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naijamark:
this is the most fascinating thread on nairaland.

Uspry1, te siwaju ninun ede Yoruba, o rorun pupo.

@naijamark

Tayotayo, o feran fascinating thread temi nihinyi on NL.

Bee-ni, o rorun fun emi ye die ati te siwanu ede Yoruba pupo! Still k-leg learn ede Yoruba!

@all

Se ore mi gbo-gbo e wa daa-daa? Fun emi, gbo-gbo e wa daa-daa!

LadyT:
Look shes bang out of order for letting him assume but assumption is very dangerous!

@Lady T

Who told you assumption is DANGEROUS?

Assumption = guess, estimate, reason, no consequence/no proof--- no matter it is wrong or right!

But lying is worse, DANGEROUS! Lie = Dishonesty, distrust, deceit, fool, sly as a fox, slick, goes on listing===it has consequence---GUILTY AS CHARGE! !

If you are in polygamous relationship, then why not you can be in love with two people simultaneously? _{(for polygamous marriage only in Africa or m.ulsim countries but forbid in other countries)}

nothing wrong with husband and wife in the same profession as long as both has agreed commitment equally.

It is cool!!! I would accept for my man same or similar profession running our entrepreneurship---saving money to take vacation, travel together, take break, etc as well as exciting sharing ideas/brainstorms/market promotions---the same philosophy and mission statement/objective.

I am the first born of two girls, female, deaf in my whole family who are hearing - - -all of them.

I am talented and gifted child---computer age while my family are old-fashioned christianity rural age---still lags far behind in computer technology world. They all always depend on me when their computer shut down.

Not easy to grow up as a deaf child in all my hearing family.

@poster

Nope, you do not love her (asewo), you just used her to pay for her sex(her body)---no string attached! period!!! Vice versa, asewo do not love you neither!

Unless you fall in love with asewo with great patience of take care of her, I mean lot of attentive, affectionate, cherish, etc. in order to get married her, then asewo will maybe slowly love you more.

Refer to the bible in the book of Hosea! Hosea is a wealthy man who married a asewo under God's command.

Preach abstinence or condom distributed at churches DOES NOT WORK! 

I prefer for MOST CHURCHES have their own either electronic visual projection screen or large poster flip-chart stand accessible showing grotesque graphically real pictures of all patients including their private parts who are HIV/AID, gonorrhea/syphillis, STD, include infected yellowish pus, busted sore opening privates, goes on!!! It was worked at all public schools at my time early 1980s long before the USA sex education went BANNED!!!

I really mean it---REAL DISGUSTED to see it REAL PATIENTS with those all kinds of diseases---that make several students at school assembly RUNNING OUT vomitting in bathrooms. 

I was the last group back 1980s saw everything---i will never forget. I limited whom I dated with all my life, not want multiple partners! I have my rights asking my man about his past relationship in order to protect my life!

@poster

Yes some people out there without love and passion! It is called NSA (stands for NO STRING ATTACHED) relationship, casual relationship, or sex relationship without benefits.

It means no love/romance emotional attached when it comes to relationship!!! However, some people can do committed string attached (emotionally) long-time relationship without getting married!

What do you think why most people are not interested in getting married in the first place but rather SA or NSA relationship due to HIGH DIVORCE RATES out there.

@poster

Have you thought that your EX might be your ASHEWO in order to collect your compensation whatever you invited her having one-night stand? You might not know your EX's past background.

Maybe I am wrong!!!

@poster

I had the similiar situation you have right now with two young Nigerians unmarried couple (bf/gf) few weeks ago because I am older, experienced and wiser plus understand Nigeria culture. A  Nigerian guy from NL sought my advise and requested me as mediator between two people via YIM with my webcam.

After I explained to Nigerian guy's gal situation, a guy had great mistake getting involved two girls just like Nelson you mentioned. This guy has already arranged marriage by his family and has seen his wife-to-be frequently at the same time seeing this girl who comes to his house. This guy wants ending his relationship with this girl in order to encourage her to find someone new. But this girl refuses to let him go- - -wants him---threatens his wife-to-be. What a mess!!!

Unfortunately i have not heard both of them so far. I don't know what was their outcome? This girl is fresh college student at 19, and this guy is very much older---"pre-middle age". I don't remember his wife-to-be's age. Age difference does not affect to each other. That's all!!!

stillwater:
How can a stick be sexy?

@stillwater

I guess @tommy really mean that he can't marry sexy as wooden log stiff in bed! (frigid)

@topic: What Turns Men On?

1. able to carry conversation anything interesting same level as guy do.

2. sexual compatible, not wooden log stiff or inexperience ones

3. inner beauty, intelligent, and motivation

4. sense of humor

5. no gold digger/materialistic/baby mama drama

6. fashionable clothings, good hygeine

7. know men's favorite hobby to talk or encourage their skills boost! (computer jargon, car stuff, investment, entrenuprership) woman is familiar with.

8. many many more to tick man come back stay relationship longer.

pahtahkee:
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! What is your password?

Thou shall not lead me into temptations, I can find it on my own

@pahtahkee

You cannot get forbidden password because you quoted,"Thou shall not lead yourself into temptation", then wetin dey you nibi yi on the romance section? Go religion section ati pray harder ati harder to renew your mind!

tommyex:
Hey HURRAY!!

HE WON GOLD IN THE Dating olympics. . .
Punk

Very funny! He ain't get GOLD MEDAL on the FAKE SANDOKA DATING OLYMPIC!!!! More like fake gold plastic toy medal he get, because USA not able to afford produce REAL GOLD. Sorry O O O O!

[quote author=D-reloaded link=topic=116344.msg2006790#msg2006790 date=1204234575]I'm quite aware no one is perfect but I can personally say for MYSELF that I wouldnt sleep with someone I don't trust. My imperfections and hypocrisy lie elsewhere.

Anyway Most guys tend not to care if even aya mantanga is in their bed so I'm not surprised[/quote]@D-reloaded

Not even your exbf you don't trust, you won't sleep exbf? ? That what @tommy tried say!

wetin hard to believe to hear that (condom stuck 4 2-days)! @adeboo  

My past experience to share with you all:

10 years ago, I had one-night stand with white deaf dude (i know him well) at a hotel for our deaf big event at my alma mater university. I arrived hotel first b4 him to get room in prepare for me insert a spermicide suppository into my vagina pushing up to my cervix that dissolved about 20 minutes to become effective. Of course I had alternative contraceptive at that time---but for me double sex protection.

Then he arrived at the hotel just right time putting his condom and we were doing our thing. After he pulled out his manhood, he began panicked telling me that his condom went loose inside me. I told him calm down and i would pull it out for you.

He freaked me out. He pulled his hairs worrying about spilling sperm inside me. I assured telling him that it won't happen (sperm spilled) because i already inserted spermicide suppository 20 minutes ago before we doing thingy. He still don't believe me.

Two week later when i got my period letting him know via IM/email that i did not get pregnant at all! He ought to trust me knowing what i am doing! What a laugh!

pahtahkee:
Haha, Ore mi Uspry1,

Ba wo ni o? Sho wa pa? Mo ri wipe O ti so yoruba di e di e . Ma gbinyanju si oh.

Eyi jo mi loju gan oh.

O dabo na.

@pahtahkee

Whew! Ko ye na wetin e yarn ati mo wa timo above quote k-leg.

Se e yarn eyi English? below:

Hello O! What's up? I never wipe. Yoruba is not so complicated. (or It is not so yoruba complicated).  You take more courage (study more).

This crack me before exactly. (or This crack me up exactly) Oh!

Se eyi timo mi correct mentioned above, @pahtahkee?

Odabo ore mi!

@poster
Yes men can hurt as much as women do equally.

Majority men have been taught not to show emotions since slavery took place 400 years ago like @4Him and @Encomium have said it.

@4Him

I used to date with a guy who was super sensitive than mine even weeping over Veteran War memorial and Memorial day (USA holiday) to honor fallen soliders, he let me consoled him. I don't mind! It does not make him weak! He was just human being like everyone else.

Same old AD i have seen this before last year by different posters.

I ain't no time to pull existing thread showing the same old AD!

BTW, i did googled finding existing thread, it was deleted by the admin. (all 4 threads)

@poster
Congratulate! May God be with you!

I will marry for both: money and love to be balance for establishing the strongest foundation of our marriage and avoid that type of man like @efuah has said it all.

Ba wo ni ore mi, E ku irole! Se gbo-gbo daa-daa wa?

Nibo ni olukuluku enia wa?

Nihinyi, gbo-gbo e wa daa-daa!

check out new TV episodes,

[quote author=D-reloaded link=topic=115558.msg2002578#msg2002578 date=1204143391]uspry and adeboo, are you two justifying cheating or what?

From what I;'ve read, all I see is blame being placed on females

blah blah the woman doesnt like sex

What woman would run from sex if it's good enough to make her crazy?[/quote]@D-reloaded, I answered to the topic question: Why Do Husbands Cheat On Their Wives?

if you really want to know why a man cheats, please read the book by Michael Baisden called "Never Satisfied: How and Why Men Cheat". It will open your eyes thats for sure. http://www.michaelbaisden.com/

Also other books available at below:

"Men Cry In The Dark" (I have read this and above book)

"The Maintenance Man"

"God's Gift to Women"

Michael Baisden is American-african writer and popular host on his own tv talk show "Baisden After Dark" and New York (US) radio 98.7 KISS FM.

BTW, i do aware that wives do also cheat on their husbands the same!!! No Difference!!!

LadyT:
Classical African male,

Female:  I'm fine thank you.  Hard day at work.
African Male hears: I love you so much darling

Female: How was your day?
African Male hears: Sweetrat I need you, you know,

Female: No I wok in fashion
African Male hears: I need to marry you and have your babies NOW!

Those kinid of conversation is typically of young African guys between 18 to 25 years old, more likely yahoo boys.

Not for me to keep all ex-lovers include ex-husband as friends- - - no thanks!

@poster

I had been thru before. Yes, you are correct that only uneducated or desperately immature jobless African guy DO NOT UNDERSTAND the meaning of PLATONIC FRIENDSHIP of opposite sex, while real matured African guys do understand the meaning of platonic friendship.

You can see the difference.  Most immature African guys CANNOT STAND hearing the word "FRIENDSHIP" of opposite sex, expect to date the next level of the relationship.

You also should make aware the fact there is pest NL members out there.

Next time when you have conversed with an African guy, you speak straightforward saying, "sure, you can have only strictly platonic friend and keep in your mind that I have a fiancee." If he does not like it, then you have your rights to block him off your email or IM.

I have not bothered like that or I removed my email/IM off my NL profile.

Not necessary to have big wedding! I rather small simple wedding at least between 25-100 people at church or outside beautiful scenic place filling with visually equipped(i mean videographers and photographers) as well as sign language interpreting provided with deaf choir singing in sing language.

In my previous marriage, I never been wedded in a church. Done in a small private family-only wedding right at my parent's house with family friend ordained pastor and unsigned marriage certificate my previous husband and I paid for. There were only 15 family members/relatives invited to attend including potluck wedding reception.

I wore my silk-laced blue-sky prom dress from secondary school that fit me well despite of my 7-month pregnant (to people i look like 3-months pregnant---very small frame petite). My previous husband wore navy blue church suit. It was beautiful ceremony I ever had before my first child was born. That was 20 years ago!

@Fredrika

Don't worry about your husband walked out you. Give him time. Set your highly priority on the following things you should do:

1) forgeting about going full-time school you currently study. Either changing part-time student or place them on hold as academic leave temporarily.

2) taking care of your children and yourself to get start full-time housewife until you find someone help you out.

3) if your husband come back, don't talk back or nagging, just listen what your husband say to make things work out with him for your marriage and children's sake.

4) if he is not come back, you have prepare the worse to think about how can you take care of children and yourself financially and responsibly?

I disagree with having boyfriend assist me financially without my request to ask. I am very much financial independence where most guys are not comfortable with.

Only husband if I marry,is allowing to assist me financially as it arises in emergency circumstances.

minute:
 

iyen de funny gan

uspry1 she alafia lowa?

@minute
Bee-ni, my posting above (yahoo-boy/Nigeria culture) de gwan idanwo mo ni amoye gan! Bee-ni, mo wa alafia!

I bet @sleekmike has secret things he do at below:

1) has crush on Denex, fancying his debate style on NL posting he miss so much!

2) has desire to date huge busty big bone lady. Not accept dating slim lady.

3) possible to consider alternative lifestyle if not found right soulmate.

4) has sex fanasty all the time! But not much interested in sex.

DISCLAIMER: his secret is out revealing somewhere---NL knows how good I am! Maybe i am wrong!!!

masam:
Tanx all for your responses and criticisms, but i wonder if any of u has ever heard of 'love triangle'?
I am not a player or irresponsible as alleged by some, because if i am i'll not deem it fit to come to naira land and seek honest counsel from honourable members,so please people advice me rather than crucifying an innocent man who is emotionally troubled.

@masam

It does not matter whether if you are in LOVE TRIANGLE or not, why not go ahead marry two ladies you are in love with as yourself polygamous guy that is allowed in Nigeria? Go for it while you have double pleasure to have two wives under one roof after marriage, no problem!!!

That is what you want!!! You do not need our Nairaland advise! Go ahead!