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Sometimes you stoop to conquer.
Dialogue with your oppressor when it looks like he has the upper hand is a smart tactical move.

You are the one who read wrong!
I said his being a criminal & association with people who use HUMAN PARTS is enough reason for her to RUN if she had any sense.
Who loves a criminal if they are not criminal minded too?
Will you date someone who you know beheads people for rituals? Will you pay for how such people will perform their evil criminal activities? That is what I read she did in some ways.
If she funded his criminal activities out of love, she should not be bothered he was now spending money with another woman!
How do you even fund efforts into a criminal activity out of love She was an active participant for Pete’s sake.
Yeah, I feel sorry for her. But people like me need to come hard on bad decision makers like her or any other man/woman, so other people like her will not think everyone will just casually condone bad behavior.

debbydams:
what u typed is Wrong, u don't jump and judge people, u read the wrong meaning to the post, in her write up, she said the guy can't do ritual, they went to an alpha no sacrifice was made, and everything they didnt work, the guy left her because she was pregnant, when the guy has money, it was from the, alpha they went too...she clearly stated she did everything for him out of love, she Neva collected a dime from him..u don't judge people from their mistakes, she was blinded by love..we are sinners because she came out to share her story for people to learn u can't start judging, if she is evil u claim she is, do u think she will share the story after 4 years, she did because she want people to learn from her past, stop judging.. some shits happened and we learn and move on..

Madam, I am not one of those men that you will bully into silence, trust me.
Thank you for promising no other response from you. I hope you have the integrity & DECENCY to do so.
Actually, your most likely sad & pretentious marriage means nothing to me too.
As I said, from your response, you have GUTTER values that encourage bad behavior.
I am not afraid to acknowledge & take responsibility for my flaws. I am not also afraid to be called out if I misbehave. It is dirty people like you who expect not to be called out.
But I will NOT succumb to the dirty, uncouth, characterless, unaccountable and obscene values that people like you have and propagate.

OdefaGirl:
Sorry..... I see where you are coming from. You've got a lot of issues to deal with in your life. I won't ask you how you ended up this way but one thing I know is that you are dealing with a lot of things because you think you are the only right person. No way, give others second chance in life.... They may even turn out to be better than your righteous, top mountain morally trained self. Heaven knows that you are not better than so many people whom you think you are... Mr. 40, give yourself some respect coz I won't dignify you with another reply.... not even to read your mention, so don't bother with your hate, hypocricy and disgusting replies.

From the BOLD quotes below in her original post,
1. The guy told her he is a scammer, she did not run.
2. He said he has a juju man that uses HUMAN PARTS she still did not run
3. Instead she decided to betray her faith to start searching for another juju man, for what purpose? To help her scammer defraud other human beings and make them cry! Those human beings scammed may NEVER recover from the scam. They may even commit suicide o.
4. She did all this so that she can benefit from it all. She wanted the criminal to marry her and they will start spending their proceeds of CRIME together.

She got hurt when she realized the scammer scammed her & he probably started spending the money from their crime with another woman.

WHO DOES THIS KIND OF THING EXCEPT EVIL PEOPLE?

She can as well do same for an armed robber for all I care.

QTE
I went directly to his place, he was down, he den open up to me that he's in interested fraud( yahoo) and nothing is dropping, he told me he came to ilorin but he was asked to bring human parts but he can't, and his neighbor is cashing out, I told him I'll help because I really love him I spoke with my neighbor if she know any juju man that's very good, she introduced me to a man. I had close to 100k in my account, we both went to the man I did a lot of prayers, ate different types of things we spend more than 50k after some weeks nothing is dropping, and I'm feeding him, my account is red already, he spoke with his friend, his friend introduced him to another juju man den we are out of cash already.
UNQTE

debbydams:
what evil are u talking about? Did u read the story well?

The truth is bitter, and she said it as it is.
Nigerians truly deserve the country as it is . Mostly rubbish people, with rubbish values!

So this dumb f*cks in government did not realize the terrorists stupidly called bandits can use satelite phones and long range walkie talkies?!!!!!!
Nigeria is DOOMED! People don't have sense in that country! Both the government and the governed are just as stupid! They deserve themselves. Next election now, the people will start killing one another to get these same rubbish politicians they have known all their lives into government. They will refuse to vote against their biases or vote fresh people, that does not help the country. Yet they expect a miracle!

You don’t know me either. So do not assume.
The fact is that the world is where it is now because there are no consequences for wrongdoing. Because you want to give advise doesn’t mean you cannot scream the bitter truth about ACTION & CONSEQUENCE for Pete’s sake. Even science says “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction”.
I am yet to see any Scripture that says there is zero consequence for wrongdoing. If the perpetrator escapes it the kids won’t. The Supreme being may just reduce the severity because of grace.
I am in my 40s & I know having a home is not the ultimate happiness. Living a good life that recognizes that you MUST do good & not evil is more important. FYI, I am happily divorced.
Incase you are a Christian, Jesus & Apostle Paul did not have a ‘home’.
There is no way you can be a good person and you still excuse evil and wrongdoing. It is impossible! You think you are good, but you are not. People like you just make it easy for others like yourself to keep doing the evil they love to do without anyone calling them out.
I will tell you again, I will NOT conform to your GUTTER VALUES. Better look elsewhere.

OdefaGirl:
I wish you know the person you are quoting... When I read some comments here on Nairaland I shake my head because you guys just assume what is in your feeble minds.... Giving someone an advise that would better one's life or even another reader or even move on is better than criticizing one till they get depressed and give up. That is hypocricy.... She has learnt her lesson and is telling her story... so why would you prosecute her? Are you her God? Since you know so well how scammers operate, maybe you should tell your family including your soul to stop using people for rituals... Which way should I change? Having a good heart towards my fellow not minding their past or you who is actually a devil coming out to judge others? That girl can comfortably run a good home in the future while you.... who's a devil's saint that have no evil plans against your fellow human may end up having a sham of a home.

Oga, you are a WIZARD! You need deliverance ASAP!
Otherwise, go see a therapist!

Icouldhave:
I just can't help myself, right since I was a little kid. I get jealous easily.

I want everything to be just me alone, I want to be the one to have money then give it out to people.

I hate it when people gives me money, it anolds me, makes me feel less.


Please how do I contain this attitude of mine.


Ps

I don't do bad.

Neither do I do evil.

I just want to be the one running everything in my family or any place I find myself.

I want to be the number one guy


I want to be the giver always

Anyone who can pay for fetish consultation to a a herbalist for a scammer to succeed can also pay for an armed robber to buy an AK47 to kill & maim other human beings. Those are the kinds of people you want to give your 2nd chance too? Your little mind does not imagine that their VICTIMS may NEVER get 2nd chances?
I hope your hubby isnt a criminal like her ex who scammed her sha? Your marriage is still very young, so I hope you are not encouraging your kids to behave badly like you.
You better change your ways & stop finding excuses to exhibit your low morals. Stop encouraging other into shitty behavior too.
Some of us won’t stoop low to your gutter values.

OdefaGirl:
Hello, for the records and not for any other reason.... I am happily and comfortably married for up to 8 years now. I married at a very young age and need no advice from hypocrites like you to run my home. Everyone deserves a second chance including your stupid self.
If you had given the above advise to her, it would have done her good if not better... including other readers.... We always feel we know it all. Bounce please.

Dear Madam non-disgusting excuser of stupidity & bad decisions.
Sorry you missed my advise?
1. She need to not invest in a criminal next time. Hoping to get rewarded from proceeds of crime.
2. She needs to make better romantic choices & not think a criminal will ever make a good partner.
3. She needs to learn more about women sexual health & protective sex, so that she doesn’t get pregnant or even get incurable STDs next time.

I understand your pain. As they say birds of a feather…

You can also take some of my advise since your IQ is probably too ‘high’ to understand.

‘Ode fa girl’, you can also share your similar or worse bad decisions & start shopping for bimbos like you to start sympathizing with you on your inglorious stupidity.

OdefaGirl:
Are you not an Angel again?.... Why passing your judgement without a sound reasoning and second chance. You can't even give an advice that would add a change to someone's life and you think every Nairalander is down there where you are? You want to tell me that you are better than those who are giving a better advice?..... Please shift, Disgusting Hyper IQ....

I just realized you know nothing about the Yorubas and how we create unwritten history.
We use folklore, historical verbal education, songs, panegyrics, divination and mysticism to record our history.
Oduduwa is not ONLY a mythical being based on Yoruba Folklore, He was a king of Ife based on our traditional panegyrics.
For instance, there is a Sango who is seen as a mythical being in our folklore and a King Sango recorded in old Oyo empire royal recitation (which is very recent).

Just the way there are mythical stories about Bible and Quran characters, modern Jewish and Islamic archeology & history have established that some of these characters that look only mythical existed. The only academic dillema is establishing evidence on the miracles and unscientific events that happened in these Holy Books.

If you believe Oduduwa was ONLY a mythical being, my discussion with you will have to end here (because you DO NOT understand how the Yorubas preserved their history).

I respect your views, but I will appreciate if you do not conclude that Yorubas are liars. What we can do is for our intellctuals / scientists to engage in serious archeological expeditions to unearth evidence of our history and interractions as Africans. Sadly, our governments and scholars are too lazy to do this.

Until then, GOODBYE.

Truthvalue41:
1) your logics are hard to follow, there is indeed no logical link with this your claim "Colonial African map was initially even claimed to be smaller that western Europe" and with your conlusion: "The colonial maps actually mean nothing" and "Those maps are simply how dominators saw Africa and not how Africa was."

First of all, what I posted was not a colonial map, it was a precolonial map, the europeans were trade partners with africans at that stage, not "dominators". Also the map is a picture of the region at that period of time, it shows the countries which occupied that space and their borders, that is the meaning of the map !

"Yoruba culture evolved from original occupants like trhe Ugbos and the settled migrants like the descendants of Oduduwa.":

it seems someone forgot to educate you on the fact that oduduwa is a mythical creature who actually never existed...this is one problem with you yorubas, when talking about history you always feel the need to confuse fairytales with history.

2) "The Itsekiris saw how great the Bini monarchy was and they requested a king from there (possibly to avoid war or invasion). Only the Itsekiri royal blood and immigrants that followed are linked to Benin. Please read https://www.britannica.com/topic/Itsekiri[/b]"

You are telling a story which wasn't witnessed by anybody ! You can quote britanica all you want, it still remains a fairytale ! Also, the name "bini" is not the name of the people of Benin empire, their name is Edo !

3) " Jebu itself was a vassal kingdom to Benin. This is wrong. [b]This is how the Binis became historically linked to the Yorubas: https://www.britannica.com/place/Benin-historical-kingdom-West-Africa. Binis formally requested to be rulled by Yorubas. That is why until recently the corpse of Oba of Benin MUST be buried in Ife."

The people whom are writing all these trash on britanica, I wish I could have an interview with them, none of this was witnessed ! It is just a fairytale created by "yoruba" in the colonial era and spread like apropaganda and now it finds its place in britanica. But no proof of it was ever provided. Actually the first europeans who came to our region did so in the 1400's, they saw no "yoruba" and no "ife" rather they saw a great Benin empire led by the Oba of Benin, for more than 400 years the europeans had been visiting our region and found no link between Benin empire and ife village ! All this story which you are saying is a yoruba invented story trying to claim attachment to Benin.

Also no Oba of Benin has ever been buried in ife !
The only place other than Benin city where an oba of Benin has been buried is actually Calabar: Oba Ovonramwen.

Actually ife was a small settlement until 1912 when the british started urbanizing it !
Benin was an empire already in the 1400's

PLEASE STOP TELLING LIES !

As usual with the yoruba, I bring proof to substantiate my claims, whereas the yoruba waves off the proof with a non-logical explanation and then proceeds to serve the public his bunch of fairytales and quotes a paper website which favors his claims (without providing any proof), the fact he still has no proof doesn't bother him, it is all about appearances to the yoruba, he wants to play on "credibility" not actual proof.
Now how a person with a brain would think a britianica article which was written by a person still alive today would be more reliable than a precolonial map drawn hundreds of years ago by people who actually witnessed our ancestors ...this is pure yoruba logics/madness: facts and truth don't matter to yoruba, appearances are way more important to the yoruba. The yoruba don't want to prove anything, rather they want to convince you of something, this is because their claims are a bunch of lies, it is impossible to prove a lie, so the yoruba would play a game of "credibility" instead and try to convince rather than prove.

To the yarri.ba (which by the way only meant oyo until it was victim to historical revisionism), nobody in the planet ever "requested a king from the yoruba" and nobody ever will, it is only in your wildest dreams that such things happened. Your ancestors were slaves and conquered people...your attempts at grabbing Benin's glorious past because you have none of your own is just pitiful.
You "yarri.ba" are the only people on planet earth which is trying to appropriate an other peoples history. Your foundations are all based on a lie.

Very sad and unfortunate. May ALL his killers and those that know about his death be located and punished by man and God.

You are right in some areas and wrong in many others. The colonial maps actually mean nothing. Those maps were created for a pre-determined purpose. Colonial African map was initially even claimed to be smaller that western Europe. This claims have been since debunked! Those maps are simply how dominators saw Africa and not how Africa was.
https://www.one.org/us/blog/map-africa-game/
https://www.theguardian.com/news/datablog/gallery/2012/oct/02/africa-maps-history

Please read my bolded responses to your numbered claims:

1) the yorubas themselves are unrelated, some descend from dahomians, some descend from brazilian slaves, some descend from oyos and some descend from jebu ... all these groups are unrelated. Yoruba culture evolved from original occupants like trhe Ugbos and the settled migrants like the descendants of Oduduwa. After a while some other Yorubas who were initially taken as slaves but refused to lose their identity (UNLIKE MOST OTHER SLAVES) decided to return to their anscestral land after slavery ended
2) The only thing which is actually proven is that Itsikeri were part of Benin Kingdom/Empire which makes them Edo people, not "yoruba" nor "jebu". I agree with this claim to an extent. The original Itsekiris were not Yorubas OR Binis. The Itsekiris saw how great the Bini monarchy was and they requested a king from there (possibly to avoid war or invasion). Only the Itsekiri royal blood and immigrants that followed are linked to Benin. Please read https://www.britannica.com/topic/Itsekiri
Also, the returned slaves to Lagos were original Yorubas who refused lose their identities and instead influenced their captors culturally. Remnants of these slave descendants still remain in Brazil, Cuba and USA (especially New Orleans).
3) Jebu itself was a vassal kingdom to Benin. This is wrong. This is how the Binis became historically linked to the Yorubas: https://www.britannica.com/place/Benin-historical-kingdom-West-Africa. Binis formally requested to be rulled by Yorubas. That is why until recently the corpse of Oba of Benin MUST be buried in Ife.

Therefore, the link the Itsekiris have to Yorubas is an indirect one. They adopted a lot of Yoruba words and culture via their deep contact with the Binis. The Binis on the other hand have a more direct link to the Yorubas.

Truthvalue41:
When will you guys stop spreading fake history ? Is this your idea of "konquest" ? Just repeating a bunch of lies on several pages ?
African history is a laughing stock because of people like you and I only pity the gullible and uneducated fools who get duped by you.
None of what you said has any evidence. And this new line of claiming Itsikeri are jebu people ...yoruba need to stop telling lies, you guys don't fight on battle fields, instead you just lie all day and call that your victory.

1) the yorubas themselves are unrelated, some descend from dahomians, some descend from brazilian slaves, some descend from oyos and some descend from jebu ... all these groups are unrelated.
2) The only thing which is actually proven is that Itsikeri were part of Benin Kingdom/Empire which makes them Edo people, not "yoruba" nor "jebu".
3) Jebu itself was a vassal kingdom to Benin.

I wish one day yoruba would have any self esteem to stop telling lies.

Below is an actual precolonial map of west africa, not the trash which you keep posting as map.

The white paper is a wholly government endeavor. I wonder how they will not do any watering down of the findings.
I strongly believe the report watered down the figures & grim features of the real findings. The direct & indirect pressure to change the narrative is a sure indication that they had to make the report as mild as possible.
They were even forced to add booby traps with names, victims & figures!
All efforts to discredit CNN, BBC , Amnesty International and the pro women group is still being sustained.
I watched a funny character on TVCs Journalist Hangout yesterday trying to poke holes in the report. Don’t forget LCC tollgate is linked to the owner of TVC. And LCC seems culpable in doctoring CCTV evidence & putting out the lights to enable the massacre!

Birds of the same feather!

I put it on record that Adeleke doesn’t have what it takes to lift Osun state out of the doldrums.

What kind misleading topic is this?!!!
According to the write up, funding the state on IGR is still work on progress!
Even the 2022 budget will still be funded majorly by allocation for Pete’s sake!
Is it in 2023 which is an election year that Kaduna will be able to fund the state primarily by IGR?!!!!!!!

If I make stupid decisions about dating & investment, such as this, I will take responsibility for my greed & stupidity. I will not try to justify such low IQ thinkinglike you have done.
Continue encouraging these scammers, armed robbers, kidnappers & potential ritualists that you ladies date because of easy money.
But don’t come and disturb us with your well deserved punishment from your shallow thinking na?!
Some of us have a fair idea of what is right & wrong tho.

OdefaGirl:
Angel Gabriel, can you actually pass your judgement as you judge yourself. Holy nweje

You deserve what you got.
You tried to enable a criminal/scammer! Why are you shocked a scammer scammed you?!
Are you that unintelligent? I pity any good man who ends up marrying you.

My brother you talk like a REAL MAN!
Very few men exist in that rubbish country!
Just be a bit patient with her. She did wrong by not appreciating your efforts even if she thinks it’s not sufficient.
She is also very selfish for not trying to cut her expenses to accommodate the challenges of Buhari era. Lastly, a woman who will not support you with her money in your temporary trying times is a Jezebel.
In summary, you either try to point her flaw with the hope that she will change her ways OR leave that marriage before she kills you (if she refuses to change).
Sadly you married a BAD WOMAN!

misterme:
And I am very very angry. Gas I used to buy 2800, then 3k, 4k, and 5k. Suddenly it jumped to 7500 and now (today) 9250 in Port Harcourt. I am very very angry. Let no one here disturb me with nonsense news about Buhari and his nonsense South Africa Trade fair and nonsense. No cross me today o. I fit beat person

The gas finished yesterday. I told my wife that yesterday that I will buy the gas today because I needed to get to work and somehow raise money to augment what I have to be able to buy the gas. I told her to use the kerosene stove that yesterday and this morning. Guess her reply? She said she can't use kerosene even for a day. That even her Mum in the village does not use kerosene stove. She said a few other unprintable things.
For the sake of my 3 children I still had to buy the gas today.

I had not eaten in my house for a month now. The reason is that she said that they money I gave her for upkeep in October was not enough (I give her 62.5% of my monthly salary every month for our home upkeep). As a result she refused to give me food from around the middle of the month when she said the money had finished. She cooked for herself and the children (possibly from her own salary). When I gave her upkeep money for this month I told her not bother keeping food for me so that the money will go far enough. That's where we are till now. I have no intention of ever eating her food until she acknowledges that she was wrong and apologizes.

Now I know this WON'T happen. She will rather die than admit she's wrong or apologize. This is why I know that the mistake of a marriage is heading for the rocks and I am ready for it. Nonsense and ingredients. I have endured this nonsense for 15 years. I am done. Anything whe won happen tomorrow, make e happen today.

Awoof dey run belle o!!!
Trust me freebies like this don’t end well, especially if you decide not to marry the girl.
Hell hath no fury like such a woman if she is scorned!

Znation:
Hello nairalanders

Some people may say i'm lucky and would want to be in my position, but i really need ur advice..

My girlfriend mum have a very big provission shop, and u all know how it feels (that joy) to have such person daughther as your girlfriend.

She loves me so much that she can give me money, food stuff, all for free from their shop. infact, i don't even spend a kobo to buy anything again. All i do is just go to their shop, & collect whatever i want.

If i meet her mum when i want to buy something, i'll pay her. But if i give her N500, she will give me change of even N2000 and ask me to go. And i don't argue with her so that her mum won't notice. I will just collect the money and go.

If i call her on phone that i'm hungry, only God can tell the things she will bring for me withing just 20 minutes of calling her..

She's spending so much on me, and i think i need advice.

I thought i was a lucky man b4, but the thing is too much 4 me.

nairalanders, What should i do?

@christistruth01 If nothing untoward happened at Lekki tollgate on the night of 20-10-2020 , may NO harm befall you and ALL that is yours. May God's blessings multiply in your life from generation to generation.
BUT, if any death or maiming happened, may all the curses and evil in the Holy Bible and Holy Quran befall you and all that is yours. May the Almighty God encompass you with his wrath and may your heart be too hardened to enjoy the mercies of the most high God.

christistruth01:
This Fake Lekki Panel report has just Scored a Spectacular Own Goal

On page 304 it lists the 14 Petitions received from Lekki Toll Gate incident and their Compensations only Abuta Solomon was listed as dead at Lekki and his Brother Nathaniel Solomon was Paid N25 Million as Compensation

Truth is just too Powerful for its haters to handle !!!!!!!!!

Sanwo Olu has won my heart on this one. To allow this report to see the light of day takes courage beyond imagination!

The Binis wanted a king, so they asked for one from Ife monarchy (Yorubaland). Thus, the 1st king in Benin was from Oduduwa's bloodline. Thereafter, the Binis adopted a lot of Yoruba culture.
Many years later, the Itsekiri (Warri) wanted monarchy too. They requested from the Benin monarchy a king. A king with Oduduwas bloodline was also sent to the Itsekiris. They also started to adopt a lot a Yoruba culture as the Binis did before them.

https://www.britannica.com/topic/Itsekiri
https://www.britannica.com/place/Benin-historical-kingdom-West-Africa

Gate050:
Please someone should tell me tbe relationships between these people and Yoruba. Olori should belong to only Yoruba how come

That man is about to marry an evil woman!
You DON’T love him as you claimed. If you love him, you will not hide such a sensitive information that can mess him up mentally & destroy TRUST he may have for you or other women.
You are very selfish for thinking loosing him was more important than speaking the TRUTH! You don’t deserve that man.

Mummiesgirls4:
My trad marriage is on the 27 of this month I still have had no courage to tell him about my 3 other children. I am pregnant I am scared he will leave me if he find out that I have 3 other children, I love him so much he is my everything on earth and I am scared to loose him. I don't want to end up single with 5 children. But sometime I feel sad I cry at night and I just don't know what to do because the guilt is so much.

I smell a rat! Too many holes in this story!

Good for you. Thank God you have learnt a good lesson early in your life.
You better don't go back to betting when you start working full time.

Dear Soludo,
You have started lying now now?! You wanted to be governor and you did not become governor in your 30s!

What kind of rubbish is this?
You should be in jail for RAPING that woman!!!
1. A relationship is give and take.
2. A relationship is not by force (do or die)!
If all you want from her is sex and she is not giving it, ask yourself if you are giving her what she wants from you too.
If both of you cannot reconcile your individual & collective needs & how you can satisfy each other, YOU ARE BOTH IN BONDAGE AND NOT A RELATIONSHIP.
Talk to her, she may want you to wife her before you get unrestricted access to her body.
She probably also met someone better than you. That person is most likely satisfying her sexual needs. She was just waiting for the right time to leave!
You better find happiness elsewhere if she no longer has the capacity to fulfill your requirements for happiness.

i

I live with my girlfriend. She has been staying with me for a year and 8 months now. Sex was perfect 3 to 4 times a week.

But ever since she started working sex has become a problem. She will make excuses that she is tired that her back is hurting or headaches. For 3 weeks no sex. She doesn't care at all and we are living like roommates and yesterday was worse.

I was in the mood for it and she bluntly refused so I had to force her. I ripped her pant but she didn't give up she scratches me on my face. I slapped her so hard out of anger. I didn't mean to and I left the house for a few hours. I apologised for forcing her and I told her I am not going to leave with her anymore if she will not give me sex. I asked her to leave so my next babe can move in she said she is leaving in 2 weeks.

Note I don't have any other babe except from her and I have never cheated on her before. I love her a lot she is my life but I just don't like her new attitude.

What do you think I should do for her to be happy with me and give me sex without a fight because I don't want what had happened yesterday to ever happen again in the future.

There are more than enough men to go round!
Only those who ascribe to the one man, one wife lie imposed by Rome & enforced by Christian West face the crisis you describe. God has permited polygamy to nullify this risk.

Antoeni:
This must have contributed to the high number of Mad Men we see on the road these days.
The worst is that the number of men in the world is not equivalent to the number of women, so if some of the men we have now run mad or probably becomes impotent as a result of this, how is procreation going to be possible?

May God specially punish this MF after he serves his term! His kind made Nigeria such an evil country. Yet they pray religiously 5times a day!!!

The TRUTH shall set you free!