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Oga, God in His infinite mercy decided to show you & prevent a MISTAKE you were about to make! YOU SHOULD BE GRATEFUL!
She owed you the responsibility to explain her relationship with the guy before you caught her banging his door for a taste of his d*ck.
Sadly, you were a long distance MAGA that thought he was in a serious relationship with a fidel woman. Move on. Date & enjoy yourself until the right woman comes along. It is painful, but not worth your unhappiness!

Kriss216:
Post-Christmas breakfast.


Like I always say, only a foolish man will expect total loyalty from a Nigerian girlfriend.

Your beloved girlfriend is our community project. No reason am.

Jeez, I need you in my life l!!! Where do people find women like you?! A woman who wants space and boundaries. You even know ALL relationships or sexual encounters doesn’t have to lead to marriage?! You are a rare gem.
Dump his sorry ass and come and date me jor! Oops! I live far from you & don’t do long distance relationships
On a serious note, talk to him about your sentiments regarding his clingy and choking style in the relationship. Some people (male & female) don’t understand the concept of space, boundaries & time when you invite them into your abode. They don’t know when to leave. You MUST jerk them to do so.
Caveat! Expect him to take it harshly. Confronting him about it may even end your relationship, but you deserve happiness & much more than that type of clingy and choking man in your life! Do what makes you happy, as long as it is something decent!

NovesaTillie:
Good morning and merry Christmas everyone.

Please I'm in dilemma and really need some good advice.
This guy and I have been on this relationship thing for 5 months now with occasional misunderstandings here and there. The first one was because he visited me and refused to go after the time he said he would leave, when he finally left I got back home from work only for the security to call me that I have a visitor at the main gate and behold it was him.
I allowed him stay the night because he's a nice guy, really good in bed and also helps in the house to do stuff like wash the dishes and cooking.

Fast forward to December 15th we agreed he comes over and we spend the Christmas at my place then go to his place from 27th so we can enjoy the new year there. As we agreed, he came to my place on 17th of December and has not made any moves to leave or for us to go to his place. I am moved to create this thread because I got home from work yesterday and noticed more of his things have been arranged in the wardrobe with his shoes arranged by the front door..

Please how do I address this? I can't go on like this. He eats a lot. Snores also.
Is relationship not supposed to be the other way around why is he moving into my apartment like I'm going to marry him
We both stay in Abuja.

Mods please kindly move to Frontpage.

Mad man with parochial & primordial sentiments. God has indeed chosen to punish Nigerians with this government. Hopefully Nigerians will not choose to punish themselves further with this absurd set of people governing them.

Who cares about your rubbish apology. You are a major beneficiary of the Nigerian rot!
You could not even fix the road that led into your village. Instead you flew helicopters over the people’s severe pain!
Bam bam ni mo yo …! Rubbish elder!

The FG job will just make you a criminal. You will collect bribe to meet up.
If the FMCG coy is world-class, go for it.

emexodoms:
Please fam, between a Paramilitary job that pay 125k without any allowance for a start and an FMCG company with 165k + other bonuses and allowance for a start which is better for someone who is planing to leave the country soon(1-2years time)?

Seek professional psychiatric help. Meth isn’t an easy drug to give up. Withdrawal syndrome alone can kill him or drive him insane.
Talk to him about cleaning himself up & be ready to support him to succeed educationally & professionally thereafter.
If he drops the drug without the required emotional, psychological and financial support, he will go back to it. ,
Sadly all this is still a less than 50% chance of success as meth is 10 times more addictive than cocaine & heroine.

This whorish, old hag of a disgrace to Omoluabi heritage will not just keep quiet?
Stop this childish attention seeking life! Focus on building your music career & raising that promising boy God gave you, but you chose to disgrace with your p*ssy & face all over the internet!

You people the shout Agonja don’t realize he was a villain Yorubas don’t associate with?!

OneCorner:
Afonjatic boy

Malami the de facto president Nigerians NEVER voted for!

Na wetin dey too sweet they kill small pikin.
Monkey dey chop over ripe banana, & it dey shake tail in happiness. Monkey no know say na sweet thing dey kill pass?

This guy is the de facto president of Nigeria.
A civilian coup happened in Nigeria without Nigerians knowing!

Watch out! There are many more grievous lies!
It happened to me. The sad part is that I married the liar with very similar lies only to unearth many more worse lies in her past.
She even created many more new lies in tge 6years marriage. Liars are very difficult people to marry, most time you will regret it.
Ensure she comes clean about ALL her past that is critical to your planned union. Also, ensure she has fully repented of her lies, otherwise you have just dug your own grave if you marry her.

bestme:
Hello, nairalanders in the house, pls I need your sincere advice in this matter.

I have known this lady I really want to marry for over 2 years now. Though our friendship have been a casual one. The issue is she told me she is a graduate and then i visited her house over 2 years back I met her mom and she asked me where I came from- my tribe and if I am a graduate and told her my tribe and yes I am graduate.

She said she wants her daughter to marry a graduate because she has done her best to train her school. It was of recent we started a serious marriage relationship and I told my pastor and we both met with pastor already.

It Is now she told me that she did not graduate that she was unable to pay school fees, though she went up to 500level and did I.T but her parents only paid 100 and 200 level school fees. She said she has no result/certificate. I told her am honestly disappointed for hiding this from me ever since and she said it is because I have not really made my intentions know to her.

One of the reasons I like her was being a graduate and I have not dreamt of marrying a non graduate.

Pls your sincere advice.

Everyone in this government is just raving mad!

I heard they spray something to put the victim into deep sleep.

anthonyuncle:
was she drugged or what?

how can someone be asleep and the whole room will be ransacked without her waking up

Does he have to lick ass to achieve that??!

Awkabigboy:
Let us say the truth, Umahi is trying to unite the east to be stronger again in the national politics

Let the lies begin!

Hope this is not another lie from Lai Lai Momodu?

Pray for who?! The relentless tormentor of Nigerians?? You MUST be outta your mind!!!

Y’all in the North are On Your Own (OYO).
You ignored and antagonized the South when we cried for help that terrorists had invaded our forests.
You people in the North even connived with Southern sabos to hunt & clamp down on the ONLY lone voice that had the guts to defend the SW… Igboho.
Now you will get no pity from someone like me. The North wined & dined with the devil, now it is time to dance Azonto with Lucifer!

He simply paid for his laziness / ignorance.
Why not google the possible fault on an alternative internet enabled device 1st? If he is unable to use google due to illiteracy, he simply paid the price for not being educated.

Yoruba boys doing big things in the music industry! No doubt the Yorubas have a language & genes that just creates great rhythm, lyrics and sound.
Kudos to Fireboy for this super collabo!

lalasticlala:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pekzpzNCNDQ

Don’t panic yet. Get tested immediately to be sure you were negative before sex with her. After 3-4months, get tested again and do another test by 6months.
You can buy the test kit from a reputable pharmacy for discreetness.
Also try to use a condom with your wife for the next 6 months.
Justify the use of condom by doing below : 1.Make sure you go home one day from a travel trip with blood stained dress (don’t overdo the blood stain).
2. Lie to her that you tried to help a bleeding accident victim
3 After a few days tell her you realized you had a cut on your finger & that finger got soaked in the phantom victim’s blood. Thus your preventive steps to protect her with condom use pending your HIV & Hepatitis B & C test confirmation after 6months.

Going forward, NEVER f*ck a person with or without a condom without doing HIV & Hepatitis B & C tests. The home tests cost less than 2k for all the test if you buy in bulk!!!

Trust me, ALL parents love each child differently and we all have our favorite. The important thing is NEVER to make it obvious.

Oga she has shown you the hierarchy of authority in her life.
As the HEAD of your home, Call her attention to it & demand a change.
If she corrects the error, you are lucky. Make sure you reward her with more affection.
If she doesn’t change from her error, mark my words, YOU ARE DOOMED IN THAT MARRIAGE!

SayAsSeen:
Hello friends, I'd like to ask intelligent and older minds for advise about an issue before I react.

My wife's elder brother is visiting my house and my wife has been serving his food first before serving and bringing my good, in my own house.


Please I just want to ask if this is wrong or right or even just normal?

I worked all through the night and was famished by the time the day broke this morning. I gave her some dough and told her to prepare me noodles and sardine, emphasizing on the fact that I was very hungry.

NOTE: Her Brother was still asleep at this time.

She prepared the meal, split it into two. Woke up and served her brother first in my guest room before coming to my room to give her hungry husband his food.

I was so mad, I ignored the food, went out to smoke a cigarette. While I was doing that it occured to me ask for advice here, because I didn't want to ask anybody I knew personally.

I still don't know whether to be mad, or to just ignore it.

I am a strong believer of common sense and respect and her actions this morning lack both! It would have take her less than 30 seconds to give me my food then go wake and serve her brother!

Is she told me she needed money for something and I put my younger sister's need over her's-no matter how tribal her's might be-i know how she'd react and the amount of making up I'd have to do.

I am trying to be very mature about this, that's why I keeping things anonymous?

Besides I'd like to know, I possibly can't be the only person who has experienced this sort of situation because they say there's nothing new under the sun. Please who has ever felt this way, I am very understanding and if something irks me, it would irk every body else too.


Wish I could explain better

Women ONLY deny simps sex!
You are a woman wrapper controlled by your wife.
Our forefathers had the antedotes that cured the madness some women exhibit.
Marry another wife or move towards divorcing her and watch her beg you with her p*ssy .

Long story short, y’all over pampered the brat!
He is an entitled and lazy idiot.
You are also his problem too! Why will you give him extra from your own money without him needing it urgently? Why are you all borrowing him money senselessly knowing full well that he won’t repay?
STOP GIVING HIM THE ATTENTION THAT FUELS HIS MISDEMEANOR!
He will grow up with time. Just ignore him and quietly pray for him. Stop giving him money that you cannot tie to his growth and development.
Lastly, I have a strong feeling that he is using drugs. Investigate that angle & find help for him before he acts irrationally against you all.

Cyntie55:
Good day nairalanders. Season greetings to y'all. I'm so angry right now. Please I need mature advice.

My father is not a learned person but he make sure all his children are graduates. My younger brother(last born and only son) rounded up his Nysc few months ago, we're just 2 girls. My elder sis and I. My elder sis is a nurse in Austria (3 years now), she's married with a kid in Austria. My big sister send money home once in 3 months, and I have been the one receiving the money. I share the money exactly as instructed by my big sis. I have never cheated anyone, Infact my Dad and Big sis communicate very well. My Dad trust me so much.

My younger brother is always angry, He said he feel cheated all the time. He shouts and talks to me anyhow like I'm his mate.
Honestly speaking, I gave my younger brother more love and respect that he could ever imagine. When he was serving, he would call telling me he need 10k urgently, sometimes 20k, that he will pay back. Immediately I will send it to him and he would never pay back. Same thing he does to my father.
If we ask him what's he using his allawee for?? He would angrily say so is becus we're sending him "chicken change" that's why we're asking jamb questions.

He said we don't regard him, he called my Dad a SIMP, he said my Dad listen more to my big sis and I....but he don't listen to any of his suggestions.

My brother is a 2:1 (second class upper) graduate in economics from UNIBEN. After his Nysc all he does is to sleep and eat. My Dad's good friend told my brother to come to Lagos and resume work with him. He refused. My Dad ask him if he wants to further his education (masters or professional courses)he said no....Okay follow my Dad to his cement shop and help him (my dad even promised to pay him salary) he refused....I overheard him on a call with a friend and i suspect he's now into yahoo yahoo.

Look at what happened. My big sis sent us money yesterday to celebrate this festive period. She said I should give my brother 50k, I should take 80k and give my father the rest (abt 250k). My Dad is always aware of everything.
I even added 20k out of my money and I transferred 70k to my brother, I was left with 60k (becus she also sent me hair and I plan to sell it becus I already had enough). You can imagine this ungrateful idiot started insulting me, that I cheated him. the fool angrily withdrawn the money from his account and SET IT ON FIRE (70k). He called my elder sister and started warning her saying "if he can't receive the money henceforth, she should stop sending him money again that he's the man of the house".
My Dad gave him a resetting, resounding, hot and dirty slaps. He pulled out a knife, deflated my Dad's car tyres and ran away from the house.

Everyone is not happy. I don't want my brother to live a wayward life. He's 24 years old. Please nairalanders Help!

This incompetent old fool should just STFU and let Nigerians endure the torture that he is in peace!
The reason you were voted in is to make life better for Nigerians regardless of the situation. Nigerians did not vote you in to come and give 1000 reasons why Buhari failed as president!

You and your friend are a disgrace to your parents for the poor education you were given.

Is Kogi in the South West?!

WillyDave:
My dear don't be surprised. Goggle top 10 armed robbers in Nigeria history you will see why. 8 are from South West.

Really? So this ugly duck is also trying to identify broke guys?
She needs to 1st research how not to look ugly 1st!
Broke girl identifying broke guys? LOL!

I am not suprised.
Buhari will realize how badly he has damaged his initial lie of a reputation after he leaves office on or before May 29 2023. He has chosen to notoriously be on the wrong side of glorious history!

Hypocrites! The burden of Nigeria!

Trust me our minds have different matrix & thresholds to withstand pressure and stress before insanity sets in.
What you can handle with ease without going crazy, your twin with a similar DNA may not be able to tolerate it.
Some people will live a fulfilled and stress free life even when neck deep in unpayable debt, others will become defeatist and suicidal at the thought of owing debt they have assets to pay off.
Human beings are complex creatures.

Negroid001:
Who hasn't been in debt before? Even Nigeria dey owe money. They frustrated the young chap jawe.