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ModelX:
Exactly.
Sometimes you have to wonder how fish brained women really are. Selfish too.
He didn't rape you bițch, he seduced you, he conned you, not once, not twice. Like you all females seduce and con men all your lives! You even fůcked on his car bonnet and again on the boot, in public! No wonder people called her a slůt, who knows how many eyes saw them! Oh and she calls it 'his white Mercedes'. At 18 years old oo. Ole.
My God, women are useless! Useless hos, even the most innocent looking of them.
Now she will ruin her weak husband, after manipulating him into supporting this foolishness and her crave for the pastor's renewed attention. Husband is butthurt because Pastor popped that cherry and she won't stop talking about it!
It's all so clear and so stupid drama. Kai I pity Timi Dakolo and the children.
Oh and Pastor I hope you get shot dead for taking full advantage of the badboy turned good image you purposely projected. You have had enough enjoyment for one life. I'm jealous goddammit! Lucky sod but a useless conman.

OGa take am easy. Calm down.

No be fight.

Na WA o

Is the pastor himself not useless for taking advantage of his wealth and superiority to seduce her for sex. He's as much useless as her self.

They are both useless. The Pastor is not a saint!

Dantedasz:
It is sad a woman wrote this. Even if she idolized him as a pastor,does that justify rape?
Women are the worst enemies of women.
Sad.

I know why I said it.

I was close to her situation before but I quickly cut off before it happened to me and before any sex could take place. I'm. Not her enemy. I'm simply saying the truth.
Let's leave sentiment apart and face the truth here.

And I will keep saying the underlying truth, whether anybody likes it or not

It wasn't rape.

mimicue:
Find your answer below

Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without that person's consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority, or against a person who is incapable of giving valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, has an intellectual disability or is below the legal age of consent.The term rape is sometimes used interchangeably with the term sexual assault.

My dear, she wasn't raped.

In big churhes with young looking pastors who are very successful and great with Bible verses and inspirational words with good dress sense. Majority of the women fall inlove with the pastors, both married and single ladies.

We all know deep in out hearts as we watch pastor preach on the pulpit, some admire, some fall in love, some feel passion, some feel adoration towards him, while some feel overwhelming respect towards him.
It all comes with the package of looking good, the show of affluence and been spirit filled with the word.
I'm not saying women who feel. Like that are wrong in having such feelings. But the problem I see here is when a woman who wish she was his lover for life or wife, realise it cannot happen after having sex with him.

And it's very wrong of him to play with any lady's feelings he fancies, extremely wrong of him but I will not say he raped her. At all that not rape.

In my former church,my Pastor is all that, rich, dresses to the teeth, preaches well and performs miracles and has a dazzling smile but I realise along the line, we simply like each other. He loves advising me separately , touch my hands if he wants to say something to me, lock eyes with me when preaching or talking with me and I was enjoying the attention. But later I realised I was falling for him.. He knew as well. I had to retrace my steps back and remind myself he's a man of God and married too. This can't be happening.

So what break the camels back was when he insisted I become a worker in church, a choirister . I told him point blank, I'm sorry Sir I can't be a worker. He knew why. Feelings was already flying. I knew in due time, story go soon change.

I was standing infront of him ,his wife and another worker, and I said I'm. Sorry sir I cannot be a worker. He said what? He looked at me. I ignored his gaze and repeated same thing. He looked down and asked why?
I replied : I'm not spiritually led sir, I'm sorry. My spirit is not saying go ahead.
He replied : But thats not a good excuse , what has your spirit got to do with it?
I replied : it's not an excuse sir, I'm just not ready for It .
His wife butt it : but daddy she said she does not want to be a worker, let her be( as if she looks at him angrily and at me as well)
He replied : hmm, OK but remember this topic is not over yet. You need to be come a worker.
I replied : excuse me sir, pls I need to take my Leave, it's already late in the evening .
He replied : OK but tomorrow we will talk about it again. You must join the choir.

I left in my mind. I said to myself, I'm not coming Any inch again close to you by becoming a worker, and that's final.

After three weeks I left the church when he flared at me angrily for keeping away from church for two weeks. I realise this has turned into another thing. Mehn I can't take this pressure anymore. Is it byforce to become worker and be around him all the time?

I'm done here ! I left peacefully with my pride Intact!


So ladies claiming rape, have already seen the signs before it happened and they feign ignorance, thinking he will marry them or date them. But he simply just have sex, zip and say please no one especially my wife should hear about what happened between us, they become vengeful and angry, saying. It's rape.

My sister it's not rape in most cases. They can use another term to teach the pastor a good lesson by not sleeping around with women but no need using rape as a measure of punishment.

I rest my case

Then lastly, self control is the key word. If you know u can't control yourself around your flashy Pastor? Please leave that church! Don't go back! Word!

Berankis:
Woman u no need am! You are married to someone now, pls let the past remain buried. You have nothing to gain from this chapter you about to start.

She wants to trend, by all means no matter how silly her case looks.

She had better focus on her family, cos if he decides to sue! She won't like it one bit.

That's what idleness cause in one's life.

And Tim is so dumb sha.

It wasn't rape! She idolized him and he took advantage simple!

Canadanow:
This is why I stopped going to church. When I realized I was bleeping thesame babe with my Rev. Fr. This isn't a joke. Happened when I was still in school.
That was the day I started paying tithes to myself and doing mass[service] in my living room.
E Don sure die sey na hell some pastors dey go.
Only God knows how many girls the pastor go don sleep with. Make we no lie, the man na many women's crush.

You are right

I feel she was crushing on him back then and possibly still is. If not? At that age she's not a kid when he came to her living room and she was on nightie.
She could have struggled and stopped him but she didn't. Then another shocking thing is if she was really raped and not consensual, why go to his church on Sunday again? Why not cry out that day she was raped and also cry out again when her sisters ushered her to follow them to church.
Why go through the process of carrying his new born baby after been raped?

Does that make sense?

It doesn't.

I'm not a member of coza, I don't know their pastor from Adams. But her story doesn't add up. No court will prosecute the pastor.
Why?

She didn't behave like a rape victim. Neither did she stop going to his church!

And why talk now after many years?

She simply felt ashamed and still feels ashamed she didn't put up any fight that day he had sex with her. So it's easy to term it as rape! But it's not rape my sister. Fnd another word for it.

That's why I didn't want to be a worker in church.

I can't shout

TANID:
Hmmmm! I Might Not Agree With You And Khiaa On This Your Opinion, Even Though You And Khiaa Are With Meaningful Point.

My dear please agree with me on this. I'm serious here
Have had this experience first hand I swear. And i felt depressed, sad, suicidal all through the relationship with the first guy, I ever known when I was just 21. Mehn that guy can kill dreams all in the name of love. Worst ever first relationship of my life!
When khiaa mentioned those traits, my mind flashed back to my ex.
And just yesterday my neighbor, a matured man of 50 . We were gisting about men and women. When I told him what happened between me and my first ex. He said I was at fault? I asked why am I at fault? He said my ex might have had great plans for me career wise but I was determined to follow my passion in fashion design during my course study Of Marine biology in the university
My plan was to graduate with good grades , then head to fashion school and learn my true love ( fashion). And if I marry along the line, no wahala. It's all good as well.
What annoys me most, was when this man said I'm meant to understand a man and knows his weak points. I was like really? I met my ex at age 19 , he claims he wants marriage, I said OK but remember I need to go into fashion design after my grad. He was firmly against fashion design after introduction was made.
Fashion design that have been dreaming from birth to become and u are about crashing my dreams infront of. Me career wise

And u said I should understand a man at that point?

For crying out loud! I'm just 19! Focused on graduating with good grades. What do I know about man at that period of my life!
He's meant to be patient with me ,teach me stuffs with patience. No yell and shout. Or threaten I'm not deaf! Also allow me achieve my dreams. Not been so obsessive and trying to control my every move! You can't clip my wings, if I want to fly! I will fucvking fly! That's who I am. Don't oppress me in the name of love and marriage. Cause u won't like the outcome.

If I start understanding men at that age? I would have been a single mother with kids by now! Oh yes with kids! Then the 50 years old man kept quiet and said oh well! I said look when a girl is growing and in tertiary institution, she can't wait to achieve all her dreams. Parents have controlled one already from birth till one graduates, Fine! I accept because they are my parents.

But the man I will marry should not continue with such control. Cause Im tired of been controlled and a guy breathing down my neck to live One of his fantasized career wise . Mehn! It won't work. Ko Le werk!
Simple advice me, and if u want me to add another career u love so much as a guy. Talk to me about it but don't shove or dismiss what I want to be in life and force yours down my throat. It won't work! And most men for you. So obsessive!

Phew! Sighs

The guy should ignore people mocking him. He's the first to look ugly, neither will he be the last. He can go for constructive surgery to tone down his mouth region. It's not hard to achieve. People will mock no matter how u look.

If I post my full pics online, some people will say I'm cowbell, some will say I'm too fat, some will say I'm gorgeous, while some will be like wow! Babe can I send pm? That's people for us and I care less. And my Yanga no be here!

Love, pamper and appreciate yourself. To hell with what others says about u? Just be you. I have a friend way back, he's tall but ugly facially, and his body frame looks like a thug. Lol. But guess what? He owns two companiees in the UK, one of his companies is into estates. Only him has 15 blocks of houses splattered all over UK. He is so humble, friendly and funny. If you can get past his ugly menacing looks and he helps in time of need, as in dash money in pounds! If you are his sincere friend. He will say he borrowed u the money but in reality he has dashed u and he won't collect it back, friendship continues. Next time he will still give again. This guy is fucvking rich! Babes are always scared of him. Even the first day I saw him I was scared lol. But later his friend who looks so innocent assured me that he's a good guy and soft inside. I should forget his looks, Na as God create am. He can't hurt a fly. Later I realised its true. He's so soft within.

So forget what people says, Na their way!

khiaa:
This whole write-up is nothing but a fantasy/fairytale created in the mind of the op. "Nigerian men are the sexiest men in the world", "are well built" (with those big fat tummies)? Thanks for the laugh.. You guys are overbearing, controlling, possessive, oppressive, insecure when it comes to your woman and just all out exhausting. Oh, I can't forget unfaithful. All of you are like this, yes I mean ALL of you, except Alezy. Who agrees with with me?

You are so right.

Except a lady is not dating the man, that's where she can have breath of fresh air.

nuelyoyo:
please which business is she into? Do you know her personally?

Don't you know her?

Shes an actress in Nollywood

jy2kbeyond:
See how you are hiding under the cliche of "If you know, you know"
Kindly enlighten us to Madam Wikipedia.

Bobo yi, what's your own na?

Are u the father of the kid?

AnalQueenluci:
U jam amatarasha u cold ,na 4 victorian body u dey get power

Dont mind him, I have placed him where he belongs. In the trash bin!

He's very stupid.

I won't be surprised if she's the one who paid for the shopping items herself.

Flavour just tag along.. Hahahahahahahaaha

I know all their secrets! Lol

The last I heard her dad is a multi millionaire or so.

All to pepper the second baby mama. Is it not Nigerian women again?

They can pay for all their shopping with Le Boo, making it look like boo is spendin his hard earned cash on her.
If you know you know

Ladies aspiring to be baby mamas to some artists, I pity Una

jy2kbeyond:
WHICH BUSINESS?

Abeg I'm not in a good mood tonight

If you know, you know


If you don't know well I can't say more than that..

I don't have strength to argue all night.

Kneephy:
I bim reason say na wife family dey spend money pass for wedding, Abi ur wife families na ajekpako crew??

When a man wants to marry a woman by all means. He spends on the wedding ,like no tomorrow.

She didn't want to marry him initially but he had to bribe her family to make her see, his the best thing to happen in any woman's life. After bribing the family with money and gifts. Her family sweet talked her on how lucky she will be having him as a husband. He's the best husband material of them all.

She fell for the oldest tricks in the book: Bribe the family and the girl becomes yours.

So it's his call if he's waiting for her to place a dime on the wedding. I think he must have sponsored everything from bride's outfits to bridal train and even her parents clothes.

Such is life.
Family can push one into deep hole sha

Na their way.

Upon as she's given birth. The Buisness still continues.

Na wa!

TANID:
You Can Reply Anytime Princess Viv

Check

TANID:
Check You Mail Princess

OK dear, I will check nw.. Then reply in the next 5mins

She's had enough.

When a woman is fed-up, there is nothing u can do about it.


She could have easily divorce him and pack out of the house, than to keep managing the strained and hateful marriage. Why not just pack and go?

Now. She ends up in jail, and possibly killed too.

omokoginimi:
Albino Cow, I repeat do not let me have your time. I don’t want to be responsible for your demise

Shut da fucvk up!

You useless diseased animal


Idiot! Fool!

soul95:
But on the flip side,she might be saying this truth. Burma boy isn't exactly lovey dovey material. Im not supporting her stance but she has a right to her opinion.
But society is indeed rotten. Just because someone sees something from a different point of view doesn't make that person a hater.
This reason here (people accusing me of being envious and bitter ) is why I dont give advice anyhow...if you destroy yourself, your choice and headache.

My dear , look she might be saying the truth, there is no doubt about it and we all know burna Boi is not a lovey dovey display kind of guy. And I bet the abroad babe knows as well.
So if we all know, including his babe? Why shove it on her face by praising her first ..lol nigerians before squeezing the dagger in.
For me? It doesn't make sense.

That's called jealousy and busy body!

Steflon didn't ask her anyone in Nigeria, what kind of lover is burna? She no wan know. She is living with the present, but let tomorrow sort itself out.

People should just stop giving unsolicited advice. Unless I ask you, don't even say a word. Just keep quiet and lemme enjoy the charade or the love in Tokyo with boo.
Whatevr happens I take responsibility. It's that simple.

Or she wants Steflon to go quarrel with burna for not displaying her pics with him on his page? Cmon? Let the sleeping dogs lie.

omokoginimi:
Do not let me have you time. If I do ehn, you may order for some sniper. Cow!

Useless animal! Have my time, have closed from work.

Just drink your sniper jejely in your closet and die peacefully. Ode Oshi!

Jealousy will kill you there!

Village goat!

Ansinwin.

Spits!

shekauvsbuhari:
PERVERT!!! Its like U are hungry for diick n that s Y u re shouting dick all over the place. Did U see in the story that her death has to do with sexual issues? Evening newspaper that has bn used n dumped by several men.

Shut d'fucvk up.

Idiot!

Halezis:
Chisos
Check who you replied please

Sorry dear.

Abeg no vex.


Have replied the old mama youngie ,wey no wan rest.. Cho Cho cho Omokoginimi .

omokoginimi:
This one go just dey do chocho chocho upandan with her made up stories

Do you not get tired? At your old age. Smh

Hunty, old mama internet is for everyone. You weren't forced to click on my thread.



I can say my true life stories online , and there is nothing u or anyone can do about it, than to read, and wail afterwards.



I careless. I will keep posting stories here, back to back. And if u don't like it?



Drink sniper with your followers.



It's a free world. Idiot!

Halezis:
Being a house wife shouldn't be encouraged at all. Even the richest billionaire don't have their wives sit at home all day doing nothing. If by any means anything happens to the husband, housewives most times find it difficult to readjust.

I don't know. But any job that makes a woman not have time for her home isn't worth it.

Hunty, internet is for everyone. You weren't forced to click on my thread.

I can say my true life stories online , and there is nothing u or anyone can do about it, than to read, and wail afterwards.

I careless. I will keep posting stories here, back to back. And if u don't like it?

Drink sniper with your followers.

It's a free world.

Eze2000:
That was not his initial comment. He just edited it minutes ago. His last comment was so very insulting to you. First saw it on phone then got on PC to reply only for him to edit it.

He's wasting his time on me.

I care less. I already know his type.

So no need answering him anymore

Lucifer1419:
How am I sure if this your story is not from Twitter, because you Sabi lie well well, when are you getting married again, you have been married for like 5 times in 5years now, abi all the husband they divorce you go marry another babe for nairaland, make you hold one strong now, man go soon scarce in 2years time, just grab your copy now before is too late.

That's your problem, not mine.

whitebeard:
No partner (husband or wife) should consider their job more important than family..!

So true!

That's what I expect most people here to see from her story but all they are hammering on is, she does not want to work.

And thats why divorce is emerging from most homes. Work has taken over the family setting. Couples no longer have the deep bond anymore.

So back to her story, she and her husband agreed she will go into biz and sell stuffs , at least she can save as well for the rainy day.
She no longer search for collar jobs, she's Into buying and selling.

atheistandproud:
Hanty, you're kini? Celibate abi celebration.
By the time you collect beta head, celibacy oti pari.

Na so.

Celibate, I say.

There is a personal reason why I'm celibate. And don't ask why.

Na WA o


O ga o

I Dey run from sex. Been celibate for one year, and still counting even though I'm in a relationship. This one wan die ontop sex!

O ga oooo


I'm shocked!
Op don buy market!

Nigerians always lurking around to chase confusion and strife know relationships and marriages.

What's the lady problem?

Who ask for her opinion?
Smhhhhh. Jealousy jealousy everywhere one turns. Some nigerians will not mind their fucvking Buisness!! Useless unsolicited advice.

All the ones her boyfriend has showcased on instagram, is she , his number one woman? Instagram this, instagram that? Must everything be on instagram? Nonsense!

Same goes for Nigerian guys. Mind Una fucvking Buisness! Una too sabi destroy relationships with bad advice!

Advice Oshi!