and I have always been suspicious of his sexuality. What kind of masculine man wears purple skinny jeans and wiggles his bum when he thinks no one is watching? I also saw a TikTok video of this guy dancing, wiggling his bum and twirling his dreadlocks?

That is the colleague Kingley brought home by 10 in the night.

Anyway, Kingley walked into the bedroom, saw me and the guilt written all over his face made me ask him who was in the parlour with him after hearing another male voice. When he couldn't give a coherent answer, I went to the parlour and saw Uncle Purple Skinny jeans. Now added to the gay porn I discovered in his laptop, you will not blame me for having a meltdown. I yelled, screamed, cussed, threw his ring into the toilet and flushed it. I ordered Uber to my parents house that night and spent 25th chopping breakfast with tears.

Two years, with a bi-sexual man. Or maybe he is gay himself. I don't know. He has been begging me not to expose him to his family, but it's too late. I have told my family and they intend to formally let his family know that their daughter cannot marry a 'confused' man, as my father says.

What do men want?! Two years of my life, plus all the wedding expenses, gone down the drain. I am so heart broken and humiliated.

I don't want to say men are scum because I have a wonderful father and loving brothers, so I will leave it. I'm done with men.

Correct guy. He bought the phone with his money, he can choose who he gives it to.
Nigerians are just too entitled for my liking! It is so annoying.

Oga, God in His infinite mercy decided to show you & prevent a MISTAKE you were about to make! YOU SHOULD BE GRATEFUL!
She owed you the responsibility to explain her relationship with the guy before you caught her banging his door for a taste of his d*ck.
Sadly, you were a long distance MAGA that thought he was in a serious relationship with a fidel woman. Move on. Date & enjoy yourself until the right woman comes along. It is painful, but not worth your unhappiness!

Kriss216:
Post-Christmas breakfast.


Like I always say, only a foolish man will expect total loyalty from a Nigerian girlfriend.

Your beloved girlfriend is our community project. No reason am.

Jeez, I need you in my life l!!! Where do people find women like you?! A woman who wants space and boundaries. You even know ALL relationships or sexual encounters doesn’t have to lead to marriage?! You are a rare gem.
Dump his sorry ass and come and date me jor! Oops! I live far from you & don’t do long distance relationships
On a serious note, talk to him about your sentiments regarding his clingy and choking style in the relationship. Some people (male & female) don’t understand the concept of space, boundaries & time when you invite them into your abode. They don’t know when to leave. You MUST jerk them to do so.
Caveat! Expect him to take it harshly. Confronting him about it may even end your relationship, but you deserve happiness & much more than that type of clingy and choking man in your life! Do what makes you happy, as long as it is something decent!

NovesaTillie:
Good morning and merry Christmas everyone.

Please I'm in dilemma and really need some good advice.
This guy and I have been on this relationship thing for 5 months now with occasional misunderstandings here and there. The first one was because he visited me and refused to go after the time he said he would leave, when he finally left I got back home from work only for the security to call me that I have a visitor at the main gate and behold it was him.
I allowed him stay the night because he's a nice guy, really good in bed and also helps in the house to do stuff like wash the dishes and cooking.

Fast forward to December 15th we agreed he comes over and we spend the Christmas at my place then go to his place from 27th so we can enjoy the new year there. As we agreed, he came to my place on 17th of December and has not made any moves to leave or for us to go to his place. I am moved to create this thread because I got home from work yesterday and noticed more of his things have been arranged in the wardrobe with his shoes arranged by the front door..

Please how do I address this? I can't go on like this. He eats a lot. Snores also.
Is relationship not supposed to be the other way around why is he moving into my apartment like I'm going to marry him
We both stay in Abuja.

Mods please kindly move to Frontpage.

Mad man with parochial & primordial sentiments. God has indeed chosen to punish Nigerians with this government. Hopefully Nigerians will not choose to punish themselves further with this absurd set of people governing them.

Who cares about your rubbish apology. You are a major beneficiary of the Nigerian rot!
You could not even fix the road that led into your village. Instead you flew helicopters over the people’s severe pain!
Bam bam ni mo yo …! Rubbish elder!

The FG job will just make you a criminal. You will collect bribe to meet up.
If the FMCG coy is world-class, go for it.

emexodoms:
Please fam, between a Paramilitary job that pay 125k without any allowance for a start and an FMCG company with 165k + other bonuses and allowance for a start which is better for someone who is planing to leave the country soon(1-2years time)?

Seek professional psychiatric help. Meth isn’t an easy drug to give up. Withdrawal syndrome alone can kill him or drive him insane.
Talk to him about cleaning himself up & be ready to support him to succeed educationally & professionally thereafter.
If he drops the drug without the required emotional, psychological and financial support, he will go back to it. ,
Sadly all this is still a less than 50% chance of success as meth is 10 times more addictive than cocaine & heroine.

This whorish, old hag of a disgrace to Omoluabi heritage will not just keep quiet?
Stop this childish attention seeking life! Focus on building your music career & raising that promising boy God gave you, but you chose to disgrace with your p*ssy & face all over the internet!

You people the shout Agonja don’t realize he was a villain Yorubas don’t associate with?!

OneCorner:
Afonjatic boy

Malami the de facto president Nigerians NEVER voted for!

Na wetin dey too sweet they kill small pikin.
Monkey dey chop over ripe banana, & it dey shake tail in happiness. Monkey no know say na sweet thing dey kill pass?

This guy is the de facto president of Nigeria.
A civilian coup happened in Nigeria without Nigerians knowing!

Watch out! There are many more grievous lies!
It happened to me. The sad part is that I married the liar with very similar lies only to unearth many more worse lies in her past.
She even created many more new lies in tge 6years marriage. Liars are very difficult people to marry, most time you will regret it.
Ensure she comes clean about ALL her past that is critical to your planned union. Also, ensure she has fully repented of her lies, otherwise you have just dug your own grave if you marry her.

bestme:
Hello, nairalanders in the house, pls I need your sincere advice in this matter.

I have known this lady I really want to marry for over 2 years now. Though our friendship have been a casual one. The issue is she told me she is a graduate and then i visited her house over 2 years back I met her mom and she asked me where I came from- my tribe and if I am a graduate and told her my tribe and yes I am graduate.

She said she wants her daughter to marry a graduate because she has done her best to train her school. It was of recent we started a serious marriage relationship and I told my pastor and we both met with pastor already.

It Is now she told me that she did not graduate that she was unable to pay school fees, though she went up to 500level and did I.T but her parents only paid 100 and 200 level school fees. She said she has no result/certificate. I told her am honestly disappointed for hiding this from me ever since and she said it is because I have not really made my intentions know to her.

One of the reasons I like her was being a graduate and I have not dreamt of marrying a non graduate.

Pls your sincere advice.

Everyone in this government is just raving mad!