₦airaland Forum

EzzyCarter:
If someone can quit a club he has loved for so many years over a string of bad times and switch to another club, then don't be shocked if as your friend they walk away when things go bad for you. Reason am

I think the period of no success far outweighs the period of success..... However, you can still remain with the club if there is hope ( or like girls would say, if he is ambitious and hardworking)....You are who you associate with associate with failure and it will drag you down

Why are people complaining.....It is quite simple....in the list of wanted criminals

6 Nigerians are the most wanted

People are shouting end time father up and down.....in reality if she is an adult and wants to do that what will you do.....the worst is disown her

We Nigerians always try to hide behind God forbid in perceived unfavorable situations.....but the reality is that these things do happen. The question is how would you react? And would that have been your best course of action

paulolee:
bad but that is his own opinion and his choice, besides i think he just said it to seek attention,
and even if he chooses to give his daughter such advice, that's a family matter and i see no reason why the mods should bring it to f.p because it's none of our business

actually it is not his choice....it is his daughter's choice.....he only said he will respect it and advise her

Sometimes we forget that men in this country are allowed to marry more than one wife.....what we sometimes call side chick might actually be an ongoing courtship. And like every courtship it might end up in marriage or break up

The above might not apply in this case

Iceyjayz:
Fool! are you my account manager? what I have in my account can buy all of you in your family.

so if his family costs less than 5k, that could mean you still have less than 5k in your acct

He probably went home to whine about how his team mates are not passing to him like Benzema used to

DenreleDave:
Don't push yourself on any guy, place yourself on a platform of respect.. Don't force any guy to love u, u wash his cloth, warm his body whenever he feels cold, sex him whenever he is Hot, u cohabit with him when he has nt made any move to wife you. You don't have a plan, no focus, all you know is him. You depend on him for everything you want, you have abandoned yourself and personal development.. All you just want his make him feel okay, he keeps achieving his but your own is halted.

Pussy loses value over time, it's not worth invest your future on.. Wear and tear depreciation.

Some of you even abandoned your education for a guy because he is already rich, hence, you don't need a certificate, you don't need a skill, you don't need any hustle... It will shock you when he starts treating you like a trash.

Short story: I have a female frnd (Shola, nt real name), she has a frnd (bisi). Bisi met a guy when he was in school, well to do guy. Bisi got pregnant for him and she dropped out coz the guy is very okay... The guy even rented a shop for her and fast forward, he started misbehaving.. The girl na drop out, she no get any skill notin notin.. All she have is herself and what she offered the guy (pussy). Even their kid is with her mother since the guy has finally ignored her.. Bisi came to Shola now coz she needs a place to stay and a job.. Shola was like when Bisi dey enjoy her man, the money n all, Bisi no remember her but Shola helped her secured a job now sha..

My point : don't let any guy deceive you with I will take care of you.. I will set up for you, you don't need any skill or cert... Don't sacrifice your future for money, develop yourself...

Don't let guys see you as an object of ridicule.. The truth is once serious guys hear that u r a single mother or hear a story that one guy housed u for like years and he didn't marry, he will think twice about you..

Moreover don't live your life for a man, live because you are a lady of value which no man can toss any how..

Be wise..... Don't sacrifice your future on the altar of love... Build yourself.. Respect yourself.. See ur man as a co-factor not as the main determinant..

We are all men and women of value

Good advice....and one all ladies should take....at the end of the day it is you by yourself.....ensure that at any point in time no man can give you crap, because you don't depend on him for nothing.....Broke up once because of this.....she felt I was the centre of her world when in my mind I was like she had to be selfish....ensure she did things for herself and not because it suited me or I wanted it

Ejenavi18:

I wonder what's going through the heads of these rapists sef. They've now upgraded from just rape to rape and murder.
It will never be well with them... Amen..

On the other hand, females should be very careful when moving about; avoid secluded places, don't dress provocatively, always go in groups since they're more vulnerable to rape.
The government too should enact strict penalty for these rapists/murderers since these rape incidences is becoming quite alarming.

please can you do without the don't dress provocatively.....these cases have nothing to do with dressing....the rapists are the problem....not the lady wearing hijab or the student reading in church and even if a lady decides to wear pant and bra it is nobody's business.....if the dressing is against the law, then there are people assigned to deal with that.

Raping is not dressing, it is a crime committed by the rapist not the victim

Freestainworld:
life is tough, you have to be tough to survive, prostitution is never the answer, I understand her predicament, i wish God visits her in a way she never forgets.

Why will you conclude on "prostitution in never the answer" after listening to her story. I just tire for some of you

Esseite:
Not when these same countries are shifting trade to the Chinese while the US is spending big protecting them while running into debts and its factories leaving for china.

US was balancing trade deficits playing big brother like its does with Nigeria by giving Grant's and debt relief etc...

Trump is only saying, "put your money where your mouth is"..

Even US biggest companies all have factories in China.....the market is dictated by price.....and the bitter truth is that it is cheaper in China. But then it is the US troops they can do what they want with it..... hopefully they have counted the cost because all I see is an act of bullying which has been the major instrument of the present administration (which was the case with 5G)....play ball our way or we take this and that, but people don't like to be Bullied

Esseite:
Trump has shown that the US has really been baby feeding most "developed" nations, while similar nations careless.

You would have noticed most of his policies have been geared towards nations and organisations being independent and not living off at the detriment of the US.

The US baby feeds them so they can remain the no. 1 country.....once they start pulling away countries might decide to find a new no.1 and guess who is willing to pay big brother?

And once that happens US would lose its relevance and control in key sectors.

What you call baby feeding is chicken change compared to the gains of being the No.1 Nation.

JourneytoEL:
1. You have a gift from God

Every Christian has a gift from God and these gifts are unequally distributed. Dele can have the gift of prophecy,deliverance and healing while his twin brother Chike can have the gift of singing. Esther can have the gift of evangelism and composing songs while her best friend Dinma can be good at interpreting dreams. No matter how big or small you are you have a gift. Your position and career can also be God's gift to you and you have the responsibility of using the gift/career for the Glory of the God. Been a doctor can be God's gift to you and you have the responsibility of giving the hope of Christ to your patients in despair.

Been a lawyer can be yours and you have the responsibility of fighting for justice. Same with the actors, musicians, lecturers, graphic artists, writers, policemen, instrumentalists, and the list is endless. Even if you are great at swepping and cleaning, use that gift to work for God. Been alive alone is a gift. Your youth and health is also a gift. Ask yourself now, what is my gift and how can I use it to win souls for God.

2. Don't be jealous over your neighbour's gift.

God will only give you what you can handle.
Vs 15 says and He gave each according to his ability. God gave you your gift because in His wisdom he knows you can handle it. So, why get jealous over another's. Can you handle the cross that comes with his gift? Can you withstand the challenges he faced while growing his gift? Don't be envious of another's gift rather praise God for yours and for others too and work towards using yours for His kingdom. Remember, the spirit of envy comes from the enemy, repent of every envious thought you have ever had towards others and pray for the Grace not to do it again.

3. How you use your gift can affect your journey in life.

You have been praying for a promotion at work or more clients and when it does not happen as you wish you say, there is no God, if he exists he hates me. But, the message from God to you today is, how did you work for him with what you had.

Vs 23 says “His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. The more you labour for God, the higher your elevation according to His wish. Repent from lukewarmness and pray for the anointing to work for him.

4. You will give an account one day.

Always remember that the day is coming when you will stand before His throne and give an account of how you used your gift.

John 15:2 says, He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. Refuse to be he that bears no fruit today. The best time to make that decision is now. Pray to God for the strength to work for him and he will answer you.

Share other lessons you learnt from this parable.

Does this apply to money too, do we only get what we can handle?

TheSourcerer:
the bible

and for those that don't adopt the Bible?

Sugarpearlry:
Don't feign ignorance, like he said, ' deep within everyone knows what is right.

sex between consenting adults is not one of them. What is wrong that you know deep within are those things you do that hurt others. Sex is not one of them

mignone:
Not everyone is reckless though. It's only that the abominable has become d normal. We've replaced morals&correction with "Don't judge, are u a saint? He who has no sin..., etc".
Where as deep within, everyone knows what is right.

The abominable? And what makes it abominable?

Egungun has entered the express

dominique:
Only?!?!?! Bad enough that you people trivialize and justify physical assault on females, babies too? The mindset of the average Nigerian male is very worrying

But that was his fault..... before that according to the story, he has been helpful.

Kizzygentle:
Enough of this rape clouts abeg. So u were all waiting for uwa to die before u would all come out. Shame to you ladies coming out now. Tomorrow we will hear one aliyu raped 1000girls in kaduna 5years ago. Abeg make we hear new things jor.

see the nonsense you are saying..... Aren't you amongst those that will still say she deserved it if she came out earlier..... Probably when it hits close to home you will understand better. A lot and I mean a lot of girls get raped, but this society with people like you in it will always do their utmost to ensure they can't speak out.

Shame on you

liberalchick:
An ‘easy’ marriage is not common even for those in-love. Sometimes I think the concept of marriage is unnatural but necessary. If I am single again (knock on wood) in the future, I wouldn’t want to get married again. Some marriages have its ebbs and flows. The first two years can be difficult for obvious reasons. Then marriage challenges in year 8 (that’s generally the time some marriages hit a wall).

DH and I are in cruise control now, children are getting older, careers are taking off with more responsibilities. They say if you make it past year 7-8 unscathed, you are good.

Modified.

why do you say it is necessary?

Cloud699999:
Good morning Nairalander,

It all started Last week When a neighbor next to my apartment died without nobody noticing for 2 days until she started smelling. We didn't actually suspect that it was from her room until someone came looking for her because she wasn't answering her phone, which was still ringing inside and the door was locked from the inside that was how we knew she was dead, already swollen because the last time we saw was Sunday night and we didn't know untill Tuesday that she was dead.

All this happened last week. Later that Tueday family and friends with police came to evacuate her corpse. No foul play or any struggle seems she died in her sleep. She was young and a very playful lady and lively. She is 36 years old single mother and she lives.

So the haunting started 2 days later. The First one happened around 2am, My girlfriend said she saw someone looking like standing by the door outside just staring straight at her, there was no light and the window was open, so when she pointed torch light she saw nothing but when she switch the torch light, she saw the shadow of the same person. That really scared shit out of me because she later told me in the morning.

The second was last night. Someone was banging seriously on the toilet window because it's an iron window. The banging continue for almost 3hours. It was double banging as if someone was knocking hard. I doubt it was someone when I try I check I couldn't find anyone there, few minute later the banging continue till around 4.30am when mosque call out for prayer. And I could here some here some sound like someone walking in the next room where she died, no one was home. Her sister refuse to sleep in the room so it was locked.

Please help, how can I get rid of this unwanted disturbances. I don't know what to do. This last night scare me to the bone. The funniest thing. No one heard this banging except me. The other neighbors have different theory.

Anyone experience this kind of thing before? How did you handle it?

call ghost busters.....0800-Ghostbust

MelaninSkinGirl:
And Married women are ecstatic?

they are the ones that asked for it

MelaninSkinGirl:
Studies show married men are happier and live longer than their single/divorced/widowed counterparts. Single/Widowed/Divorced men are more depressed and suicidal than their married counterparts.

On the other hand, studies show that Single women live longer than their married counterparts, they also retain their figures and beauty longer than their married counterparts.

These studies show that the main benefactors of marriage is the Men. Make of that what you want!!!

which yeye study is that? Married men are miserable....

Naija246:
the biggest mistake in my opinion is to even consider marriage

Guys should know that you will enjoy your life far better when you are single than when married.
Being single affords you the luxury of:
-developing new skills
-saving a chunk of what you earn
-it affords you the opportunity to travel more.
-you will age slower(due to less stress)
Etc
The benefits of single life for a man far outweighs the pros of being married.
We men are doing Women a HUGE!! favor by marrying them.

guys, don't let any lady sell you the idea that marriage benefits you.. it's a scam!!
Marriage benefits Women not men!!
Hoard your ring!!

Best words of 2020.... look at the pros of being single vs being married and reach your decision

Kobojunkie:
There is nothing naive about selling another human being, no matter how small.

naive means she could have seen it as a way to give the baby a better life and cash out at the same time without thought to the fact that she was selling a human

Kobojunkie:
BullPiss! Why in the world is killing the baby the only other option your mind can come up with?

She could have dropped the baby off at a Church, a Hospital, an Abbey, a police station.... come on people.. even in the hell hole that is Nigeria to some of you, there are still common sense solutions in the worst of situations. She could have put the baby up for legal adoption.

And you think everyone has this information? You think all the 200 million people in Nigeria know where to head to when they have issues?

Kobojunkie:
STop trying to defend stupidity for pete's sake!
A human life exchanged life there... a human life and not guguru and ekpa! Take care of the gal's child? How do you know the couple where not simply looking for a baby for a voodoo ritual and a justification for obtaining one by their handing over of the 130K?

I don't understand your problem exactly......Have I defended the act of selling a human being.....I am saying it is time we go beyond the calling for the heads of people and start focusing on why they did what they did. The lady said she couldn't take care of the baby, you conveniently ignored that part and called it a lie but accepted the one where she said she sold the baby.

Not everything is black and white, not everyone can afford to take care of themselves not to talk of a child

When I was a little boy, I saw a woman with a child in her hand and was picking rice that fell from a rice sellers table into her plate. That is what she was going to use to feed herself and her baby

Golan007:
If they had given her 500 Naira for transportation works she have been happy the baby found the couple as her parents?

And if they had given her 130k would that have been bad as well?

The young lady was naive and probably saw it as a business opportunity to make some money out of the situation. But it doesn't change the fact that she cannot take care of the baby.

There is also the part of the couple being sincere in their plans for the child. That is another story

gretblue:
Don't rewrite the narration.. She didn't give, she sold the child. Stop promoting impunity

I am sure you saw where I wrote "the process was wrong".......

The way I see it yes she sold her baby probably on the advise of the guy that told her to keep it.

But this is just one case out of several cases that won't follow this same script, but will still see a baby exchange hands.

It won't change what these young ladies have to go through. Do we keep blaming the young ladies for giving away their kids? Or how many of us here will be willing to take in the child of another.

There are processes to this (adoption) how many people actually know what that process is?

My point is there is a bigger picture and we should all try and view it from the side of the young woman

Miracle1991:
go back and read again, she said she sold the baby, she didn't say she give the baby. She even said # 130,000 was the amount she sold. No wonder that region is full of criminals, you always try to defend them.

I am not defending anything......I was making a statement based on the fact that money changed hands.....simply saying it could be payment for goods or a gift

maak400:
130K for transport?!
Stop defending crime because they are your tribesmen, that’s why naija is in deep shit

lol....I am not defending crime and I am stating the obvious...... besides 130k is not too much to give anyone.

If I were in the shoes of the couple and had to take care of the girls child because she couldn't do so herself, I will certainly give her more than that 130k

Peterobi90:
Empty vessels really do make the loudest noise.. you attach facts to your profile name, but lack anything fact...

If you lack knowledge seek it, rather than making mockery of yourself... lagos state destroys thousands of bikes quarterly, its public knowledge..

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.nairaland.com/1070267/lagos-destroys-3000-seized-okadas&ved=2ahUKEwj67ua1gbDpAhUylHIEHSVgANMQFjAJegQICBAB&usg=AOvVaw1JIlXMvTT8JYiAbOd4yr7P

I like that you brought out this article......now read through the comments, people did not agree with crushing the bikes