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tunjilomo:
Crazy forest. Crazy Japanese.
There might be some place like that here. But not many will know.

In Lagos we use the Third Mainland Bridge

bukkysam:
chat me on Whatsapp check my signature

Okay I will do that now

Tunagee:
Am sorry, I disagree with your advice. She specifically told him she is in love with someone else, so what the Bleep is he discussing with her. The only thing he needs to do is put the conversation in a phone recorder for reference purpose. A woman will always be foolish at one point or the other in her life. Let her go bro! Try take care of your kids. The idiot deceiving her gullible brain will soon be done with her cos no man ever respects any woman who leaves her matrimonial home. She go cry come back to you, but I beg you, NEVER ACCEPT HER BACK!!!!!!

You have a valid point there. I am just imagining the emotional pains the op will be going through right now, after 4 kids. Things like this discourages people like us when it comes to getting married.

bukkysam:
half a plot

Give me the size in square meters. You can send it by email if you don't want to reveal it here.

LadySarah:
You better go and cuddle that woman and f.. Ck her brains till she starts running from you.Which nonsense privacy?

Yeah, I'm a mother telling you this.
If this marriage deteriorates better tell yourself you are responsible.

Nonsense!

lmao. You just said nothing but the absolute truth

Ab0bi:
I love my solitude and I don't define myself with outwardly materialistic desires and objects.

I spend most of my time alone, I have less friends ( I ain't anti-social neither am I recluse), I am the kind of person who prefers not to be noticed and is quiet.

I can't count the amount of times I have had conversations with my head I can be my own best friend or my own worst enemy.

I love listening to musics (NF) and I dislike superficial interactions with people.

I am very emotionally independent but feel burdened by the emotional baggage of others. Which is, I can take care of my pains myself but I care about how others feel.

I love myself, especially my personality, although people tend to think I am a weirdo. But I don't give a fvck, in fact, I don't like explaining myself to them! Because, they won't understand me.

You are very normal. I am like you as well. I love my privacy and hate crowds. Be happy because we loners are great thinkers and achieve more in life.

Pweetiedude:
I just got married a few weeks ago. From my conviction, marriage hasn’t been what I pictured it to be. Though, it was a long distance relationship before we eventually got married. We’ve known each other for a long time because we both attended same high school but I was ahead of her with two classes. She left when she was in SS 1 while I graduated in the year 2009. Our path crossed around year 2012 and we kickstarted a relationship. The relationship was on and off because we broke up twice and later reconciled. It was actually my fault back then because I wasn’t fully committed to the relationship. Fast forward to the year 2018, we got serious with the relationship, though a distant one. It was actually due to my relocation from Lagos to my hometown for greener pastures. She graduated and completed her service in the year 2019. During the course of the completion of her service, she asked me if I’m willing to wife her or not. I was kinda scared that very moment, I had to divert the topic. I dialogued with my immediate elder sibling and he told me to take the bold step that every marriage comes with it own blessing. I spoke with her dad and mum, likewise she too. We eventually tied the knot few weeks ago. I later discovered our perspectives are totally different which is a turn off for me. I, personally relish my privacy so much which I’ve been deprived of, just to mention few. Even to the issue of lovemaking because I ain’t the type that’s into sex. We practiced no sex before marriage, which was due to the insistence of my wife that she’s a virgin and a celibate. My wife wants us to be having sex at every interval, which I didn’t succumbed. These above mentioned have been causing rift and issue in our young marriage. What are the steps I and my wife can take to enjoy and have a long lasting union?

You blindly jumped into marriage without being ready. You are already in, unless you want to divorce (which will be foolish this early in the marriage) I suggest you work on your marriage.

This is why I laugh when people say once a man gets to a certain age he must get married. Nah, you must be emotionally and financially ready. Major emphasis on being emotionally ready. Marriage is a lifetime endeavor. Only kids rush in.

ROYALBLACK:
I will improve sire.

I respect your mature response bro and apologies on my part for being crude in my post to you. This is something lacking on this forum. You have my utmost respect chief

bukkysam:
2Bedroom for sale

Location:Atan-Ota

Price: #2.1m neg

That land is not even up to 150sq meters from what I am seeing

Depressed111:
This phase is too tough, too many big ideas on my head but no money to get started to fillful this ideas, the ideas are just wasting away

So suicide is the next thing on your mind? Care to give an hindsight on any of these ideas? We have various professionals here, you might be lucky somehow might give a helping hand. Toughen up bro. This life is for the strong willed.

My problem with them is the fact you cannot distinguish between them and the actual armed robbers because of the way they dress. I have driven past them countless times but have never one day been stopped.

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Hi all, how would you feel if a friend who you are helping went on a family vacation with someone ( another girl) who did nothing to help her. She did not even inform you that she was going on vacation until she and her father returned from the trip. Her father specifically invited the other girl and simply ignored the girl who was driving his daughter who just recently moved to the country and who has no driver’s license.[/color]

You care too much about what people think of you. It shows in all your posts. You have to learn the secret of not giving a fvck and watch how your life will turn around. Let me tell you a secret - everybody got their own problems, most don't even have the time to think about you when they have their own issues. Learn the art of not giving a fvck.

No matter what you do in this life, there will always be haters. Learn to rise above them. Show them your superpower by not giving a flying fvck.

PhonesGadgets:
Please do we have any marriage counsellor in the house ? There are things that can not be said here because of some bad belle people that feels everything is fake

Please move this post to the family section. That's where you will see married people, marriage counselors and matured minds to better guide you.

The Romance section is for olosho discussions and childish rants. I wish you well

openbusiness6:
This will help you
https://www.nairaland.com/3143077/how-embedd-videos-gif-files

Gracias

openbusiness6:
Lemme juz sherrup my mouth
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How do you place a gif on a post? I tried copying the gif image address and then inserting it in-between two nairaland image files but no luck. Tutorials please

Nooneonline:
Well I guess in today's world not cheating for a year is worth celebrating...

It is

PUNAengineOIL:
Telling a man to try and work things out with an hoelosho is one of the dumbest advice.
The man thought he can wife a hoe, this is how it always ends.

Bro I believe we can send our messages without insults like adults.

From the guys post you can clearly see he still wants the marriage to work. They probably have kids already. If he wants his marriage to work who are we to recommend divorce?

PhonesGadgets:
I really don't know how to stop her as she no longer hide it away from me . She told me she's in love with someone else after 4 kids...please help me as am no longer rich as I used to be.

How do you want us to help you?

She has openly admitted she is in love with someone else.

I guess you feel it's because you are no more as financially buoyant as you used to be? That means you are indirectly saying your wealth was what attracted her in the first place to you? You might be wrong you know. Try seating her down and tou guys have a heart to heart serious talk if you still want the marriage to work.

From your post, I see you still want the marriage to work. I strongly suggest you guys see a marriage counselor and also get your parents involved (if they are still alive). I wish you well.

Grateful02:
I don't agree to this. I suffer from depression and I've never opted for acohol. I think from the Op, he's hubby so much into acohol of which he might been indulging in it even before marriage. Habits take strong moments to quench**

So sorry to hear this. I hope you are taking your anti depressants or at least minimising or totally eradicating all manner of stress in your life? It's tough I know but be strong.

ROYALBLACK:
95 percentage of Nigeria men are woman beater.

Learn proper english before posting in a public forum. Mumu

molybdenum0012:
Get lost. Thought you smart enough to engage me. But you are so dumb.

Stay fvcked. Dumbass

Better concentrate on your search for a miserable self contained apartment. You wretched rat

Further mentions will be ignored. Dumb fvck

If she really committed suicide because of the loss of her phone, then I have no R.I.P to waste here. The world is better off without dumb people.

Very typical of slayqueens whose lives revolves around social media apps like Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook etc

That was how I was at the check out counter of a supermarket and the female cashier was busy on Snapchat or one of these apps they use for their olosho activities, she was just giggling like an idiot, you need to see the way I shouted on her to throw that phone away and attend to people on the line.

molybdenum0012:
Oga, there is nothing wrong at the bolded. Or which book was it written? . Una go just type rubbish. You'd better wise up now

IGNORED

johniemos:
Hello, everyone. I trust we are good and getting ready for the week, its gonna be a fruitful one. Amen.
I find older women more attractive and approaching. This has been happening for over a long period I can remember. I find them attractive and wanting them. I'm almost 30. Should I really be worried or it's nothing really serious. Comments will be appreciated.

Nothing wrong in being attracted to older ladies if they are your type.

But there is everything wrong in settling for older ladies just because you want to avoid the emotional and financial stress of dating younger ladies. Or because you fear rejection from younger ladies. I really don't know how to break it down better than this. Cheers

UndauntedYOCA:
Don't even try to sell the land, you'll regret it later. My only sibling almost sold ours due to finance but I was able to convince him not to. We both graduated without having to sell it, it's also a plot with a four bedroom uncompleted flat. You all should work as well as have extra sources of income, pull your money together and complete it if it isn't, go with the shops your brother said, rent them out and split the money that comes from it. Don't even listen to your sister, she's just eager to have money she can spend on whatever she needs or business, when you sell and split the money, if care isn't taken some of you will spend it carelessly after which eyes go clear! That property is a lifetime investment and many good things can come from it. Get a reliable developer if you must, I'll rather work and complete ours though.

I don't know you but feel like hugging you right now.

Those kids are just lazy.

Maxcollins042:
This is a no-brainer na. No be every matter you suppose carry come here. It's obvious she's still a child. Are you a child too? You are the first child and an adult here for Pete's sake.

Selling the land where your parents are buried is a no no.

My thoughts exactly. Why would they even be thinking of selling the land their father is buried on Are they that broke financially?

cc: finaleeec

I hope the op is really a man with two fully formed balls in between his legs? This is a no brainer.

Solatium:
Where I come from,there is a name for such children which I don't want to say here

I think in Edo they call such children BORN THROWAY

Like I always say, any Nigerian has the right to contest for any political position.

It's now the duty of the voting populace to decide if they want that candidate or not.

Princedapace:
Lol as bad some of them are, that unit is extremely important in this country o. The issue is to find a way to stop them from checking on yahoo yahoo boys and allow only efcc to handle that one. I can still remember that some nigerians are still complaining about efcc. Lol.

But it is better left for efcc to do all the fraud checkups. Sars and other tactical units cant be banned o. They are extremely important in fishing out some deadly criminals.

What started all these rubbis was the way internet fraud became almost something we generally accepted in the country. In fact, at some points, internet fraud became something people were proud to do. This gave the rise of the menace by sars men who also saw these guys as a means to chop money too.

So, the force can't ban them o, we need them. Armed robbers are deadly. The force just have to find a way to control them from checking on yahoo boys or searching phones.

As for stopping cars on high way, I don't know how we go handle that one. Many times, criminals have been caught on high way traveling, many times kidnappers were caught on high way through search. The police need to come up with a better strategy on this because nigeria is crime prone, if u completely ban searches like this, it is like a free ride to criminals and kidnappers to ride and move freely.

So, I suggest the police stop sars from searching on high ways and make them only respond to operational calls and gun battle or tactical arrests.

The high way searches should be handled by joint task force by the mobile police force and military. Our high ways are extremely dangerious. We don't have enough security men in the country as we speak. So, since SARS has more rotten eggs, they should be stopped from high way searches or inter state searches. The state searches should be done road safety while high way should be done by mopol and soldiers with strict monitoring.

The efcc and icpc should be given enough man power to crack down on yahoo boys. Simple.

I hardly look at people's profiles, but after reading your post I just had to check your profile. Well said bro, well said