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Ayemileto:
Well, I think it's many.

Advantages
1. You must have heard of Okarfor's law before.

Many people who cheat on their spouse do it with someone they've been with before marriage, who did it "properly" than they are getting with their current partner.

Also, I believe majority of people who complain about their partners not satisfying them sexually in marriage are those with numerous experience.

Just imagine a lady who was into runs during her college days, and have being with over 100 men in the process, getting married to a man who have never been with a woman before, how will their skills match? How will he satisfy her sexually?

if they both get married as a virgin, they get to learn together and build up their skills together, making it far easier for them to become compatible.

Also, there's no 'ex' that have given them an unforgettable sexual experience before that they can go back to.


2. If they both marry as a virgin, then there's less likelihood that the past of one of them will come back hunting their marriage. Scandals like having hidden children, sex tapes leaked by an ex, inability to give birth due to a past infection or abortion and many other things.

All this type of Marriage wrecking scandals will be far from them.

3. If they both marry as a virgin, then there's less likelihood of having recurring STDs that can destroy their marriage.

I was at someone's house in school last year and the dude was discussing with another guy.

Apparently, the guy have Gonorrhoea which he have treated, but somehow, the infection returned.

So, by marrying each other as a virgin, it will be difficult for them to contract all this recurring STDs and it's consequences.

4. Sex also have some spiritual stuff attached to it as many religious people believed. Even the Bible said something like "Anyone who commits adultery sins against his own soul".

So, whatever spiritual stuff that could have been contracted by sexing around would be avoided.


I think there are other ones though. But this are the ones that came to my mind right now.



Updated.

Another Update
As for disadvantages, a post made Front page few months ago. The guy was complaining about his wife being scared of sex. He said his in-laws even bought lubricants for them and many other things.

In one of his comments, He said he was initially at fault since he can't identify the hole to put his pencil initially.

I think this is the only disadvantage, but it is also an advantage since they will get to learn everything together as stated in point 1.

God bless you Sir
You did a very nice job here.

Gentle0wavez:
I have been thinking here for about 3 minutes, Guy no disadvantage dey oh.

Is very advisable then.

callmeRichie:
Ama "HE" bro

Fear, as in fear of having sex at least for the first few months. Some of them would be so childish this moment ehn, they would be like "Awnn honey, it would pain me" lol

Thank you so much for this points.

InfinityFabric:
There is no disadvantage in here.

Thank you so much

Rabbi4real:
Good da ma’am,

I was referred to Lively Stones by a close friend. I need advise for my marriage. We are having issues and I do not think I trust my wife. I met my wife about 5 years ago. At the time I was wooing her,she gave me a hard time . I tried to date other women because she was playing hard to get but she was the only woman who truly caught my heart.

After trying her for like 4 months,I finally gave up and decided to forget about her. Like almost a year later,she started chatting me up and this time,she seemed ready so I went after her. I am not a perfect guy but I tried my possible best to make her happy.

One thing she said was that her last relationship really broke her heart,so she is finding it hard to trust a man again. I assured her countless times of my love and commitment. She did not introduce me to her family until almost 7 months.

She tested me several times to see if I truly loved her and to the glory of God,I did my best. I showered her with love,gifts,nice things. I even started to be more godly because of her. I began to go to church with her. I love the fact that she was even challenging me to be a good Christian.....

A year later,I felt I had passed her tests,I proposed to her. God saved me that I did not propose in public like I have always dreamed. I proposed to her in her apartment. I was in love,crazy in love and she loved me or so I thought. But when I proposed to her,she......

https://livelystones.ng/2020/07/17/my-wife-broke-my-trust-our-marriage-because-of-her-ex-boyfriend/

How many persons own this story? Have read this story before by another poster.

phidipe:
Please fellow memeber how do I behave meeting an Online date for the first after few months chatting on Facebook.
THANKS

Make sure the venue is trusted, that's, your security is sure.
Just be yourself, don't try to impress him or her.

Nothing can stop Governor Obaseki from continue. 4+4=8 Torgba.

APCHaram:
And the security patrol had a landline in their 504 patrol vehicle abi

You cannot force a Cultist and thief as Governor of Edo State. Many things will work against Ize Iyamu, not even federal might can save him.

PIMPAR:
You have left the the message. Why should Edolites vote for party of Tax collectors?

Do you have evidence? can you defend this in the law court? or you will say Wike said?
Well, I know you support APC but you don't have a voter's card to vote.
Let's wait for September 19 for the outcome.

MetaPhysical:
There is no doubt APC is going to win 2023 at national level.

The permutation is, if PDP wins Edo in October it will put your state in opposition from 2021 to 2024, when you will next get opportunity to do another election.

Choose between a ruling party and an opposition party for your State. The affairs is in your hands.

Firstly, are you God to know APC will win 2023 presidential election?
Secondly, what is wrong with being in opposition?
Thirdly, this post can't stop majority of Edoites from not voting Governor Obaseki. We don't want a thief and cultist.

Kissiemu:
Nna men!

Do I look like a mad man to you? So as a bachelor wey don sample ashewo,oloshos, girlfriends n enough friends with benefits I will now open eye to go n marry virgin?
Well unless there is #100m attached to the torture of marrying a virgin.

I no discourage virgins but since I am not a virgin why will I look for one to marry...abeg...abeg...shoe get size. Na non virgins be my size.

What can a niggah do?

Which type of torture are you talking about?

callmeRichie:
Advantage? Earn high selves value, prestige and respect from your partner and families in the loop.

Disadvantage? Complications may arise during child birth sha depending on the body/tissue arrangement of the lady though. Fear is another one.

Thank you so much Ma
I don't understand the fear you talked about

Kissiemu:
Let the virgins talk...A virgin I am not

Will you marry a virgin?

Ayemileto:
Well, I think it's many.

Can you list some?

I'm interested to know the advantages and disadvantages of two couple who are virgins.
You constructive feedbacks are highly needed.

iokpebholo:
Bros it's like u no know say Edo ppl no want hear of Tinubu and Oshiomonle.Edo no be Lagos slogan u think it's a joke abi??

Edo nor be Lagos slogan is almost everywhere in Benin Rebranding of what played in kwara state.

Dartilo:
Well we shouldn't argue much, but let me b realistic, I am currently in uwa street is a popular street in the local govt...so I can tel u that in a one man one vote there nothing like any yeye sharing wit iyamu...

PDP is taking it all....
Imagine PDP having a bloc vote in
1.Oredo
2.egoR
3.ikpoba okha
.ovia

It will b like the K state vote durning the last election

Uwa street, close to Uwa primary school and St Joseph Catholic Church?

kestor:
Let me even educate you a little. Are you aware Ize-Iyamu has far less financial support than he did 4 years ago? Oshiomole's sacking and the way Obaseki was forced out of APC has created more problems than he could envisaged when he joined the party again (argue this at your peril). His eyes done clear, APC is divided from the national to the state level. His candidature and the process leading to it is still in doubt, as such he seem like a gamble no one is willing to take on. The man is finding it tougher than when he contested under PDP, yet that's the party you underrated in your analysis. I just dey laugh, when APC agents self will decamp at the polling units on election day. I don't hate the man, neither do I hate those supporting him (we're all Edo). It is the character of Oshiomole that's infuriating many Edolites.

God bless you, I wish I can Meet you in Benin. Alot of things are working against Ize Iyamu which I listed in one of my post which APC online supporters don't want to agree with. September 19 is not far again.

Have taken my time to educate this op on his several trends and posts against Governor Obaseki but he will not listen. Election is not won my online trends, posts or wailing, it's on ground you will election. In several of my posts, I mentioned I went round many parts of Benin City on Monday, I mean different people in the society, almost all are supporting Governor Obaseki, some even said they have never voted before but this time, they are going to vote for Governor Obaseki. From my observations and experience in Edo politics, nothing will stop Ize Iyamu defeat including federal might. Op, save this my post and bring it out on September 20 when the result must have been announced. Edo South and Edo Central is for Governor Obaseki, I can't give the permutation for Edo North but I know, Governor Obaseki will get some votes there. Governor Obaseki is not a saint but he has tried in the 3 years plus in governance. I know what played out in the time of Oshiomole, people's parents who were bus and car drivers, market men and women were beaten on a daily basis by Tony Kabaka and his boys because he was empowered by Former Governor Oshiomole. I can't go back to that era again. Op, you think Edoites don't remember? U think theyy don't remember the transformations of Governor Obaseki? Only those who are blind politically will not see them. This is the Governor that have not borrowed since the creation of Edo State. This is also same Governor who paid workers, pensioners, gratuities at when due. I know many pensioners who are enjoying Governor Obaseki transformations in pension affairs. No more staying in queue for unnecessary screenings by pensioners, many lost their lives in the time of Oshiomole.
From all the previous posts here, I can attest alot of Edoites who are on ground have tried to educate the op, please don't force him to listen, he has been paid to do the job. It was announced on news that APC have employ some persons to campaign for them online
Let me stop here. Let's wait for September 19 to decide.

Since have been moving round Edo State, have not seen any road project completed my Niger Delta Development commission (NDDC), they will only graze the road, make gutters or drainages on both sides of the road without covering it and then abandoned it. Their incomplete road projects are littered round Edo State. My fellow Edoites can attest to this. Nobody is talking about it.
God, deliver this country from the hands of looters.
Buhari government is not different, is even worst.

In the eyes of the law, APC in Edo State don't have a candidate.

Someone that has poor memory is heading a sensitive position in the presidency? In a sane country, he will resign or ask to resign.

Dansuqi:
Oga,why not be truthful for once? All signs shows that obaseki will lose big time.pdp claimed that there are receiving defection from apc but failed to mention any.can you mention any strong apc member that has joined pdp? But a core obaseki supporter has decamped.sorry,he is losing

Sir, I'm from Benin City. I went round some part of Benin City randomly on Monday, I met with workers, bus and car drivers, market men and women, pensioners and some other persons, almost everyone told me they are voting for Governor Obaseki, some even said they have voter's card but they have not voted before but because of Governor Obaseki, they will vote. I don't know where you are getting your statistics from, I went out myself to seek opinions, they are not even voting because of PDP but because of Obaseki. This Edo election is going to be more of candidate base.
Are you in benin? Let's go round tomorrow to see what is on ground. Don't base your findings on online.

Bighead9:
NA Pastor İze Iyamu we want

Stop using we.. You only know of yourself.

One of my colleagues did an online poll to know who have PVC to vote in Edo state election, because he was tired of the ranting online. He was so surprised that it was about 0.05% of about 10000 persons that have PVC. Out of the 0.05%, some will not be in Edo State on that day to vote while some just did voter's registration just to have the card to do other things.
Online wailings or ranting doesn't count because most of the people here can't vote because they don't have PVC, they are not from Edo State nor reside in Edo State.

NgeneUkwenu:
Even EDO PDP don’t trust Obaseki , they have a feeling he will do worst to them if re-elected...

You are now a soothsayer?
This election go shock many online wailers.

blowjohn:
Oga I dont need anyone to show me around.
What oshiomole did is still showing till today. No ne Benin wey I comot late last year. I stayed in benin for good 14 years

You are not even voting
No need to waste my time on you.

BlueBanana:
Bro, you have been wailing oo
E be lyk say Obaseki do you strong thing

Sha, no cry

He has been paid to be wailing, he has to work for his money. Edoites knows who they are voting for, all these posts or trends by the op will not mean anything.
Majority of Edoites are not even on Nairaland, well, I'm a full Edoite, I have my PVC to vote.
Mr op, have called you severally for a debate, you have refused. Everyone might be surprise that op doesn't even have PVC to vote or he is not even from Edo State nor reside in Edo.
Op, keep on wailing, it's a nice job.

blowjohn:
Go to edo or benin and see if u will see anything obaseki has done.
He is busy calling himself the president's son.
What oshiomole did in his first year, obaseki has not done 1 quarter.

If you are in Benin City, let's meet tomorrow so I can show you what Obaseki have done since you are politically blind. If you are bold, reply, let me give you my number. I will sacrifice tomorrow for the purpose.

OKorowanta:
Instead of you to pray make INEC no give Obaseki third position,you dey bring in weed.
Trust INEC at your own peril.

You are supporting illegality?
Federal might and Inec manipulations hardly work in Edo State. I talk as an Edoites. This Edo election will mark a political revolution in Nigeria. Just be patient, September 19 is not far again.
Alot of Edoites didn't vote in 2019, but they have vow to vote to teach Oshiomole a lesson.

PIMPAR:
What has Obaseki done in Edo in the last 4 yrs?
Mou Gov.
Even Ebonyi with lesser allocation is doing far better than this sleeping MOU Gov

You are politically blind for you not to see what Obaseki have done in Edo State. Why is it now APC apologists are now coming to fight the governor? Because he is no longer in dead APC? You travel before or na now you wake up from your slumber? Guy, wise up. I moved round some part of Benin on Monday to seek people opinions about the election, almost everyone I spoke with are in support of Obaseki. These people are workers, pensioners, drivers and market men and women. I'm so very sure, Obaseki will win Edo South and Edo Central. Edo North will be share. Stop ranting here, come on ground to do the survey, you will be ashame of supporting Ize Iyamu.
Alot of things will work against Ize Iyamu
1) His attitude of decamping, Edoites sees it as over desperation
2) Godfatherism Oshiomole tried to play
3) Edoites love PDP, go check voting patterns
4) Obaseki prompt payment of workers salaries and pensioners and other developmental strides which are too numerous to mention. No pensioners lost their lives again because they are no longer subdue to unnecessary screening. Edo have never experienced any strike since Obaseki came to power.
5) People feel Ize Iyamu will bring Tony Kabaka back to continue his agberoism. Market men and women, bus and car drivers don't want to experience his brutality again. Tony Kabaka celebrating billions of assets will also work against APC and Ize Iyamu
6) Oshiomole confessions against Ize Iyamu will work against APC. The videos and messages of Oshiomole against Ize Iyamu in 2016 are still fresh.
7) Edo State people knows how to collect money and vote for their choice, it's only a few that will vote for money.
APC and Ize Iyamu dependence is on federal might which is not going to work.